Is this it?!

MegaMegz · February 2016

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

furbabymom2007 · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

Qfp

NordyMN89 · February 2016

OP - lurk more, read TCOYF, start temping, and stop making new posts every month indirectly asking us if you could be KU. Also...

Is it just me or has this been the week from hell? And where are the BGs when you need them to close these threads?!

WitandWhimsy · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

Your contributions to the community will be missed.

MegaMegz · February 2016

Wow *logging off*

Schumerator · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

So many responses to this but I'll stick with: And you still decided to make this post?

furbabymom2007 · February 2016

Sooo. OP is done... GIf party? Anyone?

Edited to add gif

WinchesterGirl · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

QFP

***** TW LOSS ******

My experience really sucked. I was pregnant. I spotted for two weeks. I had a MMC that lasted six long, awful weeks after that. Also, this is the very same community that has helped me through said miscarriage. So I do feel that is a community. I'm guessing that is not what you wanted to hear, but for me spotting is not and will never be something to get excited about.

momtoleo · February 2016

OP, I'm being completely honest here and trying to be helpful, but I think you needed to clarify a bit more what advice you were looking for. I legitimately read your post and the title and thought you were excited about your period arriving (perhaps for the first time after coming off BC, or for some other reason). It was only after reading the rest of the thread that I realized you hoped the spotting was an early sign of pregnancy. Unfortunately, I spot for days every month before AF and I haven't gotten a BFP yet so I can't be a ton of help.

picklesplease · February 2016

I fully support the idea of a gif party.

ladystinson · February 2016

@MegaMegz
MegaMegz said:

Then how would that be what I meant? I feel like all of you are just trying to find something to argue about, honestly. I've seen a lot of posts on here before of women asking simple questions or advice and being totally attacked by some of you. It's uncalled for. I asked for advice a long time ago about something completely different than this, can I not make more than one thread? I'm so done with all of these negative comments, in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again). I didn't mean to "imply" I was asking if I was pregnant, but yall should really try to have a different approach for people TTC because it's very emotional and difficult and we are all looking for support, and I truly feel like I was given rude comments more so than any type of helpfulness, I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

1.) if you've seen lots of posts asking for advice then you've seen how to and not to do it. And if you feel like these women have been 'attacked' then why would you ask here?
2.)If you're 'done' then please stop responding
3.)spotting is very very rarely an early sign. And if it were that, it would be implantation bleeding which would occur sooner than the day before AF. If you were temping you would have a much better idea of when you O'd and when implantation could occur. Also, you may be able to see the illusive implantation temp dip (if its real).
4.) this is an amazing community which has come under the attack of a ton of thin skinned drive bys recently. Don't blame us when you get your feelings hurt for doing something silly before lurking and learning.

beforeyou · February 2016

Gif party!

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MrsDho11 · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

I can't ask a simple question like this, but there can be a deadpool opinion thread? That's hilarious

Well, Deadpool is awesome.

ladystinson · February 2016

Gif party!

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NordyMN89 · February 2016

Yes gif party...all day long I see this thread and immediately this comes to mind

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picklesplease · February 2016

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GhanimaAtreides · February 2016

@furbabymom2007

I'm still holding out for giphy to have a Deadpool (don't want to ruin it but not long after he runs into Colossus he makes a joke about his physical condition and I almost peed myself) one that's going to be epic.

NamelessAria · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

So no I wasn't asking. My question was if any of you have experienced this. And still nobody has told me yes or no in regards to that one question.

Yes OP, many of us have experienced what you're talking about. At least, I think so. From what I can tell you're asking if any of us have experienced cramping and spotting around the time our period would be due. Correct me if I'm wrong.

I frequently have some very light spotting a day or so before my period starts. It also isn't uncommon at all for me to have some cramping throughout the luteal phase. I know I've seen a lot of other ladies talk about this also.

I'm going to second the PPs suggestions to start temping and charting. I had a couple of cycles where I was really confused as to what was going on with my body. My period wasn't arriving when my tracker apps (like Ovia) said it would. It was just a hot mess. So at the suggestion of some ladies on here I got a BBT thermometer and started temping. And I signed up for FertilityFriend and started charting. Then I realized that the reason I wasn't getting my period when I was "supposed to" on CD29 or whatever was because I wasn't even ovulating till ~CD36. It took so much stress out of my cycles to actually know what was going on and when I should actually expect my period. I have no plans of ever going back to the confusion that is not temping and charting. Or well, not while actively TTC.

For what it's worth: the reason that your post got the negative responses that it did is because many of us have been TTC for 6+ months and we see posts from new members pretty much everyday that are, more or less, "do you think I'm pregnant?" posts. Not to say that yours was. But what I am saying is that these all too frequent "am I pregnant?!" posts usually end up being worded very similar to how your post was worded. So after awhile we see a post like yours and just think "I guess this is another person wondering if they're pregnant and hoping we'll give them an answer." When I first joined the forum I found the reactions to the "am I pregnant?!" posts to be weirdly rude. But after awhile I realized why they get the reactions that they get. Although these ladies are amazing they are only human. And they do lose their patience after awhile.

Hopefully you decide to stick around because this really is a great supportive community. And if you do stick around I think you'll see that. Plus you'll probably learn a lot. I know I did.

We are all experiencing mixed emotions with TTC

You're absolutely correct with that. That's why we're here and that is what makes this forum so amazing, in my opinion. We get to share in each others anger, frustrations, disappointments and times of sadness. But we also get to share in each others successes, happiness and excitement. Unfortunately, with your post that is a little too similar to all the "am I pregnant?" posts that we see, right now you're only seeing the frustration.

ETA since I was late to the thread:

in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again).

Oh no, we know. No shocker at all. That's part of why we suspected it was one of the "am I pregnant?" posts.

I'm disappointed in this TTC "community" because it really does NOT feel like a community.

No community will feel like a community to you if you only pop in once a blue moon to ask a question and then leave. If you want to experience the community you should start participating in the daily WTO/TWW threads.

On an unrelated note since this turned into a GIF party while I authored this novel:

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MrsDho11 · February 2016

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furbabymom2007 · February 2016

FiancB · February 2016

Sometimes I spot before my period. Sometimes I spot after my period. Sometimes I spot for no reason at all, sometimes I don't spot at all. Sometimes I spot on a train, sometimes I spot on a plane.

Cool story, right? Is that what you're looking for?

picklesplease · February 2016

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MrsDho11 · February 2016

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MrsDho11 · February 2016

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Okay, I shall consider stopping now.

CajunSnowWhite89 · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

in case you all did not know, spotting can also be a sign of early pregnancy (shocker) which is why I would be excited (shocker again).

I feel like this statement shows that you did indeed want us to tell you your spotting was totes b/c you're KU.

but anyways, here's a dog on a surfboard!

picklesplease · February 2016

Okay...I'm done. One more because it is one of my favorites. Happy Friday, all!

PensiveCrayon · February 2016

Here's my contribution to the GIF party!

ShallowSeas · February 2016

peachykeen17 said:

MegaMegz said:

So no I wasn't asking. My question was if any of you have experienced this. And still nobody has told me yes or no in regards to that one question.

Also, @ShallowSeas said that spotting is normal before a period, so your question was answered.

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WitandWhimsy · February 2016

I like how OP acts like she is the only one an emotional mess from TTC. If you looked at any signatures (unless you are on mobile), a lot of us having been TTC well over a year now. Spotting is not an indication of pregnancy and can only be confirmed in hindsight. Me personally I spot seldomly before AF and I've been at it for 14 months now!

So no, OP. You are not the only one having a hard time with this FFS. We're just realistic here.

Anyway...

furbabymom2007 · February 2016

ArtlessIbex · February 2016

MegaMegz said:

So, today is supposed to be the day that I start my period, and usually I start a day or 2 after I am supposed to (of course gets my hopes up everytime! Lol) but I've been experiencing cramps for the past few days and yesterday I saw some faint blood, but then it went away and today there is nothing once again, I didn't even think about it at first but now I realize there is a chance it can be spotting and I'm super excited (probably shouldn't be) but has anyone else experienced this?! Pray for us! :-) once again, good luck TTC ladies!

OMG! YES! OP, I spotted this cycle too! It was amazing! I was super excited too!
But based on my temps and my average luteal phase, I'm expecting my period tomorrow. But spotting is extremely exciting, isn't it? Well done.

NamelessAria · February 2016

@furbabymom2007 I need eye bleach after that gif

Quick! someone find me some kittens!

picklesplease · February 2016

@NamelessAria -

Bringmemylongswordho · February 2016

Gif party !?!

GhanimaAtreides · February 2016

Does anyone follow a page called Sanctimommy on FB? I have an idea to model a newbie thread off that. We can quote actual bad newbie questions to a single thread or just parody the typical stuff. It could serve as a great consolidated what NOT to do.

writeress · February 2016

You were very obviously asking if people thought you might be pregnant in your OP. Hence the "Pray for us

". Also, not really sure what "advice" you might want in regards to spotting other than...it happens? I usually spot the day before AF opens her floodgates. That's all there is to it...

TheRealVeronicaSawyer · February 2016

babymish · February 2016

I cant take anymore of these posts. Why do ops who post these always think they are right and the 70+ responders are in the wrong? The odds are not in your favour!

Try to understand how mind numbingly boring and tedious these ridiculous posts are. We go to great lengths to provide all the info you need to learn all you need to know and also learn how NOT to get flamed.

You choose to jump right in ignoring all of that it's your doing.

Edited to add: I just looked back to your one other post (contributing to this community) and can see all the welcoming and helpful responses you received.

Seriously - consider that maybe it is your post that was wrong.