The one common comment that drives me up the wall is the "You better get sleep now cause you wont get any after baby is here." Oh my goodness I want to slap every person who says that. Like yeah I'm actually getting sleep now(NOT!) rolling around like I got a watermelon attached to me and flip flopping every night is proof I will be gracious when I can sleep on my stomach and back again even if its only for a few hours or minutes
Oh good god. I had a brand new coworker I barely know and DO NOT like (she's very clearly got a drug problem) come up to me and start roughly massaging my stomach to see where the baby was and make him move. Without asking me. I bluntly informed her she was well on her way to a bitch slap and now she doesn't like me either. Boo. People think it's perfectly alright to discuss my size and weight in front of me like I'm not there (Apparently there's quite a divide, some people think I'm too small and others think I'm too big. I get no opinion in this, nor does my doctor). My husband is half Native American, the white half of his family has made several comments about how I ruined his bloodline because he was supposed to marry a Native girl (Her name is Kourtney, she's from an entirely different nation, and they dated for six weeks when he and I were broken up. We're friends, she has a little girl with a very nice man from Kenya). The Native side of his family calls me daily for baby updates and to talk about how excited they are. I was buying Spaghetti-Os at the grocery store and the cashier stared at me for a full 30 second before asking who they were for because eating things like that could make my baby "retarded". Actual word used.
THIS POST HAD EVERYTHING:
roughly massaging of stomach to turn babies (to or from breach position?!?)
a potential bitch slap
gross pregnant women are both too small & too big!
a half Native American husband
a sh*t white half of his family
poster ruined his bloodline! Native or white bloodline????
Native!
husband was supposed to marry a Native girl!
a Native girl named Kourtney (Kardashian?!?!?!)
an entirely different nation
dated for six weeks when THEY WERE ON A BREAK!
Spaghetti-Os
"retarded" babies come from poor diet*
*Spaghetti-Os are in fact fortified with vitamins I think...
I haven't had anything too crazy except all the people who feel sorry for me that neither baby is a girl! Also, all the people I barely know who asked if I got pregnant with twins naturally. Really? Boundaries people!!
My sister also had twins and right after they were born some strange lady came up to tell her at Walmart to tell her that the reason there are so many twins is because God is making up for all the abortions!! People are crazy!!
Thank you for helping correct the Horrible Era of Females Doing Abortion® with your Extreme Double Pro-Life® act of twinning! What the hell? Is this for real- what in the Walmart is going on with people that makes them obsess over this shite?! Get a life!
But seriously- twins sounds like double the fun to me- (I am biased and would LOVE 2 of my boy. I can't wait to give him a brother soon!)
Whatever I can do to help this heathen society of ours!
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
Haha. My question then is at what point would he consider you "a lot" pregnant? Is there a scale? Degrees of pregnant?
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
Haha. My question then is at what point would he consider you "a lot" pregnant? Is there a scale? Degrees of pregnant?
Unclear, but six months still does not qualify as "a lot." And he's seems a bit surprised that this whole project is progressing anyway...when he notices me being short of breath - "You mean this will get WORSE????" Yup. I'm only "a little" miserable right now amore;)
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
Haha. My question then is at what point would he consider you "a lot" pregnant? Is there a scale? Degrees of pregnant?
Unclear, but six months still does not qualify as "a lot." And he's seems a bit surprised that this whole project is progressing anyway...when he notices me being short of breath - "You mean this will get WORSE????" Yup. I'm only "a little" miserable right now amore;)
Is it just me or does pregnancy really bring our the strangeness of others? Maybe its our hormones making us more sensitive to it, or maybe people just really dont know how to act around pregnant women. What strange behaviors have you been dealing with recently?
Some strange behaviors recently: + People keep buying things off my registry that i registered for in the color grey, but instead buying said items in pink. I asked for grey because i dont want to re-buy for a second potential boy child in the future, but people keep choosing pink instead! [its now happened a total of 5 times.] + Two different people who are pretty removed from us, both expected us to tell them the baby name despite that we arent sharing it. One of them was adamantly told no by my husband as she is closer with him, but still opted to corner me bring it up to me as if she had never brought it up to him. Not even giving me an option to respond, she literally just said she needs me to give her the information in the next few weeks, okay thanks bye and walked away. No lady. No. + My mother in law has been having a coronary because my shower location only offers white napkins. I had 4 different people this weekend contact me about said white napkin issue. I finally had to say. ''Please stop, I want white napkins!" because i honestly dont care and am so tired of hearing about all these issues i shouldnt even be involved in.
Who were your weirdos of the week?
Maybe the woman wants to know the a babies name to have something personalized? That's the only reason why I can imagine she would insist on knowing
Ahhh I love this thread! Dying laughing is helping my stress level immensely.
So, DH and I work together in a factory with literally 1000 other people. And I have had my fill of their unsolicited and crazy advice. But the one that had me afraid I was going to be fired.......
I am fat. Like, I'm 26 weeks now and still look just fat. And I hate my body, and am very aware I am fat. I will probably never look pregnant. Being fat is like being permanently pregnant in that rude people will feel free to make rude comments to you about your weight and how to lose it. "Eat less and exercise more? Wow, gee thanks skinny bitch who's obviously never been overweight one moment of your life, never heard THAT one before!"
My DH is also overweight and my eating like an asshole throughout most of this pregnancy AKA carbs, which we usually avoid, has not helped his figure either. So one of my coworkers who works 3rd shift and is like finger nails on a chalkboard to me, decides the other night at the end of my shift as I was sitting at my workstation waiting for my husband to mosey on over from his department to put her face right next to my lovely fat stomach and then pointedly look over at my approaching husband's stomach and screech, "I don't know who's baby is bigger! " Did I mention I was in the middle of a lovely conversation with someone else? Rude.
So I screamed right back in her face, "What is wrong with you you rude fucking cunt!?" And then hubs said to her, "You know you're a fucking fatass too,right?"
Felt terrible, and also like we were both going to get fired.
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
Haha. My question then is at what point would he consider you "a lot" pregnant? Is there a scale? Degrees of pregnant?
Near the end of my pregnancies DH will say "my wife is great with child". It gets annoying.
DH tells people "my wife is a LITTLE pregnant." As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
Haha. My question then is at what point would he consider you "a lot" pregnant? Is there a scale? Degrees of pregnant?
Near the end of my pregnancies DH will say "my wife is great with child". It gets annoying.
@Palisson I wish to Christ I was making any of it up. Sadly, all true stories. And apparently my whiteness is diluting our child's Cherokee heritage, because we're choosing to ignore that his father was white... w/e.
@rosehips15 I'm in love with the idea that you're "a little pregnant. Does that mean you can mostly drink wine?
When I was pregnant with my first son I was working retail. A woman asked me where something was while I was sitting on the floor checking for expired dates. When I stood up to show her she noticed I was very pregnant and exclaimed, "LOOK AT YOU!" Like it was so impressive that I could stand up on my own. I would have told her I also tied my shoes that morning but I didn't want to brag.
mar101483 I believe that is why in both cases. But i think once you are told "Sorry, We arent sharing'' you need to just kind of accept that as the answer. Again the part that makes it really nuts is that its been 2 people both of which we are not close with at all. One is the mother of a friend of ours, and the second is a childhood friends wife. Though the second person seemed to accept the answer, the first one actually lied to my husband and said okay and that she had a different idea and then went ahead and still cornered me about it anyway.
We also have a lot of touchy relationships going on right now within our family, and god forbid that we told one of them and it got back to my mother or MIL that someone knew, we would have hell to pay.
Comments about my boob size have officially reached sharing status. I am usually a well-busted but otherwise average-sized gal, so I've gotten boob comments my whole life. Well, these puppies are a new beast now, and every woman that I kind of know, especially coworkers...at work...somehow feels the need to remind me. My belly isn't very big yet, even at 26 weeks, so I most often get, "Well you look so good but I did notice your boobs look huge." Which is problematic because: a) why does being smallish during pregnancy equate to "looking good"? It actually makes me worry half the time! b) why are you looking at/commenting on my chest size...at work...in a school full of children?! Yes, I am aware my boobs have grown 30 sizes in preparation for my little girl. Yes, it took me months and $$ to find an acceptable nursing bra to contain these wild things. Yes, I will likely never wear normal clothes again because of these gigando "blessings"...thanks for reminding me, y'all! Ps. The best comment I got was from my Barbie-esce real estate agent who I barely know: "Well, I bet the hubby is happy!"
Edited: I'm not sure why this screen name is coming up but my usual one is KaylaR628...
@lebeauoiseau yeah the boob stuff is extremely awkward. It's even worse when it comes from family. My Mom and Dad chortled when we first saw them after getting pregnant and my dad kept saying how his favorite part of pregnancy is "the Titty Fairy" coming and how excited my DH must be.
@rosehips15 I'm in love with the idea that you're "a little pregnant. Does that mean you can mostly drink wine?
That's what I'm thinking! Actually, it was an issue when we were visiting his family in Italy - what do you mean she's not drinking wine?? She doesn't like our wine? Sigh. Can't win.
@lebeauoiseau yeah the boob stuff is extremely awkward. It's even worse when it comes from family. My Mom and Dad chortled when we first saw them after getting pregnant and my dad kept saying how his favorite part of pregnancy is "the Titty Fairy" coming and how excited my DH must be.
@lebeauoiseau yeah the boob stuff is extremely awkward. It's even worse when it comes from family. My Mom and Dad chortled when we first saw them after getting pregnant and my dad kept saying how his favorite part of pregnancy is "the Titty Fairy" coming and how excited my DH must be.
Haha oh my gosh, no!!! How embarrassing!!!'
Trapped in the box. That is WAY worse than strangers! Your dad?!!
We live in Texas, so it's hot in summer. What I get tired of hearing is "you'll be so hot when summer gets here." As if I'm not hot now, or uncomfortable? And touching! Wtf! My mil reached fore, I backed up. As she was leaving, she did it again, only this time I wasn't quick enough! Argh! Why do people think they can just touch a pregnant belly?!
We live in Texas, so it's hot in summer. What I get tired of hearing is "you'll be so hot when summer gets here." As if I'm not hot now, or uncomfortable? And touching! Wtf! My mil reached fore, I backed up. As she was leaving, she did it again, only this time I wasn't quick enough! Argh! Why do people think they can just touch a pregnant belly?!
My MIL did that last time we saw them and they're coming again this weekend, but tried to make it all sneaky. I don't get why people think it's okay either, I've never felt the urge to rub another person's stomach, pregnant or not!
I'm strictly in the "Touch my stomach and die!" camp. Even my mother knows better. My own husband has been told multiple times by myself not to touch the babies right after I've eaten (it's just too uncomfortable). The only time a stranger asked or attempted to touch my stomach when I was pregnant with my first was when I was 36 weeks along (so obviously pregnant and huge) when I was checking into the ER for some minor, unexplained symptoms that warranted some fetal monitoring (according to my Dr). This other woman, who was also obviously pregnant, asked if she could touch my belly while I was talking to the ER nurse! Not only am I in an obviously stressful situation (pregnant and in an ER waiting room), but you're also pregnant. Touch your own belly!
Last night I was getting my hair cut & highlighted... a woman I know was also in the salon, (we are acquaintances, not friends) and she proceeds to ask me if I'm sure I should be getting my hair done while I'm pregnant... well lady, last I checked you aren't a doctor and I'm here trying to relax as I've been looking forward to this appt & to finally feeling more like myself for weeks... but thanks for your judgement - I'm not ingesting the hair dye - relax.
Also- thanks to the lady at work who now addresses me as "pregnant lady" as in, she walks into my office & says "hey pregnant lady got a few minutes?" and "wow how much more time do you even have left?" (Implying I'm big) thanks... I was feeling good in my new dress today till you.
My patient's father today: "Are you fat or just pregnant? Hahaha!" Then the mother: "Oh, we brought sandwiches...want one? Just kidding, they're tuna! You can't have one!"
My patient's father today: "Are you fat or just pregnant? Hahaha!" Then the mother: "Oh, we brought sandwiches...want one? Just kidding, they're tuna! You can't have one!"
F--- off folks.
Because laughing about asking that question makes it okay. And the mom? Both of them need slaps upside the head.
I can't remember if it was mentioned here or elsewhere, but we have a girl and a boy and after our son was born, SO many people were commenting on how we were the "perfect american family because we have both and {we} can be done having kids now!"
thank you for your opinions on my procreation and fertility.
Haha these are funny. My worst ones are mostly my MIL. When she found out I was pregnant she asked my boyfriend repeatedly how long we were trying. He wouldn't answer (she has a.long history of being really nosy). So we went out for dinner and she asked me about a million other nosy questions and then I heard her say to her husband under her breath " I don't care I'm asking" as though he had tried to make her stop being so weird..and asks me how leg we had been trying...i was annoyed mostly because she wouldn't drop it so I vaguely said oh not long..and changed the subject...but that wasn't good enough and she continued to ask for months and even asked me mom! So bizarre...I started having fun thinking of new ways to be super not specific when I answered. she also asked seriously to babysit for a week when the baby is a month old..patted my stomach when I wasn't even showing yet...told me I was getting a belly when I was like 12 weeks and not showing at all (maybe I was bloated or something)...keeps asking the name of our ultrasound tech (she's retired and used to d X-ray so knows them and I swear she wants to try and get insider confidential info). I'm sure there are others. People are weird.
Mine was a combo stupid comment and unsolicited belly touch...
Preface this by saying I'm a bit on the plus size and have had severe issues with my body image and eating disorders in the past. Also I'm a nanny and work for a great family that I usually like for the most part. Well, in the last week or so my belly popped a little bit. And on Monday as I'm walking out the door my kids' mom rubbed my belly and commented on how big I look all of a sudden.
I told her I'm actually still down from my prepregnancy weight (lost 18 in first trimester and have only gained back 10-12) and I left it at that. What I wanted to say was "thanks. I've been feelin super insecure the last few days and needed to know it wasn't all in my head and I do look like a ginormous cow."
Severe pregnancy insomnia is setting in- like sleeping for an hour at a time, every 6 hours a day. It sucks. Last night I had THREE people tell me, 'jeez it's probably not insomnia, just go get in bed and sleep!' Oh thanks asshat, i didn't think of that.... And yes I lay in bed- for 4 hours at a time tossing and turning and finally admit defeat and get out of bed to at least get stuff done around the house
My grandma said, you got married and now I see you're letting yourself go. Then she apologized but said, I just wanted to tease you because you work so hard on how you look.
I seriously think pregnancy has this magical power that removes that "socially acceptable" filter from peoples' heads so whatever they think just comes flying out. Calling people on stupid stuff they say works the best tho, as they are then embarrassed and hopefully will watch what they say in the future.
My friend today told me I looked as big as our other friend who is 7 months pregnant. I immediately snarked back at her, "gee, thanks," and she defended herself with "I meant it as a compliment!" no, no, no.
I've had a few weird or rude comments this pregnancy but one recently stands out to me. I bought a dress for my baby shower online that ended up making me look like a fat piece of cotton candy. I packed another dress I've had for years that I ended up wearing which my husband loves and I felt pretty good in. My grandma comes up to me and asks, in a pretty loud voice, where the rest of my dress is. She also proceeded to ask where my tights were because women that wear dresses without tights are whores. I was so taken aback since she's usually the most stereotypically sweet grandma that I ran up to my husband almost in tears asking him if I could go change into my fat, fluffy conservative pink dress. Luckily he talked me out of it but I felt uncomfortable the rest of the night.
I've had a few weird or rude comments this pregnancy but one recently stands out to me. I bought a dress for my baby shower online that ended up making me look like a fat piece of cotton candy. I packed another dress I've had for years that I ended up wearing which my husband loves and I felt pretty good in. My grandma comes up to me and asks, in a pretty loud voice, where the rest of my dress is. She also proceeded to ask where my tights were because women that wear dresses without tights are whores. I was so taken aback since she's usually the most stereotypically sweet grandma that I ran up to my husband almost in tears asking him if I could go change into my fat, fluffy conservative pink dress. Luckily he talked me out of it but I felt uncomfortable the rest of the night.
Geez! Grandma sounds like she needs a big ol' glass of shut-the-eff-up along with a women's-liberation-happened-and-you-missed-it cookie.
I seriously think pregnancy has this magical power that removes that "socially acceptable" filter from peoples' heads so whatever they think just comes flying out.
Yes. So true. Everything around childbirth seems to have this effect. I almost don't want to see anyone — anyone — for months after this baby is born because a new baby seems to make everyone feel like it's OK to talk/joke about the mother's breasts, which for me (when they're my breasts) is a topic that taps into longstanding personal issues and makes me super embarrassed and anxious. I remember asking my husband after our first daughter was born why everyone around me seemed to feel entitled to make cracks about my breasts, and he said it seemed to him that when new babies show up, people just "use it as an excuse to say things about boobs."
I can only think of two. We went to dinner with hubby's mom and grandma at about 8 weeks to share the news...all we got from mom was "oh I knew one of these days one of you would mess up!" She said this again after I told her that we actually planned it. I was pissed.
The other one was a few weeks ago I was sitting in a chair with my legs crossed and one of my students parents told me it was bad for the baby. I asked around and I guess it's a Mexican wives tale that you could suffocate the baby or something...
Re: People are strange. When you're.... pregnant.
- roughly massaging of stomach to turn babies (to or from breach position?!?)
- a potential bitch slap
- gross pregnant women are both too small & too big!
- a half Native American husband
- a sh*t white half of his family
- poster ruined his bloodline! Native or white bloodline????
- Native!
- husband was supposed to marry a Native girl!
- a Native girl named Kourtney (Kardashian?!?!?!)
- an entirely different nation
- dated for six weeks when THEY WERE ON A BREAK!
- Spaghetti-Os
- "retarded" babies come from poor diet*
*Spaghetti-Os are in fact fortified with vitamins I think...I love it.
As in, no wine for her, she's a little pregnant. How hot is the pool, my wife is a little pregnant (we went to a hot springs type hotel)...
Um. Are you going to get a little bit of a baby?
The random belly touching.. all the time!
But some of these are way extreme! Dang!
So, DH and I work together in a factory with literally 1000 other people. And I have had my fill of their unsolicited and crazy advice. But the one that had me afraid I was going to be fired.......
I am fat. Like, I'm 26 weeks now and still look just fat. And I hate my body, and am very aware I am fat. I will probably never look pregnant. Being fat is like being permanently pregnant in that rude people will feel free to make rude comments to you about your weight and how to lose it. "Eat less and exercise more? Wow, gee thanks skinny bitch who's obviously never been overweight one moment of your life, never heard THAT one before!"
My DH is also overweight and my eating like an asshole throughout most of this pregnancy AKA carbs, which we usually avoid, has not helped his figure either. So one of my coworkers who works 3rd shift and is like finger nails on a chalkboard to me, decides the other night at the end of my shift as I was sitting at my workstation waiting for my husband to mosey on over from his department to put her face right next to my lovely fat stomach and then pointedly look over at my approaching husband's stomach and screech, "I don't know who's baby is bigger! " Did I mention I was in the middle of a lovely conversation with someone else? Rude.
So I screamed right back in her face, "What is wrong with you you rude fucking cunt!?" And then hubs said to her, "You know you're a fucking fatass too,right?"
Felt terrible, and also like we were both going to get fired.
@rosehips15 I'm in love with the idea that you're "a little pregnant. Does that mean you can mostly drink wine?
We also have a lot of touchy relationships going on right now within our family, and god forbid that we told one of them and it got back to my mother or MIL that someone knew, we would have hell to pay.
My belly isn't very big yet, even at 26 weeks, so I most often get, "Well you look so good but I did notice your boobs look huge." Which is problematic because:
a) why does being smallish during pregnancy equate to "looking good"? It actually makes me worry half the time!
b) why are you looking at/commenting on my chest size...at work...in a school full of children?!
Yes, I am aware my boobs have grown 30 sizes in preparation for my little girl. Yes, it took me months and $$ to find an acceptable nursing bra to contain these wild things. Yes, I will likely never wear normal clothes again because of these gigando "blessings"...thanks for reminding me, y'all!
Ps. The best comment I got was from my Barbie-esce real estate agent who I barely know: "Well, I bet the hubby is happy!"
Edited: I'm not sure why this screen name is coming up but my usual one is KaylaR628...
Also- thanks to the lady at work who now addresses me as "pregnant lady" as in, she walks into my office & says "hey pregnant lady got a few minutes?" and "wow how much more time do you even have left?" (Implying I'm big) thanks... I was feeling good in my new dress today till you.
"Are you fat or just pregnant? Hahaha!"
Then the mother:
"Oh, we brought sandwiches...want one? Just kidding, they're tuna! You can't have one!"
F--- off folks.
american family because we have both and {we} can be done having kids now!"
thank you for your opinions on my procreation and fertility.
Preface this by saying I'm a bit on the plus size and have had severe issues with my body image and eating disorders in the past. Also I'm a nanny and work for a great family that I usually like for the most part. Well, in the last week or so my belly popped a little bit. And on Monday as I'm walking out the door my kids' mom rubbed my belly and commented on how big I look all of a sudden.
I told her I'm actually still down from my prepregnancy weight (lost 18 in first trimester and have only gained back 10-12) and I left it at that. What I wanted to say was "thanks. I've been feelin super insecure the last few days and needed to know it wasn't all in my head and I do look like a ginormous cow."
The other one was a few weeks ago I was sitting in a chair with my legs crossed and one of my students parents told me it was bad for the baby. I asked around and I guess it's a Mexican wives tale that you could suffocate the baby or something...