Should i have baby at 39 weeks on daddys bday? Or wait till 40 weeks and have baby on leap year?

Laurie1807 · February 2016

i have two unique options i can get induced and have my baby boy our first child at 39 weeks on daddys bday! Or i can try to hold on and try to wait to have him at 40 weeks and 1 day on leap year! I think both would be neat and special but I'm torn cause obviously i want baby to cook as long as possible but he's big and ive had lots of contractions and labor symptoms and I'm veryyyy uncomfortable.. but I'm worried if i try to wait for leap year that i wont make it and ill end up missing the chance of having him on daddys bday and miss leap year aswell.. i don't know what i should do?

sarawifenow · February 2016

Wait...why not just let the baby come when he is ready? My Dr won't even think about induction unless it is medically necessary or I am significantly past my due date.

sarawifenow · February 2016

Laurie1807 said:

i have two unique options i can get induced and have my baby boy our first child at 39 weeks on daddys bday! Or i can try to hold on and try to wait to have him at 40 weeks and 1 day on leap year! I think both would be neat and special but I'm torn cause obviously i want baby to cook as long as possible but he's big and ive had lots of contractions and labor symptoms and I'm veryyyy uncomfortable.. but I'm worried if i try to wait for leap year that i wont make it and ill end up missing the chance of having him on daddys bday and miss leap year aswell.. i don't know what i should do?

JIC

satuttle1014 · February 2016

I'm past my due date and have my induction date set up in case she doesn't come on her own. I'm not allowed to pick my date, maybe if I was given options possibly but I wasn't. They said the hospital would check on 3 different dates and I was assigned a date and time of when they could fit me in. I wouldn't worry about the date, can you pick a date? I would just see what happens.

bbiutmcph · February 2016

It doesn't sound like it is medically necessary to need to be induced early or even at all honestly so there is no reason I would early regardless of whose birthday it is. Also just because you are induced doesn't necessarily mean you will give birth instantly and if you aren't ready it can be a much more painful labor process and chances of needing a csection increase. I vote wait for baby.

ammnam14 · February 2016

Is this real life? Baby will come when baby wants. Don't induce unless medically necessary.

MississippiCatfish · February 2016

ammnam14 said:

Is this real life? Baby will come when baby wants. Don't induce unless medically necessary.

That was my first thought. "Is this real?" Pick whatever date you want, OP. We don't care which one is more magical for you.

PS OP is also the one who said her doctor put her on bedrest at 28 weeks due to baby being breech. So I'll take it with all a grain of salt...

missnc77 · February 2016

Are you kidding me? Why on earth would you have the baby come earlier than needed over a birthday? Your baby's brain grows so much in that last few weeks, so carrying to full term is optimal for your baby's sake. You should only deliver earlier than 40 if it's medically necessary. And you want to not let your baby keep growing so you can customize it's birthday? Wow.

tripledaggerWed95976 · February 2016

Sorry but are you really asking if you should induce on a specific day just to have a "neat and special" birth date for your baby? My advice would be don't worry about the birth date, and definitely wait until you have passed your due date to start thinking about induction

GinnyJ2012 · February 2016

Even if you pick a day to induce that would be special, labor can last for over 24 hours. Also why would you induce at 39 weeks? Being uncomfortable isn't a medical necessity, it's part of being 39 weeks pregnant.

ecwk · February 2016

Laurie1807 said:

i have two unique options i can get induced and have my baby boy our first child at 39 weeks on daddys bday! Or i can try to hold on and try to wait to have him at 40 weeks and 1 day on leap year! I think both would be neat and special but I'm torn cause obviously i want baby to cook as long as possible but he's big and ive had lots of contractions and labor symptoms and I'm veryyyy uncomfortable.. but I'm worried if i try to wait for leap year that i wont make it and ill end up missing the chance of having him on daddys bday and miss leap year aswell.. i don't know what i should do?

kyraaD · February 2016

ohhhmygosh that would be just devestating letting baby come on his own & having it not be leap year or Daddy's birthday.. but still, i think it's best to not get induced if not medically necessary.

fourtsixand2 · February 2016

Why not just let nature take its course? Induction is not even a topic of discussion with my Dr unless we foresee myself going beyond 42 weeks.
Baby will come when baby is ready....why not just wait for that and plan for induction only if baby goes beyond 40 weeks? Pregnancy isn't meant to be 'comfortable', so being uncomfortable is really just part of the process.

taysun · February 2016

Obviously you should try to let baby come naturally unless medically necessary. Also, I don't know how much experience you have with inductions, but they can last a long time. I was induced at 5 pm on a Monday and DD was delivered at 3 pm on Wednesday. She was delivered with vacuum assistance and afterwards my OB said it could have taken at least two more hours of pushing.
So really it's unlikely to plan to give birth on either of your planned dates.

Bigboobsmcgee · February 2016

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matteosmom2012 · February 2016

is it still special if you've handpicked the date your baby will be born? Also I was induced with DS on a Monday and he was born on a Wednesday so it doesn't exactly work like that.

Bigboobsmcgee · February 2016

matteosmom2012 said:

is it still special if you've handpicked the date your baby will be born? Also I was induced with DS on a Monday and he was born on a Wednesday so it doesn't exactly work like that.

Truth. Induced 6am Friday morning, baby came on Saturday. Womp womp.

wmam35 · February 2016

This post upsets me because I'm having twins, and HOPING to make it to 36 weeks, and because of some issues I'm having if I even make it to 38 weeks I'll be induced. I WISH I was able to carry to 40 weeks and make sure they're "fully cooked". I have so much guilt over something that isn't really my fault, and then I read this.

Bigboobsmcgee · February 2016

wmam35 said:

This post upsets me because I'm having twins, and HOPING to make it to 36 weeks, and because of some issues I'm having if I even make it to 38 weeks I'll be induced. I WISH I was able to carry to 40 weeks and make sure they're "fully cooked". I have so much guilt over something that isn't really my fault, and then I read this.

Let's hope this post is MUD.

Good luck cooking your twins as long as possible

Ready4theParty · February 2016

Ugh. I seriously hope this is MUD. Inductions are not fun and should not be used to pick the birthday you want. Personally I wouldn't want my baby born on either day. Having an over due baby sucks but the befits to baby out weigh all the discomfort and once you have gone through it you'd rather go late than early.

SarahFoley725 · February 2016

PS not inducing doesn't mean your baby will
come on leap day anyway

goldie987 · February 2016

Whatever day your baby is born will automatically be a special day because your first child's birthday is that day. Why push to make them share a birthday or have their official birthday on a day that only happens once every 4 years? Personally, I wouldn't want my baby born on either of those days, not that I have much choice since they'll come when they damn well want to.

SisterMaryNapalm · February 2016

wmam35 said:

This post upsets me because I'm having twins, and HOPING to make it to 36 weeks, and because of some issues I'm having if I even make it to 38 weeks I'll be induced. I WISH I was able to carry to 40 weeks and make sure they're "fully cooked". I have so much guilt over something that isn't really my fault, and then I read this.

I'm pregnant with twins, too and, yeah, all of this ^^

Laurie1807 · February 2016

Wow i can't believe all of you are so harsh first off i know my baby is 100% healthy.. second I'm at 39 weeks i am full term thank you very much! Of corse i care and love my baby very much that is (why) picking a special day for him is sweet BECAUSE i want him to feel extra special and loved... how many ppl do you know that have leap year bdays and gets to have 2 partys???? Mine will! Cause he will celebrate a bday every year and (two) every four!! .... oh and yesss mississippicatfish he was breech and that was a serious situation how dare you throw that in my face who do you think you are??? I can't believe all of you and you should be ashamed of yourselfs this site should never be used to hurt n tear ppl down... smh my post was meant in a loving sweet way period.... I'm going to have a very loved happy child who gets (two) bdays because mommy loves him... if he comes before then on his own then great either way its a miracle! ... and fyi leap year is AFTER MY DUE DATE so you can keep your oooo he's not ready yet BS to yourselfs!!! ..... wow....

sarawifenow · February 2016

Laurie1807 said:

Wow i can't believe all of you are so harsh first off i know my baby is 100% healthy.. second I'm at 39 weeks i am full term thank you very much! Of corse i care and love my baby very much that is (why) picking a special day for him is sweet BECAUSE i want him to feel extra special and loved... how many ppl do you know that have leap year bdays and gets to have 2 partys???? Mine will! Cause he will celebrate a bday every year and (two) every four!! .... oh and yesss mississippicatfish he was breech and that was a serious situation how dare you throw that in my face who do you think you are??? I can't believe all of you and you should be ashamed of yourselfs this site should never be used to hurt n tear ppl down... smh my post was meant in a loving sweet way period.... I'm going to have a very loved happy child who gets (two) bdays because mommy loves him... if he comes before then on his own then great either way its a miracle! ... and fyi leap year is AFTER MY DUE DATE so you can keep your oooo he's not ready yet BS to yourselfs!!! ..... wow....

Well that is exactly the reaction I expected. Also, I really don't think you understand what breech means. My son has been breech for most of the pregnancy. That is just the way he is laying. It isn't a "serious" condition or anything. They can flip up until late in the pregnancy.

Laurie1807 · February 2016

Oh and my doc already planned it for me also Dr promised i will have him within that 24 hour span! You know why? Because Dr is a great Dr who cares about mine anddd babys health and don't want me to have to go thru days of labor! if there was a concern at all my Dr wouldn't do it.... now dontcha wish you had a Dr like mine??? Cause i KNOW that ill be jussstttt finee =D and I'm at total peace about all of it because i have the lord on my side! Thank you Jesus! ... so yeahh getting to choose his bday for another chance to make him feel more special is an added bonus! ♡

sarawifenow · February 2016

Laurie1807 said:

Oh and my doc already planned it for me also Dr promised i will have him within that 24 hour span! You know why? Because Dr is a great Dr who cares about mine anddd babys health and don't want me to have to go thru days of labor! if there was a concern at all my Dr wouldn't do it.... now dontcha wish you had a Dr like mine??? Cause i KNOW that ill be jussstttt finee =D and I'm at total peace about all of it because i have the lord on my side! Thank you Jesus! ... so yeahh getting to choose his bday for another chance to make him feel more special is an added bonus! ♡

Lol
ETA: If I wasn't sure this was MUD before, I definitely am now.

Laurie1807 · February 2016

Hah shuve it sarawifenow! When i have him ill be sure to post lotsss of pics of our happy and healthy family for you alll to see on LEAP YEAR =D

Laurie1807 · February 2016

excuse me I'm not an idiot... i know what breech means and in my case it was serious because his feet were so far down my canal that Dr put me on bed rest in hopes that he didn't break my water! .... it was painful and scary... thank you very much.. but I'm done explaining myself to you guy's. .. should be ashamed of yourselfs....

HMcDade1 · February 2016

Laurie1807 said:

excuse me I'm not an idiot... i know what breech means and in my case it was serious because his feet were so far down my canal that Dr put me on bed rest in hopes that he didn't break my water! .... it was painful and scary... thank you very much.. but I'm done explaining myself to you guy's. .. should be ashamed of yourselfs....

You should be ashamed of your spelling and bad attitude. Don't ask for opinions and then negate what everyone says because it's not what you wanted to hear.

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