Thanks so much @klkonwi I am doing my soul searching on this one. I'm sure once I talk to the lady & find out exactly what they are offering that it will be more clear to me.
@ciennah99 That is a lot to handle, even without a baby in the picture. And our situations are completely different, but I often think my kids deserve a better mom and my husband deserves a better wife. But that's depression talking. Even if you have limitations, I can promise you, you are the best mom for your family. I can promise you that is the truth. Vent here as much as you need, but talk to your husband, too. Sometimes just saying things out loud help the situation.
@Sammy K thanks for your kind words. I am very open with DH & he thinks I'm being ridiculous. He says this is just how it is sometimes. That is definitely my depression talking as well regardless of the circumstances it's the same voice. It's just so hard managing when things are going well that anything extra seems completely overwhelming especially when it's something I don't feel I have a lot of control over.
@ciennah99 I'm so sorry, mama. I can totally relate. I haven't missed quite that much work since returning, but I have missed due to being sick myself as well as LO. I've been dealing with a pinched nerve since I was pregnant and on Saturday night I moved the wrong way and am barely able to walk. I went to the ER last night and they think it's a disc sticking out of place pressing on a nerve. My boss goes between supportive and annoyed, as well.
Fortunately I have a supportive DH, though I definitely can tell he's aggravated sometimes. Is there any way to get him to understand that sometimes things are beyond "regular stress". It took me realizing that I, as well as everyone around me are adjusting to new roles with LO around (parents, grandparents, etc). Some people adjust differently. Could you approach it from that angle with him?
Well I was offered that job today but it's a pay cut & less hours (that part I wanted). It would be a shift in focus for me from geriatric & healthcare to mental health. If I accept it will prob be more work, I won't even have my own desk let alone office & it's a Longer commute as opposed but I'll be learning & possibly opening the door for more professionally. I'm waiting to hear back on benefits before I decide.
As far as DH goes it's really my worries & insecurities, nothing he has done. He does so much for us. I think it's just been harder right now bc he's been sick too so there's only so much either one of us can do.
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Fortunately I have a supportive DH, though I definitely can tell he's aggravated sometimes. Is there any way to get him to understand that sometimes things are beyond "regular stress". It took me realizing that I, as well as everyone around me are adjusting to new roles with LO around (parents, grandparents, etc). Some people adjust differently. Could you approach it from that angle with him?
As far as DH goes it's really my worries & insecurities, nothing he has done. He does so much for us. I think it's just been harder right now bc he's been sick too so there's only so much either one of us can do.