Help me understand

TXmamatobe · January 2016

A friend of mine asked if I was going to do a maternity boudoir shoot. After I laughed my ass off, I said no but then I was thinking...do people actually do that? She said she did and that she did several sexy poses in nothing but see-through lingerie (or even less in some shots). Is this real? Has anyone done this?

I feel self-conscious in straight up clothes these days and think I would hate boudoir pictures in my current state. Not saying that they wouldn't be beatiful for some women buuuuuut I'm not one of them.

JennyS86 · January 2016

nope, not gonna do it. If I had to do it, I'd rather be in good shape, thank you. What did her hubby think?

kami09 · January 2016

Oh God no. If I was Gisele, maybe. But clearly I'm not.

cortney626 · January 2016

I feel huge pregnant so I wouldn't want to get them done. I've thought of doing them for when I was in my best shape just to document my younger body I guess. But I'll probably never do them. My best shape might be in the past. LOL But yes, I've seen them done. Being pregnant is a beautiful thing but my almost naked pregnant body sure isn't!

TXmamatobe · January 2016

JennyS86 said:
nope, not gonna do it. If I had to do it, I'd rather be in good shape, thank you. What did her hubby think?

She claims that he loved them and keeps two on display in his closet. I'm not sure how to feel.

Bluejay3030 · January 2016

cortney626 said:
I feel huge pregnant so I wouldn't want to get them done. I've thought of doing them for when I was in my best shape just to document my younger body I guess. But I'll probably never do them. My best shape might be in the past. LOL But yes, I've seen them done. Being pregnant is a beautiful thing but my almost naked pregnant body sure isn't!

All of this! I think it's awesome that some women actually do this, but I will never be one of them.

AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 · January 2016

Disclaimer: I do not care what other people do. If someone else wanted to take boudoir shots, go for it.

I actually like the way I look with a bump, but I am trying to imagine myself taking sexy pictures right now and the thought is giving me the church giggles. My farts are so bad that my husband has to leave the room, and I just found a piece of hibachi rice in my bra. Sexy is not the word I would use to describe myself.

Merciel · January 2016

It's not for me, personally (as I've said in other threads before, I do not love my body in this state and the last thing I'd want to do is memorialize it beyond weekly bump shots), but I know ladies who have done it.

As I understand it, the reasoning is often one of the following:

(1) A boudoir shoot can make a woman feel confident and glamorous in her body when she needs that reassurance that she's still a beautiful and sexual being. Pregnancy causes a lot of us to feel unattractive, and this is one way that some women can renew their self-affirmations. Sometimes the experience of getting dressed up, putting on nice music, wearing sensual perfume, and posing in a luxurious setting can make you feel better about yourself. Sometimes stepping outside yourself and seeing the finished pictures with an external observer's eyes lets you get out of your own head and see that, objectively, you're pretty darn hot.

ymmv, but I know it works for some ladies, and who am I to say they're wrong?

(2) Some guys are really into it. There are definitely partners who feel like having a pregnant wife/girlfriend is proof of their virility and boy howdy do they want to keep a memento of that. So in those instances it's about making the partner happy.

tgortney · January 2016

Maybe it's just me but I don't associate pregnancy as sexy...

I mean I can see doing semi-naked to naked photos of the pregnant body as beautiful and showing the entirety of a pregnancy as something to admire BUT...not something I'd like my DH to fantasize over...

Especially because I don't really want DH or me to associate our baby with "sexy" either. That just makes me uncomfortable

Bluejay3030 · January 2016

TXmamatobe said:

JennyS86 said:
nope, not gonna do it. If I had to do it, I'd rather be in good shape, thank you. What did her hubby think?
She claims that he loved them and keeps two on display in his closet. I'm not sure how to feel.

I have heard that some guys are really into the pregnant look. If my H was one of them, I might at least think twice about it, but since he likes to remind me "woah, you're getting huge!" and jokes that I'm almost too heavy to lift (affectionately of course lol), I think I'm in the clear

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yogahh · January 2016

I have a hard enough time trying to be "cute" for HDBD.....

kbrands7 · January 2016

I would never do a shoot while pregnant. It just doesn't seem sexy to me-- beautiful and strong, yes. Not sexy. I can understand that there is a certain power in claiming your body image in that way, but I just don't see the need to document it in pictures while pregnant. I could see that some guys may appreciate it, as, even though I don't find myself alluring right now, DH mostly focuses on the significantly larger breasts and the strength that it takes to carry a baby. He's great about overlooking the stretch marks and awkwardness.

TXmamatobe · January 2016

I guess if I ever did a boudoir shoot and intended to give them to my DH, I would want to be in my very best shape and truly feel sexy. I would want him to remember me like that when we are old haha. BUT...I can see how some women would feel sexy while pregnant and choose to do the pictures. I'm content with a small maternity shoot WITH clothes.

TXmamatobe · January 2016

yogahh said:
I have a hard enough time trying to be "cute" for HDBD.....

Yes! I know this feeling.

LadySamLady · January 2016

A pregnancy boudoir shoot is just not for me. I have never felt less sexy in my life.

My BFFs gifted me with a boudoir shoot as a wedding present when I was in the best shape of my life and even that was a challenge to take seriously. It was very g-rated as far as boudoir shoots go, I have always been a bit of a prude and I never would have signed up for it on my own. In the end though, I am so glad that I did it and I would encourage anyone to do it (when not pregnant). I created a photo book from the shoot that I gave to my H as a wedding present and it is his most prized possession. I may have to look at it when I get home to remind myself of what I used to look like before I gave my body over to the LO.

TXmamatobe · January 2016

LadySamLady said:
A pregnancy boudoir shoot is just not for me. I have never felt less sexy in my life.

My BFFs gifted me with a boudoir shoot as a wedding present when I was in the best shape of my life and even that was a challenge to take seriously. It was very g-rated as far as boudoir shoots go, I have always been a bit of a prude and I never would have signed up for it on my own. In the end though, I am so glad that I did it and I would encourage anyone to do it (when not pregnant). I created a photo book from the shoot that I gave to my H as a wedding present and it is his most prized possession. I may have to look at it when I get home to remind myself of what I used to look like before I gave my body over to the LO.

That's a fun gift idea! I would definitely do it, just waaaay after pregnancy has concluded. And that's if I bust my butt to get in shape.

tripledaggerWed95976 · January 2016

I have to admit, if I was one of those girls that basically looks like a twig that swallowed a basketball then I would at least consider doing them- really tasteful ones anyway (no actual nudity shown or anything). However, Since I am only 23 weeks along and already feel like shamu, I will not be partaking

sarawifenow · January 2016

Yeah...no. My stretch marks are taking over my entire body right now. No way would I want that memorialized!

kp90 · January 2016

I did a boudoir shoot while NOT pregnant and while it did make me feel sexy for a period of time and some of the pictures turned out great and my SO loves them.. I still had a hard time feeling comfortable so personally, I would not want to do one while pregnant. If my SO loves seeing me pregnant so much then I'll let him take his own snap shots or stare at my "bump selfies". I plan to do a maternity shoot with him and I think those pictures will be well worth the money because they'll still be beautiful and memorable and those I can share with friends and family. Boudoir... not so much.

rlworzalla · January 2016

I enjoy my changing body, and I actually feel prettier now than I did prior to my pregnancy, but I feel like that's all a stage right now. I chickened out of a boudoir shoot after our wedding, even though I was in MUCH better shape. Let's face it - if I did do it I would probably want a bottle (or two!) or wine to get through it and that's just not possible right now....

vinerie · January 2016

Over the summer I accidentally walked into a boudoir photo studio. I was window shopping downtown and saw this new place with cool looking furniture. Yes, I thought it was a vintage furniture shop. Anyhow, the owner pounced on me and gave me the hard sell. It's not my style, but I can appreciate women for whom it is. Anyhow, long story to say not then and certainly not now. BUT...All that being said...I weirdly DO feel more sexy.

kbrands7 · January 2016

LadySamLady said:
A pregnancy boudoir shoot is just not for me. I have never felt less sexy in my life.

My BFFs gifted me with a boudoir shoot as a wedding present when I was in the best shape of my life and even that was a challenge to take seriously. It was very g-rated as far as boudoir shoots go, I have always been a bit of a prude and I never would have signed up for it on my own. In the end though, I am so glad that I did it and I would encourage anyone to do it (when not pregnant). I created a photo book from the shoot that I gave to my H as a wedding present and it is his most prized possession. I may have to look at it when I get home to remind myself of what I used to look like before I gave my body over to the LO.

I agree with this. I did one for DH for Valentine's Day after we got married, before kids. I expected it to be incredibly awkward, but it was actually pretty fun.

vinerie · January 2016

Bluejay3030 said:

nope, not gonna do it. If I had to do it, I'd rather be in good shape, thank you. What did her hubby think?
She claims that he loved them and keeps two on display in his closet. I'm not sure how to feel.
I have heard that some guys are really into the pregnant look. If my H was one of them, I might at least think twice about it, but since he likes to remind me "woah, you're getting huge!" and jokes that I'm almost too heavy to lift (affectionately of course lol), I think I'm in the clear .

So my H does seem to be into it. But sometimes he rubs/caresses my belly and it is SUCH a turnoff!

and_peggy · January 2016

If I have to shave my legs, it's an automatic no. And something tells me they'd want me to shave my legs for this.

doozer1345 · January 2016

I'm with you. My friend is close with my photographer and said she mentioned this would be a pretty pose for me to do:

Nope. No thank you.

TheThornBird · January 2016

doozer1345 said:

I'm with you. My friend is close with my photographer and said she mentioned this would be a pretty pose for me to do:

Nope. No thank you.

That's a pretty picture but...... what's with the pool of milk? Are her boobs leaking that much? Is it bukkake? Does she have bad pregnancy cravings for milk to the point that she wants to swim in it? Is it Miley Cyrus?

yogahh · January 2016

TheThornBird said:

doozer1345 said:

I'm with you. My friend is close with my photographer and said she mentioned this would be a pretty pose for me to do:

Nope. No thank you.

That's a pretty picture but...... what's with the pool of milk? Are her boobs leaking that much? Is it bukkake? Does she have bad pregnancy cravings for milk to the point that she wants to swim in it? Is it Miley Cyrus?

ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

KaKip · January 2016

@TheThornBird , I had to look bukkake up. I guess thanks for the education???

tgortney · January 2016

TheThornBird said:

doozer1345 said:

I'm with you. My friend is close with my photographer and said she mentioned this would be a pretty pose for me to do:

Nope. No thank you.

That's a pretty picture but...... what's with the pool of milk? Are her boobs leaking that much? Is it bukkake? Does she have bad pregnancy cravings for milk to the point that she wants to swim in it? Is it Miley Cyrus?

most def NSFW if any bumpies are curious via a Google search but hey

nerdymama15 · January 2016

Maybe it is snow covered with fake flowers! I had to lmao at the bukkake comment and that someone looked it up at work. Sorry, but it struck me as funny.

saraleigh2 · January 2016

A few years a go one of my bigger friends did one of these shoots, her pictures were so incredible!!! She was well posed, made up, great lighting and honestly she inspired me to do them and I'm totally going to!!! I haven't taken many pregnancy pictures, but I feel like if a professional takes them I might actually get some pictures I like!!!

LondonToSavannah · January 2016

Nope. Would never do it.

I think there are only two pictures of me pregnant with my first, one was my baby shower.

I'm a sweaty manatee...why would I want to preserve that image?

finnybooboo · January 2016

LondonToSavannah said:

Nope. Would never do it.

I think there are only two pictures of me pregnant with my first, one was my baby shower.

I'm a sweaty manatee...why would I want to preserve that image?

LOLZ. This all the way. Between my face breaking out, stretch marks galore, swelling, being huge. Nope.

I'm so jelly of the women who look amazing pregnant. Just not me.

josie12367 · January 2016

I WANT TO!

I would and kind of want to do them this time around actually. My DH is going to miss the entire pregnancy due to being deployed, so I feel like it's less about it being sexy but about him being able to see, and if he wants to enjoy, my body at such a short and unique time in our marriage. He's missing out on sex, cuddling, seeing the mundane process of me getting dressed....he's missing getting to enjoy my body.....which ultimately he loves and is attracted to regardless of how sexy I may feel at the time. So yeah....id do them for him to keep. I would make them more natural though to try and capitalize on capturing how I actually look.....albeit, just a bit naked-ish

BlueJuice · January 2016

I just have to say that 'naked-ish' is the best new thing I've heard today.

leahbickham · January 2016

If I could afford it I would do it in a heart beat! My husband loves the visual confirmation of his manhood

and that makes me feel good even on the disgusting, hairy, pimply days. Not to mention, this may be our last, so it would be nice to commemorate it in that way. To look back and remember the beauty of carrying a child would be nice for both of us. (Any good photographer will use photoshop for the not so great stuff!)

katxattack1212 · January 2016

I would do it! Actually, I am kind of planning to. Why? Because a pregnant body is beautiful whether you feel like it is or not!
It's not about what others think, it's about how you feel!

sillyfox · January 2016

Nope. Not for me. This just makes me think of that awful sculpture of Britney Spears. I didn't even get maternity photos at all with my first and probably won't with this one, so maternity lingerie photos are a big no here.

chottomotto · January 2016

I have my H take some every pregnancy. I'm built like a 12 year old boy -- except when I'm pregnant. It's nice to look back and see myself as voluptuous and I do feel sexy. To be clear, I have varicose veins on my vagina, cellulite on my ass, and stretch marks all over the place. Whatever. I'm rocking what I've got.

1mae2016 · January 2016

Personally, I had a difficult time feeling confident, beautiful, and sexy before pregnancy so I find it hard to imagine that with my current self esteem I could stand in front of someone else's camera and put on a "Victoria's Secret" face. However, we all have our own secret selfies and when I run across them in my photo gallery i get to look back and realize that I was beautiful and thin and sexy at a time not so long ago so what would be different now, besides pregnancy. So on the other hand, it might be worth a try because maybe I would want to look back and embrace what are now my insecurities in the future.

michellabanana · January 2016

leahbickham said:
If I could afford it I would do it in a heart beat! My husband loves the visual confirmation of his manhood and that makes me feel good even on the disgusting, hairy, pimply days. Not to mention, this may be our last, so it would be nice to commemorate it in that way. To look back and remember the beauty of carrying a child would be nice for both of us. (Any good photographer will use photoshop for the not so great stuff!)

I know! My husband has been loving me being pregnant! (I should do it more often lol). This might be TMI but sometimes I send him nudies lol... It's that whole barefoot and pregnant thing that gets him so excited. ( sometimes I'll wear an apron

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