I have been a step parent for a year now and does it ever get easier? Is it normal to just get so annoyed with these children that I sometimes don't want them around? Is it normal that BM and my fiancé send pictures of the kids back and forth to each other talking about how cute they are and how much they both love them (in my opinion it's not okay, and I've asked fiancé to stop and to tell BM to stop and I caught them doing it again), is it normal for BM and my fiancé to talk EVERY SINGLE day? Morning, day, and night? How much resentment towards these kids is normal? I honestly just wish that my fiancé had no contact with BM whatsoever but I will never get my wish.
Re: Struggling. What is "normal" or "okay" to do
I can understand pictures back and forth and I think it's a good thing. My husband enjoys getting pics. The 1 BM in my situation does send pics and the other BM does not and will not. We sometimes wish that she would because we miss things. It's nice to get along with BM but your situation sounds like he's a little too comfy with her. There have to be boundaries. We had to work on boundaries in our relationship with BM. Things are much better now.
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
I would get to the bottom of this asap. Find out why your fiance feels it necessary to have this small talk with his ex. Have you actually explained your feelings to your fiance and how it hurts you. Maybe give him a scenario where the situation is reversed...what if you were constantly chatting with your ex, how would be feel? I get that he loves his children and his ex is probably the only other person that has the mutual adoration towards the kids which is probably why he does this with her.
SD: 21 & SS: 17
BFP #2 6/3/2020
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Married Sept '13
TTC Dec '13
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