@Sgoldberg247 that bugged me too. I saw a ton of people commenting with their email addresses and I had literally never seen their usernames before. I pm'd the lady who is running it and got an invite to the group sent to my email but I haven't joined and I honestly probably won't unless, like you said, there's a second branch off created later because of all the usernames I didn't recognize popping up.
Also, I could never put my email address out there in a public forum. Is that just me? Maybe it is because my name is so different and my email address isn't a generic one that I'm a little more careful with it?
@mkemommy yeah I definitely did not feel comfortable putting it out there publicly. I was a little iffy about even pm'ing it to the admin, but my email is relatively generic so I figured it'd be okay.
@Sgoldberg247 With my last BMB there were several Facebook pages that broke out. As we've already seen, there are different personality types on the board so they will naturally break up over time. We originally had about 200 people on our FB group and after the babes were about a year if had dwindled to about 65. People would get it arguments and break off and they'd have followers that would go with them and they'd start their own group. So I guess my point is, I'm sure there will be many more opportunities to join a FB group.
@AmberLiz99 I am so with you on the house guest thing. My in laws live halfway across the country from us and they all wanted to come visit in March. That would be an extra 4 people (total 7 people and 1 dog) in our small 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment. Hell to the no. So now they're still coming but my MIL and FIL will be here for a week and then my SIL and BIL will be here for a week, one week later. Are you kidding me?! So now I will basically be hosting for the entire month with a one week break in between. DH ran the dates by me yesterday and I said I'd prefer if one of them came in February and one came in March and he bit my head off and we got in a fight about it. We haven't talking about it since but my SIL texted that the flight was booked and how excited she is. Soooooo apparently I really didn't get a say in the matter. Super annoyed!!! Sorry that turned into a rant.
@Sgoldberg247 With my last BMB there were several Facebook pages that broke out. As we've already seen, there are different personality types on the board so they will naturally break up over time. We originally had about 200 people on our FB group and after the babes were about a year if had dwindled to about 65. People would get it arguments and break off and they'd have followers that would go with them and they'd start their own group. So I guess my point is, I'm sure there will be many more opportunities to join a FB group.
@AmberLiz99 I am so with you on the house guest thing. My in laws live halfway across the country from us and they all wanted to come visit in March. That would be an extra 4 people (total 7 people and 1 dog) in our small 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment. Hell to the no. So now they're still coming but my MIL and FIL will be here for a week and then my SIL and BIL will be here for a week, one week later. Are you kidding me?! So now I will basically be hosting for the entire month with a one week break in between. DH ran the dates by me yesterday and I said I'd prefer if one of them came in February and one came in March and he bit my head off and we got in a fight about it. We haven't talking about it since but my SIL texted that the flight was booked and how excited she is. Soooooo apparently I really didn't get a say in the matter. Super annoyed!!! Sorry that turned into a rant.
That stinks. I totally get it. Dh agreed to let his sister live here before asking me, so we have had similar "discussions". Good luck!
My likely quite unpopular opinion is I kind of hate that there is already a social media group for the board. I'm not ready to go to my real life accounts yet but will feel super awkward joining a social media group that has been going strong for months and had its own tone and relationships when I don't know anything about most of them since, based on the usernames that posted emails, most haven't really ever interacted here and have been doing their own thing for awhile. I'm fine with them branching off, to each their own, but it kind of leaves the people who are here to participate in TB out in the rain unless we eventually create a second FB group for those who hung around here longer.
Yup, totally agree. Not ready to let other bumpies know my personal information yet, if ever.
@NicknShan I have to agree on the Chipotle thing. I had been holding out this whole pregnancy but I have a confession to make...I had it last night and it was amazing! Now just praying I don't get sick and regret it lol
@PBear93 our Christmas tree is still up too...and won't be coming down yet lol
@mrsschmity I watch Duck Dynasty too! I love the show and it makes me laugh. I agree that I love that they don't change who they are and their values just for a tv show
@Sgoldberg247 I second the FB group thing. I looked to see if the regulars I interact with here joined and didn't recognize most of the users so I decided not to. I agree that it's a good idea to start one later for those of us who are pretty active on here and develop a relationship here first!
@Sgoldberg247 I am with ya on the fb group. I didn't recognize most that joined - and that's OK. My last BMB had three by time the babes were born - the early one, the 6 month mark, and just after babies were born (it was weird the amount of people that joined the board right before babies were due). I don't plan on ever joining this first one. I want to join a group later in pregnancy, not with a bunch of randoms on facebook that never participated anyway and have had a group for months.
and @mkemommy I don't like Facebook, but it helps be stay connected with some people since I moved away. I did a "friends purge" when I reactivated after being away from the darn thing for 2 years, and now I only have family and close friends. No need to know what casual high school or college friends are doing, IMO. It's much more tolerable now.
Darn - I didn't see what happened in July - post gone now?
This reminded me of a possible UO: I think people use the word bully way too freely. Having an opinion that differs from yours, OR disagreeing with you in a direct manner doesn't make someone a bully. If people truly want to end bullying in schools, in the workplace, wherever- make sure that term doesn't become watered-down. It has to have an impact.
It spilt over onto our board, the DD here is just about as good as the one on July, I believe the subject is "..."
Dammit! I missed a good one. And I'll retract my UO b/c clearly I am surrounded by many smart people who know what bullying is and what it's not.
There is an additional post with it on our board too. The title starts with "rude" and then a bunch of running of the mouth.
@PBear93 oh you should've seen the comments! Many people were happy to freely give advice as to what positions worked best for them etc... I was like, if I read this on the bump or whatever its no big deal bc its all pretty anonymous, but to have this out there attached to your name/picture/profile! People have no shame!
@WinniethePoohsPants totally agree with the halo setting. I think it is just "in" for our times. But to each their own. Kind of like names for our babies
I am tired of the all the posts of people complaining their everyone they know if getting married, having babies. SO WHAT? Isn't that what people do as they age? I'm sorry you haven't found your lobster yet, but don't diss on everyone else.
This cracks me up and is so true. DH asked me if I wanted to go to her concert and I had to say no thank you because of this exactly. I couldn't picture her concert being an entertaining experience that I would enjoy. Don't get me wrong I'm a fan of Adele's music and completely agree her single "Hello" is overplayed and then all the remakes from other artists is getting annoying too. I do like the rest of the songs on her CD.
I'll admit, I privately sent my email to join the FB group, I'm waaaaaaay overwhelmed! I was pretty active at the beginning with our bmb, and now I feel like a deer in headlights on the FB group....and don't recognize many people. plus I find myself trying to figure out people real names with their bmb screen names, that's weird right?!
I'll admit, I privately sent my email to join the FB group, I'm waaaaaaay overwhelmed! I was pretty active at the beginning with our bmb, and now I feel like a deer in headlights on the FB group....and don't recognize many people. plus I find myself trying to figure out people real names with their bmb screen names, that's weird right?!
Same here, I joined but I didnt share my Bump name, I'd like to lurk for a while to see if its something I feel comfortable in before sharing my personal info.
Agreed @MsBeachNJ! Plus I wasn't sure if now that I was on there I can't do our bump board anymore, where clearly I feel more comfortable. I guess that's why many seasoned bumpers said to wait on the FB thing:)
Duck Dynasty being labeled as "good family values" is laughable. I don't care that they are rednecks. I do however, care that they are racist and homophobic. They only represent "family values" if you are white christian male.
NOTHING that Duck Dynasty stands for will ever be considered a "value" in my home.
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The show Duck Dynasty has never shown anything that was racist or homophobic. I'm mixed (white and black) and definitely not homophobic. The values I was referring to was the fact that they are a tight knit family and don't hide they're religion. Every episode is ended with them sitting around to have a meal as a family and saying a prayer. I highly value family and God so those are two values I definitely have in my home.
I can't speak for how the family is outside of the show as I don't know them nor do I believe everything I hear from the media. Now if I were to meet them and they turned out to be racist and homophobic I would change my opinion.
I had to google "halo ring" because I'm that clueless about jewelry terms
Me, too! I think they are pretty, but then where does the wedding band go? I like having the wedding band in addition to my engagement ring.
Regarding leashes...I used a SkipHop backpack with a little tether on it for times when we were in crowded places and DD didn't want to be in her stroller. I'm tall, so it saved my back from having to hunch over to hold her hand (plus, she really didn't want to hold my hand!). People can judge all they want. If you're keeping your LO safe and happy, and you're happy with it, then do it! I loved the SkipHop one, too, because it was also a nice little backpack. Super cute.
I'll have to take some time to think of my own UO...stay tuned!
@CourtJack- I learned through my last BMB that if you google your screen name, it brings up everything you've posted, pics, etc. I'm not a troll and I try to keep my comments positive, but I like freely complaining about things without thinking about how it could come back to haunt me.
I just put Daniel Tiger on with hopes that my DS would sit and watch it for a while. Maybe more of a confession but I know it is definitely an UO to some.
As for the Facebook thing I also noticed that most of the people commenting had contributed very little here. Most of them their only posts were on the due date or sex there. I also agree that joining them later when they have had a separate community would be awkward. I hope that when we are comfortable we can just start a new one for the people who have gotten to know each other here.
As for leashes I haven't used one, but I'm not opposed to it. We have never really gone anywhere that was crowded enough that I would feel the need to have one. If we were to go to Disney or something I would likely get one.
I love how so many people on my Facebook are suddenly constitutional law experts, specifically regarding the second amendment. /sarcasm font/
This made me snort-laugh. Thank you. I only joined Facebook two months ago and I actually un-followed my first person a few weeks into it because of this crap.
I still don't get Facebook. I just joined in November at the ripe old age of 34 and people post the most random stuff. One lady I know posts daily (DAILY) pictures of her kid. Her kid is cute and all (does it make me a bad person to qualify that with a "sort of") but I don't need to see your kid every damn day and what new food they tried, how they threw up on you, how being a mom is such a selfless task, etc. I pray to God I will never, ever be that mom.
My sister in law is like that with her son. And what's worse is we also get the same pictures via text message. Daily.
I finally had to unfollow her and put the family group message on silent.
I still don't get Facebook. I just joined in November at the ripe old age of 34 and people post the most random stuff. One lady I know posts daily (DAILY) pictures of her kid. Her kid is cute and all (does it make me a bad person to qualify that with a "sort of") but I don't need to see your kid every damn day and what new food they tried, how they threw up on you, how being a mom is such a selfless task, etc. I pray to God I will never, ever be that mom.
My sister in law is like that with her son. And what's worse is we also get the same pictures via text message. Daily.
I finally had to unfollow her and put the family group message on silent.
Holy hell! A double whammy? I would stage an intervention at that point. Step away from the camera phone people, step away.
I love how so many people on my Facebook are suddenly constitutional law experts, specifically regarding the second amendment. /sarcasm font/
This made me snort-laugh. Thank you. I only joined Facebook two months ago and I actually un-followed my first person a few weeks into it because of this crap.
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Seriously, I had no idea I was friends with so many law professors! Golly gee, where have I been?!
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Sure, have an opinion, be involved. But for goodness sakes people, memes made from rando fox news screen grabs are not facts! Gah. Get ed-u-mah-ca-ted.
I still don't get Facebook. I just joined in November at the ripe old age of 34 and people post the most random stuff. One lady I know posts daily (DAILY) pictures of her kid. Her kid is cute and all (does it make me a bad person to qualify that with a "sort of") but I don't need to see your kid every damn day and what new food they tried, how they threw up on you, how being a mom is such a selfless task, etc. I pray to God I will never, ever be that mom.
My sister in law is like that with her son. And what's worse is we also get the same pictures via text message. Daily.
I finally had to unfollow her and put the family group message on silent.
Holy hell! A double whammy? I would stage an intervention at that point. Step away from the camera phone people, step away. ----
The show Duck Dynasty has never shown anything that was racist or homophobic. I'm mixed (white and black) and definitely not homophobic. The values I was referring to was the fact that they are a tight knit family and don't hide they're religion. Every episode is ended with them sitting around to have a meal as a family and saying a prayer. I highly value family and God so those are two values I definitely have in my home.
I can't speak for how the family is outside of the show as I don't know them nor do I believe everything I hear from the media. Now if I were to meet them and they turned out to be racist and homophobic I would change my opinion.
Thank you @MrsB8215 - The bolded part is what I was referring to when I said it represented family values. I'm really old fashioned when it comes to family time and being proud of who you are, where you came from, etc and I like how the show portrays that. I agree with you...I guess I have never seen anything related to the show that represented them in a bad light, so I wouldn't know anything about the racist/homophobic remarks. Plus, I would rather have my kids watching Duck Dynasty over Keeping up with the Kardashians any day.
A lot of my facebook friends have been getting engaged lately- and it seems like anyone who's gotten engaged within the last 3 years has chosen a halo setting engagement ring. And truthfully, if I'm being completely honest I think they are really gaudy looking. So when I see a girlfriend or relative's new halo engagement ring for the first time in person I always say, "WOW, it's so beautiful!" And I worry that my face looks like this while I'm saying it:
I'm so upset because I got one the spring before halo rings became the "thing" and while I love the ring I hate having something every one else does. I'll never tell H but at times I wish we could get a different one.
My UO, is that pregnancy is a wonderful thing. Do I like it all the time? Nope. But I adore being pregnant and the perks that come with it (people always offering their seats or to carry my stuff etc.) and I love growing a human being and feeling them move. Maybe this is just my second tri talking. I loved it with my first too.
The whole reason there was backlash against Duck Dynasty was because 2 (?) years ago, the grandfather did interviews in which he made racist and homophobic remarks. There was then a lot of evidence that came out that this was typical for the family. You can chose to not believe it and instead just believe what they show on their edited program, that they get to edit, but it all happened.
And you can chose to not care that they think and believe these things. For my family, the lack of respect for other people isn't a value at all (even when it's followed by an "amen".)
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@PressLove@CourtJack The women in this world I consider my closest friends I met on my first bump board. We live across the country but fire round to see each other. I've never met more amazing women in my life. It was not weird at all to meet in person, as much as I was afraid it was a specially with all the TMI that we share throughout her pregnancy is :-) but I can't imagine my life without these people, they are my rock, they are the family that I would choose if I could, and I imagine that being a part of my life forever.
That being said, I do find it unique :-) but I feel blessed to be a part of it.
Finally, I used Siri to write this post, so I hope it makes sense!
I still have my Christmas tree up -- it's so much damn work to put all the Christmas decorations up that we normally keep them up for 8-10 weeks (depending on when we decorate). They are coming down this weekend though.
I have a halo engagement ring, it's not exactly what I would have picked out (and it's a very modest halo that sits almost entirely under the solitaire). Haha. So the hate here for halos makes me sad, but I get it.
I also joined the FB group, but I haven't posted much. I don't have much experience with board groups, but I am happy to hear that there will maybe be other groups breaking out. If everyone joined that first group, it would be overwhelming full. It's good that it's so active right now I guess, but I'm not on facebook a ton so the notifications are overwhelming.
My unpopular opinion: I have an irrational hatred for Benedict Cumberbatch. Like I hate his name, I hate his voice, I hate his face. Hate.
@NicknShan - I that (your experience with your first BMB and the women you met there). Some of the women I've met (including some who I'm planning to meet soon) over at the board I post on at The Knot with my other username are down-right amazing and I love them. They are truly wonderful, kind, supportive and hilarious friends I've known for years and I hope to find some good friends here as well. Goes to show, you never know where you will find a new friend, right?
Add me to the halo club...I absolutely love my ring too. DH picked it out himself with no help or opinions from me and did such a wonderful job. I don't care about trends, I care that it's what my husband picked for me to wear forever.
*lurking from July* Don't hate the halo I love mine my husband picked it out mine is classy and I my wedding band came with it so it fits personally. And no I don't find them gawdy or like costume jewelry and in most cases they aren't huge because the center stone isn't as large and for a couple on a limited income it made him feel like he was able to give me more since we couldn't afford a bigger ring. Just seems unnecessarily judgy...
*lurking from July* Don't hate the halo I love mine my husband picked it out mine is classy and I my wedding band came with it so it fits personally. And no I don't find them gawdy or like costume jewelry and in most cases they aren't huge because the center stone isn't as large and for a couple on a limited income it made him feel like he was able to give me more since we couldn't afford a bigger ring. Just seems unnecessarily judgy...
It's just an opinion, an unpopular one for some (which, given the thread title is kind of expected). I'm not a fan of them. They do look a little costume-y to me and seem super trendy right now. No need to get upset that someone else doesn't like your ring. It isn't everyone's style and with how prevalent they are today it can get a little old seeing something so similar again and again which is what the original post against them was for. In the end, if you like your ring, that's all that matters!
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@AmberLiz99 I am so with you on the house guest thing. My in laws live halfway across the country from us and they all wanted to come visit in March. That would be an extra 4 people (total 7 people and 1 dog) in our small 2 bedroom 1 bath apartment. Hell to the no. So now they're still coming but my MIL and FIL will be here for a week and then my SIL and BIL will be here for a week, one week later. Are you kidding me?! So now I will basically be hosting for the entire month with a one week break in between. DH ran the dates by me yesterday and I said I'd prefer if one of them came in February and one came in March and he bit my head off and we got in a fight about it. We haven't talking about it since but my SIL texted that the flight was booked and how excited she is. Soooooo apparently I really didn't get a say in the matter. Super annoyed!!! Sorry that turned into a rant.
@PBear93 our Christmas tree is still up too...and won't be coming down yet lol
@mrsschmity I watch Duck Dynasty too! I love the show and it makes me laugh. I agree that I love that they don't change who they are and their values just for a tv show
@Sgoldberg247 I second the FB group thing. I looked to see if the regulars I interact with here joined and didn't recognize most of the users so I decided not to. I agree that it's a good idea to start one later for those of us who are pretty active on here and develop a relationship here first!
I am with ya on the fb group. I didn't recognize most that joined - and that's OK. My last BMB had three by time the babes were born - the early one, the 6 month mark, and just after babies were born (it was weird the amount of people that joined the board right before babies were due). I don't plan on ever joining this first one. I want to join a group later in pregnancy, not with a bunch of randoms on facebook that never participated anyway and have had a group for months.
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and @mkemommy I don't like Facebook, but it helps be stay connected with some people since I moved away. I did a "friends purge" when I reactivated after being away from the darn thing for 2 years, and now I only have family and close friends. No need to know what casual high school or college friends are doing, IMO. It's much more tolerable now.
Dammit! I missed a good one. And I'll retract my UO b/c clearly I am surrounded by many smart people who know what bullying is and what it's not.
There is an additional post with it on our board too. The title starts with "rude" and then a bunch of running of the mouth.I am tired of the all the posts of people complaining their everyone they know if getting married, having babies. SO WHAT? Isn't that what people do as they age? I'm sorry you haven't found your lobster yet, but don't diss on everyone else.
NOTHING that Duck Dynasty stands for will ever be considered a "value" in my home.
I can't speak for how the family is outside of the show as I don't know them nor do I believe everything I hear from the media. Now if I were to meet them and they turned out to be racist and homophobic I would change my opinion.
Every time I hear the "Hello" song I think of this-
Regarding leashes...I used a SkipHop backpack with a little tether on it for times when we were in crowded places and DD didn't want to be in her stroller. I'm tall, so it saved my back from having to hunch over to hold her hand (plus, she really didn't want to hold my hand!). People can judge all they want. If you're keeping your LO safe and happy, and you're happy with it, then do it! I loved the SkipHop one, too, because it was also a nice little backpack. Super cute.
I'll have to take some time to think of my own UO...stay tuned!
As for the Facebook thing I also noticed that most of the people commenting had contributed very little here. Most of them their only posts were on the due date or sex there. I also agree that joining them later when they have had a separate community would be awkward. I hope that when we are comfortable we can just start a new one for the people who have gotten to know each other here.
As for leashes I haven't used one, but I'm not opposed to it. We have never really gone anywhere that was crowded enough that I would feel the need to have one. If we were to go to Disney or something I would likely get one.
My sister in law is like that with her son. And what's worse is we also get the same pictures via text message. Daily.
I finally had to unfollow her and put the family group message on silent.
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Seriously, I had no idea I was friends with so many law professors! Golly gee, where have I been?!
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Sure, have an opinion, be involved. But for goodness sakes people, memes made from rando fox news screen grabs are not facts! Gah. Get ed-u-mah-ca-ted.
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#oversharingisnotcaring
My UO, is that pregnancy is a wonderful thing. Do I like it all the time? Nope. But I adore being pregnant and the perks that come with it (people always offering their seats or to carry my stuff etc.) and I love growing a human being and feeling them move. Maybe this is just my second tri talking. I loved it with my first too.
And you can chose to not care that they think and believe these things. For my family, the lack of respect for other people isn't a value at all (even when it's followed by an "amen".)
That being said, I do find it unique :-) but I feel blessed to be a part of it.
Finally, I used Siri to write this post, so I hope it makes sense!
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I have a halo engagement ring, it's not exactly what I would have picked out (and it's a very modest halo that sits almost entirely under the solitaire). Haha. So the hate here for halos makes me sad, but I get it.
I also joined the FB group, but I haven't posted much. I don't have much experience with board groups, but I am happy to hear that there will maybe be other groups breaking out. If everyone joined that first group, it would be overwhelming full. It's good that it's so active right now I guess, but I'm not on facebook a ton so the notifications are overwhelming.
My unpopular opinion: I have an irrational hatred for Benedict Cumberbatch. Like I hate his name, I hate his voice, I hate his face. Hate.
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Don't hate the halo I love mine my husband picked it out mine is classy and I my wedding band came with it so it fits personally. And no I don't find them gawdy or like costume jewelry and in most cases they aren't huge because the center stone isn't as large and for a couple on a limited income it made him feel like he was able to give me more since we couldn't afford a bigger ring. Just seems unnecessarily judgy...