Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for April Mamas**
Speaking of DH...practical, logical, especially when it comes to money (and me maybe being a little less so)...I went shopping for food and prizes my friend's baby shower last night. DH has not been thrilled about me hosting this event as it is, primarily due to the expense but also because of his feelings about my friend. Anyway, I managed to spend only $70 on almost all the food and prizes I need (still need to get eggs and milk for some breakfast casseroles on Friday before), with my bill totaling $80.13 including a few things I needed to get for us. When I got home his first question was "How much?" I responded $80 and his eyes nearly bugged out of his head. Shut up DH, do you even have a single clue how FANTASTIC that is to host a party for around 30 people? Full brunch? (Aside from the mimosa bar my friend's mom is putting together). And prizes for the games, and some decor items...add that to the $12 I spent to make favors (again...for over THIRTY people!), and the $10 I will be spending on balloons on Saturday? Serious SERIOUS cheapskate party planner here, and it will be great! I even made and printed all the game cards myself, no expense there, printed up some DIY decor too. I was a huge cheapskate...sorry if he doesn't have a clue what it costs to throw a shower
We had one at 17 weeks when my parents were visiting to find out the sex, and another at 26 weeks when my mom was visiting over new years. Then my husband asked to see him one more time, so we had another one at 33 weeks.
But I agree - usually the people working in coffee shops (especially mom n pop shops) are super friendly and can actually carry on some interesting conversation. I love doing my homework there.
I got a venti latte on my way back to work. No shame (or comments from the barista). I must have looked like I needed it (awake since 2:30 AM).
Unrelated rant: after weeks of beautiful 70-80 degree weather, it's set to rain on the day of my shower. I love the rain, but now we have to move everything indoors. It will be 'cozy' to say the least. WTF. Seriously?????? I'm writing 472897364 to-do lists right now.
Today was the first u/s I've had where she didn't have her feet covering her face, instead it was her arms and hands. Little turd. lol I did see he mouth opening and closing for a second though.
Um... K? Like I hadn't noticed?
Whatever. I feel amazing. Not going to bitch lol
I'm glad you are feeling relaxed.
Ya'll are scaring me a little.
They check by sticking fingers up there. It really does mean absolutely nothing though. A mom can be long and closed and deliver in two hours. Another mom can be a 4 at 30 weeks and deliver 12 weeks later at 42 weeks. I'm really not sure why they even check.
Also, some STMs are always a 1, never really closed closed.
@imrachellea I know it! Less to go when it gets here!
It doesn't hurt its just kinda uncomfortable for a second ( so I've heard from patients).
I fell in the bathtub several years ago (yes, there was alcohol and another person involved) and hit my ribs pretty hard on the side of the tub - they hurt for weeks even though nothing was broken.
40 days left for D-Day!
Seriously, this child had better be prepared to put me in a really freaking swanky nursing home one day, because I'm pretty sure I'm earning it.
Me- 25,DH-28
Me- 25,DH-28