@imrachellea I'm going to go the other way and say I would not go back in your position. I'm stopping work a week before my due date due to scheduling, but would love to stop earlier if I could. And that's with a sedentary job
My DD is using the numbers in everybody's tickers and badges to practice number recognition while I bump... win/win!
My due date is during spring break, so I'm really just hoping I make it to that point, but I do see the end of the term and spring break as a natural transition point for the kids. Though, it would certainly be nice to get that extra two weeks of pay.
Looks like there are pluses and minuses with either decision I make. I won't make a final decision until DH and I meet with HR this week to go over our options, since he can transfer 30+ sick days to me. Who knows, maybe this kid will make the decision for me and I'll pop over spring break...! Thanks for the input
@elasticheart13 is it common in Denmark for mothers to be present? It seems like a regional/cultural thing here. I, personally, would never want my mom in the room just because I feel like it's going to be a huge moment for DH and me but one of my sisters invited mom to the birth of her third kid. Mom declined, but still.
Is there something else that maybe you could include her in that would be special? Maybe a first of some sort that wouldn't be a sacrifice to you and your husband? Or, if she is the type that just wants to take care of her baby (and her baby's baby), maybe invite her to stay with you for a bit to help you through the transition home? Perhaps even before, to help clean/prepare things that you'll be too tired or too big to do.
Funny story. Today while we were running errands in my new (to me) car that I just got in preparation for baby #2, my husband had one of those huge 52 ounce stings from a gas station. Well it didn't exactly fit in the cup holder so he just left it there barely fitting. And we made a sharp turn and there it went, all over my lap. it was like a glimpse into my future if my water breaks out in public.
@Knottie9983816 you are very welcome also, glad it was pee and not something else!
I think you can buy the strips that say if it's amniotic fluid or just good old pee! I think homebirth midwives hand them out frequently, since you can't just run to L&D. I've been meaning to Amazon search them, and probably will after this. It may at least help some with anxiety/wondering!
3 miscarriages - 1 DS (6) - 1 DD (3) - #3 due March 30!
@Knottie9983816 you are very welcome also, glad it was pee and not something else!
I think you can buy the strips that say if it's amniotic fluid or just good old pee! I think homebirth midwives hand them out frequently, since you can't just run to L&D. I've been meaning to Amazon search them, and probably will after this. It may at least help some with anxiety/wondering!
That's a thing?! Is this common knowledge that I totally missed? Why don't they tell pregnant women this! It would save so much stress and trips to L&D. Thank you for letting me know! I'm going to go find some now!!!
I'm wondering if Ryan Reynolds had them make his bratwurst look bigger than it is, since they flashed it three different times in one scene.
I can't get over the fact that the love interest was the actress who played Inara from Firefly/Serenity.
The music choices for that movie were spot on.
I'm terrified that DH is going to start saying #driveby each time he farts while walking now.
You had every thought I did during the movie! Except I'm still stuck on he let her use a strap on before he put it in her a**? Really? Is that real life? Obvi not because it's a movie... Based on a comic book... But yeah >.>
@AmadorRose I think in my moms case it's very much "my little baby needs my help". If she could she'd move in with me to help me out with everything. Whenever she gave birth she would have her mother come visit from Syria and she loved her support, so I think she expected I would want the same. Only problem is that she lives 5 hours away and my apartment is very tiny and can't fit more than me and husband (+baby for now). She wanted to camp at my place a week before my due date so she could be on standby and that would just stress the crap out of me so I told her I'd call her when my water breaks which would give her time to get there. I appreciate my mom, but I'm not sure I want her sleeping in my bedroom with me and DH as we don't have any space at home
I'm so sick of nausea and heartburn. I can't eat anything without feeling like vomiting or tasting bile for hours afterwards. It's preventing me from sleeping, which I already don't get enough of as it is between a toddler and a full time job. It's currently 2 AM and I've spent the last 30 minutes trying to get DS to get back to his crib, but he would rather sleep on the guest bed... I just can't trust him on the guest bed since he could wake up and get into things. Once we move, he'll be in a toddler bed and Anthony that he could get into will be tucked away into the closet, so I won't have to worry.
@elasticheart13 I would feel the same way if I was in quarters that tight....I have a 3 bedroom house and my ILs and parents will be staying in hotels. We purposely don't have a suitable bed for them, only a pullout couch...ILs are sweet but they plan to get here 2-3 weeks before EDD and I would be very, very unhappy with them hanging around and fussing over everything. My parents also hate animals in the house, and we have four
@elasticheart13 I would feel the same way if I was in quarters that tight....I have a 3 bedroom house and my ILs and parents will be staying in hotels. We purposely don't have a suitable bed for them, only a pullout couch...ILs are sweet but they plan to get here 2-3 weeks before EDD and I would be very, very unhappy with them hanging around and fussing over everything. My parents also hate animals in the house, and we have four
Yup, I decided with DH to not tell her anything until I'm actually in the hospital as I know DH would offer her our bed and he'd end up sleeping on the floor if she came early, and I really want him to be well rested and comfortable before delivery as I know he will be just as exhausted and won't get any sleep. She'll probably be hurt but I figured she'd forgive me once she sees her first grandchild haha.
My ILs will be flying over from Cairo so we agreed they'll come a week after I give birth. Will give me and DH time to settle in with baby on our own and we won't have to stress about showing them around and entertaining them even though they wouldn't expect it. They'll stay at a hotel nearby so I will be able to handle that.
Aaannnnndddddd I have just discovered I have a few new stretch marks on my outer thighs. not awesome
I looked at my butt and thighs in a big mirror over the weekend and have decided that I'm not looking in mirrors any more. Hopefully they'll fade a bit after birth...
Anyone else with a husband who's now having pregnancy related dreams or nightmares? Poor DH called me this morning after he woke up because he had a horrible nightmare that we were attacked in Asia and woke up in a hospital. Someone had cut open my belly and taken baby and we both died from grief after that. That was terrifying man.
Anyone else with a husband who's now having pregnancy related dreams or nightmares? Poor DH called me this morning after he woke up because he had a horrible nightmare that we were attacked in Asia and woke up in a hospital. Someone had cut open my belly and taken baby and we both died from grief after that. That was terrifying man.
There were a couple of times that my husband woke up screaming , and he was actually pointing to the wall and saying "Luca" ... I calmed him down and he came to his senses, but by then he had no idea what he had dreamed about. I think we are all anxious about the bubba's arrival!
@elasticheart13 We love the Big Bang Theory and this week's episode had one of the characters announcing she was pregnant and the dad freaking out about becoming a dad and being able to handle it all. I asked DH if he ever freaked out about our first. My DH does NOT show emotions, and though usually I can tell how he's feeling, sometimes even I have no clue because he's just that stoic, so I wasn't sure if he had gone through that freakout. He said he really didn't, though I'm sure the first time she was in his arms he had his moments. I think his freakouts (though unable to be detected by the normal human being!) are more about things to come, like the first time we have to take them to Kindergarten, the first time their hearts get broken, when they go off to college, when they meet "the one", those kinds of moments. DD is Daddy's Little Girl, so I think he is more worried about protecting her in that manner now that she's here. Plus I think he felt relatively calm about becoming a dad because I was the mom, I basically raised the kids that I nannied so he wasn't concerned about the actually caring for them part.
Aaannnnndddddd I have just discovered I have a few new stretch marks on my outer thighs. not awesome
I looked at my butt and thighs in a big mirror over the weekend and have decided that I'm not looking in mirrors any more. Hopefully they'll fade a bit after birth...
I think my stretch marks from DD (which are few, thankfully!!) are restretching. Nnnoooooo!!!!!
3 miscarriages - 1 DS (6) - 1 DD (3) - #3 due March 30!
Ladies, looks like we're getting the birth announcements thread pinned! The Bump Gods just messaged me asking for an additional tag and they were having trouble finding it so YAY since I know we have some babies soon to come!
Anyone else with a husband who's now having pregnancy related dreams or nightmares? Poor DH called me this morning after he woke up because he had a horrible nightmare that we were attacked in Asia and woke up in a hospital. Someone had cut open my belly and taken baby and we both died from grief after that. That was terrifying man.
Oh man! That's terrifying. I haven't had any nightmares like this and neither has SO but there is currently someone on trial in Colorado (I think) for "Fetal abduction" and I was reading about it a few days ago. It's pretty terrifying. It happened a few years ago in a town not far from me as well. It's a real thing and scary as hell.
Both times, the pg mom was answering an ad on Craigslist. Ya'll stay off Craigslist, ok? People are crazy.
@briterfly84@CCLow87 I kind of thought people may think that, and while I'd love to not be this uncomfortable anymore, her growth and development is way more important so I'm really glad she's still in there haha
I technically have two due dates. My Ob's EDD is 4/8 and my Perinatal specialist's EDD is 4/10...My wedding anniversary with my ex-husband was 4/9.....since he and I still have mutual friends, I really don't want baby to share that lovely date with that doucheroni. Not that she'll ever really know (unless she asks later in life) since he and I never had kids, no more ties (aside from a few friends). Still.
I technically have two due dates. My Ob's EDD is 4/8 and my Perinatal specialist's EDD is 4/10...My wedding anniversary with my ex-husband was 4/9.....since he and I still have mutual friends, I really don't want baby to share that lovely date with that doucheroni. Not that she'll ever really know (unless she asks later in life) since he and I never had kids, no more ties (aside from a few friends). Still.
@imrachellea DH is also very calm about the whole thing and has not been concerned or nervous the slightest during the pregnancy. I also wonder if he will freak out after LO arrived or if he will remain calm. So for him to dream something like this shows me that he actually worries which is sweet haha
@yodiggity I read about that, that must be terrifying man
Sooooo DH found a love note addressed to our 16-year-old on his bed this morning...from his [male] friend Connor...wonder if this would explain why he's been such a PITA lately. He's had a girlfriend in the past and shown interest in girls this year, but perhaps that was a front or perhaps he's interested in both? Very curious. (Just adding that we obviously love and support him whatever his orientation - just really surprised!)
Anyone else with a husband who's now having pregnancy related dreams or nightmares? Poor DH called me this morning after he woke up because he had a horrible nightmare that we were attacked in Asia and woke up in a hospital. Someone had cut open my belly and taken baby and we both died from grief after that. That was terrifying man.
I stayed up late last night and my fiancé had such a bad nightmare I could hear him yelling from across the house. No idea what it was about since he calmed down the second I got in bed and cuddled him. I haven't stayed up after him in probably over a year, but I'm seeming to remember this being a common theme from the era before I had to be on a morning schedule >.> I wonder how he's going to do when LO arrives and I'm not in bed with him all night...
Sooooo DH found a love note addressed to our 16-year-old on his bed this morning...from his [male] friend Connor...wonder if this would explain why he's been such a PITA lately. He's had a girlfriend in the past and shown interest in girls this year, but perhaps that was a front or perhaps he's interested in both? Very curious. (Just adding that we obviously love and support him whatever his orientation - just really surprised!)
Even if he's not interested at all, I can see how getting a note like that from a friend of any orientation would throw a kid for a loop! It's so weird at that age (well, at any age, really) when someone shows romantic interest, and especially if you're not sure you return it.
That could be true as well. And this kid is really the only good friend he's made at this school (he started at a new school as a sophomore this year), so would be awkward if he's not interested.
@elasticheart13 DH is prone to nightmares anyway, but they're usually flashbacks. If he has a rough night and wakes up alone (which is often because I go to work early), he will text or call me in a panic because he thinks something awful has happened to LO and me. It takes hours to shake him out of the uneasiness it causes.
Sooooo DH found a love note addressed to our 16-year-old on his bed this morning...from his [male] friend Connor...wonder if this would explain why he's been such a PITA lately. He's had a girlfriend in the past and shown interest in girls this year, but perhaps that was a front or perhaps he's interested in both? Very curious. (Just adding that we obviously love and support him whatever his orientation - just really surprised!)
Even if he's not interested at all, I can see how getting a note like that from a friend of any orientation would throw a kid for a loop! It's so weird at that age (well, at any age, really) when someone shows romantic interest, and especially if you're not sure you return it.
That could be true as well. And this kid is really the only good friend he's made at this school (he started at a new school as a sophomore this year), so would be awkward if he's not interested.
It's always awkward when good friends show interest and you're not sure how to react to it or know that there's just no way that you can reciprocate the feelings back. I've gone through that a lot, since most of my friends growing up were male and I was usually the only female in the group. I've also kept my feelings to myself for one of my crushes, just because I knew that it wouldn't be reciprocated because of their sexual orientation and I did not want to jeopardize the friendship.
Side note: his friend has guts to send him a love note. Good for him. Dude went for it when I myself would have chickened out. Sometimes you just have to try and see what happens.
I don't know where to post about this, so I'm doing it here:
small back story, I had pre-eclampsia with my son and they took him at 38 weeks. I wasn't officially diagnosed with my daughter since I was over 39 weeks when my BP spiked, but it was likely pre-e related too.
Ive gone this whole time proactively trying to manage my chances of getting it again I thought it was going great. Well, at my appointment today, my BP was the highest reading my midwife has gotten (still not technically high BP) and the urine dip strip showed protein. Well eff. On top of that, I had a CBC and metabolic panel that showed a couple things slightly out of range, all of which would be out of range with pre-e. I'm doing a 24 hours catch and turning it in Thursday, and Im trying not to freak out before then but it's just really frustrating. I obviously can't have a homebirth if Im pre-eclampsia at 35 weeks. And I know how serious it is, so I'm not I ignoring it. It's a fine line between getting worried preemptively and not being proactive enough. I just want to stay healthy!!
3 miscarriages - 1 DS (6) - 1 DD (3) - #3 due March 30!
@CCLow87 I'm so sorry you are dealing with possible pre-e again and worried! Lots of hugs! I know it's easier said than done, but continue on with your testing and try your best to relax and remain as low stress as possible. It's not what you wanted and that sucks. I'll be sending you positive thoughts all week but keep us posted about what happens on Thursday.
@CCLow87 Hopefully you don't have pre-e this time or it's extremely mellow and easily manageable. I've been dreading each appointment because I'm afraid my BP is going to spike earlier than it did with DS, but at least my pre-e with DS was mellow enough that I was not induced immediately. Creepy internet hugs!
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My due date is during spring break, so I'm really just hoping I make it to that point, but I do see the end of the term and spring break as a natural transition point for the kids. Though, it would certainly be nice to get that extra two weeks of pay.
Is there something else that maybe you could include her in that would be special? Maybe a first of some sort that wouldn't be a sacrifice to you and your husband? Or, if she is the type that just wants to take care of her baby (and her baby's baby), maybe invite her to stay with you for a bit to help you through the transition home? Perhaps even before, to help clean/prepare things that you'll be too tired or too big to do.
I'm wondering if Ryan Reynolds had them make his bratwurst look bigger than it is, since they flashed it three different times in one scene.
I can't get over the fact that the love interest was the actress who played Inara from Firefly/Serenity.
The music choices for that movie were spot on.
I'm terrified that DH is going to start saying #driveby each time he farts while walking now.
My ILs will be flying over from Cairo so we agreed they'll come a week after I give birth. Will give me and DH time to settle in with baby on our own and we won't have to stress about showing them around and entertaining them even though they wouldn't expect it. They'll stay at a hotel nearby so I will be able to handle that.
Both times, the pg mom was answering an ad on Craigslist. Ya'll stay off Craigslist, ok? People are crazy.
@yodiggity I read about that, that must be terrifying man
Side note: his friend has guts to send him a love note. Good for him. Dude went for it when I myself would have chickened out. Sometimes you just have to try and see what happens.
small back story, I had pre-eclampsia with my son and they took him at 38 weeks. I wasn't officially diagnosed with my daughter since I was over 39 weeks when my BP spiked, but it was likely pre-e related too.
Ive gone this whole time proactively trying to manage my chances of getting it again I thought it was going great. Well, at my appointment today, my BP was the highest reading my midwife has gotten (still not technically high BP) and the urine dip strip showed protein. Well eff. On top of that, I had a CBC and metabolic panel that showed a couple things slightly out of range, all of which would be out of range with pre-e. I'm doing a 24 hours catch and turning it in Thursday, and Im trying not to freak out before then but it's just really frustrating. I obviously can't have a homebirth if Im pre-eclampsia at 35 weeks. And I know how serious it is, so I'm not I ignoring it. It's a fine line between getting worried preemptively and not being proactive enough. I just want to stay healthy!!