So, my mom is planning my shower, with input from my MIL. My mom is doing all of the work, and the shower will be in my hometown. My DH's family is mostly driving in that day from approximately 2 hours away. The shower is being held from 1pm - 4pm and my mom was planning to do sandwiches (build your own-- chicken salad, turkey, ham), a green salad, veggie tray, meatballs in a crockpot, chips, cake, etc. My MIL is APPALLED that my mom is expecting people to drive two hours to eat sandwiches. She thinks that we need to serve a hot meal (she suggested we get italian dishes from Olive Garden). The problem with that is a)there will likely be 50 people at this shower - all family, women and men; b) it's being held at a mansion/library that you rent but must bring all of your own stuff so we'd have to rent chafing dishes and all that; c)we live in a small town, and there aren't really any good catering options.
Do you think that it's unreasonable to serve sandwiches/appetizers/dessert to people driving 2 hours to your shower?
I didn't want to be involved, but my mom is really upset about this. I told her I didn't see anything wrong with the menu, but my MIL is still harping on it. Thoughts?
Re: Shower Menu drama - need advice/opinions
1- handle the catering and set up herself
OR
2- throw her own shower where DHs family doesn't have to drive.
And on this, I might actually suggest that your DH intervene. I really don't think your mom should have to handle his angry mom by herself. He needs to talk to his mom and tell her that this is what is planned and if it''s that big of an issue, then it's perfectly fine if she'd rather throw another shower that's more convenient to her family.
That MIGHT shut her up.
Let your DH handle his mother.
I think sandwiches are just fine. It really annoys me when family gets worked up over petty stuff and stresses out the mom to be. My family and DH's family both have been doing that the whole way and it's just so unpleasant.