I have creeped for many months and know the general consensus on gender reveal parties is a big fat no. My best friend, who is hosting the shower, is also a sonographer and will be doing my 20 week anatomy scan. My husband and I have been going back and forth on finding out baby's gender. She came up with the idea of her not telling us at the ultrasound what baby is, and revealing it at the shower somehow. Would this be acceptable? We have already decided to register for gender neutral items so that won't be an issue with us finding out later. My shower won't be huge and it will just be our best friends and closest family if that makes any difference. Thanks for your input!
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Re: Gender Reveal AT the baby shower?
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Maybe it's because I always buy directly off a registry or just do a gift card, but if we weren't going to find out gender at all (gender neutral registry), all the gifts would be gender neutral regardless. If that makes sense? It may just be my laid back nature that I wouldn't even think into it if I was invited to a shower like this. We mostly were just trying to think of "outside the box" ways to find out the gender of our baby. We also love the idea of finding out late into pregnancy, which the shower allows us to do.
Or.... maybe, JUST maybe, the MTB thought it would be a fun thing to do where everyone finds out together.
Because really, by this logic, parents who are waiting until the baby is born to find out if it's a boy or girl, they must only be doing it to MANIPULATE us!!!!
I don't think this is OPs sentiment and OP, since you're finding out at the shower too, I think it could be cute! You know your friends and family best
Lots of people don't buy off a registry. Whether or not they do will not change with revealing the sex of the baby. If they would normally buy clothes, however, this may change what they would want to buy.
It's one thing to be team green so that no one knows the sex until the baby is born, but to wait to reveal it until a gift giving event? It does seem a bit manipulative to me. *shrugs* Not saying that is the intent, but it's how others may view it.
time to buy baby clothes after he/she is born.
I will probably do a reveal and I will most likely know what sex I'm having before everyone else. They don't have to know that and I won't advertise that I know. It won't be a party or anything like that, but probably a cute series of pictures or a video. If you do a reveal at the shower the presents are already bought, so I am not sure how its a manipulative tactic. You might get the same stuff anyway. Folks will buy what they will buy?
If someone is tacky enough to admit that they are intentionally manipulating their guests with sex information about their unborn kid, well then there is more going on with that particular person anyway.
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@antoto Not sure if your question was to me, or to people that attempt to manipulate the gifts they receive. For us, finding out at the shower along with our guests was a way for us to find out at the same time as our closest friends and family. Specifically our moms because both live in Florida (we live in Ohio) and they will be in town for the shower. It also seems like it would be a fun twist on a traditional shower, since it's a surprise that everyone will be finding out (including us) what baby will be.
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I do think it's lame if the parents already know but that's not what Negative Nancy above is saying. I hate when people rip on others for being excited over the sex of their unborn baby or act like they are too cool to care (that's exactly how it comes across). Finding out the sex is pretty fun for lots of people, for many different reasons. It's cool if you don't care, but don't claim people just want attention because they get excited over it.