@RideNRunMomma you're going to be in my thoughts!! Has you're husband considered joining the military - active or reserves. It would cover you for insurance at least.. And if he went active you'd have a place to live without worrying so much about affording rent, groceries etc. Just a thought to help you guys get back on your feet in this difficult time.
thanks @maddmama We just aren't really the military type. I love our soldiers, but I am too needy to be a military wife, and he's too pacifist to make a decent soldier, but thanks for the thought.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
thanks @maddmama We just aren't really the military type. I love our soldiers, but I am too needy to be a military wife, and he's too pacifist to make a decent soldier, but thanks for the thought.
Oh I totally get it. It's not for everyone. I don't even think it's for me, but oh well! Haha. I wish you luck ❤️
@AB34 We can't qualify for a few months due to the amount DH made at his job before we moved. That should help some. Won't say the electric bill though, and there's no way for third trimester mom to be in Florida avoiding AC as early as March, lol! Our house hits 86 and humid as soon as it's 76 outside.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@AB34 We can't qualify for a few months due to the amount DH made at his job before we moved. That should help some. Won't say the electric bill though, and there's no way for third trimester mom to be in Florida avoiding AC as early as March, lol! Our house hits 86 and humid as soon as it's 76 outside.
I cried because I was craving pasta salad so bad, so I went to the store to get the stuff. I got home, looked for the vegetable oil, and we were out. Started crying because I was so hungry and after all that, I couldn't make my pasta salad. My husband took me back to the store to get vegetable oil, and we got back home and I made my pasta salad. I was crying because the water was taking FOREVER to boil and I was just so hungry at that point. Finally it was done and I took about three bites and immediately puked it all up. I was so upset, ugly crying while eating crackers trying to settle my stomach. I ended up eating the left over pasta salad the next day but that was so emotional for me. Lol. Now it's just funny.
On Saturday at a sporting event the concession stand board said they had brownie sundaes. I immediately wanted one and after waiting in line for over 5 minutes we get up to the window to order and the lady says "I'm sorry but we aren't selling any ice cream today." I couldn't even think of anything else that I wanted, my heart had been set on the ice cream. I walked away bawling about not being able to get the sundae. Then once I realized that I was crying over some stupid ice cream I started crying even more - a meltdown about my meltdown! My DH said he was going to try and pull the pregnant card to get me some ice cream but the lady at the counter told him when I walked away that she served ice cream to some kids already that day and got a royal butt chewing for it. He thinks too much (his words) and didn't want her to lose her job over serving me some ice cream.
@RideNRunMomma we've been there. If you don't qualify for food stamps, why don't you find a food pantry to help you guys out. You also should be able to get WIC. A lot of nanny jobs pay cash. Maybe you could get that for a little while. Do you have any family members that might be able to help you out? I'm sorry your in that situation. We've been there and it's rough. We still are living pay check to pay check but we are finally able to pay all of our bills. It's incredible that your DH has a college degree and can't find a job that pays more then $10/hr. I was going to ditto the military idea, but It's not for everyone.
We have been potty training DS and have been making real progress in the poo-poo department...until Saturday. After 11 days with no accidents, he pooped in his pants. I cried. #sodefeated
Ten days ago I got my blood drawn for a genetic/gender test. My doctor said it would be back in 2-5 days. I've been a nervous wreck waiting for them to call. They finally call me today and tell me that somehow the lab didn't get my blood in time and it's no good. So I have to leave work early (I'm a teacher so this is easier said than done), and drive an hour back to the doctors office to get my blood taken for the test AGAIN. Then the nurse tells me it will most likely be another ten days. I cried. And I am just all around annoyed.
@juliagulia38We're trying, but we're going to be moving out of state in the next month or two (losing our home so we're going cross country to stay with others), so trying really hard to find a nanny gig probably isn't the best right now, or applying for WIC here. It's family members that put us here, it's ridiculous. I'll be looking a little harder once we get moved, but again, at that point I'll still only be able to work for 3-4 months, not sure I'll find a home willing to take on a nanny that is about to disappear. I have no illusions about trying to nanny the first few months of my LO's life while I recover.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@RideNRunMomma I think a babysitting gig would be best for your current situation. Nanny is usually more permanent! Go onto care.com you can create a profile to be a babysitter, eldercare sitter, pet sitter. Most would be under the table! Pet sitter esp is usually short term (ppl on vacation for a week or weekend) it sounds like anything will help so it's worth a try!
I'm sorry you are going through this! But at least you have Medicaid and your health and the baby's health is taken care of!
@juliagulia38We're trying, but we're going to be moving out of state in the next month or two (losing our home so we're going cross country to stay with others), so trying really hard to find a nanny gig probably isn't the best right now, or applying for WIC here. It's family members that put us here, it's ridiculous. I'll be looking a little harder once we get moved, but again, at that point I'll still only be able to work for 3-4 months, not sure I'll find a home willing to take on a nanny that is about to disappear. I have no illusions about trying to nanny the first few months of my LO's life while I recover.
The other bummer with you moving out of state is trying to get Medicaid in that state. When I moved states mid pregnancy, I did filled out the paper at the hospital and saw a doctor that day and then when they approved it, they sent me my cards. If you are living with family, you might not be able to get food stamps or WIC. They take their income into consideration unless you specify that you cook your own food and only DH and you eat it. I'm sorry you are going through this. If you want to talk, you can PM me. I've been through this and more and can lend a ear.
Thanks @juliagulia38 ! I think I'll be okay with Medicaid at least, everyone we're moving in with qualifies for assistance of some type. I'm not sure about WIC and/or SNAP (IL brand of food stamps), we'll see. I may take you up on that as things evolve. For now, it's just sit around and wait to hear back from people so we can make decisions - which certainly doesn't help me now. I wish there was something to DO to fix things, rather than just sit and wait. Oh well!
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Because my fiancé is taking care of everything since I've still been super sick. I cried because I feel like I can hardly adult from throwing up so much and after an almost 18 hour day yesterday, and him having a cold, he went to the store, bought me a ton of Gatorade and soup I wanted, and isn't mad at me for leaving work early. Plus he got my zofran for me.
my "on this day" was a video of DD 3 years ago learning how to sit up. She's so tiny! She's growing too fast. I want to meet this baby but I also want to hold onto solo time with DD for as long as possible. All the feels...
Um because I just watched the last episode of Parenthood. They all seemed so happy and well off, and yeah I cried because I was happy for fictional TV show characters.
I've been an anxious emotional wreck all night and DH has been really thoughtful during this not his nature so it was apparent he was trying and as he just left for soccer he came and gave me a hug and kiss and put his hand on my stomach and said "bye baby" cue the instant sobs! He has never done this before and as I've been so worried that something is wrong or will be wrong when we go next week it was a reassuring gesture and I'm still crying because it was so nice
I read a Facebook post about a cat in the shelter who has cancer and needed a hospice adoptive family so he can die in a house and not in the shelter. Cue the ugly tears, I just cried again typing that out. I love animals.
Last night I cried when they eliminated one of the little kids on Kids Baking Championship on the Food Network. They're just so cute - why do you have to kick them off??!
Yesterday I had the giggles all day, it got to the stage where I was laughing so much that I started tearing up and sobbed for a good 10 minutes! Tears were rolling down my face! I really can't handle these hormones!
The episode of sixteen and pregnant where the girl and her boyfriend are homeless because her parents kicked them out and then their car breaks down and it's snowing outside and it's just too much right now.
Just watched a video on Facebook about a little boy who had been in a wheelchair when his dad was deployed, walking to him when he came home. Twice the feels, cue the ugly cry!
I tear up pretty much every weekday afternoon. I'm reading a book called The One and Only Ivan to my 3rd graders. It is ridiculously beautifully written and pulls on my heartstrings every time. It's about a silverback gorilla named Ivan who lives in an animal exhibit at a mall. It's all about how he sees humans and way they treat animals. When a baby elephant named Ruby gets brought to the mall to be part of their daily shows, his protection instincts kick in and he makes it his mission to give her a better life and make sure she doesn't live the rest of her life in the mall.
It makes me so emotional every time I read it that I have to hold back tears.
Beautiful book. Not the best combo with pregnancy hormones.
Re: #whymypregnantselfiscrying
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DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
https://https//www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SwFso7NeuA
Now to figure out how to tell both sets of parents!
He looked at me like I was insane...
On Saturday at a sporting event the concession stand board said they had brownie sundaes. I immediately wanted one and after waiting in line for over 5 minutes we get up to the window to order and the lady says "I'm sorry but we aren't selling any ice cream today." I couldn't even think of anything else that I wanted, my heart had been set on the ice cream. I walked away bawling about not being able to get the sundae. Then once I realized that I was crying over some stupid ice cream I started crying even more - a meltdown about my meltdown! My DH said he was going to try and pull the pregnant card to get me some ice cream but the lady at the counter told him when I walked away that she served ice cream to some kids already that day and got a royal butt chewing for it. He thinks too much (his words) and didn't want her to lose her job over serving me some ice cream.
*sigh* Pregnancy hormones are rough, ya'll.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
I'm sorry you are going through this! But at least you have Medicaid and your health and the baby's health is taken care of!
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
Crying makes me cough more.
hospice adoptive family so he can die in a house and not in the shelter. Cue the ugly tears, I just cried again typing that out. I love animals.
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DS#1 July 2016
Baby #2 July 2018
It makes me so emotional every time I read it that I have to hold back tears.
Beautiful book. Not the best combo with pregnancy hormones.