I was dreaming about having a miscarriage when I woke up I was spotting blood I went to the ER I was freaking out I even told the nurse everything from my dream every detail even the nurse was the same from my dream it was a male nurse he looked at me like I was crazy I told him everything they were going to do I even described the doctor that was gana see me the nurse was in shock cause everything I told him happen down to the doctor name I never even met the doctor before
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Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
I'm standing right here and I'm not deaf. Yes, you will see a number of pregnant women when you come in right after PRENATAL yoga. B!tches.
Had I not changed my name, my plan was to legally go by my maiden and socially go by my husband's, and of course our children would have my husband's name. As it is, I dumped my old middle name and legally made my middle name my maiden name, and took my husband's last name. Guys can be so oddly paternalistic about that stuff! Even the guys I know whose wives kept their maiden names - most of them say they didn't like the idea. I didn't tell them all they had to do was cry and get their way (that's how it happened with DH).
ETA: Sorry that got super heavy and dark for a second. I have been listening to Kelly Clarkson's "Piece by Piece" and it is doing intense things to my feels right now.
All. Of. This. I also asked for a bottle of champagne. My goal is also to BF, drink, and BF once Nate's hungry again.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12665683/preemie-tips-was-a-may-mom-but-baby-came-early#latest
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
Not that a woman has to justify it, but two women I know justified keeping their last name with the following:
1. We are past the days where my father had to give a dowry so I'm not taking his name.
2. (In regards to their child's last name being different): My child will be intelligent enough to know who his/her parents are, regardless of my last name.
3. (Religiously) Bible says a man shall leave his family to start a new one, so why should my name change?
I've talked to a ton of women who regret taking their husband's last name, a ton who love it, and several in the middle. It just shows how people differ on the subject, but I wish women (or men) weren't comfortable being bullied by society into decisions they do not agree with.
BFP 1: 9/15/2013 | DD 5/23/2014
BFP 2: 9/15/2015 | EDD 5/26/2016
It works out for me because I am known in my field by my maiden name and so all my publications and professional appointments still reflect that name, and then it's even nicer because I have a bit of anonymity:) If someone doesn't know my maiden name they won't find out anything about me professionally and if someone doesn't know my married name they won't know anything about my personal life. It's like I'm two people! It confuses HR, but the IRS hasn't said anything yet, so I think we're good.
While I wasn't too keen on changing my name (am I a different person now? If names don't matter, why is it always the woman who takes the man's name? Patriarchy!), it did mean a lot to DH that I did, and I feel good for doing it. DH is an amazingly supportive partner and has sacrificed so much for me--I wanted to give something back. I kind of wish he didn't care about it, but he did and his family did. And we've got a pretty un-heteronormative marriage, so this one nod to the patriarchy didn't seem like an onerous concession: I give up my name, but in return I get a husband who is an equal partner in everything, who's willing to uproot his career to follow mine, who cooks, cleans, and is better with babies than I will ever be, and who loves me for being me without placing any gender-based expectations on me.
Ok, that got kind of mushy at the end there. Sorry! But yeah. Total ambivalence about having to change my name. The worst part of it, though, was that I had planned to just add his name to mine, and the clerk just wouldn't allow it (there are rules, apparently, but they're nowhere to be found in public!). There was no warning. So I had to decide, right then and there, at City Hall, with an impatient middle-aged clerk giving me the stinkeye and a line of people behind me trying to get their business transacted in the 50-minute window the office was open, whether I wanted to hyphenate my last name or just take his. Or get rid of my middle name. Meh.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I feel the same irrational rage when people look out the window, see rain, and say "Was it supposed to rain today?" Nope, no it was not. You'd better go outside and start chastising those unauthorized rain clouds.