What week did you find out your baby's gender?

Kenda Hunley · February 2016

I am 15 weeks and will have my next appointment at 15 weeks and 6 days. The Dr told me it will not be the appt that I find out the gender. Does that mean I have to wait until 20 weeks or later to find out the gender? We are so excited & dying to know! What week did you find out the gender of your baby?

TattoosandLace · February 2016

Your anatomy scan is typically around 20 weeks. You typically find out the sex of your baby at the same time you find out if his/her organs are all properly developed.

Ps. Friendly reminder that sex doesn't equal gender and suggestion to change the title and body of your post.

thebigoaktree · February 2016

20 weeks, maybe 19 if that's where your appointment lines up. So 4-5 weeks after your next appointment. Math.

ButterMyBiscuit · February 2016

I'm finding out the sex at 18 weeks 3 days.

Because this is your first post, I'm going to be nice. Please lurk more. Gender and sex are not interchangeable.

noelietrex · February 2016

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Puddles03 · February 2016

I will be finding out the SEX of my unborn child at 19+5 because that's when my anatomy scan is, if they decide to play nice and show it off.

MamaBish · February 2016

Generally between 18 to 22 weeks is when most people have their anatomy scan and find out the sex. Unless one needs testing that also happens to discover sex earlier.

You will find out the gender when your kid lets you know

jennyleigh16 · February 2016

I find out the sex at my anatomy scan on Thursday. I'll be 18+5. You have awhile to wait yet unless you get the genetic testing done.

magzor · February 2016

I'll be 20w1d when I find out the sex, as long as baby cooperates!

Taymiller · February 2016

At about 5 to 6 years old

thebigoaktree · February 2016

Do the needle and thread trick, worked for me.

benten24 · February 2016

Just *maybe* you should be more concerned about making sure baby has all of their organs, and everything looks healthy before you care about what sex your child is. Also, lurk a little more and you'll know how using "gender" vs "sex" is received on this BMB.

dolewhipper · February 2016

Taymiller said:

At about 5 to 6 years old

Agreed, I was going to say when they're old enough to form opinions on themselves and what they like/want.

MrsRo731 · February 2016

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thebigoaktree · February 2016

Ladies...this is exactly why we have the mean girls siggy this month.

m8881 · February 2016

I'm due June 30 and we found out last wk at 18w

mandyjulie · February 2016

260ish weeks

Only 245 to go!

MDmomma1217 · February 2016

I will be 19 weeks on the dot for my anatomy scan. I'm more concerned to see that the baby is growing on pace and is healthy. Hoping to find out the sex at that appointment if baby cooperates. If not, I know I have to go for an echocardiogram around 25-27 weeks, so possibly could find out then as well.

BostonBaby1 · February 2016

We are team green so we won't be finding out the baby's sex until delivery. I had the Harmony test at week 10 so the sex was included in that report. Our u/s last week confirmed the sex (16 weeks measuring 18w.)

i I expect the baby's gender to be revealed sometime after it is developed and the child can communicate such to us.

good luck for a healthy baby!!!

PugsandKisses · February 2016

Dude, change your name. Seriously.

meanttobe35 · February 2016

Ugh. I feel bad for the OP, they have no idea how badly they are going to get attacked for a simple, incorrectly worded question, there is a VERY good chance their doctor used the word gender, and that is what they are repeating, so please give them a break. It REALLY makes it hard to ask anything on this board for fear of getting attacked. People say this board is mean for a reason, and if you don't think it is, it is probably you.

And if you are going to ask "who are you?" or tell me to leave if I don't like it just remember that I am a FTM and I am anxious and looking for info like many woman on here and have very right to post when and if I want to, I don't need to post often and on everything to be valid on this board. Last time I checked they weren't giving out a prize for commenting on everyone's post, so if it annoys you or makes you eye roll or is a repeat of something that someone else asked, then please just ignore it and move on. PLEASE.

noelietrex · February 2016

@meanttobe35 Nope that's not how life works. If you have every right to post whatever you want, everyone else has every right to reply however they want. PLEASE feel free not to participate if you don't like the culture. White knighting and telling regulars how to post is not going to go over well either.

ButterMyBiscuit · February 2016

meanttobe35 said:

Ugh. I feel bad for the OP, they have no idea how badly they are going to get attacked for a simple, incorrectly worded question, there is a VERY good chance their doctor used the word gender, and that is what they are repeating, so please give them a break. It REALLY makes it hard to ask anything on this board for fear of getting attacked. People say this board is mean for a reason, and if you don't think it is, it is probably you.

And if you are going to ask "who are you?" or tell me to leave if I don't like it just remember that I am a FTM and I am anxious and looking for info like many woman on here and have very right to post when and if I want to, I don't need to post often and on everything to be valid on this board. Last time I checked they weren't giving out a prize for commenting on everyone's post, so if it annoys you or makes you eye roll or is a repeat of something that someone else asked, then please just ignore it and move on. PLEASE.

this is actually pretty calm considering the tone of the board today. If you think we're mean, there are plenty of other sites that will blow smoke up your ass and incorrectly use the word gender for sex.

stillcozy · February 2016

OP change your name stat! Anyone can look at these boards and for your safety i would suggest changing to make you more anonymous. This isn't to be mean this is legitimately for your safety.

mandyjulie · February 2016

ButterMyBiscuit said:

meanttobe35 said:

Ugh. I feel bad for the OP, they have no idea how badly they are going to get attacked for a simple, incorrectly worded question, there is a VERY good chance their doctor used the word gender, and that is what they are repeating, so please give them a break. It REALLY makes it hard to ask anything on this board for fear of getting attacked. People say this board is mean for a reason, and if you don't think it is, it is probably you.

And if you are going to ask "who are you?" or tell me to leave if I don't like it just remember that I am a FTM and I am anxious and looking for info like many woman on here and have very right to post when and if I want to, I don't need to post often and on everything to be valid on this board. Last time I checked they weren't giving out a prize for commenting on everyone's post, so if it annoys you or makes you eye roll or is a repeat of something that someone else asked, then please just ignore it and move on. PLEASE.

this is actually pretty calm considering the tone of the board today. If you think we're mean, there are plenty of other sites that will blow smoke up your ass and incorrectly use the word gender for sex.

Yes. And outside of the gender versus sex issue, her actual question was something that's SO easily searchable on the boards (see pinned posted "Please use the search function"), and even more easily answered by her doctor. It's also super easy to google this.

I think this board is very supportive, but when new people come on and don't use the search, or think for themselves at all, or contribute to any other posts, ever, and just ask us to basically be their personal Google, it makes it pretty hard.

HMcDade1 · February 2016

@meanttobe35 no one posts for "the sake of getting a prize" regulars post because they are part of this community. If youve only posted here to complain about everyone else then why use this public forum to get your information? You're right- you don't have to post often or on everything to be "valid" but if one of the few times you actually post is rude to everyone else that actively participates here you're no more better than those "mean" posters that you're trying to call out.

stillcozy · February 2016

meanttobe35 said:

Ugh. I feel bad for the OP, they have no idea how badly they are going to get attacked for a simple, incorrectly worded question, there is a VERY good chance their doctor used the word gender, and that is what they are repeating, so please give them a break. It REALLY makes it hard to ask anything on this board for fear of getting attacked. People say this board is mean for a reason, and if you don't think it is, it is probably you.

And if you are going to ask "who are you?" or tell me to leave if I don't like it just remember that I am a FTM and I am anxious and looking for info like many woman on here and have very right to post when and if I want to, I don't need to post often and on everything to be valid on this board. Last time I checked they weren't giving out a prize for commenting on everyone's post, so if it annoys you or makes you eye roll or is a repeat of something that someone else asked, then please just ignore it and move on. PLEASE

QFP and QBF

a few things... I am a FTM and I'm anxious but guess what I lurked and I read the stickied posts at the top of the forum that anyone sees whether it be via browser and or app. I learned to use the search function. I learned why people don't like to use gender and sex interchangeably and didn't act offended when someone corrected me the first time. I moved on and learned.

I shared my problems asked questions and got advice because people got to know me. Others will listen to the things I saw now because they know me.

we don't know you instead of posting and getting to know people you prefer to just complain.

if the bump admin had a problem they wouldn't have stickied the afore mentioned posts they would close the threads on sex and gender if they thought we were out of line. No one here harassed the op they just offered insight.

blissylissy86 · February 2016

My AS will happen on Friday at 19-1. Excited to make sure baby has all of its bits and hopefully see the sex as well!

benten24 · February 2016

You mean I don't get any goodies for being an active member of this community of amazing women?! I've wasted months of my time on here giving and receiving support and encouragement then. Dang.

ButterMyBiscuit · February 2016

**Removed for TOU violation**

elenabrent · February 2016

The thing is, we literally just had a whole thread debating sex vs gender. So it's exhausting to have it come up again moments later. I am exhausted just thinking about having the conversation again.

I lurked for weeks before posting on this board, and that was during the first month or two of this board existing when we were all trying to find our voice as a community. All we ask is that new posters lurk a little and get to know the community that has been established now for four months before they jump in. That's not asking a whole lot.

On a related note- where are we being called mean girls? I don't lurk the other boards too much and I never go to other sites.

presh116 · February 2016

I found out at 12 weeks. I'am high risk so they did the verifi test and its a girl. Usually at 16 weeks they can tell on ultra sound.

juliagulia38 · February 2016

Edit: Ugh! The bump is being lame and I can't gif anymore. Fuck.

kim1989 · February 2016

18 weeks and we found out it's a girl at our scan last week. With my son they told us at 15 weeks because it was obvious, depends on how cooperative the baby is sometimes

jlmartinez517 · February 2016

I won't find out until my 20 week anatomy scan...the waiting game of pregnancy is such a downer! Lol

Just hoping to see a healthy baby with all their parts and pieces, no matter what the sex.

stillcozy · February 2016

@juliagulia38 to gif click the paper icon ( where you would attach a picture )and past gif link ending in .gif where it says url

juliagulia38 · February 2016

juliagulia38 · February 2016

@Lindsayleigh1989Haha thanks!! It hasn't been working the way I normally did it and couldn't figure out why.

PinkLady2015 · February 2016

1. As PP's have mentioned we are very sensitive to using the correct terminology regarding the difference between sex and gender. I'd urge you to take this in stride and understand that hey, ya learned something new today! Being enlightened is fun, isn't it?
2. I'm high risk so I've had u/s a lot more than other ladies here. My tech and doc told me at 14 weeks it was a girl but said "don't paint the nursery yet." At 16+3 it was still girl. My a/s will be at 18 weeks and I'm holding out til then to tell people bc it's still a bit early IMO.
3. There is a huge difference between being "mean" to someone for no reason and being passionate about correct wording that absolutely 100% matters to us on very personal levels and as a society as a whole. It's not an argument we will ever let slide, whether your a ftm or have 20 kids, or its your first time posting or 1000th time. We do not tolerate ignorance, prejudice, racism or bigotry on this board. Refusing to awknowledge the difference between sex and gender is viewed here as a form of bigotry as it essentially denies and devalues hundreds of thousands of people's identities. If you think it doesn't matter look at the homicide and suicide rates of transgender individuals. Education is power and the only way to spread equality, understanding and compassion. We are not mean girls because we make it a point to teach someone the difference. We are not mean girls when we react with frustration and annoyance when that person refuses to learn from said information and continues to think in a close-minded, potentially dangerous, bigoted mindset. If you don't atleast appreciate that, this is not the community for you.

stillcozy · February 2016

@PinkLady2015 be careful she may report you too

but yes to everything you wrote!
Eta: this fitting gif

mrsmommya · February 2016

Most docs do around 20w for the anatomy scan. I had mine at 18 with my dd but only because my appt fell that day and they do all u/s in the office. This time I have an u/s at 15+2 and my doc said she would take peek at the genitalia and see if she can tell. Truthfully I am more curious to see if all looks well and the sex will be a bonus.

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