@noelietrex I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. I haven't felt that way during either pregnancy (so far with this one) BUT I absolutely felt lonely and isolated after having my first child. Especially during my maternity leave.
I mean, it's just you and a baby, for one... but also, when there were others around, I found breastfeeding to be rather isolating. Some of that is my own hangup, but where I live I don't feel like I ever see people BF in public, so you really have to cover up or go somewhere private. And I found it hard to get DD to latch with a big cover on. So I was going off to separate rooms from parties or when we had people over at our own house just to feed my kid. I'm going to give less fucks this time around, or so I say.
Also, I barely had any pregnant or mom friends either. But now I do, so that makes a big difference. I would definitely see about befriending pregnant ladies from any other hospital classes you take or look on sites like meetup.com for new moms groups. I'm sure you'd be welcome at some of them starting now! And then you'd have a leg up on mom friends for later.
@mandyjulie - I felt exactly the same way as you, in all aspects. I felt very awkward breastfeeding in public so I basically stayed inside the whole time I was on maternity leave. It was really, really isolating. I also didn't have many pregnant/mom friends, either and didn't really have anyone to talk to. The community I'm in right now is mostly SAHMs and they weren't very welcoming to a working mom which really hurt me. All of the events were during the day, too. Anyway, I identify completely with you and I'm hoping to avoid these things the second time around!
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@noelietrex@Taymiller Let's do something on the weekend sometime! My mom is in town this weekend, but after that I'm good.
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Yes!!! I would love that! And if it is the weekend I don't have to bring Murphy! Adult time
I love this idea!! PM me anytime and I'm down for meeting. I'll start looking up who serves the best virgin cocktails around Denver...
@stellaluna14 I think it's going to be really important to make mommy/parent friends like PP's have mentioned. Like you I thought all my friends would be happy and think this was great news and want to participate. When my friends from college or best friend who lives way across the country got pregnant, I was so excited for them and wanted to hear all about it anytime they wanted to share. I guess everyone doesn't feel that way... Also I've found my DH takes it as criticism when I tell him he can't understand or that I feel lonely so I'm just trying to enjoy things we can both enjoy and discuss feelings more here or privately in my journal. You don't happen to live in Colorado do you? Check Facebook for local mom groups too- I found 3! Feeling much more positive after the suggestions here
@noelietrex I'm not in denver, I'm in Portland. But I have family in Denver, what a beautiful place! I think I'm going to reach out more to the people I do know with kids, I'm not close with many but I'm going to try, at least to have someone to talk to.
I know it's not Wednesday anymore, but my 2 year old has hand, foot and mouth disease and today I have chills, a fever, and a sore throat. Not cool, universe. Not cool.
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That is beyond dumb!
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Thanks!