My daughter's best friend is a boy. They've been friends since second grade. They are now 11 and 12 years old. Today, she got her chores finished and wanted to go swimming with her friend. I have no issues with this because it's a very public place and my other daughter was going to be there as well. The dh pulled a huge tantrum and yelled at us for an hour because, "He was a teenage boy once and all boys think about is having sex with girls and so boys and girls can not going swimming together." Because sex in a pool with 100 other kids and adults, and at least 15 lifeguards, is on the top of my 11 year olds to do list. smh. Sorry, hubby, but they don't have separate boy and girl swimming times. So, if I drop the girls off to go swimming and there are boys there, am I supposed to turn around and pick them up? Or am I just supposed to lock the girls away until they've turned into 30 year old cat women no one would possibly want? 6 girls, ladies…6 girls who aren't going to be allowed to do anything because "He was a teenage boy once." But our 2 boys will be able to do anything they want because apparently they know how to control their penises? So, now, instead of going to the pool with her sister and friend, my daughter is now going to his house because "his parents are home and adults at the house means everyone will be safe." And that makes so much sense because Lord knows the dh and I didn't get pregnant in my bedroom while my parents were upstairs and we were "just friends"….*enter extreme sarcasm here*
My daughter's best friend is a boy. They've been friends since second grade. They are now 11 and 12 years old. Today, she got her chores finished and wanted to go swimming with her friend. I have no issues with this because it's a very public place and my other daughter was going to be there as well. The dh pulled a huge tantrum and yelled at us for an hour because, "He was a teenage boy once and all boys think about is having sex with girls and so boys and girls can not going swimming together." Because sex in a pool with 100 other kids and adults, and at least 15 lifeguards, is on the top of my 11 year olds to do list. smh. Sorry, hubby, but they don't have separate boy and girl swimming times. So, if I drop the girls off to go swimming and there are boys there, am I supposed to turn around and pick them up? Or am I just supposed to lock the girls away until they've turned into 30 year old cat women no one would possibly want? 6 girls, ladies…6 girls who aren't going to be allowed to do anything because "He was a teenage boy once." But our 2 boys will be able to do anything they want because apparently they know how to control their penises? So, now, instead of going to the pool with her sister and friend, my daughter is now going to his house because "his parents are home and adults at the house means everyone will be safe." And that makes so much sense because Lord knows the dh and I didn't get pregnant in my bedroom while my parents were upstairs and we were "just friends"….*enter extreme sarcasm here*
oh HELL no. Your DH is talking crazy and I hope you let him know it.
@SweetBriarBee My dad was a total playboy growing up (not that your DH is/was) and thought he was always "one step ahead" of the boys in our lives ... When in fact, he was simply making my sister and my life miserable for no reason. I remember falling asleep on the couch at 16 next to a male friend, in a row of people, who ALL eventually fell asleep. I slumped over and ended up with my head on the boy's shoulder. My dad woke me up, demanded to know "IS HE YOUR BOYFRIEND NOW? WE DO NOT SLEEP ON TOP OF BOYS." Then he kicked my friend out and made him wait for his parents in the middle of the road! At a certain point, you just have to hope your children have good heads on their shoulders and make logical decisions, avoiding everything that could possibly lead to sexual situations just isn't possible. I hope you can shake some sense into your hubs.
@SweetBriarBee I literally laughed out loud when I read that, especially if they've been friends that long. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen.
@Ready4theParty I remember your very first post about your tennants - you've been dealing with their crap for your entire pregnancy. With people like that, being nice will get you nowhere and the sooner you start legal recourse, the sooner it'll be over with. They've seriously done everything they could to screw you over. I have a friend who moved in the second trimester of a high-risk pregnancy. Know what she did? Watched her boyfriend and my husband carry things and directed traffic. There's no excuse and quite frankly, in that situation if I had no friends to help me move I would hire movers. Seriously, it's time for them to grow up. Good luck dealing with them; I hope you can get this resolved quickly.
@SweetBriarBee I literally laughed out loud when I read that, especially if they've been friends that long. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen.
@Ready4theParty I remember your very first post about your tennants - you've been dealing with their crap for your entire pregnancy. With people like that, being nice will get you nowhere and the sooner you start legal recourse, the sooner it'll be over with. They've seriously done everything they could to screw you over. I have a friend who moved in the second trimester of a high-risk pregnancy. Know what she did? Watched her boyfriend and my husband carry things and directed traffic. There's no excuse and quite frankly, in that situation if I had no friends to help me move I would hire movers. Seriously, it's time for them to grow up. Good luck dealing with them; I hope you can get this resolved quickly.
I've moved twice this pregnancy. Both ones involved "put this here" and "don't break that". I second what @AmadorRose is saying about legal recourse at this point. I forgot how much crap they've put you through at this point...
My daughter's best friend is a boy. They've been friends since second grade. They are now 11 and 12 years old. Today, she got her chores finished and wanted to go swimming with her friend. I have no issues with this because it's a very public place and my other daughter was going to be there as well. The dh pulled a huge tantrum and yelled at us for an hour because, "He was a teenage boy once and all boys think about is having sex with girls and so boys and girls can not going swimming together." Because sex in a pool with 100 other kids and adults, and at least 15 lifeguards, is on the top of my 11 year olds to do list. smh. Sorry, hubby, but they don't have separate boy and girl swimming times. So, if I drop the girls off to go swimming and there are boys there, am I supposed to turn around and pick them up? Or am I just supposed to lock the girls away until they've turned into 30 year old cat women no one would possibly want? 6 girls, ladies…6 girls who aren't going to be allowed to do anything because "He was a teenage boy once." But our 2 boys will be able to do anything they want because apparently they know how to control their penises? So, now, instead of going to the pool with her sister and friend, my daughter is now going to his house because "his parents are home and adults at the house means everyone will be safe." And that makes so much sense because Lord knows the dh and I didn't get pregnant in my bedroom while my parents were upstairs and we were "just friends"….*enter extreme sarcasm here*
UGH. My dad used to pull this kind of crap on my mom all of the time. My mom pretty much just told my dad to stop being a sexist, controlling jerk face and learn to trust his children. He didn't even want my sister or I on the pill because he was afraid that would "give us permission to have sex."
My BFM goes to these contractions that just WON'T STOP. They're down to every hour now from every 4 minutes Friday night, but that's still frequent enough that I've been put on partial bedrest (can get up and pee and shower, and go up and down stairs 1-2x a day, but that's it). They're not opening my cervix or anything, they're just painful and scary and Ihate them.
My daughter's best friend is a boy. They've been friends since second grade. They are now 11 and 12 years old. Today, she got her chores finished and wanted to go swimming with her friend. I have no issues with this because it's a very public place and my other daughter was going to be there as well. The dh pulled a huge tantrum and yelled at us for an hour because, "He was a teenage boy once and all boys think about is having sex with girls and so boys and girls can not going swimming together." Because sex in a pool with 100 other kids and adults, and at least 15 lifeguards, is on the top of my 11 year olds to do list. smh. Sorry, hubby, but they don't have separate boy and girl swimming times. So, if I drop the girls off to go swimming and there are boys there, am I supposed to turn around and pick them up? Or am I just supposed to lock the girls away until they've turned into 30 year old cat women no one would possibly want? 6 girls, ladies…6 girls who aren't going to be allowed to do anything because "He was a teenage boy once." But our 2 boys will be able to do anything they want because apparently they know how to control their penises? So, now, instead of going to the pool with her sister and friend, my daughter is now going to his house because "his parents are home and adults at the house means everyone will be safe." And that makes so much sense because Lord knows the dh and I didn't get pregnant in my bedroom while my parents were upstairs and we were "just friends"….*enter extreme sarcasm here*
I went rounds like this with my husband and my teenage daughter. The more he became strict with her the more she was likely to break the rules. He wanted to keep her under lock and key. It spiraled out of control and required years of therapy for both of them. Keeping them away from friends, places, etc., makes them rebel even harder. Based on my experience, I was also a teenage girl and I went through the same thing, and I also went through it with my 17 year old. Trust is needed on both sides.
I have had my long term sub lined up for months... until today. One of my coworkers resigned last week and my boss offered my sub the other position today, leaving me without anyone to teach my classes during the 10 weeks I will be out. I feel pretty betrayed by all parties. I hope my boss has some kind of plan for finding a new sub for me ASAP because I had already lined things up and met with the sub and showed him some of the curriculum only to have him poached for this other job, so I feel like this new problem shouldn't be my responsibility. Of course I am going to stress about it, and I am annoyed that at conferences next week I will be telling parents idfk who will be teaching their kids for the rest of the year... Looking forward to hearing what my boss's plan is tomorrow, but I suspect he hasn't planned that far ahead. I just hope that tomorrow I will be able to talk about it without bursting into tears.
@AmadorRose and @Knottie9983816 I couldn't agree more. They've been major pains in the ass and I am just done with them. You dont have a crew lined up and then cancel just because you forgot to lock your car and your puse got stolen. After thinking about it and venting to my mom, their excuses just don't add up anymore and I am convinced they're just giving us a line so we feel bad for them. I do appreciate the advice. We moved out of that house when I was pregnant with Dd and its not fun but it got done. We plan to move in June or July but I've been packing for months because I think it's expecting too much to have DH to do all the moving/packing by himself -but having two kids won't make easy so we plan ahead.
After talking with DH, we agreed us being "nice" is allowing them to be in the house past midnight. They want to take the fans they installed out a long with a few other things they installed. DH and I agreed that if those items are still in the house come tomorrow at 7 am when DH shows up they are ours. I'll be very interested to see how determined they are to get everything out before tomorrow's final walk through. They don't strike me as people who would pull an all nighter.
Mine goes out to my work. They keep asking me to make sure I get them all the paperwork they need so that they can file my leave with the insurance. But don't know what paperwork I need. Called hr and they're telling me that they don't need any paperwork from me until after the baby's born. And I'm give up. Because now my boss wants a hard date on when I'm taking leave. And I just... I don't have one. I figured I'd just work until he decided to make his appearance. I don't know what they want from me anymore
Wow I didn't realize a lot of you April Moms would be anything except supportive of someone posting their birth announcement. Being the mentioned "triplet mom", I actually would read the Bump daily. Maybe not participate as much as people liked but I actually enjoy reading the announcements whether I know the person or not. So I didn't see the harm in sharing my joy with this community. I was previously on the TTTC board and the February 2015 board but lost that baby so I think I lost a lot of motivation to post as often as I used to due to being burned out by infertility. And I didn't post pics of my triplets bc I wasn't too juiced about pics of my babies hooked up to CPAP, IVs, phototherapy lights, etc out there in Internet land. Right now they are doing well but don't have the ability to "line them up" all cutely together for a photo opp. For anyone who doesn't have a preemie, appreciate your "normal" pregnancies and outcomes.
Wow I didn't realize a lot of you April Moms would be anything except supportive of someone posting their birth announcement. Being the mentioned "triplet mom", I actually would read the Bump daily. Maybe not participate as much as people liked but I actually enjoy reading the announcements whether I know the person or not. So I didn't see the harm in sharing my joy with this community. I was previously on the TTTC board and the February 2015 board but lost that baby so I think I lost a lot of motivation to post as often as I used to due to being burned out by infertility. And I didn't post pics of my triplets bc I wasn't too juiced about pics of my babies hooked up to CPAP, IVs, phototherapy lights, etc out there in Internet land. Right now they are doing well but don't have the ability to "line them up" all cutely together for a photo opp. For anyone who doesn't have a preemie, appreciate your "normal" pregnancies and outcomes.
I think this is more geared towards people who have never posted except for their announcements. Yes, all of us are happy and excited, because sweet little babies, but we would also love to get to know the mom behind the story. I've seen an occasional post from you and know that you've been around TB for a while.
I would love to see pictures mostly because I'm just so ready to see this LO out. It's like a window into a possible future if I were to give birth today. Not everyone wants to show that, and that's ok. Everything should be on your comfort level and not based on our wants.
@babeRN101 not everyone here feels that way. I enjoyed reading your birth announcement and sending prayers that your sweet babies get to go home with you soon! Congratulations mama!
The only time I would look at a birth announcement differently is if it's a drive by post and it was from an account that was newly created. Kinda like in the beginning when random people would create an account and post a pee stick and that would be the last you heard from them again.
I asked DH to put some IcyHot on my lower back for me before bed instead of sleeping on my heat pack tonight. He thought he'd be cute and stuck his finger in my butt crack while he rubbed it on my hips/pelvis. My tailbone is a minty-fresh fire right now and he thinks it's hilarious (and to be honest, objectively, it kinda is) but dude, not okay.
I asked DH to put some IcyHot on my lower back for me before bed instead of sleeping on my heat pack tonight. He thought he'd be cute and stuck his finger in my butt crack while he rubbed it on my hips/pelvis. My tailbone is a minty-fresh fire right now and he thinks it's hilarious (and to be honest, objectively, it kinda is) but dude, not okay.
So we may hear about the body of a certain mrtrax washing up in a few weeks?
@AmadorRose and @Knottie9983816 I couldn't agree more. They've been major pains in the ass and I am just done with them. You dont have a crew lined up and then cancel just because you forgot to lock your car and your puse got stolen. After thinking about it and venting to my mom, their excuses just don't add up anymore and I am convinced they're just giving us a line so we feel bad for them. I do appreciate the advice. We moved out of that house when I was pregnant with Dd and its not fun but it got done. We plan to move in June or July but I've been packing for months because I think it's expecting too much to have DH to do all the moving/packing by himself -but having two kids won't make easy so we plan ahead.
After talking with DH, we agreed us being "nice" is allowing them to be in the house past midnight. They want to take the fans they installed out a long with a few other things they installed. DH and I agreed that if those items are still in the house come tomorrow at 7 am when DH shows up they are ours. I'll be very interested to see how determined they are to get everything out before tomorrow's final walk through. They don't strike me as people who would pull an all nighter.
My family did rental properties before we moved to North Carolina, and our policy was that you and your stuff is out on time, or 1) the stuff left behind is ours or 2) you pay rent for the days you go over. It really helped cut down on people who were wasting time in getting out. From what you said, it does sound like originally they were having some legit problems, but now they're just trying to take advantage.
I asked DH to put some IcyHot on my lower back for me before bed instead of sleeping on my heat pack tonight. He thought he'd be cute and stuck his finger in my butt crack while he rubbed it on my hips/pelvis. My tailbone is a minty-fresh fire right now and he thinks it's hilarious (and to be honest, objectively, it kinda is) but dude, not okay.
So we may hear about the body of a certain mrtrax washing up in a few weeks?
I asked DH to put some IcyHot on my lower back for me before bed instead of sleeping on my heat pack tonight. He thought he'd be cute and stuck his finger in my butt crack while he rubbed it on my hips/pelvis. My tailbone is a minty-fresh fire right now and he thinks it's hilarious (and to be honest, objectively, it kinda is) but dude, not okay.
So we may hear about the body of a certain mrtrax washing up in a few weeks?
@babeRN101 Just to clarify, I wasn't being unsupportive at all, and glad to hear that you got your babies as far as you did. I think I might have been trying to help actually, pointing out that you have been around and weren't a drive-by. I think the reason your announcement took a bunch of us by surprise initially is because you weren't shouting it out each time about having triplets when you posted, and I actually kind of appreciate that. It might be me being a tad hormonal, but a friend of mine had her twins at 31+6 (we had the same EDD) and every time I tried talking to her about being pregnant it was "twin this, twin that", and I totally get that having multiples is a different ball game, but it made it harder to connect with her this time around (we were both pregnant 5 weeks apart with our first). It was also a little hard because a part of me has always wanted twins, so the fact that a friend of mine did was a little tricky, and I never wanted it to seem like my one wasn't wasn't enough (because she most definitely is). Because having triplets wasn't a major topic each time you posted, your announcement didn't automatically trigger us to remember. I also didn't mean to imply that I wanted to see all the three lined up now, but that when you were ready to share (if you want to!) we'd love to see them! I've been enjoying the pictures my friend is sending me of her girls together since they came home last Friday.
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@Ready4theParty I remember your very first post about your tennants - you've been dealing with their crap for your entire pregnancy. With people like that, being nice will get you nowhere and the sooner you start legal recourse, the sooner it'll be over with. They've seriously done everything they could to screw you over. I have a friend who moved in the second trimester of a high-risk pregnancy. Know what she did? Watched her boyfriend and my husband carry things and directed traffic. There's no excuse and quite frankly, in that situation if I had no friends to help me move I would hire movers. Seriously, it's time for them to grow up. Good luck dealing with them; I hope you can get this resolved quickly.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
After talking with DH, we agreed us being "nice" is allowing them to be in the house past midnight. They want to take the fans they installed out a long with a few other things they installed. DH and I agreed that if those items are still in the house come tomorrow at 7 am when DH shows up they are ours. I'll be very interested to see how determined they are to get everything out before tomorrow's final walk through. They don't strike me as people who would pull an all nighter.
Being the mentioned "triplet mom", I actually would read the Bump daily. Maybe not participate as much as people liked but I actually enjoy reading the announcements whether I know the person or not. So I didn't see the harm in sharing my joy with this community.
I was previously on the TTTC board and the February 2015 board but lost that baby so I think I lost a lot of motivation to post as often as I used to due to being burned out by infertility.
And I didn't post pics of my triplets bc I wasn't too juiced about pics of my babies hooked up to CPAP, IVs, phototherapy lights, etc out there in Internet land. Right now they are doing well but don't have the ability to "line them up" all cutely together for a photo opp. For anyone who doesn't have a preemie, appreciate your "normal" pregnancies and outcomes.
I would love to see pictures mostly because I'm just so ready to see this LO out. It's like a window into a possible future if I were to give birth today. Not everyone wants to show that, and that's ok. Everything should be on your comfort level and not based on our wants.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016