Is NOW right for starting a March 2016 Facebook group?

RobinLovesAdam · January 2016

I wanted to introduce myself...My name is Robin, I am 33, married, and have a wonderful 10 year old son, that my husband adopted when we got married a little over two years ago. I am having a boy (Nolan) EDD March 20.

I have used The Bump as a great source of reading to make sure each of my "oh my goodness is this normal?!" moments are indeed most likely alright or at least common (luckily nothing has been a scare). And when I went through my miscarriage, the stories I read were so incredibly relieving to me. In short, I have been quite the lurker, but have found the links found here and stories told to be extremely useful.

I am not the biggest in social media, but when making my to-do list, a site recommended that I join a birthing group, as well as my best friend, a new mom herself. So here I am. I 100% understand the ideas and apprehensions some of you have about letting those who haven't been a part of the group join the FB group, and truth be told, I am just as uncertain for the same reasons.

But I wanted to offer my hello, and smile, and best wishes to you all! And as a reference, my family is vegan, my husband has his MS in Nutrition, we live in Northern Virginia, have 3 cats and a dog, and I know a crap ton about 90210. So if you feel like jabbering about any of those topics, I hope to have some good insight for you

Good luck to you all in this last trimester (FINALLY!) and know that I value your input greatly!

red3ye · January 2016

So glad I am not the only one that watches the phone ring but doesn't answer it. I would talk to dh on the phone as long as he wants, no problem. But anyone else, leave a voice mail or text cause I won't answer.

smushi · January 2016

kitteh81 said:

Wait, you mean people call you on your phone? That sounds terrifying.

I know when that hotline bling....

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Knottie22643254 · January 2016

I was more active in the beginning but I completely understand you guys point of wanting to keep it more exclusive. I finally realized the problem with my app was that I hadn't updated it so hopefully it works better now.
My name is Neia. I'm 24 and have a 4 year old boy and a girl due March 6th. I love Harry Potter, Doctor Who, and reading and thankfully my kid is just as awesome! Can't wait to get to know you ladies!

soxfan9968 · January 2016

Knottie22643254 said:
I was more active in the beginning but I completely understand you guys point of wanting to keep it more exclusive. I finally realized the problem with my app was that I hadn't updated it so hopefully it works better now.
My name is Neia. I'm 24 and have a 4 year old boy and a girl due March 6th. I love Harry Potter, Doctor Who, and reading and thankfully my kid is just as awesome! Can't wait to get to know you ladies!

You had us at Harry Potter and Dr. who! Lol

tJaffe · January 2016

Definitely not considered active I'm sure! More of a "holy crap my doctor doesn't do any of the stuff every else's doctors are doing" posts. :'( I was too scared of jinxing myself to get involved in the beginning... Then just too damn tired! I will say, being involved in a private FB group that is focused solely on breast feeding, has been extremely helpful. My gf added me to it because I've been so concerned about how to be successful at it! I'm actually more concerned with breast feeding than delivery... Although I can't have true control over either!
Anyway, from a mostly lurking FTM, I'll try more to get better involved!

I live in Key West with no mommy friends with babies who will be the same age as my little guy.

MamaRoni · January 2016

I don't interact much but am getting better. I am actually due in april but never have gone past 37 weeks so I know I will have a march baby
I read alot.... like alot of the threads but by the time I do... what needs to be said pretty much as been....
4 boys 8 and under.... full time job and hubby... and boy #5 on the way... some female interaction on TB or FB sounds super fun.... I'm a much more active FBer... lol

jenniferamcooper · January 2016

Hi all, I use TB app and I sent a request. I can't tell if @sarahfoley725 got my request. I assume she did because people who organize FB groups are usually the most organized people I've ever met... seriously, share your secrets!!

What is the name of the group?

shakeweights · January 2016

Hi everyone, I have introduced myself and tried to be involved as much as possible on here, but I am only partially interactive at this point. I'm more of a lurker and stop myself a lot of times from posting because I'm a STM and don't want to come across as a 'sanctimommy' because I hated that on my DD's board.

Also - I found out I was pregnant about 2 months after I found out that my daughter (at 51 weeks) had Down Syndrome, It's been a very weird year for me and I haven't paid as much attention to this pregnancy as I did with my first. I can't tell you how some of the posts make me feel, because sometimes I don't even know how I feel. I have put a lot of time and energy into my mommy blog and writing about things there.

I am a part of the Facebook group that came about from my DD's board and I love those ladies to pieces. I've met some of them in person and they were the first ones to know about my daughter's diagnosis and they were the most amazing support system I could have ever asked for.

I am on Facebook all day because of my job and would be much more involved there. I would love to be a part of it. Also - I feel better about sharing more personal information when someone uses their real name and picture. I witnessed some women be very mean and rude on my other board because they could hide behind their screen names, but once they were in the Facebook group, things changed.

If you didn't see my introduction originally, I can tell you that I'm 34 years old, I have a 19 month old daughter (who if you haven't gathered by now, has DS), I'm pregnant with a baby boy, due date is March 30th, I live in WI and will answer any other questions that you have.

I do have to say, that there is still another trimester to get through and more people will be more active the last trimester and it's never too late to get to know someone. We are all here for support, to know we're not alone, to share knowledge, etc.

elledriver88 · February 2016

I was just wondering if that means most people will be switching over to Facebook and are not planning on using the app after baby comes? I didn't necessarily have a need to join a Facebook group but I do gain a lot from the forum, I'm curious if the activity will die down after everyone has given birth.

ecwk · February 2016

elledriver88 said:

I was just wondering if that means most people will be switching over to Facebook and are not planning on using the app after baby comes? I didn't necessarily have a need to join a Facebook group but I do gain a lot from the forum, I'm curious if the activity will die down after everyone has given birth.

The fb group has already been active for about a month and I would say traffic to the BMB has reduced a lot but mainly because the Facebook members were the most frequent posters here. But I don't think it has fully died down, people still post though maybe not as frequently as before.

elledriver88 · February 2016

Okay, thanks that makes sense! I will still check in once in a while and see what's going on here I think, I prefer the anonymous platform rather than Facebook. Good luck to everyone who is jumping ship though!

elle313 · February 2016

@SarahFoley725 YGPM!

jenniferamcooper · February 2016

Hey folks where it's a closed group I can't search for it. Can you add via email addresses??

skruhmin · February 2016

jenniferamcooper said:

Hey folks where it's a closed group I can't search for it. Can you add via email addresses??

We've been trying to add you but you haven't responded.

jenniferamcooper · February 2016

@skruhmin I think I figured out the app! Check your inbox. They should make pregnancy apps this hard haha

skruhmin · February 2016

jenniferamcooper said:

@skruhmin I think I figured out the app! Check your inbox. They should make pregnancy apps this hard haha

Check your email...sent again

emjeve · February 2016

I sent you a PM too, @SarahFoley725

I deactivated my FB account for a while and just reactivated it this week!

irenewslee · February 2016

I have been trying to get added too... can someone add me please?

skruhmin · February 2016

irenewslee said:

I have been trying to get added too... can someone add me please?

PM me your email address and I'll get you on

AlissaLee17 · February 2016

I sent a request from here, but never got a response. Assumed I'm just not active enough to get to join the club.

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

AlissaLee17 · February 2016

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

I didn't mean it passive aggressively. I requested, but since I never heard back, I figured I was one of the ladies who were not well-known enough to join. It was mentioned repeatedly that if the ones who made the group didn't know you well enough from here, they wouldn't approve your joining on facetube. Clearly still trying to be active here, and just sharing my experience.

SuperTrooper2 · February 2016

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

The Facebook group is full of responses like the same exact ones that have been on this board since July, some of which I recall you have had a problem with in the past. So if you like a majority of those, then I'd reach out to whomever is in charge again and if not, then don't.

OMG ETA: you didn't want moms-to-be to discuss their weight if they were losing or not gaining and you didn't think we should even have the avenue to discuss/complain about the lack of maternity leave even going as far saying basically don't have a baby if you're not ~happy~ with your company's leave policy. I am just going to go out on a whim here and say you would probably NOT like the FB group.

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

AlissaLee17 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

I didn't mean it passive aggressively. I requested, but since I never heard back, I figured I was one of the ladies who were not well-known enough to join. It was mentioned repeatedly that if the ones who made the group didn't know you well enough from here, they wouldn't approve your joining on facetube. Clearly still trying to be active here, and just sharing my experience.

Apologies if your post lacked snark, but I personally don't think it did. Especially this: "Assumed I'm just not active enough to get to join the club." but to each their own. Sincerely apologize if you intended for that to be a totally innocent comment.

ETA: word changes suckas

ecwk · February 2016

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

shakeweights · February 2016

I was trying to get added. I haven't heard anything from anyone though

ETA: @skruhmin was I supposed to message you? I think I messaged someone else.

SuperTrooper2 · February 2016

flowerpower5838 said:

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

The Facebook group is full of responses like the same exact ones that have been on this board since July, some of which I recall you have had a problem with in the past. So if you like a majority of those, then I'd reach out to whomever is in charge again and if not, then don't.

OMG ETA: you didn't want moms-to-be to discuss their weight if they were losing or not gaining and you didn't think we should even have the avenue to discuss/complain about the lack of maternity leave even going as far saying basically don't have a baby if you're not ~happy~ with your company's leave policy. I am just going to go out on a whim here and say you would probably NOT like the FB group.

Actually I don't think I said don't discuss weight, my issue with that was that everyone is different and has a different baseline. If you are overweight and posting "I've only gained 6 pounds!!" But not stating that you are 5'4 230 pounds then I think that's a little misleading.

Venting about maternity leave is fine, but people were acting surprised about their company policies and state/federal laws. Those shouldn't be a surprise to anyone, and if they are then it's your own fault.

Somehow any conflicting opinion with yours is hilarious. OMG!

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

The Facebook group is full of responses like the same exact ones that have been on this board since July, some of which I recall you have had a problem with in the past. So if you like a majority of those, then I'd reach out to whomever is in charge again and if not, then don't.

OMG ETA: you didn't want moms-to-be to discuss their weight if they were losing or not gaining and you didn't think we should even have the avenue to discuss/complain about the lack of maternity leave even going as far saying basically don't have a baby if you're not ~happy~ with your company's leave policy. I am just going to go out on a whim here and say you would probably NOT like the FB group.

Actually I don't think I said don't discuss weight, my issue with that was that everyone is different and has a different baseline. If you are overweight and posting "I've only gained 6 pounds!!" But not stating that you are 5'4 230 pounds then I think that's a little misleading.

Venting about maternity leave is fine, but people were acting surprised about their company policies and state/federal laws. Those shouldn't be a surprise to anyone, and if they are then it's your own fault.

Somehow any conflicting opinion with yours is hilarious. OMG!

You're cute.

frustrated annoyed eye roll disgusted kristen schaal

Sounds like it was your problem if you were interpreting things that way, as you were pretty much the only one.

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

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edited because I should take the higher road.

AlissaLee17 · February 2016

flowerpower5838 said:

AlissaLee17 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

I didn't mean it passive aggressively. I requested, but since I never heard back, I figured I was one of the ladies who were not well-known enough to join. It was mentioned repeatedly that if the ones who made the group didn't know you well enough from here, they wouldn't approve your joining on facetube. Clearly still trying to be active here, and just sharing my experience.

Apologies if your post lacked snark, but I personally don't think it did. Especially this: "Assumed I'm just not active enough to get to join the club." but to each their own. Sincerely apologize if you intended for that to be a totally innocent comment.
ETA: word changes suckas

Maybe just my word choices, as I tell people to join the club (or we should start a club) often. I also refer to every trip anywhere as a field trip, including potty breaks, so...

cmerribury · February 2016

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

SuperTrooper2 said:

flowerpower5838 said:

I'm sure the passive aggressive response will help tons.

It's all about how you read it. You are the one choosing to read it in a passive aggressive style.

I'm in the same boat. Requested to join but never heard anything back. If the Facebook group is full of responses like yours above, maybe it's for the better.

The Facebook group is full of responses like the same exact ones that have been on this board since July, some of which I recall you have had a problem with in the past. So if you like a majority of those, then I'd reach out to whomever is in charge again and if not, then don't.

OMG ETA: you didn't want moms-to-be to discuss their weight if they were losing or not gaining and you didn't think we should even have the avenue to discuss/complain about the lack of maternity leave even going as far saying basically don't have a baby if you're not ~happy~ with your company's leave policy. I am just going to go out on a whim here and say you would probably NOT like the FB group.

Actually I don't think I said don't discuss weight, my issue with that was that everyone is different and has a different baseline. If you are overweight and posting "I've only gained 6 pounds!!" But not stating that you are 5'4 230 pounds then I think that's a little misleading.

Venting about maternity leave is fine, but people were acting surprised about their company policies and state/federal laws. Those shouldn't be a surprise to anyone, and if they are then it's your own fault.

Somehow any conflicting opinion with yours is hilarious. OMG!

I had no intention of commenting here but your explanation for the weight thread has my mind reeling. How is it misleading to say you've gained 6 pounds when that's what you gained...regardless of baseline weight. Honestly this is why you would not like the FB group, we don't judge one another based on things like that and strive to support each other in our choices, no matter how they vary from our own.

It's not a club. It's a group of women who became friends and wanted a place separate from the bump to communicate. I'm sorry that bothers you, but it's unlikely to change anything.

SuperTrooper2 · February 2016

Misleading in the sense that that is probably what that person should gain since they were already overweight in the first place. Not at all comparable to someone of a different body type or situation.

Never called it a club. Doesn't bother me.

cmerribury · February 2016

That still isn't misleading. Saying you've gained 6 pounds when you've gained 6 pounds is a fact. Not misleading. Your opinion of what a person should or should not gain based on their pre-pregnancy weight has no bearing on fact. Also, that you believe that you can express an opinion on what someone should and should not gain based on pre-pregnancy weight AND that it would be a welcome opinion clearly illustrates why the group is closed. You can paint your comment in whatever light you like, we think it's kinda crappy. Don't even get me started on your heinous maternity leave posts...

flowerpower5838 · February 2016

When you are over a thread and want to distract your pals from the negativity:

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cmerribury · February 2016

That was CERTAINLY distracting! Because now I'm remembering the movie, LOL!

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