@CCLow87 I feel like if I install the car seat, I'm dooming myself to go into preterm labor. We installed the car seat the day before I went into labor with DS. That was the same day I packed my hospital bag. Oops. I was about 39 weeks when that happened.
My mind thinks the opposite way! lol If I'm prepared, it won't ever happen.
My mind has a different strategy, I just simply believe it won't happen to me no matter what! Like for some odd reason, at the beginning of the pregnancy, I had no doubt that I would carry to full term and basically give birth on or around my due date. And I never bothered reading about csections because, duh? I won't need it. And post birth? I would be one of those lucky parents with a child that never cried for no reason and would sleep through the night. I'm not sure if it's a weird survival mechanism, like a primitive instinct preventing me from choosing to never have children. I did have my scares during the pregnancy that changed my mind, but I continue to remain hopeful.
Today is the day of my shower and I'm having social anxiety anxiety already. There will be 50 people there and many of them don't know each other. Mostly, I'm not a fan of being the center of attention . Missing wine right now!
Today is the day of my shower and I'm having social anxiety anxiety already. There will be 50 people there and many of them don't know each other. Mostly, I'm not a fan of being the center of attention . Missing wine right now!
Have fun! Just a couple more months until you can have ALL the wine!
Today is the day of my shower and I'm having social anxiety anxiety already. There will be 50 people there and many of them don't know each other. Mostly, I'm not a fan of being the center of attention . Missing wine right now!
I'm like you! Don't worry, you will have fun!!! Don't forget to post pics.
Today is the day of my shower and I'm having social anxiety anxiety already. There will be 50 people there and many of them don't know each other. Mostly, I'm not a fan of being the center of attention . Missing wine right now!
I'm like you! Don't worry, you will have fun!!! Don't forget to post pics.
My mind has a different strategy, I just simply believe it won't happen to me no matter what! Like for some odd reason, at the beginning of the pregnancy, I had no doubt that I would carry to full term and basically give birth on or around my due date. And I never bothered reading about csections because, duh? I won't need it. And post birth? I would be one of those lucky parents with a child that never cried for no reason and would sleep through the night. I'm not sure if it's a weird survival mechanism, like a primitive instinct preventing me from choosing to never have children. I did have my scares during the pregnancy that changed my mind, but I continue to remain hopeful.
This was my strategy as well with my first pregnancy. But I ended up needing a c-section, and when I was in the hospital frantically trying to do research on my phone, I wished I'd actually read that part of the pregnancy book. Hopefully that doesn't happen to you (or me again!), but I'll be reading the c-section part of the book this time even though I've already had one.
We were notified last night that we got preliminary approved for an apartment that opens up early March. We also found out how much money DH will be making at his new job. He was thinking it would be $13/$14 an hour. He's going to be making $21 an hour. We've started discussing the possibility of me taking all 12 weeks off instead of only 6, since we'd be able to afford it without any issues. We've also started a plan of attack to get rid of debt and save for a down payment on a house (as long as he can keep getting work at the studio).
@Knottie9983816 accidentally found it. Now you know I love ya, girl and in the end, you and your family will decide whatever works for you guys. But that is a pretty non-cute nickname. I can't blame your grandma for disliking it. I also think she is being pretty direct and saying she doesn't want to be called that and maybe you guys can consider her wishes.
I do think the other posters were a bit dramatic and assumptive with the whole "appreciate she's even still here" as if you said anything of the sort to indicate otherwise.
@Knottie9983816 accidentally found it. Now you know I love ya, girl and in the end, you and your family will decide whatever works for you guys. But that is a pretty non-cute nickname. I can't blame your grandma for disliking it. I also think she is being pretty direct and saying she doesn't want to be called that and maybe you guys can consider her wishes.
I do think the other posters were a bit dramatic and assumptive with the whole "appreciate she's even still here" as if you said anything of the sort to indicate otherwise.
I was going to link to the thread for you, but I started driving. My problem with it is she shouldn't have been cool with it for almost two decades, then decide out of the blue one day she doesn't like it. Also she has never used my first name in conversation my entire life. Literally has only ever called me Wookie. I'm not even sure she knows what my actual name is.
@Knottie9983816 It's weird that she's all of a sudden changed her tune. My dad for the longest time did NOT want to be called zeda (Yiddish for grandfather), because he felt like it would be weird, since I never got a chance to call my grandfather zeda. I wanted to bring the tradition back, since it hasn't been used since my great-grandfather. Once he found out he was going to be a grandpa, he decided he was ok with being called zeda. Maybe she'll change her tune once LO is here? I know a few people who's moms refused to be called something until the baby was actually placed in their arms.
Honestly, I didn't know that grandparent nicknames were such a huge deal! @Knottie9983816 hopefully it does just become a non issue when your LO arrives and they decide to call her whatever they feel comfortable with really.
@CCLow87 DH installed the carseat in my car last weekend (32+4) because it was convenient timing. Last night I lay in bed and started stressing and listing off all the things that we need to do before baby to DH and legit think I may pack my hospital bag this week (or at least putting things aside and listing what I need to include). Bonus of stressing to DH last night, today he gave a thorough moving all the furniture using all the attachments vacuum of the house and steam mopped all the floors, now he's off to clean the bathrooms...
@CCLow87 DH installed the carseat in my car last weekend (32+4) because it was convenient timing. Last night I lay in bed and started stressing and listing off all the things that we need to do before baby to DH and legit think I may pack my hospital bag this week (or at least putting things aside and listing what I need to include). Bonus of stressing to DH last night, today he gave a thorough moving all the furniture using all the attachments vacuum of the house and steam mopped all the floors, now he's off to clean the bathrooms...
Go DH!
DD and I are now sorting through all the baby clothes and starting to wash stuff! I think the hospital bag is up next! You should pack too!!!
3 miscarriages - 1 DS (6) - 1 DD (3) - #3 due March 30!
I had a dream Friday night that my water broke and I went into labor then woke up having to pee 6 times in a two hour period. I packed a hospital bag yesterday this week my plan is to get together a bag for DD1. I'm all freaked out and feel the need to be prepared now
@Knottie9983816 accidentally found it. Now you know I love ya, girl and in the end, you and your family will decide whatever works for you guys. But that is a pretty non-cute nickname. I can't blame your grandma for disliking it. I also think she is being pretty direct and saying she doesn't want to be called that and maybe you guys can consider her wishes.
I do think the other posters were a bit dramatic and assumptive with the whole "appreciate she's even still here" as if you said anything of the sort to indicate otherwise.
I was going to link to the thread for you, but I started driving. My problem with it is she shouldn't have been cool with it for almost two decades, then decide out of the blue one day she doesn't like it. Also she has never used my first name in conversation my entire life. Literally has only ever called me Wookie. I'm not even sure she knows what my actual name is.
I figured there was a lot more background to this for sure. It is funny to want to change your nickname suddenly. And it seems like NN are well used in your family, hence she doesn't even use your name. Either way, you didn't need all the drama responses.
Maybe just tell your grandma 'yeah we can they' and just leave it to the baby. I'm sure they'll pick up whatever everyone else calls her or maybe pick up the name she wants. She'll get over it either way!
Facebook just told me that a friend and her fiancé are getting a puppy and naming her Lucy, knowing that's what we're naming the baby... like she and I talked about the name a couple of weeks ago. I don't really care, but seriously?
She's like "I hope that's not like the weirdest thing ever!" And I'm over here thinking.. B, please. *eyeroll*
We had a couple weeks of nights in the low 40s so we had thrown our down comforter on our bed and cracked our patio door. Then the weather jumped up and it was in the 60s at night. We opened the door, but didn't take the comforter off. I woke up in the middle of the night and was positive my water had broke...because I was sweating down there so bad It wasn't until I felt the bed under me that I realized I was just hot. I've had some dreams about going into labor too...yikes.
Originally I planned to stop working at 36.5 weeks, because it coincided to spring break. I would be 37.5 weeks if I went back to school after spring break, spring break separates the 3rd and 4th grading period, so it just made sense (even with FMLA, as there are 52 working days after spring break until summer break). DH is now telling me he wants me to go back to work after spring break because it makes the most sense for us financially. At first I was really mad because I'm already struggling at work, I can't even stand in front of my class and teach for longer than a few minutes without getting seriously winded, so my kids get assigned of lot of things they can do while I monitor them without having to be long winded. But then when I looked at the calendar, there are actually only 11 days of work after spring break until my due date and DH said he would never ask me to work past my due date. I worked up until my due date when I was induced with my daughter, so I don't have a "history" of delivering early. If LO stays in until her due date, then I would have 19 days of FMLA to use during the next school year if needed. I just really REALLY feel like I just need some time to rest and get some things done before the baby comes, and with working full time, running around after my 2 year old, and dealing with the pains this time around I didn't with her, I just don't know how to do that if I continue working to my due date when I have logical reason to (both with time off and the school calendar) to stop early. Any thoughts...?
ETA: This kid is already in position for labor, super low in my pelvis, the pains in my pelvic joints, facing anterior, as well as some other TMI indicators...DD1 wasn't in this good of position until I was in active labor. A big part of me really feels like I will deliver before my due date, and I do not want to go into labor at work (even though my school is literally a 2 block walk from the hospital, whereas my house is a 30 min drive).
@sprocketsngadgets I had a scare this morning about my water breaking... They had to break my water with DS, so I'm not sure if I'll be 100% positive if my water breaks at home this time around. Anyways, I was getting ready to take a shower, and while brushing my teeth naked, felt water coming from between my legs. It wasn't a lot, but I started freaking out. It hasn't happened since, so I'm assuming it may have just been pee or something. I know most women get the constant trickle, so I've been monitoring my undies all day.
@cmjenkies My sister helped her BF's family name their cat a couple of years ago... She KNOWS that DH and I really want to have a little girl named Lily. It's been known for ages. She named the cat Lily. Now she thinks it would be awkward if we had a girl named Lily since that's already the cat's name.
I started repacking my hospital bag today. I had thrown one together when I had complication a few weeks ago. So today I got it out and really packed what I will need. Did one for DD as well. Today DH put together the bouncer and swing. Then I also went thru all of LO clothes (already washed) and reorganized all his stuff.
Next step is to get the cars detail cleaned, clean DD's carseats and install both carseats in the cars. Then at least I will feel prepared if something happens. Though hopefully there is still at least 5-6 weeks left.
Originally I planned to stop working at 36.5 weeks, because it coincided to spring break. I would be 37.5 weeks if I went back to school after spring break, spring break separates the 3rd and 4th grading period, so it just made sense (even with FMLA, as there are 52 working days after spring break until summer break). DH is now telling me he wants me to go back to work after spring break because it makes the most sense for us financially. At first I was really mad because I'm already struggling at work, I can't even stand in front of my class and teach for longer than a few minutes without getting seriously winded, so my kids get assigned of lot of things they can do while I monitor them without having to be long winded. But then when I looked at the calendar, there are actually only 11 days of work after spring break until my due date and DH said he would never ask me to work past my due date. I worked up until my due date when I was induced with my daughter, so I don't have a "history" of delivering early. If LO stays in until her due date, then I would have 19 days of FMLA to use during the next school year if needed. I just really REALLY feel like I just need some time to rest and get some things done before the baby comes, and with working full time, running around after my 2 year old, and dealing with the pains this time around I didn't with her, I just don't know how to do that if I continue working to my due date when I have logical reason to (both with time off and the school calendar) to stop early. Any thoughts...?
ETA: This kid is already in position for labor, super low in my pelvis, the pains in my pelvis joints, facing anterior, as well as some other TMI indicators...DD1 wasn't in this good of position until I was in active labor. A big part of me really feels like I will deliver before my due date, and I do not want to go into labor at work (even though my school is literally a 2 block walk from the hospital, whereas my house is a 30 min drive).
As much as you probably don't want to hear it, I say work those 11 days. It will suck, but the money will be nice and the extra time that you'll have later on will be great.
@imrachellea that reminds me that I need to get a mattress cover incase my water breaks in bed. Because if I don't it would ruin the mattress and I seriously don't want to have to go buy a new one after only having this one for a year.
@imrachellea I would go ahead and tough it out too, honestly.. although I'm strictly limited to my FMLA time allowance so your teacher schedule allows you a little more flexibility, so I can see why you're considering.
@fbanke42 I'm actually not as upset about the idea after I sat and looked at the calendar and saw that it was only 11 working days. The thing that concerns me is that my administration is already interviewing a temporary hire, as I told them I would be done after spring break. I'm afraid they'll hire someone for that position, then I would tell them I'm still sticking around for a while, I just don't know what that would mean for the new hire or myself or what. There is a possibility they may find some non-classroom work to do around campus instead (which would be awesome, the kids are what are stressing me out) because I just don't know how fair it is to hire someone being told they would work a full grading period and then have me actually be there...?
@imrachellea if you think you're too uncomfortable to work, I'd tell my own husband that, as the pregnant woman, you should have final say in this. It sounds like you have already modified your activity as much as you reasonably can, so if you feel that you want to be done after spring break then be done after spring break. You have the ability to swing the leave time; if I were able, I would probably take a bit of time before LO arrives.
@fbanke42 FWIW (and this is definitely TMI), I'll have icky gushes of discharge almost daily that make my think I peed myself or that I'm leaking fluid pretty much daily. So gross.
So I just had this awkward conversation with my mom about my delivery. Apparently she expected to be in the room with me, and I told her I would not feel comfortable having her there. She seemed sad about it and kept saying that she needs to be there with me to tell me what to do and I felt bad about letting her down, but there's just simply no way I would let anyone beside DH with me in the room. Sigh.
Facebook just told me that a friend and her fiancé are getting a puppy and naming her Lucy, knowing that's what we're naming the baby... like she and I talked about the name a couple of weeks ago. I don't really care, but seriously?
She's like "I hope that's not like the weirdest thing ever!" And I'm over here thinking.. B, please. *eyeroll*
You could say something super bitchy/morbid like "it's fine, my daughter will be around for the next 80-100 years... Your dog will be here for what, maybe 15?"
So I just had this awkward conversation with my mom about my delivery. Apparently she expected to be in the room with me, and I told her I would not feel comfortable having her there. She seemed sad about it and kept saying that she needs to be there with me to tell me what to do and I felt bad about letting her down, but there's just simply no way I would let anyone beside DH with me in the room. Sigh.
My mother is convinced of the same, even though every time it has come up I've told her no. We haven't been close until she found out I was pregnant and she really just stresses me out. I want my fiancé in there and that's it. Period. But it does suck to see it hurt her feelings...
@imrachellea part of me thinks 11 days of work would be worth it to have that extra time next year in case you need it. The other part of me thinks having that time off to finish getting things ready and to spend some one on one time with your DD1 before DD2 gets here would be really nice.
@fbanke42@AmadorRose I have so much discharge that I soak my panties daily and need panty liners. I asked my doctor how am I suppose to know when my water breaks since it's more common to leak than to have one big gush. He had no answers for me said to keep monitoring it and watch out for contractions to become regular. And if I "might" be leaking to come in and have them test. He said to "keep crying wolf" at that point because eventually it will be positive. One of the strangest conversations I've ever had.
@TKaiser91 I've had a few people go in at least 5 different times before the liquid tested positive for amniotic fluid. The other times before that was just discharge and pee.
@fbanke42 I just don't want to be one of those people that goes in all the time to have them check and be sent home because it's nothing every time. Ugh why can't we just have like one of those red buttons that pop out of the turkey when it's done. It would make things less stressful. You could just go about your day and then BAM! Red button pops out and your are 100% positive it's time, instead of waiting for water to leak that could be pee, discharge, or amniotic fluid.
@fbanke42 I just don't want to be one of those people that goes in all the time to have them check and be sent home because it's nothing every time. Ugh why can't we just have like one of those red buttons that pop out of the turkey when it's done. It would make things less stressful. You could just go about your day and then BAM! Red button pops out and your are 100% positive it's time, instead of waiting for water to leak that could be pee, discharge, or amniotic fluid.
I second this motion! Also thanks for making me laugh so hard I peed. I am positive it was pee though, so there is that :P
I'm going back after spring break. There's 13 school days between then and when I'll start my leave (I'm due the 17th and my leave will start the 15th). I feel a lot of pressure to work up until I pop. It'll be right when standardized testing needs to be finished and, because of my students' disabilities, they have to be tested individually which is crazy time consuming. Friday was the first day I felt like being pregnant really took a role on my effectiveness. I'm just hoping I can survive 8 more weeks (2 of which are spring break). I also really hate having subs so I want to limit it even though my sub is amazing. @imrachellea
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for April Mamas**
Guess who is taking a nap with DS?
I'm the one who woke up at 7 while DH slept in until 9.
Missing wine right now!
This was my strategy as well with my first pregnancy. But I ended up needing a c-section, and when I was in the hospital frantically trying to do research on my phone, I wished I'd actually read that part of the pregnancy book. Hopefully that doesn't happen to you (or me again!), but I'll be reading the c-section part of the book this time even though I've already had one.
I do think the other posters were a bit dramatic and assumptive with the whole "appreciate she's even still here" as if you said anything of the sort to indicate otherwise.
Maybe just tell your grandma 'yeah we can they' and just leave it to the baby. I'm sure they'll pick up whatever everyone else calls her or maybe pick up the name she wants. She'll get over it either way!
She's like "I hope that's not like the weirdest thing ever!" And I'm over here thinking.. B, please. *eyeroll*
We had a couple weeks of nights in the low 40s so we had thrown our down comforter on our bed and cracked our patio door. Then the weather jumped up and it was in the 60s at night. We opened the door, but didn't take the comforter off. I woke up in the middle of the night and was positive my water had broke...because I was sweating down there so bad
Originally I planned to stop working at 36.5 weeks, because it coincided to spring break. I would be 37.5 weeks if I went back to school after spring break, spring break separates the 3rd and 4th grading period, so it just made sense (even with FMLA, as there are 52 working days after spring break until summer break). DH is now telling me he wants me to go back to work after spring break because it makes the most sense for us financially. At first I was really mad because I'm already struggling at work, I can't even stand in front of my class and teach for longer than a few minutes without getting seriously winded, so my kids get assigned of lot of things they can do while I monitor them without having to be long winded. But then when I looked at the calendar, there are actually only 11 days of work after spring break until my due date and DH said he would never ask me to work past my due date. I worked up until my due date when I was induced with my daughter, so I don't have a "history" of delivering early. If LO stays in until her due date, then I would have 19 days of FMLA to use during the next school year if needed. I just really REALLY feel like I just need some time to rest and get some things done before the baby comes, and with working full time, running around after my 2 year old, and dealing with the pains this time around I didn't with her, I just don't know how to do that if I continue working to my due date when I have logical reason to (both with time off and the school calendar) to stop early. Any thoughts...?
ETA: This kid is already in position for labor, super low in my pelvis, the pains in my pelvic joints, facing anterior, as well as some other TMI indicators...DD1 wasn't in this good of position until I was in active labor. A big part of me really feels like I will deliver before my due date, and I do not want to go into labor at work (even though my school is literally a 2 block walk from the hospital, whereas my house is a 30 min drive).
@cmjenkies My sister helped her BF's family name their cat a couple of years ago... She KNOWS that DH and I really want to have a little girl named Lily. It's been known for ages. She named the cat Lily. Now she thinks it would be awkward if we had a girl named Lily since that's already the cat's name.
Next step is to get the cars detail cleaned, clean DD's carseats and install both carseats in the cars. Then at least I will feel prepared if something happens. Though hopefully there is still at least 5-6 weeks left.
@fbanke42 FWIW (and this is definitely TMI), I'll have icky gushes of discharge almost daily that make my think I peed myself or that I'm leaking fluid pretty much daily. So gross.
@fbanke42 @AmadorRose I have so much discharge that I soak my panties daily and need panty liners. I asked my doctor how am I suppose to know when my water breaks since it's more common to leak than to have one big gush. He had no answers for me
@imrachellea