I pick knowledge over feelings every time, even over my own feelings, so while it kills me when I see someone with a ticker warning I want to hear what they have to say if it can help others.
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
I think my UO is that I love those maternity/newborn photo shoots! We have been TTC for about 5 years, so if/when it happens, I want to document the shit out of it, because it will likely be my only pregnancy. edited to add pic
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
As for my own UO - which apparently my previous post was unpopular as it is; I'm not a fan of PDA. I have moments where I'm playful with hubby and in a good mood and might grab his butt if no one's looking and it's exceptionally attractive, but it gives me the heeby-jeebies when a couple sits there and makes out and gropes each other in front of me. I'm glad you're interested in each other, but, go to your freaking dorms. This old married lady doesn't want to see it.
Agreed... At home I grope DHs butt as a rule. In public though, holding hands is usually all there is. Quick peck on the lips if there is reason too, but public making out does not happen*
*when sober. When drunk and it's dark... I can't promise there isn't a quick playful tongue here or there.
Haha, it tends to be a rule in our house as well! The only time his butt is "off limits" is when he first comes home from work. He says he feels gross, but I'm like - it's through your work pants, what could possibly be wrong with a quick "hello" squeeze!
I lurk all over the boards (I like seeing the grads all happy and on their boards plus the information is great). I've seen on some BMBs this UO but reversed (or entire threads about it). That made me sad that they didn't even think lurking was okay for those not in their particular board. It made me especially sad when it was said by someone that I knew from the TTGP board (specifically about TTC lurkers). But the majority of the comments were against that line of thought for the same reasons @Lulucooks listed.
It also makes me happy when they do comment here. Most of the ones that comment or lurk have been here on this board before (unless it's a knottie#s or something) and we've become friends. Well, as much as you can on here. There are several women who I really looked up to and loved reading what they had to say. You could almost say they were mentors because I had no idea how little I knew about this entire ordeal before joining. When I see a TW about a siggy or being from a BMB it makes me happy to know they're still looking out for us and quietly rooting for us. I'm all like:
I totally understand this point of view, too. And I know no one is coming back here with any ill intent. I was just stating how it makes me feel, personally. I realize that doesn't mean they are wrong, and of course anyone can post anywhere they want to.
That whole comment was just my personal feelings and take on lurking and commenting. I could say the bolded for my post as well. I didn't imply that anyone on this board thought there was ill intent or that people were wrong and couldn't/shouldn't post wherever (although like you said, they can).
I understand your side and respect your thoughts/feelings on it. I felt that way for a little while after I joined (not saying anyone else will change their minds... just that I did). Was just offering up another view and a creepy hug gif.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
creepy Easter bunny coming as soon as I can look at the screen more than 30 min at a time.
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulation Clomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
@izza2 I agree with you about loans. Some of the criteria for determining who's eligible and who's not are ridiculous. I have students who aren't eligible for certain forms of financial aid or loans because of their parents' income, but that's all based on the assumption that their parents subsidize their education which isn't always the case.
I agree with the idea of not living beyond your means and choosing schools that are more affordable (like some state public universities), but even that isn't always realistic. I teach at a community college in a high cost of living area. Most of my students are from households making under $30,000/year. These are people who are motivated, who want to improve their standing in life - many are parents, or immigrants, or first in their family to go to college. They're usually also working, frequently full-time. The hoops they have to jump through to attempt to get reasonable financial support are so convoluted, and the aid they do get is sometimes so minimal, that it's a miracle so many of them manage to stay in school. But a lot drop out for financial reasons, and then are stuck in the same low paying jobs they were trying to get out of in the first place.
I'm all for financial responsibility ... but when an associates or bachelors degree is needed to get a living wage, and those degrees are frequently unaffordable, we're setting people up for failure just because they weren't born into a family with money. It's shameful.
TTC #1 --- BFP #1 5/15, loss at 5 weeks --- BFP #2 12/15, loss at 4+3 --- RE testing 3/16 normal, still trying for our rainbow
@NovaSaysNo@Lulucooks@MrsDho11 You guys are totally right--it is great when grads come back to check in and share their excitement/encouragement for us. Your perspective is way more positive than the one I expressed earlier, and I really respect that. Having a degree in psychology, I've learned many times over how our thought processes directly impact our emotions. I need to work on putting a positive spin to things!!
I pick knowledge over feelings every time, even over my own feelings, so while it kills me when I see someone with a ticker warning I want to hear what they have to say if it can help others.
That makes perfect sense. I guess what I meant was, it's not so much that it makes me sad to see people with tickers or who have moved on to BMBs. It's just more like I get the feeling that people are coming back to look at us or feel sorry for us. I know that's not how it really is, that is just how it makes me feel. Kind of the same idea as people lurking around on the child loss or infertility or childless-not-by-choice or whatever other groups there are that you would never want to be a member of.
DS: June 2008 Married: July 2015 BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
@izza2 I agree with you about loans. Some of the criteria for determining who's eligible and who's not are ridiculous. I have students who aren't eligible for certain forms of financial aid or loans because of their parents' income, but that's all based on the assumption that their parents subsidize their education which isn't always the case.
I agree with the idea of not living beyond your means and choosing schools that are more affordable (like some state public universities), but even that isn't always realistic. I teach at a community college in a high cost of living area. Most of my students are from households making under $30,000/year. These are people who are motivated, who want to improve their standing in life - many are parents, or immigrants, or first in their family to go to college. They're usually also working, frequently full-time. The hoops they have to jump through to attempt to get reasonable financial support are so convoluted, and the aid they do get is sometimes so minimal, that it's a miracle so many of them manage to stay in school. But a lot drop out for financial reasons, and then are stuck in the same low paying jobs they were trying to get out of in the first place.
I'm all for financial responsibility ... but when an associates or bachelors degree is needed to get a living wage, and those degrees are frequently unaffordable, we're setting people up for failure just because they weren't born into a family with money. It's shameful.
This kind of stuff kills me inside. I mean, I'm 23, going to college with 18, 19 year olds. I've talked to them quite a bit about finances and their money situations. While some of them come from families where money is not a problem, quite a few of my fellow students aren't that fortunate. A lot of them come from families who make less than $30-40k a year. They're struggling to pay for their own school - quite a few only making it through because they get scholarships for being on a sports team. And, quite frequently, they're also working PT or FT jobs to pay for their schooling. Now, me being 23, I'm more used to working all day and staying up late for whatever reason - husband, home responsibilities, my son. But, most of these kids have never had to go to school full time, work full time, and then go home and do homework and projects on top of it. And they're 18 and getting burnt out with two years to go before we graduate. Some aren't - but, it also shows in their work integrity and how they consistently struggle through their classes at the minimum level required in order to progress.
I just. I'm "sorry not sorry" to disagree with anyone who thinks that it should be more difficult to get student loans than it already can be. Just because you see a portion of people who get loans and don't pay and are ruining the system, doesn't mean that we should be punishing those that actually need the loans to get the education they want or need. You don't cut off the nose to spite the face. Being someone who's struggling through undergrad school, and knowing people who are struggling through undergrad school personally -- I could never sit here and say that loans should be harder to get.
Here's a UO..... I dislike Jennifer Lawrence. I don't understand what the big deal is about her. She's an okay actress. She can be rude and obnoxious and it's suppose to be funny? She tries so hard to be real and relatable, that it just seems fake to me. Once again just my UO, maybe I'm not seeing something that others see.
Every time I see "Andplusalso" my blood pressure spikes and my lower eyelid twitches uncontrollably. I've only seen it here.
When I first joined I thought everyone was just failing miserably at tagging ndplusalso. It didn't even compute for a solid month because I've only ever seen it here, too.
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
Here's a UO..... I dislike Jennifer Lawrence. I don't understand what the big deal is about her. She's an okay actress. She can be rude and obnoxious and it's suppose to be funny? She tries so hard to be real and relatable, that it just seems fake to me. Once again just my UO, maybe I'm not seeing something that others see.
YES! I think she tries to hard to be the "perfect" woman that everyone wants to know. It's too forced.
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Every time I see "Andplusalso" my blood pressure spikes and my lower eyelid twitches uncontrollably. I've only seen it here.
I use andplusalso when I'm being a bitch. Which is always on here.
Whenever I see "andplusalso" I always imagine the person writing it is doing this:
Not sure about anyone else who uses it, but that's 100% accurate for me! I also read it as a big "Eff you" when I see others using it, although I'm not sure if they intend it that way...
But yeah. That's how I intend it. Especially in the Real Answers section.
@NovaSaysNo@Lulucooks@MrsDho11 You guys are totally right--it is great when grads come back to check in and share their excitement/encouragement for us. Your perspective is way more positive than the one I expressed earlier, and I really respect that. Having a degree in psychology, I've learned many times over how our thought processes directly impact our emotions. I need to work on putting a positive spin to things!!
I felt the same way about it for a while. And it can be tough, especially on hard TTC days/times. Can't blame you (or anyone) for having feelings. Sometimes I will still get a bit jealous or have the "why not me's?", and I feel awful about that. At the end of the day, you all are all I have to talk to about TTC things. I can get attached to a chair, so when I "meet" women on here I want to keep up with them, and I guess I feel like the feeling is being returned by their commenting. I think that is what changed the dynamic for me.
Holy run-on sentences and rambling... yeah, I should have been asleep hours ago. Whoops. Oh! Random note for those that know/remember, my doc says I'm good to go for the whole concussion thing! Or well, really, that I'm allowed tv/computer time, reading, and work now. That's probably why I've been on here instead of sleeping.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
creepy Easter bunny coming as soon as I can look at the screen more than 30 min at a time.
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulation Clomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
Every time I see "Andplusalso" my blood pressure spikes and my lower eyelid twitches uncontrollably. I've only seen it here.
When I first joined I thought everyone was just failing miserably at tagging ndplusalso. It didn't even compute for a solid month because I've only ever seen it here, too.
I love this so much. It took me a while to realize that QFP didn't mean quit fucking posting.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
creepy Easter bunny coming as soon as I can look at the screen more than 30 min at a time.
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulation Clomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
Every time I see "Andplusalso" my blood pressure spikes and my lower eyelid twitches uncontrollably. I've only seen it here.
When I first joined I thought everyone was just failing miserably at tagging ndplusalso. It didn't even compute for a solid month because I've only ever seen it here, too.
I love this so much. It took me a while to realize that QFP didn't mean quit fucking posting.
Ahahahaha....can we please change the meaning of QFP? @NovaSaysNo has a wayyyyyy better idea.
Every time I see "Andplusalso" my blood pressure spikes and my lower eyelid twitches uncontrollably. I've only seen it here.
When I first joined I thought everyone was just failing miserably at tagging ndplusalso. It didn't even compute for a solid month because I've only ever seen it here, too.
I love this so much. It took me a while to realize that QFP didn't mean quit fucking posting.
Re: student loans, I believe it would be nice if universities acted a bit more responsibly. I have been out of undergrad for over 10 years so perhaps this has gotten better, but my school made it very easy for me to take out nearly six figures for a bachelors' degree in my native language. Call me or my single mom dumb, but our M.O. was to get into the best school I could, period. I have no doubt my school got me where I am and I am happy (well, not happy but, I get it) to pay for my education. But when adults who know far more about this watch an 18-year-old sign, semester after semester, promissory notes that will equal $600/month repayments for a career trajectory that is likely to start out at a $30k salary in a major city... I think there should be something in place to discourage this behavior. Would I have made a different career choice had I known? Unclear, and I'm lucky that I use my degree and am now at a point that repayment isn't a significant burden. I should add I went to school in a major city with a ton of kids who were fortunate to have college funds. I graduated ahead of most of them, and if I would have been made to avoid college because I couldn't pay for it out-of-pocket, I would be very upset.
I definitely thought QFP also meant quit fucking posting. I first saw it while lurking and I was like "You tell that person to stop posting! Go girl!" I was disappointed when I learned what it actually meant. Although sometimes if someone QFPs a repeat-offender, I read it as "quit fucking posting" anyway...
Agreed... At home I grope DHs butt as a rule. In public though, holding hands is usually all there is. Quick peck on the lips if there is reason too, but public making out does not happen*
*when sober. When drunk and it's dark... I can't promise there isn't a quick playful tongue here or there.
Haha, it tends to be a rule in our house as well! The only time his butt is "off limits" is when he first comes home from work. He says he feels gross, but I'm like - it's through your work pants, what could possibly be wrong with a quick "hello" squeeze!
Hehe
I think that DHs butt is very nicely shaped but I also like that it makes him smile to get the attention. He acts like I am a super weirdo for some of my antics, but I see his little quick smile before he looks at me like I am crazy. This morning as he was walking out of the bedroom to take the dogs downstairs in his boxers, I walked him to the door with my hand on his cheek. He stopped at the doorway and just looked at me confused. I said "I just felt like I needed to escort you" and then I turned away to get in the shower. I heard him chuckling as he walked down the stairs.
ugggg student loans. I agree with @Kristen627 and many PP. I think we need student loans for many who need the assistance, but what I think we could tighten up on is the unnecessary assistance for kids to go to expensive liberal arts colleges that don't have the same return on investment. For example, I went to state school for undergrad, need some assistance, took out about 10K in loans, fine, that is not too much. Stupid me, when I moved to NYC, decided I really really should go to NYU for grad school.....hahahaha......current me laughs every time I pay my $500 in loans a month for a degree that didn't get me much.....
My biggest pet peeve is the kids who could go to state school and have little/no debt, but instead go to private college and rack up big debt. We need help as young adults! We have no idea how this will affect us in the future.
TTC #1 - December 2015 Me:31 H:31 DX: MFI - 1% Morph 12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future) 3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
I just always thought it was some catchy grammar snafu exclusive to TB. Never noticed it was exclusive to the snarky or bitchy posts. I need to pay better attention. @whiska and @NovaSaysNo, that is hilarious!
@NovaSaysNo I thought it was "quoted for proof" but I like yours way more.
@RatParade I actually really like the eating cereal idea. Every week your bowl is slightly less full and you're slightly larger it you're huge and it's all gone. That as a time laps would definitely make me laugh.
Also I wasn't really saying I hate all photos people take to document a pregnancy or all photos people take to document their baby being a baby. Just the weird/cliche ones. Like I'd be interested to see photos of me, my brothers, DH or whatever as a baby with family in a normal situation. Or in some especially cute little baby outfit for Easter or something. But I don't want to see a picture of me, my brothers, DH or anyone else really as a naked baby in a basket. But ya know, that's just me.
I actually really enjoy the pregnancy progression photos and plan to do something like that if/when I ever get pregnant. And I'm sure I'll probably end up being that mom that has 2,000 pictures of my baby on my computer from the first year alone.
Me: 28 Husband: 31 TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016 Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
@Kristen627 It's a rat race! If I had stayed, I could have probably done more with my degree....but I wanted to move back home, sooooo it left me with far fewer options Loved my time there! You are lucky to live there!
TTC #1 - December 2015 Me:31 H:31 DX: MFI - 1% Morph 12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future) 3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
This might rattle a few... Apparently a UO in my state yesterday during severe weather was praying on Facebook. I couldn't even keep up with the amount of 'Dear God'/'Dear Jesus'/'Dear Lord' please keep us safe posts. I kept chuckling - I didn't know the Big Man responded to social media requests.
You cant get right with the Lord on social media only when you want protection from natural disaster.
Disclaimer - I am in no way belittling or minimizing anyone's religious beliefs.
This might rattle a few... Apparently a UO in my state yesterday during severe weather was praying on Facebook. I couldn't even keep up with the amount of 'Dear God'/'Dear Jesus'/'Dear Lord' please keep us safe posts. I kept chuckling - I didn't know the Big Man responded to social media requests.
You cant get right with the Lord on social media only when you want protection from natural disaster.
Disclaimer - I am in no way belittling or minimizing anyone's religious beliefs.
ETA - spelling is hard
My mum and her friends do this all the time. I'm like.. uh, yeah. Go to church, or pray in real life. Not on social media. The fudge does that do except make you look better?
I just realized another UO after seeing a friend's status on facebook... I get unreasonably upset and angry when people say those with anxiety/depression/ptsd shouldn't take medication for it. Some say they need to "tough it out" or that there are natural cures... If a person wants to go that route that's fine it's their choice, but don't go looking for them.
My UO is that when I see things like the post (copy/pasted) below I wish I could actually throw a brick at them. A real brick. Maybe with a rusty nail stuck in it. Maybe they also have a natural cure for tetanus. I would take a night in jail (would probably be more than one) for assault with a deadly brick before I ever let this guy talk to my friends or family. Backstory is that on average 22 veterans and 1 active duty member commits suicide every day. I've lost too many friends (and almost myself) to that, and it's not much better on the civilian side (my mom tried, but luckily was found and didn't succeed). PTSD wasn't mentioned in the post but I bet if I messaged him he would say it works... I am beyond brick throwing angry and I feel like that's probably wrong of me to feel like this. Is my opinion of wanting to throw objects unreasonable? Maybe I'm just taking this too personal. I'm considering messaging him to see what his "natural way" is. Sorry for the ramble... so mad.
My friend's post: If you're suffering from anxiety or depression and are prescribed medication... Please contact me and l will help you do it the natural way. You'll feel so much better and not have any side effects like you do with prescribed medication.
And the QFP thing... I read it both ways every time.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
creepy Easter bunny coming as soon as I can look at the screen more than 30 min at a time.
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulation Clomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
My UO today is based on this article, which has really been on my mind. I am not interested in hiding that I'm TTC from the people I care about. I'm not, like, discussing it with my students and coworkers or anything, but I don't mind discussing it with my close friends. I actually think I feel more relaxed about it because I can be honest about things.
I understand that some people are more private than I am, and I 100% get that it's each woman's personal prerogative whether or not to tell people their business. But what I don't get is this Fight Club aspect of TTC. People act like I'm either brave or insane (or both) for wanting to talk about this with my mom or my best friends. Like, am I supposed to be ashamed that my wonderful husband and I want to create a little human of our own? It's a biological imperative, yo! And I think it's weird and sort of fucked up that I am expected to hide it.
I just realized another UO after seeing a friend's status on facebook... I get unreasonably upset and angry when people say those with anxiety/depression/ptsd shouldn't take medication for it. Some say they need to "tough it out" or that there are natural cures... If a person wants to go that route that's fine it's their choice, but don't go looking for them.
My UO is that when I see things like the post (copy/pasted) below I wish I could actually throw a brick at them. A real brick. Maybe with a rusty nail stuck in it. Maybe they also have a natural cure for tetanus. I would take a night in jail (would probably be more than one) for assault with a deadly brick before I ever let this guy talk to my friends or family. Backstory is that on average 22 veterans and 1 active duty member commits suicide every day. I've lost too many friends (and almost myself) to that, and it's not much better on the civilian side (my mom tried, but luckily was found and didn't succeed). PTSD wasn't mentioned in the post but I bet if I messaged him he would say it works... I am beyond brick throwing angry and I feel like that's probably wrong of me to feel like this. Is my opinion of wanting to throw objects unreasonable? Maybe I'm just taking this too personal. I'm considering messaging him to see what his "natural way" is. Sorry for the ramble... so mad.
My friend's post: If you're suffering from anxiety or depression and are prescribed medication... Please contact me and l will help you do it the natural way. You'll feel so much better and not have any side effects like you do with prescribed medication.
And the QFP thing... I read it both ways every time.
That would be infuriating to read. I'm sorry for what you have previously been through. I have an issue with people who jump on the lifestyle/health coaching bandwagon, because they have zero qualification to be doctoring, counseling the public. Suggesting someone forgo medical treatment or consultation for a pseudo health coach is so dangerous.
2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy 6 rounds of clomid 5 rounds of iui Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month) IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide ER 12/1/2016
ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized 4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls FET 1/10/2017 Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017 FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
I'm sure this will be unpopular, but I think it's kind of weird that people lurk around this board after getting KU. I mean I know that people can read whatever posts they want, and I get that the old regs want to see people get their BFPs. But pregnant people reading and chiming in on random posts? Idk, makes me feel kinda like this is the freak show of people who haven't been able to get KU yet. I'm probably being sensitive. But that's my UO.
I think I may have just seen a recent thread with an example of this. I think I sit somewhere in the middle.
Posts like the one I just saw that arent educational or helpful, but are just jumping into a random convo about something sit funny with me too. Particularly when that person was here on TTGP for around 5 mins before they got to move on to their BMB.
Then on the other hand if the day ever comes when I am KU I will definitely be rooting for my friends still trying. But I would try to refrain from actually posting here unless I thought it was really necessary and I definitely wouldnt join into GTKY type threads as I dont think its appropriate.
But I find it shocking that @Lulucooks mentioned people on BMB's are calling people TTGP sad for posting on their boards. I dont know why they might be posting but they most likely wanted to ask for advice right? To call someone sad because they aren't KU yet is so cruel. I really hope that wasn't one of the long standing TTGP'ers because they should know better.
I do like to check on a couple of people to see their pregnancy progressing because I'm so happy for them. I havent found it necessary to post there though. The odd love tit is sufficient.
Re: UO Thursday
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
edited to add pic
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I understand your side and respect your thoughts/feelings on it. I felt that way for a little while after I joined (not saying anyone else will change their minds... just that I did). Was just offering up another view and a creepy hug gif.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulationClomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
3 Furbabies
I agree with the idea of not living beyond your means and choosing schools that are more affordable (like some state public universities), but even that isn't always realistic. I teach at a community college in a high cost of living area. Most of my students are from households making under $30,000/year. These are people who are motivated, who want to improve their standing in life - many are parents, or immigrants, or first in their family to go to college. They're usually also working, frequently full-time. The hoops they have to jump through to attempt to get reasonable financial support are so convoluted, and the aid they do get is sometimes so minimal, that it's a miracle so many of them manage to stay in school. But a lot drop out for financial reasons, and then are stuck in the same low paying jobs they were trying to get out of in the first place.
I'm all for financial responsibility ... but when an associates or bachelors degree is needed to get a living wage, and those degrees are frequently unaffordable, we're setting people up for failure just because they weren't born into a family with money. It's shameful.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
https://boredomtherapy.com/geeky-baby-costumes/
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Married: July 2015
BFP: 5/20/16 | EDD: 1/28/17 | Twin boys born 1/16/17
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Now, me being 23, I'm more used to working all day and staying up late for whatever reason - husband, home responsibilities, my son. But, most of these kids have never had to go to school full time, work full time, and then go home and do homework and projects on top of it. And they're 18 and getting burnt out with two years to go before we graduate. Some aren't - but, it also shows in their work integrity and how they consistently struggle through their classes at the minimum level required in order to progress.
I just. I'm "sorry not sorry" to disagree with anyone who thinks that it should be more difficult to get student loans than it already can be. Just because you see a portion of people who get loans and don't pay and are ruining the system, doesn't mean that we should be punishing those that actually need the loans to get the education they want or need. You don't cut off the nose to spite the face. Being someone who's struggling through undergrad school, and knowing people who are struggling through undergrad school personally -- I could never sit here and say that loans should be harder to get.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Here's a UO..... I dislike Jennifer Lawrence. I don't understand what the big deal is about her. She's an okay actress. She can be rude and obnoxious and it's suppose to be funny? She tries so hard to be real and relatable, that it just seems fake to me. Once again just my UO, maybe I'm not seeing something that others see.
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
I also read it as a big "Eff you" when I see others using it, although I'm not sure if they intend it that way...
But yeah. That's how I intend it.
Especially in the Real Answers section.
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
Holy run-on sentences and rambling... yeah, I should have been asleep hours ago. Whoops. Oh! Random note for those that know/remember, my doc says I'm good to go for the whole concussion thing! Or well, really, that I'm allowed tv/computer time, reading, and work now. That's probably why I've been on here instead of sleeping.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulationClomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
3 Furbabies
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulationClomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
3 Furbabies
Previously nweg...7878
I was disappointed when I learned what it actually meant. Although sometimes if someone QFPs a repeat-offender, I read it as "quit fucking posting" anyway...
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I think that DHs butt is very nicely shaped but I also like that it makes him smile to get the attention. He acts like I am a super weirdo for some of my antics, but I see his little quick smile before he looks at me like I am crazy. This morning as he was walking out of the bedroom to take the dogs downstairs in his boxers, I walked him to the door with my hand on his cheek. He stopped at the doorway and just looked at me confused. I said "I just felt like I needed to escort you" and then I turned away to get in the shower. I heard him chuckling as he walked down the stairs.
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
My biggest pet peeve is the kids who could go to state school and have little/no debt, but instead go to private college and rack up big debt. We need help as young adults! We have no idea how this will affect us in the future.
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
@RatParade I actually really like the eating cereal idea. Every week your bowl is slightly less full and you're slightly larger it you're huge and it's all gone. That as a time laps would definitely make me laugh.
Also I wasn't really saying I hate all photos people take to document a pregnancy or all photos people take to document their baby being a baby. Just the weird/cliche ones. Like I'd be interested to see photos of me, my brothers, DH or whatever as a baby with family in a normal situation. Or in some especially cute little baby outfit for Easter or something. But I don't want to see a picture of me, my brothers, DH or anyone else really as a naked baby in a basket. But ya know, that's just me.
I actually really enjoy the pregnancy progression photos and plan to do something like that if/when I ever get pregnant. And I'm sure I'll probably end up being that mom that has 2,000 pictures of my baby on my computer from the first year alone.
TTC#1: January 2015- September 2016
Infertility, Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Rainbow baby born June 6, 2017 ❤️
Baby #2 due June 12, 2018
ETA: I see your profile image is from Paris. Are we the same person?
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
You cant get right with the Lord on social media only when you want protection from natural disaster.
Disclaimer - I am in no way belittling or minimizing anyone's religious beliefs.
ETA - spelling is hard
Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
I just realized another UO after seeing a friend's status on facebook... I get unreasonably upset and angry when people say those with anxiety/depression/ptsd shouldn't take medication for it. Some say they need to "tough it out" or that there are natural cures... If a person wants to go that route that's fine it's their choice, but don't go looking for them.
My UO is that when I see things like the post (copy/pasted) below I wish I could actually throw a brick at them. A real brick. Maybe with a rusty nail stuck in it. Maybe they also have a natural cure for tetanus. I would take a night in jail (would probably be more than one) for assault with a deadly brick before I ever let this guy talk to my friends or family.
Backstory is that on average 22 veterans and 1 active duty member commits suicide every day. I've lost too many friends (and almost myself) to that, and it's not much better on the civilian side (my mom tried, but luckily was found and didn't succeed).
PTSD wasn't mentioned in the post but I bet if I messaged him he would say it works...
I am beyond brick throwing angry and I feel like that's probably wrong of me to feel like this. Is my opinion of wanting to throw objects unreasonable? Maybe I'm just taking this too personal. I'm considering messaging him to see what his "natural way" is. Sorry for the ramble... so mad.
My friend's post:
If you're suffering from anxiety or depression and are prescribed medication... Please contact me and l will help you do it the natural way. You'll feel so much better and not have any side effects like you do with prescribed medication.
And the QFP thing... I read it both ways every time.
TTGP February Siggy Challenge
Me: 28
DH: 29
Married: October 2012
TTC #1 since September 2015
Clomid round 1 starting: 4FEB2016 = No ovulationClomid round 2 starting: TBD... whenever AF decides to show up, or I have to take Provera again
3 Furbabies
Not a fan either. It sits with "prolly" for me.
TEAM: PINK!!
I understand that some people are more private than I am, and I 100% get that it's each woman's personal prerogative whether or not to tell people their business. But what I don't get is this Fight Club aspect of TTC. People act like I'm either brave or insane (or both) for wanting to talk about this with my mom or my best friends. Like, am I supposed to be ashamed that my wonderful husband and I want to create a little human of our own? It's a biological imperative, yo! And I think it's weird and sort of fucked up that I am expected to hide it.
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Started TTC #1 November 2015
BFP 6/10/2016 - EDD 2/22/2017
Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
6 rounds of clomid
5 rounds of iui
Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
ER 12/1/2016
4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
FET 1/10/2017
Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March
Posts like the one I just saw that arent educational or helpful, but are just jumping into a random convo about something sit funny with me too. Particularly when that person was here on TTGP for around 5 mins before they got to move on to their BMB.
Then on the other hand if the day ever comes when I am KU I will definitely be rooting for my friends still trying. But I would try to refrain from actually posting here unless I thought it was really necessary and I definitely wouldnt join into GTKY type threads as I dont think its appropriate.
But I find it shocking that @Lulucooks mentioned people on BMB's are calling people TTGP sad for posting on their boards. I dont know why they might be posting but they most likely wanted to ask for advice right? To call someone sad because they aren't KU yet is so cruel. I really hope that wasn't one of the long standing TTGP'ers because they should know better.
I do like to check on a couple of people to see their pregnancy progressing because I'm so happy for them. I havent found it necessary to post there though. The odd love tit is sufficient.
TEAM: PINK!!