September 2016 Moms

UO Thursday

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Re: UO Thursday

  • Also, my UO stems from the randoms thread this week: I really strongly react to the idea of co-sleeping where your baby is in the bed with you.  At the toddler stage where they can roll over, push to show discomfort, etc, is one thing, but to me putting an infant into your bed then falling asleep is negligent and dangerous.  I'm sorry if you do this and are offended, but I have heard horror stories and I can't imagine myself ever finding the risk to be worth the convenience of sleep.  This might be my FTM status showing, but there it is.
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  • @Jabreen I was never comfortable putting my daughter in the bed with me during infancy either. Very occasionally I will allow her in bed with me if she wakes up super early or is sick and I know she needs more sleep. And when that happens, I STILL cannot sleep well. My husband and I have also always been of the "our bed is OUR bed" mindset. 
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  • @Jabreen I am right with you. I think if you're adamant about having your baby in bed, get one of those co sleeper beds that sit right next to your bed. So you don't have to worry about rolling over on the baby
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  • I co-slept with my last two and I will again. I was adamantly against it with my first (mainly because I like to sleep prone, sprawled out, and noodle-limbed), but the entire family slept better. Easy nursing, close comfort,  and safe when you practice sound co-sleeping techniques.

    @diagonalley put it so much better than I will, but sleep deprivation doesn't lend itself towards being a good, functioning mom during the day or at night. 
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  • TNgoldengirlTNgoldengirl member
    edited March 2016
    I feel like so many things posted the last few weeks aren't UO.. @SamiiWaters I don't think anyone would disagree that airport food is expensive. Ha, and I'm sure I've been guilty too. Just bugs me. Or even like the people that don't like LulaRoe.. You're still in the majority because only a tiny percentage buys it. Even if like 5 of your friends do, I bet there's double that don't. 

    On the trump issue- my parents are supporters, and my dad posted this article today about why people want him. It almost made me sick, but I don't have time to write a whole rebuttal against it to send back. I usually stay out politics anyway, especially with family. It's just hard to sit back and watch all of this unfold, and I'm republican. 

    And finally my UO..*TW..?* I don't like when friends pass away and everyone just comments on their Facebook "RIP, fly high." It just seems generic and impersonal.

  • I feel like so many things posted the last few weeks aren't UO.. @SamiiWaters I don't think anyone would disagree that airport food is expensive. Ha, and I'm just I've been guilty too. Just bugs me. Or even like the people that don't like LulaRoe.. You're still in the majority because only a tiny percentage buys it. Even if like 5 of your friends do, I bet there's double that don't. 

    On the trump issue- my parents are supporters, and my dad posted this article today about why people want him. It almost made me sick, but I don't have time to write a whole rebuttal against it to send back. I usually stay out politics anyway, especially with family. It's just hard to sit back and watch all of this unfold, and I'm republican. 

    And finally my UO..*TW..?* I don't like when friends pass away and everyone just comments on their Facebook "RIP, fly high." It just seems generic and impersonal.
    Re: your UO, I agree. I also am bothered when someone posts about something tragic, or sad, or trying and people respond with "Praying" or "Prayers going up." I am bias because I am an atheist. But also, saying "praying" on Facebook then going about your day is the least one can do when someone is faced with hardships. 
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  • @Jabreen I also agree you might feel differently after baby gets here. I hard core judged co-sleepers, but when DD's molars were coming in and she'd wake up multiple times a night, she came to our bed for several hours most nights. She was fine with being rocked, but I'd fall asleep either way, and I didn't want her falling off my lap. We followed the rules for co-sleeping. She's thankfully back to her crib, and it was never all night, but I don't judge co-sleepers anymore. You just never know what you'll do until you're in that situation. 






  • @TNgoldengirl I fell like so many people make social faux pas regarding death on Facebook. It's like they forget common decency. A woman I went to school with died recently and people were tagging her grieving widower in thier posts. On the day of her death. His father had to make a post asking people to stop. I just don't understand how people forget to be human on social media.






  • @camichael84 I think it's because people are posting on social media a lot of the time to look good to other people. Like "I am going to have the most profound, kind words to say".  Maybe not even trying to comfort the person they're aimed at, but for others to see.  I hate that social media encourages us all to create facades that we hide behind... but I will admit, I only post happy pictures of my son on there. 1/2 because I don't want him to read my posts someday and say "hey.. my mom complained about me a lot as a baby" and 1/2 because it's the norm to post the good times and hide the bad.
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  • From a letter to mayor Bloomburg in 2004 regarding disabled veteran street vendors on fifth avenue:

    “Whether they are veterans or not, they [the vendors] should not be allowed to sell on this most important and prestigious shopping street,” Trump declared.

    He warned, “The image of New York City will suffer… I hope you can stop this very deplorable situation before it is too late.”

  • @AnnaS930 like I said, I don't like a lot of things that come out of his mouth. But I also think if I don't like you or what you believe in, I have a right to state that opinion without automatically being labeled something because of it. Just like you have a right to have an opinion on me. An example that shouldn't ruffle too many feathers. I'm a swinger (more politically correct term I duppose). But if you want to call me a whore because I'm not monogamous, that's your opinion. I'm not going to get upset over that. 

    Maybe it comes down to I like trump because he seems more human. He has his faults, he changes his mind, he speaks his piece without worrying who he's going to upset because that's who he is. That's why I prefer him. 


    I loved Bill Clinton because he was personable. He was a man whore. He was relatable. Idk. 
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  • @runningisrad I run into the "prayers" issue too. I try not to twitch when I read it – because in essence, I think it means good thoughts are being sent my way – but still, I think for many people it's a throw-away "safe" phrase to throw around when tragedy hits and condolences need to be offered. I don't want to turn those thoughts away because it's more trouble than it's worth, but it feels so empty especially when you're a non-religious recipient.
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  • @SamiiWaters The only point I'm making is that some people speak without upsetting people without having to try, not because they're so concerned with being politically correct but because that's just where their beliefs and thoughts align. Trump comes off as someone who tries to offend others, and I just don't like that in a person - political candidate or not.

    I have no opinion on you, I know very little about you other than this fact on swinging that you've brought up a few times... in which case - that's a choice you've made. If people want to tear you down for it, then like you said - you're not offended. When someone (such as Trump) tears down people for what they are (versus decisions of actions/behaviors that they believe in) then I label them a jerk. Because he is one.
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  • @diagonalley @Thurstobertay  UO should be a place to share opinions and start discussions, but I certainly would hate if I made another mother feel attacked for her choices.  That's what I get for bumping hungry.  Looking back at my post now that I've eaten, I can see how my tone didn't come off very well.  I apologize if you felt harshly judged, and I should have been more thoughtful of how I was expressing my opinion.  I still feel strongly about the issue, but I agree that it is a decision that must be made personally, with input from professionals, and carefully balanced against all the other factors in your and your baby's life.
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  • Jabreen said:
    Also, my UO stems from the randoms thread this week: I really strongly react to the idea of co-sleeping where your baby is in the bed with you.  At the toddler stage where they can roll over, push to show discomfort, etc, is one thing, but to me putting an infant into your bed then falling asleep is negligent and dangerous.  I'm sorry if you do this and are offended, but I have heard horror stories and I can't imagine myself ever finding the risk to be worth the convenience of sleep.  This might be my FTM status showing, but there it is.
    I was guilty of this when it came to naps once in a while prior to my daughter being 1.  I tried so hard not to but sometimes when you're nursing laying down you just start falling asleep too. After seeing a friend of a friend's post on FB about how she suffocated her newborn son mistakenly, I'll never do it again. It was incredibly brave of her to post just to make other moms and future moms know it can happen to anyone. 
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  • AlyeenaAlyeena member
    edited March 2016
    COmama87 said:
    My UO: chocolate and mint DO NOT belong together! So gross! Chocolate and caramel...heck yea! Chocolate and mint...downright wrong!  There you go @AnnaS930 a food UO :wink: 
    I don't like like it when someone who does not like the taste of something says "these things do not belong together" or that they are "wrong". Or (you personally didn't do that one) call people disgusting for liking what they don't.

    Chocolate and mint are delicious. Just not for you. Just say "I don't like this". And it is not even like chocolate and mint is something so unconventional my god. 

    I don't know if it is because it is girl scout cookies season in the US or whatever but I have seen this mint and chocolate do not belong together and people who like it are crazy shit all over the place lately and I am getting really tired of it.

    Also, why do people go to war on social media about cookies? I never tasted them, being Canadian, so if anyone can offer an explanation that would be really nice.
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  • COmama87 said:
    My UO: chocolate and mint DO NOT belong together! So gross! Chocolate and caramel...heck yea! Chocolate and mint...downright wrong!  There you go @AnnaS930 a food UO :wink: 
    I agree, kind of. I LOVE Thin Mints and Andes mints, but I HATE York Peppermint Patties. And I'm also not huge on mint chocolate chip ice cream.
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  • @runningisrad - I also do not like Adele's new song. I find the intonations to be unpleasant.

    But, Sam Smith's voice is like butter. And I love butter.
    Perhaps he will sing the theme song for Fuller House season 2 and I will just be in heaven ;)
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  • AnnaS930 said:
    @runningisrad - I also do not like Adele's new song. I find the intonations to be unpleasant.

    But, Sam Smith's voice is like butter. And I love butter.
    Perhaps he will sing the theme song for Fuller House season 2 and I will just be in heaven ;)
    LOL!!!!!

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  • Oh I know I'm definitely in the minority on this and I am ok with it! I also don't like chocolate and peanut butter together...Team chocolate and caramel for life!!
  • COmama87 said:
    Oh I know I'm definitely in the minority on this and I am ok with it! I also don't like chocolate and peanut butter together...Team chocolate and caramel for life!!
    LOL, that's the only way I can stomach chocolate, it's too sweet otherwise. 
  • My UO is I'm not a fan of all these political debates through not only the bump, but on other social media sites. People will support who they will, but unfriending someone because you don't agree with who they want to vote for is pretty effed up. 

    Agree to disagree... it's part of being an adult. 

    As for Trump being a bully.... they all are. Instead of trying to improve things it's all about slamming the opponent. Actions speak louder than words. 




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