May 2016 Moms

Random-ness for the end of the week

I am in need of a random thread this week and we don't have one. So making one in case anyone else just needs to talk/post but not important enough for it's own post. :)

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  • I am naturally relatively introverted, but wintertime turns me into a real hermit.  I HATE getting dressed in the winter, and never want to leave my house.
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  • I don't want to start a whole thread for this, so I'll just ask here.  Anybody have an extremely dry nose?  I read about nosebleeds, but my nose doesn't actually bleed, it's just incredibly freaking dry.  I am sleeping with a humidifier and it helps somewhat.  Can I cram vasoline up there? It hurts!
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  • I used vicks vapor rub very early in my pregnancy when I had a cold. Check with others or your doc for a clear answer but I don't think it would hurt to use some kind of vasoline/rub.
  • I don't want to start a whole thread for this, so I'll just ask here.  Anybody have an extremely dry nose?  I read about nosebleeds, but my nose doesn't actually bleed, it's just incredibly freaking dry.  I am sleeping with a humidifier and it helps somewhat.  Can I cram vasoline up there? It hurts!
    I have at least 15 kids a day coming into my office with dry nostrils that are cracked or bleeding. The heat in this school is cranked up and the air is super dry! I keep recommending that they drink loads of water, sleep with a humidifier, and, yes, I put some vaseline on a q-tip and gently apply to the nostril.

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  • Y'all. My husband is having very minor sinus surgery this morning so I'm sitting in the (very small) waiting room. There is a lady that is blowing her nose and coughing allllllll over my life. There is no where to move to be away from her. I ignored it for a while until she really started hacking without covering her mouth and so I probably was giving her the side-eye. She looked at me and said she had a very bad cold but was just waiting to pick up someone from a surgery. Wtf? Get out and wait in your damn car until they are ready to go. I can't stand people who bring their sickness around when there are other options.

    Ewww. That's so rude. If I were you I would've said "Well I'm carrying a precious life who doesn't need your nasty germs, please cover your mouth." But I agree, she should've waited outside or elsewhere. I would never sit near a pregnant woman if I'm infected with germs. UGH.
  • @kp90 to be semi-fair, not that I want to be, she may not have realized I'm pregnant since I have a swing dress type thing on and I've been sitting down the whole time but STILL. Damn woman. Take your germs elsewhere. I want to douse myself with Lysol.
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  • I don't want to start a whole thread for this, so I'll just ask here.  Anybody have an extremely dry nose?  I read about nosebleeds, but my nose doesn't actually bleed, it's just incredibly freaking dry.  I am sleeping with a humidifier and it helps somewhat.  Can I cram vasoline up there? It hurts!

    Yes!! I use coconut oil for this and it has been so much better.
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  • It's pie night out with my group of mom friends. I'm the one that doesn't live in the area so have to drive 45 minutes to get there. We meet at 7:30. The restaurant closes at 10pm but I usually leave closer to 9 as I am soooooo not a night person and have the longest drive back home.

    I just don't want to go. I'm a bit of the "odd one out" in my group of friends. Two of the big things being they are all night owls and I'm a morning person and I'm a bit of an introvert and they are all extroverts (mostly, I am really drained by having to go be social and they all thrive on it). I've had a cold for almost 2 weeks now and it is currently back in the "I feel miserable" stage again so I'm probably going to skip out.

    I just don't feel the need to get dressed, drive over there, have to listen to that one friend monopolize the entire conversation, eat mediocre pie, get teased for leaving early, drive back with my lovely bad night vision, then be worthless all of tomorrow.

    I feel like a bad friend but totally going to use the fact that the cold has returned as an excuse to stay home in my pjs tonight.
    AHH! QBF!

    I totally feel ya on the whole not-wanting-to-go-out thing. I am also the more introverted in the group and would much rather do something fun during the day (brunch at a nice restaurant with live music, afternoon at the museum, potluck lunch at my house etc) with one or two friends than go to a restaurant late in the evening with a huge group. And with a cold?! Please! There is no way I would be getting out of my PJs! I have learned that it is ok to forgo the big group meetings and maybe just hang out with a few from the group. We have this group of 9 mommy friends (we all met through our prenatal class with our firstborns) and only 2 of us are currently pregnant again. Sometimes I organize a big get-together with all the mommies and kids (usually at my house, I am such a homebody!). but mostly I just chat with all of them on group text or FB messenger. There are 2 other ladies who I am really close with within the group and we do hang out on a semi-regular basis, but it is always playdates with our kids (our three 2 year olds are super close and love each other so much!) or we do a babysitting swap where we will watch each others' kids for date nights, appointments, etc. The kids get to play with their buddies and the mommies get a break. But I don't know if I could do a more regular big social gathering. Too emotionally, socially, and physically exhausting!

    So I say to you, stay home, cuddle up in your PJs with some nice tea or cocoa and don't feel bad one bit!

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  • My randomness is baby Cole (whom I'm pregnant with now). He seems to bop me at the most random times. TMI but he loves to go crazy when I am using the restroom. Wth baby...

    Oh and also, today is my last day of work this week and I have nothing to do. This should be a LOOOONG day.

  • ^ agreed. I feel like once I had DS, I will meet for lunch anytime but I do not go out at night. Night is for being lazy in sweats. Plus going out totally screws up bedtime.
  • Seriously...we're only 4 days in...my husband's January hours can kiss my butt. I'm going crazy already. The kids are grouchy Cuz they miss daddy, I'm still nauseous, I have a cold from hell...

    And the bump is my only adult social interaction throughout the day. I'm losing my mind.
  • I really want some pie now.
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  • I really want some pie now.

    I had the oreo or chocolate pie from burger king yesterday. It was ahhhmazing. Baby was doing all kinds of dance moves afterward.
  • I'm wondering if I should invite my exMIL to my baby shower. Quick backstory: she watches my 8 year old daughter after school everyday. So I see her everyday. My ex is kind of a douche so I've always kind of shared custody with my exMIL. We have a good relationship. Hasn't always been easy with going through the divorce, etc. But she is supportive of my husband and I. She got us a wedding gift, Christmas presents. My mom asked if I was going to invite her. My initial thought is no because it's for mine and my new husband's baby. While she's supportive, it might be awkward for her. 
  • js8812 said:
    I'm wondering if I should invite my exMIL to my baby shower. Quick backstory: she watches my 8 year old daughter after school everyday. So I see her everyday. My ex is kind of a douche so I've always kind of shared custody with my exMIL. We have a good relationship. Hasn't always been easy with going through the divorce, etc. But she is supportive of my husband and I. She got us a wedding gift, Christmas presents. My mom asked if I was going to invite her. My initial thought is no because it's for mine and my new husband's baby. While she's supportive, it might be awkward for her. 
    I would invite her and just give her a heads up that the invitation is coming.  Tell her you want her to feel included, but there is no pressure or expectation for her to attend.
    I agree, and if she feels awkward she can always decline the invitation.
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  • Work is incredibly frustrating and stressful right now. I'm working with a dev manager who is the biggest twat waffle ever and I can't stand him. It makes my days miserable. I am counting down the days to maternity leave where I will be away for several months. I will refuse to work with him when I get back. Luckily my doc appt isn't today, otherwise my blood pressure would probably be sky high.
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  • js8812 said:
    I'm wondering if I should invite my exMIL to my baby shower. Quick backstory: she watches my 8 year old daughter after school everyday. So I see her everyday. My ex is kind of a douche so I've always kind of shared custody with my exMIL. We have a good relationship. Hasn't always been easy with going through the divorce, etc. But she is supportive of my husband and I. She got us a wedding gift, Christmas presents. My mom asked if I was going to invite her. My initial thought is no because it's for mine and my new husband's baby. While she's supportive, it might be awkward for her. 
    I would invite her and just give her a heads up that the invitation is coming.  Tell her you want her to feel included, but there is no pressure or expectation for her to attend.
    I agree, and if she feels awkward she can always decline the invitation.
    This is true. I can do this. 
  • laurenmdrn16 If the cold hadn't come back....again, I'd be tempted to stay home but would go. Or if I only had to drive 10-20 minutes like the rest of them. There's only 5 of us tonight so not too awful with a big group. We do play dates with all the kids once every other month or so. One of the other moms and I do a weekly kid swap so I do get two mornings a month to myself. Which is amazing!

    Since I am the only one out of the group that is really not into getting together at night, no one else really "gets it" so I just feel a little bad backing out.

    My DD this morning tucked me in, brought me my book and water, gave me her special monkey, sang me lullabies, then went off to play quietly. I think that is a much better way to spend the day instead of trying to get all my chore stuff done, take a shower, make dinner early, etc. all so I can go do something I'm only "eh" about to begin with....all while not being able to breath and coughing all the time.

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  • kp90 said:
    More randomness. My SO just surprised me at work with flowers, chocolates and balloons for my birthday. Happy happy girl right now.

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  • I really want some pie now.
    I want some good pie. The pie at the only place open late that the moms are going to tonight isn't wonderful to begin with then by the end of the day, it's really not great. I want pie from the big truck stop near where I went to college. Now that was good pie! I'm not very good at making pie. It's fine but not amazing.

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  • Seriously, ok, I just need to bitch. We had our reveal party on Sunday. Baby boy #3. Last baby. While my husband and I admittedly both wanted a girl, we're happy to be having another boy and are still considering our family complete. If ONE MORE PERSON tells me how disappointed they are that this one is not a girl I am going to punch them in the throat! Like wtf guys?! Sorry we didn't live up to your expectations. Grow up. Move on. And stop asking if we're still done having kids. Yes. We are "still done". This one having a penis doesn't cancel out needing a bigger car and all the extra expense of a 4th baby. Not to mention a 4th c section I will totally pass on thanks. We dealt with the fact that our little girl will not be making an appearance and I get that others will need that time too. But seriously? Bombarding me and my husband about how disappointed you are is just unnecessary and it's pissing me off.
    This is SO RUDE.  I can understand people being internally disappointed if you had all boys and wanted a girl, or vice versa, but I seriously cannot fathom telling someone else that I was disappointed about the sex of their baby.  You have three healthy babies, that's more than a lot of people get.  
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  • kp90 said:
    More randomness. My SO just surprised me at work with flowers, chocolates and balloons for my birthday. Happy happy girl right now.

    Happy Birthday!!

    @sarawifenow Thank you!:)
  • Getting deep on this one - Sometimes I feel like a shitty AF wife because I have a full time job. I missed my husband pinning on Major this past summer due to work, and today I'm missing his final flight at this base before we move. "Fini's" are a big deal where the spray the pilot with a hose and champagne after his flight, and then he buys the squadron lunch. Usually the wife hosts this portion and invites everyone, but I have a meeting. He never makes me feel bad about it or missing out on things. But, for example, we had a long talk about his pinning on Major. I asked him 100 times over if this is a big deal that I should be there for, and he said no. Fast forward, and I tell the wives at the next get together, and they tell me that it is a big deal, and the wife always pins on his new rank. I love him for not making me feel bad, but it actually makes me feel worse because he was so unselfish by sacrificing the sentiment of the occasion to not stress me out. I know today is the same sort of thing. Ugh.

    I also am having to fly out to my mom's house to work from her home leaving my husband to handle the move. And it makes me so mad because all I want to do is be part of it. I am going to miss closing on our first home, I won't have that time to prep it before our things arrive, ect. And now I've been added to the FB group for spouses in our next location, and of course, all of their get togethers are during working hours.

    I feel like the guilt is going to get even worse when the baby comes because my kid will be in daycare while their kids will be getting together for fun activities while the other spouses bond with each other. The fact is, I don't have to work. He makes enough money for us to do just fine with the basics and an occasional date night, etc, but I like bringing in a paycheck. Most of the time, it's fine. But during times like this, I feel so selfish.

  • @missnc77 Don't let the guilt get to you. I've never experienced military stuff first hand and I've also never been a work outside the home mom but as someone who often has to say no to things due to budget, I get the guilt of missing out. Just know that as long as it works for you, your DH, and your child, that is what matters. If DH isn't upset then it is nothing to be guilty about. :)

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  • Another one! We have three cats, two of which are strays that have adopted us (ironically, I'm really not a cat person but am married to one). The two former strays are going in to get spayed early February as I finally found a place that does low cost cat fixing once a month and that was the earliest I could get in. They fill up months in advance as they do not require certain income requirements, certain locations only, etc.

    Meanwhile, one of them is in heat again. She has a long heat compared to the other one. I'm not sure who is more annoyed with her right now: me or the cat that is already spayed. I'm annoyed with the constant noise during the day and it waking me up at night. But it is downright hilarious to watch her stalk the already spayed cat. Fixed cat tries to ignore her then gives up and turns around and smacks her then tries to walk off...but in heat cat keeps stalking her anyway.

    27 more days and neither of us will have to deal with this again. So close...and yet so far.


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  • jessiedee13jessiedee13 member
    edited January 2016



    Seriously, ok, I just need to bitch.

    We had our reveal party on Sunday. Baby boy #3. Last baby. While my husband and I admittedly both wanted a girl, we're happy to be having another boy and are still considering our family complete.

    If ONE MORE PERSON tells me how disappointed they are that this one is not a girl I am going to punch them in the throat! Like wtf guys?! Sorry we didn't live up to your expectations. Grow up. Move on. And stop asking if we're still done having kids. Yes. We are "still done". This one having a penis doesn't cancel out needing a bigger car and all the extra expense of a 4th baby. Not to mention a 4th c section I will totally pass on thanks.

    We dealt with the fact that our little girl will not be making an appearance and I get that others will need that time too. But seriously? Bombarding me and my husband about how disappointed you are is just unnecessary and it's pissing me off.

    This is SO RUDE.  I can understand people being internally disappointed if you had all boys and wanted a girl, or vice versa, but I seriously cannot fathom telling someone else that I was disappointed about the sex of their baby.  You have three healthy babies, that's more than a lot of people get.  


    ---edit for qbf---
    People are so ridiculous! First, they throw a 2 year old style temper tantrum over us not telling right away and making them wait for the party...then they turn around and outwardly voice their disappointment? Who freaking does that?! Seriously, I dealt with gender disappointment with BOTH of my other boys and it made me feel like a piece of shit. The last thing I need, especially since I'm not even one ounce disappointed this time is other people informing me that THEY are disappointed! Why? Why are YOU so disappointed that WE arent having a girl? We're having healthy baby boy number 3. He has a name, we already refer to him by it. What's the big deal?

    Whoo ok I actually feel better now!
  • Seriously, ok, I just need to bitch.

    We had our reveal party on Sunday. Baby boy #3. Last baby. While my husband and I admittedly both wanted a girl, we're happy to be having another boy and are still considering our family complete.

    If ONE MORE PERSON tells me how disappointed they are that this one is not a girl I am going to punch them in the throat! Like wtf guys?! Sorry we didn't live up to your expectations. Grow up. Move on. And stop asking if we're still done having kids. Yes. We are "still done". This one having a penis doesn't cancel out needing a bigger car and all the extra expense of a 4th baby. Not to mention a 4th c section I will totally pass on thanks.

    We dealt with the fact that our little girl will not be making an appearance and I get that others will need that time too. But seriously? Bombarding me and my husband about how disappointed you are is just unnecessary and it's pissing me off.

    I would be so mad if they came right out and said they were disappointed! How rude! No one has told us that they are disappointed, but I'm really tired of people asking and assuming that we'll have another one because this will be our 2nd girl. DH really wants to have a boy but that obviously isn't going to happen and everyone else needs to get over it. I'm not having another kid just to try to have a boy when we could just as easily end up with 3 girls and neither one of us has ever wanted 3 kids. So annoying!
  • Seriously, ok, I just need to bitch.

    We had our reveal party on Sunday. Baby boy #3. Last baby. While my husband and I admittedly both wanted a girl, we're happy to be having another boy and are still considering our family complete.

    If ONE MORE PERSON tells me how disappointed they are that this one is not a girl I am going to punch them in the throat! Like wtf guys?! Sorry we didn't live up to your expectations. Grow up. Move on. And stop asking if we're still done having kids. Yes. We are "still done". This one having a penis doesn't cancel out needing a bigger car and all the extra expense of a 4th baby. Not to mention a 4th c section I will totally pass on thanks.

    We dealt with the fact that our little girl will not be making an appearance and I get that others will need that time too. But seriously? Bombarding me and my husband about how disappointed you are is just unnecessary and it's pissing me off.

    I would be so mad if they came right out and said they were disappointed! How rude! No one has told us that they are disappointed, but I'm really tired of people asking and assuming that we'll have another one because this will be our 2nd girl. DH really wants to have a boy but that obviously isn't going to happen and everyone else needs to get over it. I'm not having another kid just to try to have a boy when we could just as easily end up with 3 girls and neither one of us has ever wanted 3 kids. So annoying!
    Why is everyone's reaction to hearing someone is having a second child that's the same sex as their first to say "you can always try for a third". Right, because kids and the resources to support them grow on trees. And stfu, I love the idea of having two boys/two girls even if apparently no one else does.
  • With the whole "needing one of each sex" issue, when I announced we are having a girl, everyone has remarked "Oh good! One of each. Now you are all set!" Wait, what?! So if this one was a boy we would be obligated to try for a girl? And we weren't planning on having a "set"...we are having children and expanding our family, not collecting dolls or something. We were going to be two-and-through no matter what so it really didn't matter if we had two boys, two girls, one of each, or whatever! But for some weird reason, other people are oddly interested in the symmetry of having one of each or the idea of experiencing raising both a girl and a boy.

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  • missnc77 said:
    Getting deep on this one - Sometimes I feel like a shitty AF wife because I have a full time job. I missed my husband pinning on Major this past summer due to work, and today I'm missing his final flight at this base before we move. "Fini's" are a big deal where the spray the pilot with a hose and champagne after his flight, and then he buys the squadron lunch. Usually the wife hosts this portion and invites everyone, but I have a meeting. He never makes me feel bad about it or missing out on things. But, for example, we had a long talk about his pinning on Major. I asked him 100 times over if this is a big deal that I should be there for, and he said no. Fast forward, and I tell the wives at the next get together, and they tell me that it is a big deal, and the wife always pins on his new rank. I love him for not making me feel bad, but it actually makes me feel worse because he was so unselfish by sacrificing the sentiment of the occasion to not stress me out. I know today is the same sort of thing. Ugh.

    I also am having to fly out to my mom's house to work from her home leaving my husband to handle the move. And it makes me so mad because all I want to do is be part of it. I am going to miss closing on our first home, I won't have that time to prep it before our things arrive, ect. And now I've been added to the FB group for spouses in our next location, and of course, all of their get togethers are during working hours.

    I feel like the guilt is going to get even worse when the baby comes because my kid will be in daycare while their kids will be getting together for fun activities while the other spouses bond with each other. The fact is, I don't have to work. He makes enough money for us to do just fine with the basics and an occasional date night, etc, but I like bringing in a paycheck. Most of the time, it's fine. But during times like this, I feel so selfish.

    @missnc77I don't think you are a bad spouse for having your own career. I can't speak from experience, but I have a number of friends with spouses currently in various branches of the military, and a number of them (mostly the wives) have given up their careers to move every couple of years to a new location.  While some of them are fine with being SAHMs or not having careers of their own, it has caused a lot of tension and resentment with others.

    I am not familiar with military ceremonies and the social expectations surrounding them, but I know that MH and I have each missed "big" events in one another's careers (receiving/presenting awards, attending the other's professional events, etc.) because of conflicting professional obligations of our own.  It's never easy to miss something important to him, and I always try to be there if possible, but I don't let myself feel guilty about it if I can't make it.  I don't think it's selfish to miss your spouse's event because of your own prior commitments.  It's not like you were sitting at home and just blowing it off. 
  • My random is mostly bil's wedding related as it is this Saturday.
    My soon to be sil wanted me to meet her sister last night. Her sister interrogated me. Makes me wonder what sil has told her.

    On the same note H surprised me by setting up an appointment to get my hair done for the wedding!
  • As I am packing up to head home from the office, I just noticed a sticky note on my computer that just says "Almost..."

    It is in my handwriting and I have absolutely no idea what the crap it is supposed to mean. This is going to drive me bananas! 

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  • I've been having this rumbling in my left ear on and off this entire pregnancy. It is killing me! But yesterday, I realized that if I pushed anywhere on the left side of my neck, it stops. Is this normal?! Lol
  • My randomness is baby Cole (whom I'm pregnant with now). He seems to bop me at the most random times. TMI but he loves to go crazy when I am using the restroom. Wth baby...

    Oh and also, today is my last day of work this week and I have nothing to do. This should be a LOOOONG day.

    Maybe he's saying "thanks for emptying your bladder and giving me more room to play mom!"
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