My MIL is at my house yesterday-tomorrow. Thank goodness I am working today and tomorrow and will only see her for a few hours.
Last night we decided to watch a Pentatonix documentary on Netflix after my 13 month old went to bed. MIL has to make constant noise (I enjoy some silence in life). All throughout the movie "Oh!... [throat clear]... WOW!... [throat clear]... HAHA! Did you heart that?! [repeats everything we just heard]". I was texting my sister asking how early I could "go to bed" and just pretend to be asleep and play on my phone in silence. I stayed up for the whole movie.. she gave a FULL round of applause at the end, while my kiddo is sleeping. WHO DOES THAT?!
She is SO f-ing ANNOYING!!!! And I'm stuck with her for life. I think of this all the time when I think of my son's future and how much I want to be nothing like her.
I just want my toddler to sleeeeeeep. She'll be three in March and for the past two months, has been fighting bedtime with all she has, and has slept through the night exactly two times. She used to sleep through the night so it makes no sense. Whine.
Oh, @PSUBecky23 --I am with you! My 21 month old had his best stretch of sleeping through the night from 3-6 months. Since then, I can probably count on both hands how many times he has slept through the night. Whenever it happens I think maybe we have finally made it and this is a breakthrough. And then the next night we're back to waking up. It's so frustrating. I keep telling myself it'll get better eventually....and I sure as heck hope it gets better before I'm up all night with a newborn....
Oh, @PSUBecky23 --I am with you! My 21 month old had his best stretch of sleeping through the night from 3-6 months. Since then, I can probably count on both hands how many times he has slept through the night. Whenever it happens I think maybe we have finally made it and this is a breakthrough. And then the next night we're back to waking up. It's so frustrating. I keep telling myself it'll get better eventually....and I sure as heck hope it gets better before I'm up all night with a newborn....
That's rough. I'm sorry. Mine was a crap sleeper until about a year. But at least after that, she was great until a stretch around 18m and then now. We had a good year of great sleep, so I got spoiled. It's harder when they can talk. She stands in her doorway (because she can freaking open doors now) making 83 demands, instead of sleeping.
Ugh. I've been holding out hope that talking will be our answer! Alas. Sleep is just tricky. I laugh sometimes because now all I want him to do is sleep, and someday, when he's a teenager, I'll be fighting with him to get out of bed!
Ugh Mondays! It's my long day at work and one of my coworkers is scheduled off and I have another who abuses her FMLA and calls off every Monday and wednesday. I'm exhausted after dealing with DDs night terror last night. I just want to wrap myself in blankets like a human burrito and not adult today.
I don't know where to begin. I don't know if this is a b#*%*fest or a vent but here goes... My week from hell:
1. Last Tuesday my mom had a heart attack.
2. I've been in tooth pain all week and had to get an emergency root canal on Sat. morning that cost me $1600.
3. The exact day after the root canal, I was in emergency care doctor office for a headache and sore throat. Apparently I have a virus.
4. My 10-month-old has been waking up in the middle of the night a lot.
5. Been crying every single day because of pregnancy hormones and stress.
6. DH and I just decided that I'm going to be a SAHM. Which I wasn't really prepared for. I am nervous about the change in lifestyle. Nervous for a variety of reasons, but also obviously happy that I will be able to raise my children.
7. I told my family this week that I was pregnant and it turned out that my sister had told somebody and everyone knew already. Including my mother. One sister congratulated me. The other one didn't congratulate me, and neither did my mom. People are a$$holes.
I'm sure there's a lot of things I'm forgetting. I'll edit if I need to.
@jilligirl16- I get that you're in the bitchfest thread and sounds like a really overwhelming week.. but as for #6 Let's not get back into the working out of/in the home debate, yeah? I work full-time and I still raise my children, daycare doesn't do that for me.
I know, I'm probably splitting hairs, but as mentioned earlier - my MIL is over and I'm in a bitchfest kinda mood!
Also, I'm really sorry about the rest of the week, that is all bitch-worthy individually let alone piled all together. Hope this week is better than the last!
@AnnaS930 Debate? Who is starting a debate? lol. Ok I'll rephrase it for you. While I was working, and was unable to be with my child for a great part of the day for five days out of the week, I felt as if I personally was not solely / primarily raising my son. Now that I am not working, I feel that I am primarily raising him. And I feel grateful for that. Again, this is how I personally feel. Others, such as yourself, may feel differently. And no one is to blame have a nice day
DS has been having a lot accidents at night this last week. I have been the one getting up with him and cleaning him up. DH had to do it on Saturday because I was at a wedding. He was all pissy about it. Really?
I've just been super unmotivated at work. I don't want to go. .. and my coworker keeps pressuring me to tell my boss like it's some burden that she's keeping a secret. I didn't even actively tell her. She guessed. And it's my business. I'm planning on telling him after my ultrasound to make everything is OK
@SDSwensonThat's annoying. You're right, it's definitely your business. In some situations, it seems people get so excited about other people's news that they want to be "part" of it. Maybe that's why she's pressuring you? Even if that is the case, though, hopefully she can back off until you're ready. Announcing pregnancy is a big deal - especially at work!
@JennM205 I wish she just wanted to be part of the news! She gives me a serious look and says "when are you going to tell him? You really need to." Why? Why do I really need to. The only reason is if we had a patient come in who requires nitrous oxide. I don't feel comfortable assisting in that case. Other than that, there's no need. I already told her to back off so hopefully she does
My SIL is freaking nuts and was being a huge b*tch yesterday. My bday was on Thursday and I made a reservation for 12 ppl to have brunch on Sunday to celebrate. On Saturday my DS started vomiting and it turned out to be a stomach virus. I called his pediatrician who said bugs like this only last about 24hrs and the worst of it is in the first 12 hours. So I spent the entire day with him, it started around 10am, cleaning up vomit and trying to make him less miserable. It was awful. My SIL texted me to see what time the reservation was for the brunch and I told her what we had been going through all day. She suggested I cancel the brunch but my DH and I decided we would see how he felt in the am and I would just go by myself is he wasn't better. By then it would have been over 24hrs since it began. So in the morning, he was fine. Running around, watching cartoons eating and drinking. etc so we decided to just all go to to my bday brunch. As soon as my SIL walked up to our table and looked at my son she said "you better not get my kids sick. If they get sick im bringing them over to your house and leaving them there" (!!!???) No "happy birthday, how is Bobby feeling" no "how are you? I know you've had morning sickness all week and now dealing with a sick baby" Nothing. All she was concerned about is wether or not she is going to be inconvenienced because her kids *might* get sick. AND THEN to top it all off, afterwards we all went over to my house and she threw a remote control at my husband and he has a huge gash that was bleeding like crazy and now had a huge bandage on his forehead. She said she was trying to get the remote away from her son who kept changing the channel and tossed at my DH and said 'heads up!" but it just smacked him in the eye. I mean COME ON!!
My complaint is I will be visiting the dentist this afternoon for a cavity that was filled 2 weeks ago. It doesn't hurt to bite down, but flossing is excruciating. I'm thinking my gum is infected which is a terrifying thought to me right now, considering mouth infections are nothing to f*ck with (esp while preg). I'm glad they were able to get me in and I'm truly hoping it's an "easy" fix.
@izzetoot- Yikes!! I mean.. it was YOUR birthday brunch... I could see her point if you brought an actively sick kid to HER birthday brunch (but I still wouldn't say it out loud, I would just try to keep my kids at a distance). Seems like she knew what was going on and could have politely bowed out but preferred to go and make a scene. She sounds like a real peach
@jilligirl16- I get that you're in the bitchfest thread and sounds like a really overwhelming week.. but as for #6 Let's not get back into the working out of/in the home debate, yeah? I work full-time and I still raise my children, daycare doesn't do that for me.
I know, I'm probably splitting hairs, but as mentioned earlier - my MIL is over and I'm in a bitchfest kinda mood!
Also, I'm really sorry about the rest of the week, that is all bitch-worthy individually let alone piled all together. Hope this week is better than the last!
I didn't read this as her bitching about or trying to start a debate about being a SAHM. She's adding onto, what looked like a week from hell, another thing she has to worry/think about that she isn't quite ready for or in the state of mind to begin contemplating. She said she is "nervous about the change in lifestyle" which is something I would think most new SAHM go through. I know I did when I quit my job to work from home and take care of my son. @jilligirl16 I hope you have a better week and that your mom is ok
@izzetoot- Yikes!! I mean.. it was YOUR birthday brunch... I could see her point if you brought an actively sick kid to HER birthday brunch (but I still wouldn't say it out loud, I would just try to keep my kids at a distance). Seems like she knew what was going on and could have politely bowed out but preferred to go and make a scene. She sounds like a real peach
Thank you! Thats exactly what I said! And we sat way on one end of the table purposefully away from all the kids just in case. What gets me is that it didn't bother her to come to my house, the scene of the crime, afterwards with both her children???
@jilligirl16- I get that you're in the bitchfest thread and sounds like a really overwhelming week.. but as for #6 Let's not get back into the working out of/in the home debate, yeah? I work full-time and I still raise my children, daycare doesn't do that for me.
I know, I'm probably splitting hairs, but as mentioned earlier - my MIL is over and I'm in a bitchfest kinda mood!
Also, I'm really sorry about the rest of the week, that is all bitch-worthy individually let alone piled all together. Hope this week is better than the last!
I didn't read this as her bitching about or trying to start a debate about being a SAHM. She's adding onto, what looked like a week from hell, another thing she has to worry/think about that she isn't quite ready for or in the state of mind to begin contemplating. She said she is "nervous about the change in lifestyle" which is something I would think most new SAHM go through. I know I did when I quit my job to work from home and take care of my son. @jilligirl16 I hope you have a better week and that your mom is ok
Agreed - I got all of that and as I predicted I just read too far into things. Apologies @jilligirl16, I hope that my wishes for a better week for you weren't overshadowed by my over-analysis. It did rub me the wrong way, and the wording still does - but I see that I was reading too far into it. I'm done bitching for the day, hoping we can all go forward
@RedMar sometimes the composite (white)fillings don't bond correctly and it causes a small gap between the filing and the tooth. They should take a bite wing xray to check. If you don't feel comfortable with that in the 1st tri, I would just ask if they can redo it. Or at least that part of it. Good luck!
@SDSwenson - yeah I think that's why I'm most upset about this whole sitch is the possibility of an X-ray and that I have to go to the dentist on my day off ! Good to know I can opt out of the bitewing if I so please, thanks for the advice!
A lifelong, but not close, friend asked me to be matron of honor for her wedding. Two things to keep in mind as I rant-there are a total of 2 people in her bridal party and she requested a restaurant location (flat out said no backyards/halls). I asked her for a rough number of guests for the bridal shower and she said 75 people. Now prices are fairly expensive in North Jersey which means I'd be paying about $700+ for my part. I very kindly asked that she trim her list or consider a different location. She said she would trim the list. After shopping for bridesmaids dresses this past weekend she hands me the finalized list. 78 women!!!
Thank god the future MIL just offered to chip in too or there would be a very unhappy bride
@Forever0905 - the math just isn't adding up here... Only 2 people in her bridal party (one of whom she's not that close with), but she was able to scrounge up 78 women for her shower? Sounds a little AW/greedy to me!!
My bitchfest results from the lovely email I received this morning at work. We are already currently under a wage freeze and now they just said no holidays from June to August! I realize we have a new ERP system going live August 1st but no summer vacation sucks. I guess I will just have to make it up next summer when I have the whole thing off.
Like to add to the B – fest that it annoys me that some people are so stupid as to post their ultrasound pictures that have all of their personal information on it. (See post in First Tri board). Why are people so stupid? I really don't understand??????
@jilligirl16- I get that you're in the bitchfest thread and sounds like a really overwhelming week.. but as for #6 Let's not get back into the working out of/in the home debate, yeah? I work full-time and I still raise my children, daycare doesn't do that for me.
I know, I'm probably splitting hairs, but as mentioned earlier - my MIL is over and I'm in a bitchfest kinda mood!
Also, I'm really sorry about the rest of the week, that is all bitch-worthy individually let alone piled all together. Hope this week is better than the last!
I didn't read this as her bitching about or trying to start a debate about being a SAHM. She's adding onto, what looked like a week from hell, another thing she has to worry/think about that she isn't quite ready for or in the state of mind to begin contemplating. She said she is "nervous about the change in lifestyle" which is something I would think most new SAHM go through. I know I did when I quit my job to work from home and take care of my son. @jilligirl16 I hope you have a better week and that your mom is ok
Agreed - I got all of that and as I predicted I just read too far into things. Apologies @jilligirl16, I hope that my wishes for a better week for you weren't overshadowed by my over-analysis. It did rub me the wrong way, and the wording still does - but I see that I was reading too far into it. I'm done bitching for the day, hoping we can all go forward
I agree that the word choice was very poor, and it rubs me the wrong way as well. I don't think she was looking to start a debate, but the poor word choice does imply some judgement. We all raise our own children, whether or not we work outside the home. I am willing to chalk this one up to a poor choice of words, but I'm hoping that as a group can be sensitive about that topic going forward.
Adding a bitch: My charming husband came home early from work and has been in bed the whole day because he's hung over....meanwhile I've been on my feet doing everything today even though I feel like total shit....he can suck it
@AnnaS930 I don't think you read too much into the raising your child thing. I saw it too and left the thread because I didn't want to start something. I was going to save it for later as a general board thing, but since it has been mentioned and you may be feeling like you are in the wrong, I agree 100% with you. I raise my kids and it is so insulting and offensive when I see people say they love being a SAHM because they want to raise their kids or worse "I'm a SAHM because I don't want someone else raising my kids." Cringe! I have seen a few women say a variation of this here and I'm assuming they are just typing quickly and don't mean to be offensive, but still, don't imply that working moms don't raise their kids!!
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
Thanks @KimmySchmidtand @crispy11... not being an easily offended person I started thinking I was really losing my mind by thinking the wording was a dig. I think the air is cleared but agree that moving forward it's not something I'd like to see keep popping up
Just chiming in to say that I am a SAHM, and I agree that it was an offensive statement. I hope from here on out that members can be more respectful, open-minded, and cautious in their thinking and word choices. Shouldn't be that difficult.
Agree on the raising my own kid comment. I work. A lot. And have a great daycare that my daughter loves. I still raise my own kid. My daughter calls me mommy, not her teachers.
I will chalk that up to poor word choice, as well. It just hit a nerve because I've heard/seen that before all too often.
I think you all are honestly reading very much into this.
When I was working, it tore me up every day knowing that my child was being cared for and being taught things by somebody else who wasn't me. And that person actually happened to be my mother, who I trust with all of my heart. And yes even though it was her, it still wasn't me and I didn't like it. Was she the only person raising my child? Absolutely not. Was I only person raising my child? Absolutely not. This is not a matter of opinion, it's a fact. Someone else was helping me raise my kid! And was spending at least 40 hours a week with my kid!
And I'm sorry if you don't like it, but the fact is, I was not the only person who was raising my son. Fact. And for me, personally, I didn't like it. Now I feel better that I am able to be the only person, aside from my husband, to be raising my kid.
I did not mean to offend anybody, but the fact that many of you were offended kind of raises eyebrows. If you feel happy and OK with your situations, then why are you feeling so offended by what I said? I never said anything about any of you or your personal situations or compared myself to other people. I was talking about myself.
Seriously, this board is so ridiculous. Everybody loves to be offended! Lol.
1) If you're referring to drinking in the early stages of pregnancy as you stated on a previous post, that's not us being offended, that's us reacting to ignorance and selfishness.
2) It may be wise to filter your shit before displaying it on a public board.
Re: Monday Bitchfest (1/18)
Last night we decided to watch a Pentatonix documentary on Netflix after my 13 month old went to bed. MIL has to make constant noise (I enjoy some silence in life). All throughout the movie "Oh!... [throat clear]... WOW!... [throat clear]... HAHA! Did you heart that?! [repeats everything we just heard]". I was texting my sister asking how early I could "go to bed" and just pretend to be asleep and play on my phone in silence. I stayed up for the whole movie.. she gave a FULL round of applause at the end, while my kiddo is sleeping. WHO DOES THAT?!
She is SO f-ing ANNOYING!!!! And I'm stuck with her for life. I think of this all the time when I think of my son's future and how much I want to be nothing like her.
That's rough. I'm sorry. Mine was a crap sleeper until about a year. But at least after that, she was great until a stretch around 18m and then now. We had a good year of great sleep, so I got spoiled. It's harder when they can talk. She stands in her doorway (because she can freaking open doors now) making 83 demands, instead of sleeping.
1. Last Tuesday my mom had a heart attack.
2. I've been in tooth pain all week and had to get an emergency root canal on Sat. morning that cost me $1600.
3. The exact day after the root canal, I was in emergency care doctor office for a headache and sore throat. Apparently I have a virus.
4. My 10-month-old has been waking up in the middle of the night a lot.
5. Been crying every single day because of pregnancy hormones and stress.
6. DH and I just decided that I'm going to be a SAHM. Which I wasn't really prepared for. I am nervous about the change in lifestyle. Nervous for a variety of reasons, but also obviously happy that I will be able to raise my children.
7. I told my family this week that I was pregnant and it turned out that my sister had told somebody and everyone knew already. Including my mother. One sister congratulated me. The other one didn't congratulate me, and neither did my mom. People are a$$holes.
I'm sure there's a lot of things I'm forgetting. I'll edit if I need to.
I know, I'm probably splitting hairs, but as mentioned earlier - my MIL is over and I'm in a bitchfest kinda mood!
Also, I'm really sorry about the rest of the week, that is all bitch-worthy individually let alone piled all together. Hope this week is better than the last!
Thank god the future MIL just offered to chip in too or there would be a very unhappy bride
@AnnaS930 glad the air is cleared
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
Agree on the raising my own kid comment. I work. A lot. And have a great daycare that my daughter loves. I still raise my own kid. My daughter calls me mommy, not her teachers.
I will chalk that up to poor word choice, as well. It just hit a nerve because I've heard/seen that before all too often.
When I was working, it tore me up every day knowing that my child was being cared for and being taught things by somebody else who wasn't me. And that person actually happened to be my mother, who I trust with all of my heart. And yes even though it was her, it still wasn't me and I didn't like it. Was she the only person raising my child? Absolutely not. Was I only person raising my child? Absolutely not. This is not a matter of opinion, it's a fact. Someone else was helping me raise my kid! And was spending at least 40 hours a week with my kid!
And I'm sorry if you don't like it, but the fact is, I was not the only person who was raising my son. Fact. And for me, personally, I didn't like it. Now I feel better that I am able to be the only person, aside from my husband, to be raising my kid.
I did not mean to offend anybody, but the fact that many of you were offended kind of raises eyebrows. If you feel happy and OK with your situations, then why are you feeling so offended by what I said? I never said anything about any of you or your personal situations or compared myself to other people. I was talking about myself.
Seriously, this board is so ridiculous. Everybody loves to be offended! Lol.
2) It may be wise to filter your shit before displaying it on a public board.
ETA: HAVE A FANTASTIC DAY!!
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018