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  • ahernandez16ahernandez16 member
    edited January 2016
    @WinniethePoohsPants yeah. I feel the same way. I CAN understand feeling awkward and wanting to help. My little sister was 13 and my MoH so she "hosted" my bridal shower. My mom and I really did everything behind the scenes (set up/clean up) and I paid for a few little things, but my sister was in charge of all of the hostess duties, coordinating games and keeping track of the gifts I got. I was fine with it because she was really excited about playing hostess.

    If you have people to invite, are you really telling me you can't find one of them to at least "pretend" they're throwing the shower (send out invites, greet people at the damn door) so it doesn't look so tacky?

    If I was in that situation, I probably just wouldn't have one. I'm keeping my nose entirely out of my potential baby shower. My bridal shower was stressful enough with the little bit that I did help with. I definitely do not want to deal with all of that and be pregnant. I'm sure my mom will be thrilled to have full control and host the shower and if she doesn't -- I'll live.

    **edited because some of my grammar was atrocious.
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  • MamaNicoleof3MamaNicoleof3 member
    sdLindenberg said:

    Who are all these new posters and where did they come from? I understand lurking, but lurking THIS long without participating?? 

    So. Much. Yes.

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  • samsonatorsamsonator member
    edited January 2016
    WinniethePoohsPants said:

    I am SO OVER all these recent posts with women asking "So, who else is hosting their own baby shower?"
    At first I wondered why... why on earth would any woman WANT to host her own shower? If you want to have a party, then just host a BBQ, a get together, a SHINDIG! I would feel so MORTIFIED hosting a shower for myself! And how do these women not have any friends who would want to host it for them?? And then the more I thought about the latter question the more it made sense to me --- clearly these women don't recognize what can be perceived as rude behavior, and clearly their friends and relations must not want to shower a rude person with gifts and attention. Hence, women who host their own showers must not have any friends.
    Now I just feel sorry for these poor, friendless, and socially incompetent creatures. How depressing...

    Aww not very understanding. I can understand if you don't think someone should host their own shower. But the last part of the post? You never know someone's situation. Are they a military wife who can't make it back home? Did they move away from family and friends? What if their family doesn't care much about the baby and isn't offering to host? Plenty of people come from some not so supportive families. Maybe they are the first of their friends to have a baby and their friends don't know that the momma doesn't host it herself (I legit didn't know this until my best friend was pregnant). Maybe they don't know that it's considered rude to host it yourself (I didn't until a year ago). Not everyone comes from the same background or family or friend situation. So I disagree about your conclusion that these people don't want to shower this "rude person" with gifts.

    BTW, not butthurt here. I'm not having a shower because being the center of attention is something I dislike very much. I'm hoping my friends, whom I am very blessed and lucky to have, won't try to pull one over on me.
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  • ashleyrobertson0113ashleyrobertson0113 member
    samsonator said:

    WinniethePoohsPants said:

    I am SO OVER all these recent posts with women asking "So, who else is hosting their own baby shower?"
    At first I wondered why... why on earth would any woman WANT to host her own shower? If you want to have a party, then just host a BBQ, a get together, a SHINDIG! I would feel so MORTIFIED hosting a shower for myself! And how do these women not have any friends who would want to host it for them?? And then the more I thought about the latter question the more it made sense to me --- clearly these women don't recognize what can be perceived as rude behavior, and clearly their friends and relations must not want to shower a rude person with gifts and attention. Hence, women who host their own showers must not have any friends.
    Now I just feel sorry for these poor, friendless, and socially incompetent creatures. How depressing...

    Aww not very understanding. I can understand if you don't think someone should host their own shower. But the last part of the post? You never know someone's situation. Are they a military wife who can't make it back home? Did they move away from family and friends? What if their family doesn't care much about the baby and isn't offering to host? Plenty of people come from some not so supportive families. Maybe they are the first of their friends to have a baby and their friends don't know that the momma doesn't host it herself (I legit didn't know this until my best friend was pregnant). Maybe they don't know that it's considered rude to host it yourself (I didn't until a year ago). Not everyone comes from the same background or family or friend situation. So I disagree about your conclusion that these people don't want to shower this "rude person" with gifts.

    BTW, not butthurt here. I'm not having a shower because being the center of attention is something I dislike very much. I'm hoping my friends, whom I am very blessed and lucky to have, won't try to pull one over on me.
    Totally agree with you about not jumping to conclusions about other people's situations!!!

    I moved away from all my close friends and my family, but I have a few acquaintances here who have specifically asked to be invited to my shower even though nobody has offered to host one.

    I had posted asking about possibly having one of the girls I'm a bit closer with "host" but I would do the back work for her so she wouldn't be overwhelmed or maybe doing a girls day and going for pedicures and tea and making it very clear that gifts were not necessary (I am not gift grabby at all. That's not at all what I care about here. I just want to go out and have fun with these new friends/acquaintances before our little man gets here).

    And good grief the responses I got were super judgey. (More on the 2nd trimester board than this one.) But dang. There I was looking for alternate ideas and suggestions and support and that's not at all what I got.

    It's one of the things that makes me crazy about these boards sometimes. I guess I just don't have thick enough skin and don't appreciate the snark as much as other people.
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  • mkemommymkemommy member
    edited January 2016
    Here is the thing to me about hosting your own shower/baby event.  It doesn't matter if you aren't gift-grabby and don't INTEND for an event to be gift-grabby but put yourself in your guests' shoes.  Would you, as a guest, go to a baby shower or baby themed event and NOT bring a present?  Likely not.  How awkward would you feel if you showed up to an event like that without a gift when someone else brought one?  Very.  
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    edited January 2016
    HBamama2B said:
    Im fed up with posts discussing presents and parties or arguing/ digging on posts about present and parties, period. This week we have had so much heartbreak on this board with devastating dx for regulars and new posters alike. I had my anatomy scan today and was blessed to have everything identified as normal, but as I share each of the posts that had different outcomes today with my DH, my heart sinks further to think of moms who are either fighting to believe their child will be born healthy or just survive. Maybe some fucking perspective is in order, is all I'm saying.

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  • LilwatzLilwatz member
    MamaNicoleof3 said:
    Who are all these new posters and where did they come from? I understand lurking, but lurking THIS long without participating?? 
    So. Much. Yes.
    Just wait until the babies start being born.  So.  Many.  Birth Posts.  People you have NEVER heard of or from.

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  • MamaNicoleof3MamaNicoleof3 member
    HBamama2B said:

    Im fed up with posts discussing presents and parties or arguing/ digging on posts about present and parties, period.

    This week we have had so much heartbreak on this board with devastating dx for regulars and new posters alike. I had my anatomy scan today and was blessed to have everything identified as normal, but as I share each of the posts that had different outcomes today with my DH, my heart sinks further to think of moms who are either fighting to believe their child will be born healthy or just survive.

    Maybe some fucking perspective is in order, is all I'm saying.

    Preach it, lady. As a miscarriage mama, there are much bigger issues to life.
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  • HighFive16HighFive16 member
    I must confess I have started to just skim through posts and spend most of my time either here or in the daily thread. Yep, if a reg posts something or needs support I am all in but to say I would care about a drive by who wants me to validate their reasons for coming across like a pack of vulchers would be far from the truth.
    Everyone has their place here I guess but I am choosing to not be part of these repetitive posts any more.

    What is funny is I am in the Facebook group and there is really none of this madness. I guess being anon gives people a license for crazy.
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  • HighFive16HighFive16 member
    HBamama2B said:

    Im fed up with posts discussing presents and parties or arguing/ digging on posts about present and parties, period.

    This week we have had so much heartbreak on this board with devastating dx for regulars and new posters alike. I had my anatomy scan today and was blessed to have everything identified as normal, but as I share each of the posts that had different outcomes today with my DH, my heart sinks further to think of moms who are either fighting to believe their child will be born healthy or just survive.

    Maybe some fucking perspective is in order, is all I'm saying.

    Agree completely !
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    sdLindenberg said:

    Who are all these new posters and where did they come from? I understand lurking, but lurking THIS long without participating?? 

    It has taken so much effort to not post the follow gif repeatedly the past few days.

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  • MamaNicoleof3MamaNicoleof3 member
    Lightning crotch has attacked with a vengeance. *insert demon emoji*
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  • alysemcialysemci member
    Last kiss by pearl jam comes on while I'm in the target parking lot and I just want to sit in my car and cry and drink coffee. Being pregnant softens my ice cold heart of stone
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  • NicknShanNicknShan member
    ahernandez16 said:
    I found Master Chef Junior last night on Hulu and have decided I will not push my kid to be in sports, but rather pressure him into the kitchen at a young age so I'll never have to cook again. Muahahah... 

    But seriously. Has anyone ever watched that show!? Those kids are insane... I'm over here diligently following a meatloaf recipe and they're pulling gourmet meals out of their butts in less than an hour. 
    They are insane, but I think they get a lot more help then what is shown from what I gather when I read about it...
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  • ahernandez16ahernandez16 member
    @NicknShan I agree! There's a few times they've had to make a very obscure thing and I just know they probably have to have some kind of recipe to follow.... 
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  • Tawny87Tawny87 member
    WinniethePoohsPants said:

    Confession:
    My son is at preschool right now and instead of cleaning or finally putting my Christmas tree away I'm watching "The Wedding Date" on netflix.

    If it makes you feel better my tree is still up... I should probably get off my stupid phone and work on that now lol... But the exterior house lights came down on Sun just for the record.
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  • BabyboyS2016BabyboyS2016 member
    @Tawny87 my tree and lights are still up too! As long as it's before February, I'm okay with that. ;)
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  • MamaNicoleof3MamaNicoleof3 member
    CourtJack said:

    I think that random post about the FASD article is odd.

    Most likely a lurker trying to stir up junk. *eye roll*
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  • MamaNicoleof3MamaNicoleof3 member
    HBamama2B said:

    @MamaNicoleof3 @CourtJack 100% agree- dramatics looking for a bite. Absolutely nothing 'touching' or relevant about a pregnant teen getting blackout drunk repeatedly. :neutral:

    I didn't read the article, but I know enough about FASD (or maybe just have enough freaking common sense?!) that your baby doesn't get it from a random sip here and there.
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  • ashleyrobertson0113ashleyrobertson0113 member
    ahernandez16 said:

    I found Master Chef Junior last night on Hulu and have decided I will not push my kid to be in sports, but rather pressure him into the kitchen at a young age so I'll never have to cook again. Muahahah... 

    But seriously. Has anyone ever watched that show!? Those kids are insane... I'm over here diligently following a meatloaf recipe and they're pulling gourmet meals out of their butts in less than an hour. 

    Yes! To all of this! To no more cooking and to wondering how these kids randomly pull those recipes odd!
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  • Tawny87Tawny87 member
    shannonrnbsn said:

    @Tawny87 my tree and lights are still up too! As long as it's before February, I'm okay with that. ;)

    Haha! I have the windows open, watching the snow melt outside and the tree is now down. Just putting the boxes in the basement now. The house is a total wreck, I'm ok with that because at least I don't have to look at Christmas anymore lol!
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  • dennyandleedennyandlee member
    Last night was our 2nd Bradley class and we were talking about non-mainstream birthing practices at the end of class and my instructor told us about lotus births.  Anyone heard of this??  Google it.

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  • Emztron500Emztron500 member
    @denny+lee maybe it's a testament to how crazy crunchy I am, but that doesn't sound that weird to me (lotus birth). Wouldn't do it myself though. I've seen a lot of moms talking about umbilical cord burning too. Eh, I'm ok with my midwife just slicin' it (or DH if he's feeling braver this time).

    I am ALL ABOUT teaching my kid to cook. I keep wondering how old is old enough to start making her responsible for a meal here and there. I am assuming 21 months is still a little young, lol.
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  • dennyandleedennyandlee member
    @Emztron500 I guess I just can't imagine carrying the placenta around for days until it shrivels up and detaches.

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    MamaNicoleof3 said:

    HBamama2B said:

    @MamaNicoleof3 @CourtJack 100% agree- dramatics looking for a bite. Absolutely nothing 'touching' or relevant about a pregnant teen getting blackout drunk repeatedly. :neutral:

    I didn't read the article, but I know enough about FASD (or maybe just have enough freaking common sense?!) that your baby doesn't get it from a random sip here and there.
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    I'm cranky as hell today and responded on the FASD thread. Hmph.

    Also noticed just now there's no angry face emoji on this app. Deliberate, methinks? Ha!
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  • MrsAlliKatMrsAlliKat member
    I went to visit a good friend yesterday and unexpected got a bin of maternity clothes and baby boy clothes to borrow. And my friend has great taste so everthing is cute! Score!
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