I'm 40 weeks today. I'd love to meet our baby girl. However, if she waited until Sunday afternoon i wouldn't mind. My bartender husband could work this weekend and make a few hundred. And we could get breakfast buffet at the moose lodge Sunday morning then go to church.
Everyone who said work till the end so you have more time with the baby is a TW. I got permission to start working from home next week, thank god, because I am DONE. I feel like crap, don't sleep enough, have intermittent contractions etc. I really think we should have enough maternity leave that we can take off the last few weeks before birth as well as having time after.
Married DW 08.2013; AI 2x; IUI 6x; IUI #7 05.2015; DD born 2.2016 ; Reciprocal IVF FET #1 on 11.18.2020
I told SO that I have a migraine this morning, but it's just a regular headache. Regular headaches get "here's some Tylenol" and no sympathy. Migraines get me babied and left in bed with water bottles, cloths for my head, and a nice break from the toddler. He'll check on me in an hour and rub my feet with peppermint lotion. I almost feel bad, so I ordered him a new pair of slippers since his are falling apart. He loves old man slippers.
I'm REALLY hoping LO sleeps most of this rainy Friday ... Because that's EXACTLY what this mommy wants to do today.. No I don't want a hot shower. No I don't want to eat No I don't want to adventure to moms house to get over my fear of driving with a new born No I don't want to clean
I want sleep.... Lots and lots of sleep....
Team sleep forever!! (Except to wake and feed/change baby)
Everyone who said work till the end so you have more time with the baby is a TW. I got permission to start working from home next week, thank god, because I am DONE. I feel like crap, don't sleep enough, have intermittent contractions etc. I really think we should have enough maternity leave that we can take off the last few weeks before birth as well as having time after.
I had all intentiones of working until I went. But Then I hit the third trimester and said F that. I'm due in 3 days and took this week off. I feel way more rested then if I had been at work. I don't sleep well at night so having the day to putter around the house and nap if I feel like it feels good. Hopefully I'll be reated enough when labour comes!
Also, my lady parts are so raw and sensitive from having to wear a pad for 3 weeks straight that I'm about to consider going "Au natural" and forget about it. Who cares if I ruin my clothes or the bed or the carpet... My outer vagina hurts almost as much as the inside.
Also, my lady parts are so raw and sensitive from having to wear a pad for 3 weeks straight that I'm about to consider going "Au natural" and forget about it. Who cares if I ruin my clothes or the bed or the carpet... My outer vagina hurts almost as much as the inside.
With my older babies, I would sit on an old towel in just a shirt or nightgown to let things get a break every other day or so, washing the old towel in between sessions.
Since this is FF- I HATE my postpartum bod every time. It doesn't matter that my body made a baby- it's like a year of self loathing each time as I have to exercise like a madwoman and cut out all sugar to get back to normal.
Also, I had HORRIBLE BF experiences with DS and DD. I'm hoping for a better experience this time and am going in ready to give it my all, but I refuse to feel badly if I just throw in the towel after a few weeks. Neither of my other two ever latched so I had to pump exclusively and I got horrific engorgement followed by mastitis both times (worst thing ever) and was plagued by plugged ducts and raw nipples for the 3 months I stuck with it for the two of them. This time if the baby never latches I'll pump again a bit as a supplement to formula but I will bottle feed and not look back.
39+1 and I've stopped caring about my diet. I want to eat healthy for LO but anything that sounds good is fair game now. Plus I already put on so much weight over the last 4 months, the last week or two isn't going to make or break me. Going out to get cake in a few, maybe some scones. No regrets.
39+1 and I've stopped caring about my diet. I want to eat healthy for LO but anything that sounds good is fair game now. Plus I already put on so much weight over the last 4 months, the last week or two isn't going to make or break me. Going out to get cake in a few, maybe some scones. No regrets.
Going to indulge in some Krispy Kreme later #noragrets
Also, my lady parts are so raw and sensitive from having to wear a pad for 3 weeks straight that I'm about to consider going "Au natural" and forget about it. Who cares if I ruin my clothes or the bed or the carpet... My outer vagina hurts almost as much as the inside.
THIS. So accurate.., not sure how these tears will ever heal when they're constantly getting sawed back open by this maxi pad every step I take. It's only been ten days not sure I'll make it.
@maddisonwallace i would kill for krispy kreme! I grew up in Florida. My parents at one point lived so close to a krispy kreme you could smell the donuts from their porch. Now i reside in Pennsylvania. No krispy kreme here
I heard DD wake up this morning, but she didn't fuss. I made it a point to have her bedroom be safe and baby-proof so that she could play in there, so since she was happy I just let her be and laid in bed for like half an hour, and let DH get her when he came home for lunch. It was glorious.
@mrsgetz4000 that sounds like heaven... I don't crave it often but I can't imagine not being by one when I do get a craving. I've only ever been in Alabama and Texas where there's one on every corner lol
Where i went to high school the basketball team sold krispy kreme doughnuts every morning for really cheap. I remember seeing athletes walking around all day eating on a dozen krispy kreme doughnuts.
@claireloSC A thousand percent agree. I am so done with work and have to give myself a pep talk every morning. I would totally stay at home if I could work from home. The US should start leave at 36 weeks and give us at least 6 months. Gahhhhh.
@Karenin I could've written that myself. I HATE my PP body. Even though I appreciate what it's done, I'm never comfortable in my own skin until at least a year PP. Ditto to everything you said about BFing.
Which leads me to my own FFC - I pretty much hated BFing and am dreading it. Literally was in tears talking to DH about it last night. I don't feel a bond, I don't enjoy it, I hate that only I can feed the baby, that I have to rush around work like a mad woman trying to pump in between meetings, that my body doesn't belong to me for another year after 9 months of growing a baby, that I can't eat or drink whatever I want, that I'm up every 2 hours. The only reason I did it for DD and DS was because I knew it was good for them. DH is awesome and said he's 100% on board with formula and not to stress out about it. We'll see how nursing goes when he gets here.
Also, my lady parts are so raw and sensitive from having to wear a pad for 3 weeks straight that I'm about to consider going "Au natural" and forget about it. Who cares if I ruin my clothes or the bed or the carpet... My outer vagina hurts almost as much as the inside.
I'm with some previous posts. I'm dreading breastfeeding. I'm a ftm so I have no prior background with it but I'm just totally stressing about it. Theres so many benefits for both baby and myself and I want to do it but I'm scared I wont be able to. I always hear terrible stories about latching and pain and I'm just dreading it. DH said hes 100% on board with whatever I decide on and if its gets too challenging or its making my life hell then hes fine with formula.
39+1 and I've stopped caring about my diet. I want to eat healthy for LO but anything that sounds good is fair game now. Plus I already put on so much weight over the last 4 months, the last week or two isn't going to make or break me. Going out to get cake in a few, maybe some scones. No regrets.
Yup me too. I baked sugar cookies last night and ate them all.
I am formula feeding and we are getting extra formula hopefully this weekend. I am trying to stockpile what I can. DD2 will be on the same formula DD1 was on because I'm diabetic and all because DD2 will most likely have jaundice. However, I am on maternity leave already. Have been since 35 weeks and 1 day. I'm a pediatric nurse and my main patient passed away. I was only authorized to care for that patient because my OB put me on restrictions so I was working only 4 hour shifts. With all of my restrictions my employer told me I could only care for my main patient. My patient had respiratory failure. They were young, but it really broke my heart because we had made plans for the next day and for even when I had DD2. I was to bring DD2 to see them after DD2 and I were discharged from the hospital. Also we had been talking about DD1 coming to visit (we're family friends so parents were totally fine with that) and doing something special for their birthday that was coming up. It's hard each day because I see things that remind me of them and I wish this was all a very bad dream I was having. I miss them dearly! I know my coworkers do too, but they changed my life as a nurse. When I found out I was pregnant I wasn't not exactly thrilled since it was an unplanned pregnancy and I was planning on going back to school to get my BSN this fall. My patient was excited I was pregnant and they changed how I felt about my pregnancy. So I will never be able to thank them again for how they changed me and what a privilege it was to be their nurse.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
I didn't hate the bf, just pumping, but for me another motivation other than the health benefits was that it's free. Formula is expensive and makes more bottles for washing etc.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
I don't think you sounds judgy at all. I'm going to give it a try and if I cant do it I have no problem formula feeding. My husband and I were bth formula fed, we turned out fine. I guess I more so want to do it just because its easier, free, and does have benefits for both of us. I think its just something that you almost feel pressured to do. Like you're failing if you don't. Theres a lot of pressure to do it and people seem to be judgy when you don't do it.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
I agree. Don't do it because you feel like society will judge you otherwise. My mom basically threatened me to BF. When the time came, baby wouldn't latch and I honestly didn't feel comfortable doing it. I felt like i failed and my parents kept trying to force me into BF'ing my dad even told me "you really need to stop putting it off you need to breast feed you'll bind better with the baby" I bond just fine with my baby with formula feeding.. So does his father.
I've finally stopped feeling guilty for choosing to FF but, my parents still judge me. They can keep judging.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
Word! Not everyone can breastfeed. The idea is that you are feeding your baby and that alone is all that counts! I think breastfeeding moms are awesome. I think formula feeding moms are awesome, because they are taking care of their child period!
@claireloSC A thousand percent agree. I am so done with work and have to give myself a pep talk every morning. I would totally stay at home if I could work from home. The US should start leave at 36 weeks and give us at least 6 months. Gahhhhh.
@Karenin I could've written that myself. I HATE my PP body. Even though I appreciate what it's done, I'm never comfortable in my own skin until at least a year PP. Ditto to everything you said about BFing.
Which leads me to my own FFC - I pretty much hated BFing and am dreading it. Literally was in tears talking to DH about it last night. I don't feel a bond, I don't enjoy it, I hate that only I can feed the baby, that I have to rush around work like a mad woman trying to pump in between meetings, that my body doesn't belong to me for another year after 9 months of growing a baby, that I can't eat or drink whatever I want, that I'm up every 2 hours. The only reason I did it for DD and DS was because I knew it was good for them. DH is awesome and said he's 100% on board with formula and not to stress out about it. We'll see how nursing goes when he gets here.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
I think there is enormous pressure to "do it for the baby." I'm very type A plus I'm susceptible to guit very easily so I agree with you that I made too big a deal out of it. I let all the societal opinions get to me. Thanks for your comments- makes me feel better you see no difference with your BF children and FF children.
@GAgirlinSDakota I couldn't agree more. If you enjoy BF good, BF your baby. But there is this pressure to do it. I did for my first and after many doctor appointments because the baby kept dropping weight when he was 2 months I was told to supplement and I was devastated and was feeling like a failure. For my second my supply came in but when baby was two weeks old and we were out of the state for my BILs wedding, I was two weeks post CS with and infection sitting in the hotel bathroom crying trying to feed DS2 while not to wake up DH and DS1 who were the Bestman and Ring bearer the next day. It hit my sanity also has benefits for the baby.
They're gluten free. (I don't eat gluten, due to an autoimmune disease.) But! They are super tasty and so easy to make, so you might like this recipe too. I made two different versions, one with butter and one with coconut oil, and the butter version baked much better. (They both still tasted good - the coconut oil ones just had that kind of coconut oil taste.)
Oh, and I also doubled the amount of chocolate chips.
People keep asking me about the baby-how big do I think he is, did my due date change since he's measuring ahead (by fundus so not even reliable). Anyways, I always respond with "he's running out of womb." I mean seriously, how many times in your life can you use a pun as terrible as that one? #noshame
I've had a few pretty good signs that labor is near so I went ahead and picked up a small bag of chocolate hearts to take to the hospital to share with the staff.
Re: FFFC
I almost feel bad, so I ordered him a new pair of slippers since his are falling apart. He loves old man slippers.
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
No I don't want a hot shower.
No I don't want to eat
No I don't want to adventure to moms house to get over my fear of driving with a new born
No I don't want to clean
I want sleep.... Lots and lots of sleep....
Team sleep forever!! (Except to wake and feed/change baby)
My outer vagina hurts almost as much as the inside.
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
Since this is FF- I HATE my postpartum bod every time. It doesn't matter that my body made a baby- it's like a year of self loathing each time as I have to exercise like a madwoman and cut out all sugar to get back to normal.
Also, I had HORRIBLE BF experiences with DS and DD. I'm hoping for a better experience this time and am going in ready to give it my all, but I refuse to feel badly if I just throw in the towel after a few weeks. Neither of my other two ever latched so I had to pump exclusively and I got horrific engorgement followed by mastitis both times (worst thing ever) and was plagued by plugged ducts and raw nipples for the 3 months I stuck with it for the two of them. This time if the baby never latches I'll pump again a bit as a supplement to formula but I will bottle feed and not look back.
A thousand percent agree. I am so done with work and have to give myself a pep talk every morning. I would totally stay at home if I could work from home. The US should start leave at 36 weeks and give us at least 6 months. Gahhhhh.
@Karenin
I could've written that myself. I HATE my PP body. Even though I appreciate what it's done, I'm never comfortable in my own skin until at least a year PP. Ditto to everything you said about BFing.
Which leads me to my own FFC - I pretty much hated BFing and am dreading it. Literally was in tears talking to DH about it last night. I don't feel a bond, I don't enjoy it, I hate that only I can feed the baby, that I have to rush around work like a mad woman trying to pump in between meetings, that my body doesn't belong to me for another year after 9 months of growing a baby, that I can't eat or drink whatever I want, that I'm up every 2 hours. The only reason I did it for DD and DS was because I knew it was good for them. DH is awesome and said he's 100% on board with formula and not to stress out about it. We'll see how nursing goes when he gets here.
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
However, I am on maternity leave already. Have been since 35 weeks and 1 day. I'm a pediatric nurse and my main patient passed away. I was only authorized to care for that patient because my OB put me on restrictions so I was working only 4 hour shifts. With all of my restrictions my employer told me I could only care for my main patient. My patient had respiratory failure. They were young, but it really broke my heart because we had made plans for the next day and for even when I had DD2. I was to bring DD2 to see them after DD2 and I were discharged from the hospital. Also we had been talking about DD1 coming to visit (we're family friends so parents were totally fine with that) and doing something special for their birthday that was coming up. It's hard each day because I see things that remind me of them and I wish this was all a very bad dream I was having. I miss them dearly! I know my coworkers do too, but they changed my life as a nurse. When I found out I was pregnant I wasn't not exactly thrilled since it was an unplanned pregnancy and I was planning on going back to school to get my BSN this fall. My patient was excited I was pregnant and they changed how I felt about my pregnancy. So I will never be able to thank them again for how they changed me and what a privilege it was to be their nurse.
As of this morning, I have eaten ALL of them.
For those who are dreading BFing, why do it? It's not the end all, be all. I know we've all heard all of the "breast is best" lines, but there is something MORE IMPORTANT. A happy and mentally healthy mom. I've done both. My oldest 2 were strictly formula fed, and my last 2 breast fed. No difference in them growth or health wise. If bfing is a problem with this one, whether it's latch issues or just not working for me, I'm going back to formula.
So I guess my confession is I don't understand the enormous pressure women put on themselves to BF or EP, when they hate it. If you hate it, why give it that headspace and let if possibly cloud what should be good times?
Please understand I'm not meaning to sound like I judge anyone. You do whatever you feel you need to. I don't feel that one feeding method is better than the other. I just don't understand doing something you hate when there are perfectly good alternatives. I don't understand making yourself unhappy unnecessarily.
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
I didn't hate the bf, just pumping, but for me another motivation other than the health benefits was that it's free. Formula is expensive and makes more bottles for washing etc.
DS1 01/08/03 DD1 08/11/04 DD2 10/06/08 DS2 09/30/14
SURPRISE! Hannah May born 01/22/16
Don't do it because you feel like society will judge you otherwise.
My mom basically threatened me to BF. When the time came, baby wouldn't latch and I honestly didn't feel comfortable doing it. I felt like i failed and my parents kept trying to force me into BF'ing my dad even told me "you really need to stop putting it off you need to breast feed you'll bind better with the baby"
I bond just fine with my baby with formula feeding.. So does his father.
I've finally stopped feeling guilty for choosing to FF but, my parents still judge me. They can keep judging.
DS1 2010
DS2 2013
DD1 2016
https://www.babble.com/best-recipes/gluten-free-lactation-cookies-for-the-milk-makin-mama/
They're gluten free. (I don't eat gluten, due to an autoimmune disease.) But! They are super tasty and so easy to make, so you might like this recipe too. I made two different versions, one with butter and one with coconut oil, and the butter version baked much better. (They both still tasted good - the coconut oil ones just had that kind of coconut oil taste.)
Oh, and I also doubled the amount of chocolate chips.
I just ate the whole thing.
I'm so bad.