@Diesel615 my SIL has scoliosis and was able to get a epi with both of her births. My mom was in there with her while they did it and she said that my SIL knew how her spine curved so well that it really helped the anesthesiologist know how to insert the needle.
2 angel babies to watch over us- bfp 3/16/13, c/p 3/27/13- bfp 6/27/13, c/p confirmed 7/4/13- We will always carry you in our hearts
Anything anyone can share about tearing down there? What is the healing process like after? Is there anything to do before hand to help not tear?
I tore like a mother f**cker. He tore me down the back, up the front and on one side. I had something like 30 stitches. Big ole noggin on that kid.
recovery was better than I expected. A little sore when you sit down or get up, but I just used a lot of dermablast and COLD tucks pads and it wasn't awful. However, sex after all that tearing and all the scar tissue I had was REALLY rough. Like, we tried and we couldn't several times for several months.
This is me too. It took me several months to have sex pleasurably again. I felt like a born again virgin.
Has anyone had a doula? What questions do you recommend asking during your first interview? Anything special to do/consider while birthing with one?
Regarding birthing methods (Bradley, Lamaze, etc) what did you use and how did it work for you?
These are my questions too! Quoting in hopes of getting a little attention on these...
Would also add, if you had an unmedicated birth in a hospital, what things helped you make that happen? I'm nervous about pressure from hospital staff to get an epidural when I'd really like to skip that.
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(2) How were you able to stay still if you had a contraction while getting the epi?
(3) What questions to you recommend asking on the hospital tour (we are doing one before birth)?
(4) Did you consider playing music or anything in your room to help through contractions?
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
1. I always have bad reactions (usually puking for a couple hours after being under general), but I didn't have issues with the epi. 2. You kinda just deal with it :-/ 3. I'd ask about their policies regarding pain management, skin-to-skin immediately following birth, if they have LCs, circumcision (if applicable), birthing positions you can push in, water birth options... 4. I had a whole huge playlist and ended up wanting complete quiet so I could focus. 5. Probably a couple days
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
I normally have problems with anesthesia--I am allergic/sensitive to some forms and I have also woken up during procedures before (wisdom teeth--I scared the shit out of my oral surgeon). No problems whatsoever with the epi.
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
TTC#1 since May 2011
BFP #1 June 2011 m/c@6wks
BFP #2 December 2011, EDD 8/21/12, born 7/21/12 at 35w4d
My birthing method was best described as "f*cking winging it". If you want to research h and try all sorts of methods - you do you, but honestly, I think we are built for this. You just move and do what feels good - or you get an Epi and sleep! Haha
Has anyone had a doula? What questions do you recommend asking during your first interview? Anything special to do/consider while birthing with one?
Regarding birthing methods (Bradley, Lamaze, etc) what did you use and how did it work for you?
These are my questions too! Quoting in hopes of getting a little attention on these...
Would also add, if you had an unmedicated birth in a hospital, what things helped you make that happen? I'm nervous about pressure from hospital staff to get an epidural when I'd really like to skip that.
I'm not sure if it's standard procedure in all hospitals, but at ours, they won't bug you about it. If you want one and are able, you can have pain relief, but they won't bother you to get one if you're planning on going unmedicated.
Has anyone that has had an epidural have scoliosis? I have scoliosis and I'm freaked out about getting an epidural and them screwing it up.
Yay! One I can answer!
I have scoliosis, and had a multi-level spinal fusion when I was 15. In my case, due to the location of my fusion (lower back), I am not able to get an epidural.
If you haven't had a spinal fusion, you should be able to get an epidural normally. I would recommend asking your OB to set you up with a meeting with an anesthesiologist, and provide your current spine X-rays. They should be able to answer your questions! I did this with my DD, and we eventually scheduled my induction for a day when the Head of Anesthesiology could be there to personally attend to my pain management.
Even though I was unable to get an epidural, I was able to get a spinal for a c-section (which is what I ended up with). DH was able to be in the surgery and everything.
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
I knew it was going to be brutal, but I didn't realize that back labor was worse than the normal contractions, if that makes sense. Our daughter was facing the wrong way, so every time I had a contraction, I felt like I was being ripped in half because the pain completely circled my waist/back. If it wouldn't have been for that, I'm almost positive I could've done it unmedicated.
This thread is everything! I think most of my questions have been answered
The only other one I can think of is about the bag you pack to take to the hospital. There are lists out there of what to take but can some tell me what the absolute 'must haves' for the bag are and how early you packed it and had it ready to go?
Thanks!
I ended up having an extended hospital stay, so some things may not be relevant. The things that I ended up using were:
Comfy clothes that fit over a belly that looks about 5-6 months pregnant. It takes a while to "deflate" post-baby, so you still need maternity clothes. I liked having my yoga pants, t-shirts, pajamas, slippers, and a maxi dress to wear in the week that I was still staying there while my son was in the NICU. If you end up having a c-section, you want clothes that won't put pressure on your incision, so consider that possibility when packing.
Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, shower poof, toothbrush and toothpaste, hair brush and pony holders, deodorant, glasses/contact lens stuff. Makeup if you plan on taking pictures after the birth or if you'll want it before visitors come. I didn't bother. Dry shampoo if that's something that works for you (if doesn't work well for my hair and I really wanted a shower anyway). Lotion and chapstick because hospitals are so drying.
I liked having my own pads and underwear, but I used the hospital stuff the first couple days, so again, this might not apply to you.
A nursing pillow, comfy nursing bras or camis (your boobs will balloon when the milk comes in, so pack bigger sizes too), and nipple cream was a must.
I also needed to pump around the clock to get whatever milk I could to my son in the NICU, since he didn't nurse efficiently. I liked my hands-free pumping bra for that. Again, something that won't apply to most people.
Phone chargers, change for vending machines (mostly for your SO), change of clothes and toiletries for your SO.
Pillow if you are picky about yours.
A couple outfits for baby in a couple different sizes (newborn and 0-3m) since you won't know what will fit.
Car seat that is appropriate for your baby's weight (check the lower weight limits that the manufacturer sets). Make sure you know how to adjust all the straps on it and how to install it (or better yet, have it installed and checked at your local police department or fire station that offers that service ahead of time)
Baby book if you want them to put the baby footprints straight in there.
I didn't bother with music.
Hospitals will provide diapers, wipes, pads and mesh panties for you, midol/tylenol, etc. In most cases, insurance covers all that stuff and you can take it all home too (bring an extra tote bag for all the hospital loot). If you have crappy insurance or no insurance, bring your own everything, since every diaper for baby and midol for you will cost 10x the amount you pay at Target.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
This is such a GREAT question!!
I had a glass of wine 3 days after giving birth/ the day we got home. It was heaven. I only had 1 glass since I was breast feeding. However, in the hospital I am delivering at this time around, they offer a complimentary glass of champagne to you after the birth. I may take the nurses up on that
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
With DS1, I was in denial about being in labor. It was weird. I got to the hospital and was sure they'd send me home, turns out I was 8 cm. WTF!? Honestly, I think I just didn't know what labor felt like so wasn't sure what was happening. I always assumed labor was like having your arm on fire and falling off. It wasn't that bad. Anyway, the nurse said, you can do this without meds, you're almost through the worst of it. So, I did. With DS2, I was all "I do this without meds!" but I remember thinking it was way worse than the first time, and certainly worse than I remembered. Maybe I couldn't be in denial the second time, because I'd done it before.
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
It was not as bad as I expected. It was weird because pushing was such a weird concept like I'd push but didn't know if it was productive. Turns out it was.
DS 9/2/13 was a BFP from an IUI! Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(2) How were you able to stay still if you had a contraction while getting the epi?
(3) What questions to you recommend asking on the hospital tour (we are doing one before birth)?
(4) Did you consider playing music or anything in your room to help through contractions?
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
(2) One of the nurses held my hands, told me to lean into her, and coached me through breathing through the pain so I could stay still.
(3) I didn't get a tour since I went into labor early, but this probably depends a lot on your personal needs. Make sure you know where to go when you get to the hospital in labor. The one where I delivered makes you come in through the ER, not straight to L&D. You can also pre-register online at many hospitals to cut down on the paperwork that you need to fill out when you get there.
(4) No, I like quiet.
(5) About 5 months for my first glass and probably close to a year for the second, because I pumped full time already and didn't want to have to pump and dump or calculate timing to make sure my milk wasn't alcoholic.
My birthing method was best described as "f*cking winging it". If you want to research h and try all sorts of methods - you do you, but honestly, I think we are built for this. You just move and do what feels good - or you get an Epi and sleep! Haha
You and I had the same birth plan!! Worked well for me!
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
Everything was better than I thought it would be! I knew the labor wouldn't be too terrible since I knew I was getting the epidural. But even the recovery wasn't too terrible. I really had myself worked up about the pain of the recovery and looked up every recipe for padsicle ( Pinterest had a ton). But really after not too long, I was okay and never even made a padsicle! And I think you really do forget most of it!
Has anyone had a doula? What questions do you recommend asking during your first interview? Anything special to do/consider while birthing with one?
Regarding birthing methods (Bradley, Lamaze, etc) what did you use and how did it work for you?
These are my questions too! Quoting in hopes of getting a little attention on these...
Would also add, if you had an unmedicated birth in a hospital, what things helped you make that happen? I'm nervous about pressure from hospital staff to get an epidural when I'd really like to skip that.
Doula - ask for her references and follow up on them. I find that's a great way to get a somewhat unbiased opinion of her services. Think about the type of support you think you'll want - and make sure her views and training are a match for what your looking for. If you'll be at a hospital and open to an epi - make sure she's 100% supportive of that. If you want to have a natural birth, make sure she is qualified in whatever method you are hoping to use (bradley, etc). Also some doulas offer post-partum support, breastfeeding support, some will even come sleep over so you can get a night of rest. If any of that is appealing to you - check to see if she offers those services.
I had a natural labour but didn't use any particular method, unless screaming and swearing is considered an official coping strategy. But my doula was supportive and did everything I needed her to. I loved having her support.
As for no epi in a hospital - all I can say is that I was never pressured to get one. With my first pregnancy I was begging for it. I had an HBAC second time around so it wasn't an option, but I guarantee if I was at a hospital I would've gotten it as soon as transition hit. If you have a doula, she can serve as your advocate during labour - tell her what you want, what you don't want, and she can be the one to help make sure that you get what you need and not what you don't (ie/ pressure). She doesn't make medical decisions, but she can help you express what you want.
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
I think that the best way that I can answer this is to say that I am MUCH less scared of giving birth now than I was when I was pregnant with DS - I did it once so i know I can do it again.
That being said, yes it sucks. BUT, I truly think that if you go into it with a positive mindset you will have an easier time. The way that I am trying to view child birth this time around is that for about 24 hours I will be in pain, and then it will be over and I can get on with my life. Remember that your body was made for this, and it's nothing that you can't handle.
Truthfully I wish I had read more books on parenting than I did on giving birth- because when the day comes you aren't going to be thinking about breathing and positioning your body, you are just going to do whatever feels best at that moment. Childbirth is just one day- parenting is the rest of your life.
So overall I think my answer is no- giving birth was not as bad as I thought it would be. Just try your best to relax, remind yourself that eventually the pain will be over, and saying out loud to yourself, "I can do this, I can do this!" doesn't hurt either.
@ahernandez16 I guess labour was worse than I expected. I mean, it didn't go the way I had envisioned and hoped. At the same time, having no reference point, I thought my very difficult labour was normal. It was really hard and really painful and I was vomiting constantly which I had not expected, but I was very much surprised when my midwife told me she had to transfer me to a hospital. I was kind of like "what, this isn't supposed to be happening like this?"
I feel like if my labour had not been so long it would have been ok. 20 hours is a lot. I got pain meds about 11 hours in (hadn't expected to need meds at all) and I needed IV fluids and Zofran at about 10 hours in (not optional - I was dangerously dehydrated). So all that was stuff I hadn't planned. But once I had the vomiting under control and the epidural in, it was almost laughably easy. Pushing was no problem. Recovery wasn't as bad as I'd expected.
I would definitely say don't be afraid of labour. It's going to happen and you're going to deal with it. Think of every mother you've ever known. With very few exceptions (planned C sections for FTMs are pretty rare), they've all survived it. Most of them aren't crazy strong, inspiring people, if we're being honest :P You'll get through it too.
I'm trying for a VBAC this time and I am terrified of labor lol. I'm all maybe I should just schedule a section....
I'm here too. I'm really hoping that I will be strong enough to make it through labor. I hired my friend who is a doula who also has had 2 VBACs. I'm hoping that her experiences will help me.
2 angel babies to watch over us- bfp 3/16/13, c/p 3/27/13- bfp 6/27/13, c/p confirmed 7/4/13- We will always carry you in our hearts
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
It was not as bad as I expected. It was weird because pushing was such a weird concept like I'd push but didn't know if it was productive. Turns out it was.
DS 9/2/13 was a BFP from an IUI! Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
I normally have problems with anesthesia--I am allergic/sensitive to some forms and I have also woken up during procedures before (wisdom teeth--I scared the shit out of my oral surgeon). No problems whatsoever with the epi.
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
With the twins, we opened a bottle of sparkling in my hospital room. I only had a sip, but man, did it taste amazing.
BFP 5/2/11 DS born 1/19/12.
BFP #2 12/29/12, EDD 9/6/13, MC 1/2/13.
BFP #3 5/4/13, EDD 1/9/14 Twin Boys! L&L born 12/18/13
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
I normally have problems with anesthesia--I am allergic/sensitive to some forms and I have also woken up during procedures before (wisdom teeth--I scared the shit out of my oral surgeon). No problems whatsoever with the epi.
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
With the twins, we opened a bottle of sparkling in my hospital room. I only had a sip, but man, did it taste amazing.
That's awesome! If my hospital allows me alcohol inpatient and I have a VBAC I definitely want a drink!
I'm trying for a VBAC this time and I am terrified of labor lol. I'm all maybe I should just schedule a section....
I'm here too. I'm really hoping that I will be strong enough to make it through labor. I hired my friend who is a doula who also has had 2 VBACs. I'm hoping that her experiences will help me.
You're strong enough. VBAC is an amazing experience if that's what you choose (and if the situation permits). Happy to answer any q's you might have :-)
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
I normally have problems with anesthesia--I am allergic/sensitive to some forms and I have also woken up during procedures before (wisdom teeth--I scared the shit out of my oral surgeon). No problems whatsoever with the epi.
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
With the twins, we opened a bottle of sparkling in my hospital room. I only had a sip, but man, did it taste amazing.
That's awesome! If my hospital allows me alcohol inpatient and I have a VBAC I definitely want a drink!
Oh, I don't think they allowed it, but my nurse was cool and looked the other way. She told me, "You just birthed two babies. I won't tell."
BFP 5/2/11 DS born 1/19/12.
BFP #2 12/29/12, EDD 9/6/13, MC 1/2/13.
BFP #3 5/4/13, EDD 1/9/14 Twin Boys! L&L born 12/18/13
This thread is amazing...THANK you all for sharing.
(1) Does anyone who got an epi or anesthesia have issues with anesthesia normally? And related...did all of your anesthesiologist stay put with you during a c-section if you had one? I've had the "twilight" kind of anesthesia three times as well as various pain/numbing meds and they don't always do the trick for me (I've woken up in the middle of minor surgeries before, which has caused docs to accidentally sever nerves they didn't intend on severing) so I'm freaked out about that.
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
I normally have problems with anesthesia--I am allergic/sensitive to some forms and I have also woken up during procedures before (wisdom teeth--I scared the shit out of my oral surgeon). No problems whatsoever with the epi.
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
I did the same and the oral surgeon severed a nerve as a result, basically making me unable to taste anything on the right side of my tongue for a solid year before some of the nerve endings reconnected...it still isn't 100%. Also woke up during a endoscopy procedure and biopsy of my intestines. First thing out of the doctor's mouth, especially since I warned him about the fact that it took a lot to knock me out properly, when I re-woke up after he re-sedated me was "you aren't going to sue me are you?"
(5) ETA a fun question...when did you have your first glass of wine/beer post baby? I'm looking forward to that.
This is such a GREAT question!!
I had a beer the day I got home from the hospital, so 3 days post-partum. It was glorious. This time, I might smuggle wine into the recovery room.
I told H I expect a bottle in our "to go/hospital" bag so I can have a glass.
Our hossy gave us a small bottle of champagne after DS was born with our dinner. I had a small glass, and it was the best champagne I'd ever tasted :-)
@MeganF08 re: the hospital bag... I didn't see this listed already, please forgive me if I've missed it above. Pack some oil (olive, coconut, or baby) in a sml container then put it on baby's little bum cheeks around the time of the 1st or 2nd diaper change. It will make wiping meconium off a breeze! That shit is so damn sticky! (Pun intended)
@MeganF08 re: the hospital bag... I didn't see this listed already, please forgive me if I've missed it above. Pack some oil (olive, coconut, or baby) in a sml container then put it on baby's little bum cheeks around the time of the 1st or 2nd diaper change. It will make wiping meconium off a breeze! That shit is so damn stick! (Pun intended)
@MeganF08 re: the hospital bag... I didn't see this listed already, please forgive me if I've missed it above. Pack some oil (olive, coconut, or baby) in a sml container then put it on baby's little bum cheeks around the time of the 1st or 2nd diaper change. It will make wiping meconium off a breeze! That shit is so damn stick! (Pun intended)
My Bradley instructor just told us about this last night! She suggested coconut oil.
@pearlinbloom i wouldn't bring your own stuff to wear until after the baby is out and even then, Id stick to hospital gowns the first day. Unless you don't mind throwing it out. You're pretty much covered in nastiness after the birth if it's natural (blood, sweat, possibly vomit, water breaking...) so you'll likely just want to toss it. Afterwards you do bleed quite a bit so if you're on your side some creeps off the pad and will ruin what you're wearing. The good thing is the hospital has an endless supply of ugly gowns that you don't have to wash!
@joose159 I had preterm contractions for weeks and the only difference for me with real labor was I had low back pain like when you have your period and I had some blood when I wiped. I asked my dr to check and she said today is the day! Also, my contractions never got regular, right up until he was out! If you're not sure just ask to get checked but I think my case wasn't that usual.
@ahernandez16 for me it was way better then I expected. I watched my sister give birth and it was a bad idea!! It hurt for me but its wasn't as terrible as I thought, I didn't even get an epidural. It was quick for me though and I'm sure it's case by case.
I have a lot of questions for c section moms. What does it feel like during the operation? I didn't feel anything until baby was out, and then I felt a lot of pulling and tugging, and swore up and down I could feel the c-section. They drugged me up a little more after that. I am sure I am not the first to claim I can feel it (when they know most likely it is just the patient THINKING they can feel it). Can your Dh stay with you during? My OB said the only time husbands cannot come in, is if it is an extreme emergency and they are knocking the mom out. Sometimes the OB will still allow the dad to come in, just depends on OB. My husband was able to come into the OR right after they moved me from one bed to the OR table. How long did it take your ob to get the baby out? My kid was extremely stuck so it took my OB longer than she said it normally does, but I want to say that she was out about 20min after we entered the OR. How long did it take your ob to stitch you back up? Maybe 30min? Honestly I was so into what was going ton with baby, I didn't notice the time. I do know that after being in labor for 28 hours, I slept while they were dealing with my placenta and closing me up. How long were you in the hospital to recover? From c-section to leaving, Sunday night was a c-section and we were able to leave Wednesday morning, but we relaxed until the afternoon. How did you stop yourself from panicking that you were awake while being operated on? I was talking with MH, and I was just so exhausted from labor, and so excited to see DD (we were Team Green), that I didn't really have much else to think about.
**My c-section was an emergency after 28 hours of labor due to DD's non-decent during pushes and dropping heart rate. I think the hardest thing to grasp, was feeling like I would never witness a baby being born, not even my own....as I would not qualify for a VBAC. I didn't care about not being able to delivery vaginally, I just felt that I missed out on seeing a baby being born, having instant skin-to-skin, etc. They took her out, and all of her measurements and everything were done, and she was wrapped up before she was brought over to me. With this baby, it will be a RCS, but I did find a hospital that does "gentle" or "family-centered" cesareans, and will be delivering there. They will drop the solid curtain before baby is pulled out (there is a clear curtain there), and I will be able to see a few inches above my belly (so I won't see myself cut open or anything), and will get to watch my baby being born. They will delay the cord clamping (I found out today they automatically do it unless the parents request not to) for a few minutes, and while it is being delayed, I will be doing skin-to-skin. When the cord is cut, the nurses will take baby, place him/her on the infant exam table, do a quick once over to check breathing, and the infant exam table is close to the OR table (so close to me, instead of on the opposite side of the room). Baby will then be given back to me for more skin-to-skin and working on BF-ing, while they are closing me up, and measurements will be taken later. If that is something that you are interest in (if you do end up needing a c-section), I would talk to your doctor and find out if they offer it, so you know ahead of time (or they can put it in your charts if they do them).
Re: Ask a stm ANYTHING about child birth!
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Mommy to our princess warrior- 3/4/09
This is me too. It took me several months to have sex pleasurably again. I felt like a born again virgin.
Would also add, if you had an unmedicated birth in a hospital, what things helped you make that happen? I'm nervous about pressure from hospital staff to get an epidural when I'd really like to skip that.
2. You kinda just deal with it :-/
3. I'd ask about their policies regarding pain management, skin-to-skin immediately following birth, if they have LCs, circumcision (if applicable), birthing positions you can push in, water birth options...
4. I had a whole huge playlist and ended up wanting complete quiet so I could focus.
5. Probably a couple days
My family brought be a beer (Guinness) and a sandwich as soon as I delivered.
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I have scoliosis, and had a multi-level spinal fusion when I was 15. In my case, due to the location of my fusion (lower back), I am not able to get an epidural.
If you haven't had a spinal fusion, you should be able to get an epidural normally. I would recommend asking your OB to set you up with a meeting with an anesthesiologist, and provide your current spine X-rays. They should be able to answer your questions! I did this with my DD, and we eventually scheduled my induction for a day when the Head of Anesthesiology could be there to personally attend to my pain management.
Even though I was unable to get an epidural, I was able to get a spinal for a c-section (which is what I ended up with). DH was able to be in the surgery and everything.
Another one...
I'm obviously very anxious about labor/giving birth/potential c section, etc. I'm sure that'll get worse the closer we get to June but please be honest!
Was labor and delivery worse than what you were afraid of/anticipated or was it not "as bad" (I wasn't sure how else to word that because I know it's going to flipping hurt) as you had worked yourself up to believe it was?
Comfy clothes that fit over a belly that looks about 5-6 months pregnant. It takes a while to "deflate" post-baby, so you still need maternity clothes. I liked having my yoga pants, t-shirts, pajamas, slippers, and a maxi dress to wear in the week that I was still staying there while my son was in the NICU. If you end up having a c-section, you want clothes that won't put pressure on your incision, so consider that possibility when packing.
Shampoo, conditioner, body wash, shower poof, toothbrush and toothpaste, hair brush and pony holders, deodorant, glasses/contact lens stuff. Makeup if you plan on taking pictures after the birth or if you'll want it before visitors come. I didn't bother. Dry shampoo if that's something that works for you (if doesn't work well for my hair and I really wanted a shower anyway). Lotion and chapstick because hospitals are so drying.
I liked having my own pads and underwear, but I used the hospital stuff the first couple days, so again, this might not apply to you.
A nursing pillow, comfy nursing bras or camis (your boobs will balloon when the milk comes in, so pack bigger sizes too), and nipple cream was a must.
I also needed to pump around the clock to get whatever milk I could to my son in the NICU, since he didn't nurse efficiently. I liked my hands-free pumping bra for that. Again, something that won't apply to most people.
Phone chargers, change for vending machines (mostly for your SO), change of clothes and toiletries for your SO.
Pillow if you are picky about yours.
A couple outfits for baby in a couple different sizes (newborn and 0-3m) since you won't know what will fit.
Car seat that is appropriate for your baby's weight (check the lower weight limits that the manufacturer sets). Make sure you know how to adjust all the straps on it and how to install it (or better yet, have it installed and checked at your local police department or fire station that offers that service ahead of time)
Baby book if you want them to put the baby footprints straight in there.
I didn't bother with music.
Hospitals will provide diapers, wipes, pads and mesh panties for you, midol/tylenol, etc. In most cases, insurance covers all that stuff and you can take it all home too (bring an extra tote bag for all the hospital loot). If you have crappy insurance or no insurance, bring your own everything, since every diaper for baby and midol for you will cost 10x the amount you pay at Target.
I had a glass of wine 3 days after giving birth/ the day we got home. It was heaven. I only had 1 glass since I was breast feeding. However, in the hospital I am delivering at this time around, they offer a complimentary glass of champagne to you after the birth. I may take the nurses up on that
With DS1, I was in denial about being in labor. It was weird. I got to the hospital and was sure they'd send me home, turns out I was 8 cm. WTF!? Honestly, I think I just didn't know what labor felt like so wasn't sure what was happening. I always assumed labor was like having your arm on fire and falling off. It wasn't that bad. Anyway, the nurse said, you can do this without meds, you're almost through the worst of it. So, I did. With DS2, I was all "I do this without meds!" but I remember thinking it was way worse than the first time, and certainly worse than I remembered. Maybe I couldn't be in denial the second time, because I'd done it before.
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
(3) I didn't get a tour since I went into labor early, but this probably depends a lot on your personal needs. Make sure you know where to go when you get to the hospital in labor. The one where I delivered makes you come in through the ER, not straight to L&D. You can also pre-register online at many hospitals to cut down on the paperwork that you need to fill out when you get there.
(4) No, I like quiet.
(5) About 5 months for my first glass and probably close to a year for the second, because I pumped full time already and didn't want to have to pump and dump or calculate timing to make sure my milk wasn't alcoholic.
Everything was better than I thought it would be! I knew the labor wouldn't be too terrible since I knew I was getting the epidural. But even the recovery wasn't too terrible. I really had myself worked up about the pain of the recovery and looked up every recipe for padsicle ( Pinterest had a ton). But really after not too long, I was okay and never even made a padsicle! And I think you really do forget most of it!
I had a natural labour but didn't use any particular method, unless screaming and swearing is considered an official coping strategy. But my doula was supportive and did everything I needed her to. I loved having her support.
As for no epi in a hospital - all I can say is that I was never pressured to get one. With my first pregnancy I was begging for it. I had an HBAC second time around so it wasn't an option, but I guarantee if I was at a hospital I would've gotten it as soon as transition hit. If you have a doula, she can serve as your advocate during labour - tell her what you want, what you don't want, and she can be the one to help make sure that you get what you need and not what you don't (ie/ pressure). She doesn't make medical decisions, but she can help you express what you want.
That being said, yes it sucks. BUT, I truly think that if you go into it with a positive mindset you will have an easier time. The way that I am trying to view child birth this time around is that for about 24 hours I will be in pain, and then it will be over and I can get on with my life. Remember that your body was made for this, and it's nothing that you can't handle.
Truthfully I wish I had read more books on parenting than I did on giving birth- because when the day comes you aren't going to be thinking about breathing and positioning your body, you are just going to do whatever feels best at that moment. Childbirth is just one day- parenting is the rest of your life.
So overall I think my answer is no- giving birth was not as bad as I thought it would be. Just try your best to relax, remind yourself that eventually the pain will be over, and saying out loud to yourself, "I can do this, I can do this!" doesn't hurt either.
I feel like if my labour had not been so long it would have been ok. 20 hours is a lot. I got pain meds about 11 hours in (hadn't expected to need meds at all) and I needed IV fluids and Zofran at about 10 hours in (not optional - I was dangerously dehydrated). So all that was stuff I hadn't planned. But once I had the vomiting under control and the epidural in, it was almost laughably easy. Pushing was no problem. Recovery wasn't as bad as I'd expected.
I would definitely say don't be afraid of labour. It's going to happen and you're going to deal with it. Think of every mother you've ever known. With very few exceptions (planned C sections for FTMs are pretty rare), they've all survived it. Most of them aren't crazy strong, inspiring people, if we're being honest :P You'll get through it too.
2 angel babies to watch over us- bfp 3/16/13, c/p 3/27/13- bfp 6/27/13, c/p confirmed 7/4/13- We will always carry you in our hearts
Mommy to our princess warrior- 3/4/09
Triplets due 6/29/16 also from an IUI!
I told H I expect a bottle in our "to go/hospital" bag so I can have a glass.
I didn't see this listed already, please forgive me if I've missed it above.
Pack some oil (olive, coconut, or baby) in a sml container then put it on baby's little bum cheeks around the time of the 1st or 2nd diaper change. It will make wiping meconium off a breeze! That shit is so damn sticky! (Pun intended)
i wouldn't bring your own stuff to wear until after the baby is out and even then, Id stick to hospital gowns the first day. Unless you don't mind throwing it out. You're pretty much covered in nastiness after the birth if it's natural (blood, sweat, possibly vomit, water breaking...) so you'll likely just want to toss it. Afterwards you do bleed quite a bit so if you're on your side some creeps off the pad and will ruin what you're wearing. The good thing is the hospital has an endless supply of ugly gowns that you don't have to wash!
I had preterm contractions for weeks and the only difference for me with real labor was I had low back pain like when you have your period and I had some blood when I wiped. I asked my dr to check and she said today is the day! Also, my contractions never got regular, right up until he was out! If you're not sure just ask to get checked but I think my case wasn't that usual.
for me it was way better then I expected. I watched my sister give birth and it was a bad idea!! It hurt for me but its wasn't as terrible as I thought, I didn't even get an epidural. It was quick for me though and I'm sure it's case by case.
What does it feel like during the operation? I didn't feel anything until baby was out, and then I felt a lot of pulling and tugging, and swore up and down I could feel the c-section. They drugged me up a little more after that. I am sure I am not the first to claim I can feel it (when they know most likely it is just the patient THINKING they can feel it).
Can your Dh stay with you during? My OB said the only time husbands cannot come in, is if it is an extreme emergency and they are knocking the mom out. Sometimes the OB will still allow the dad to come in, just depends on OB. My husband was able to come into the OR right after they moved me from one bed to the OR table.
How long did it take your ob to get the baby out? My kid was extremely stuck so it took my OB longer than she said it normally does, but I want to say that she was out about 20min after we entered the OR.
How long did it take your ob to stitch you back up? Maybe 30min? Honestly I was so into what was going ton with baby, I didn't notice the time. I do know that after being in labor for 28 hours, I slept while they were dealing with my placenta and closing me up.
How long were you in the hospital to recover? From c-section to leaving, Sunday night was a c-section and we were able to leave Wednesday morning, but we relaxed until the afternoon.
How did you stop yourself from panicking that you were awake while being operated on? I was talking with MH, and I was just so exhausted from labor, and so excited to see DD (we were Team Green), that I didn't really have much else to think about.
**My c-section was an emergency after 28 hours of labor due to DD's non-decent during pushes and dropping heart rate. I think the hardest thing to grasp, was feeling like I would never witness a baby being born, not even my own....as I would not qualify for a VBAC. I didn't care about not being able to delivery vaginally, I just felt that I missed out on seeing a baby being born, having instant skin-to-skin, etc. They took her out, and all of her measurements and everything were done, and she was wrapped up before she was brought over to me. With this baby, it will be a RCS, but I did find a hospital that does "gentle" or "family-centered" cesareans, and will be delivering there. They will drop the solid curtain before baby is pulled out (there is a clear curtain there), and I will be able to see a few inches above my belly (so I won't see myself cut open or anything), and will get to watch my baby being born. They will delay the cord clamping (I found out today they automatically do it unless the parents request not to) for a few minutes, and while it is being delayed, I will be doing skin-to-skin. When the cord is cut, the nurses will take baby, place him/her on the infant exam table, do a quick once over to check breathing, and the infant exam table is close to the OR table (so close to me, instead of on the opposite side of the room). Baby will then be given back to me for more skin-to-skin and working on BF-ing, while they are closing me up, and measurements will be taken later. If that is something that you are interest in (if you do end up needing a c-section), I would talk to your doctor and find out if they offer it, so you know ahead of time (or they can put it in your charts if they do them).