@PinkLady2015 The birthing center I use required me to do an orientation class and also an early pregnancy class so far. I should have chatted up the other pregnant women more... There are tons of breast feeding classes, birthing classes and newborn care classes that anyone can take though- most hospitals offer some classes for pregnant women and new parents. La Leche League is a free nursing group that pregnant women are encouraged to attend too. Also there's always prenatal yoga! Though fair warning it was pretty dull for women who still have tiny bumps and aren't really limited in range of motion yet.
@simplymizzj I will probably stay inside but more so I want to make sure that I get a routine down. Hopefully I can take some walks or something but I don't expect myself to walk around much.
Are you also Chinese? Have you been told that you need to eat either A) Boiled chicken or B)Pigs feet with ginger for the 30days? My mom tried to tell me that I have to, and I just ignored her and shrugged her off
@PinkLady2015 The birthing center I use required me to do an orientation class and also an early pregnancy class so far. I should have chatted up the other pregnant women more... There are tons of breast feeding classes, birthing classes and newborn care classes that anyone can take though- most hospitals offer some classes for pregnant women and new parents. La Leche League is a free nursing group that pregnant women are encouraged to attend too. Also there's always prenatal yoga! Though fair warning it was pretty dull for women who still have tiny bumps and aren't really limited in range of motion yet.
crap, I suck. Is it bad I can't even start to think this far (I know it's not far) ahead? I feel like I'm just going to have a baby attached on one hip and my ipad on the other you-tubing "how do I swaddle?" "why won't my baby stop crying" "why won't I stop crying" "how can I make DH cry?" "How do I breast feed?" "when will I be able to do cobra pose?" My high-risk OB place offers a lot of stuff and the only thing I kept was the brochure on prenatal massage!
Ladies with headaches everyday.. my Dr prescribed me to fioricet for mine. It works so fast and I don't have to take it everyday where as if I wasn't taking it I had to take something everyday. Idk if it's an option for everyone but my experience has been great with it!
I got this also and it is like a whole new life! I am headache free for the first time in months
@PinkLady2015 The birthing center I use required me to do an orientation class and also an early pregnancy class so far. I should have chatted up the other pregnant women more... There are tons of breast feeding classes, birthing classes and newborn care classes that anyone can take though- most hospitals offer some classes for pregnant women and new parents. La Leche League is a free nursing group that pregnant women are encouraged to attend too. Also there's always prenatal yoga! Though fair warning it was pretty dull for women who still have tiny bumps and aren't really limited in range of motion yet.
crap, I suck. Is it bad I can't even start to think this far (I know it's not far) ahead? I feel like I'm just going to have a baby attached on one hip and my ipad on the other you-tubing "how do I swaddle?" "why won't my baby stop crying" "why won't I stop crying" "how can I make DH cry?" "How do I breast feed?" "when will I be able to do cobra pose?" My high-risk OB place offers a lot of stuff and the only thing I kept was the brochure on prenatal massage!
I expect each and every one of us to google "Why won't my baby stop crying" at least once! Prenatal massage sounds so much better than breastfeeding class...
Thanks you guys! I love this board. I wish we could all go have lunch and disagree about all the things in person. I don't really have a plan other than text friends and try not to mention anything about being pregnant and see if they'll hang out with me before my bedtime (9pm). And just try for extra cuddles with DH I guess, remembering that he probably feels as left out as I feel alone and uncool. Having pregnant friends would be amazing- I should go to people's houses and poke holes in their condoms! Or maybe just be more outgoing at prenatal classes... Glad to hear I'm not alone with feeling this way though. I don't know what I'd do without the BMB- feel like even more of a weirdo freak lol
@chanfa yes, I am Chinese also. Regarding the food - I heard about the pig's feet, but I didn't eat that. Instead, for the first 30 days, I was forced to eat everything ginger, ginger, ginger. I didn't mind a little ginger but when every meal consist of ginger, I was getting sick and tired of it real quick. My mom also told me that I had to practically be on bed rest the entire month to heal properly. I just ignored her. It's bad enough I have to stay indoors, but to be stuck in the bedroom all day, everyday - no thanks!
@noelietrex I'm so sorry you're feeling that way. I haven't felt that way during either pregnancy (so far with this one) BUT I absolutely felt lonely and isolated after having my first child. Especially during my maternity leave.
I mean, it's just you and a baby, for one... but also, when there were others around, I found breastfeeding to be rather isolating. Some of that is my own hangup, but where I live I don't feel like I ever see people BF in public, so you really have to cover up or go somewhere private. And I found it hard to get DD to latch with a big cover on. So I was going off to separate rooms from parties or when we had people over at our own house just to feed my kid. I'm going to give less fucks this time around, or so I say.
Also, I barely had any pregnant or mom friends either. But now I do, so that makes a big difference. I would definitely see about befriending pregnant ladies from any other hospital classes you take or look on sites like meetup.com for new moms groups. I'm sure you'd be welcome at some of them starting now! And then you'd have a leg up on mom friends for later.
@simplymizzj yea... I won't do any of that either haha. My mom can try to force me but I'm sure I will be just fine. So many women of other cultures don't do it and they don't have issues, it's not like it only affects us haha
Yes to the loneliness. Nothing to add, but I feel ya. Yes to the headaches. I had fioricet last time and it is a miracle worker! The headaches just started last week, so I plan on asking about it next appt. WTF SIL. She's so toxic and just straight up evil, I can't stand it. Today I got worked up talking to my mom about how she told me last week that I looked 6 months pregnant and insinuated I was stupid when she was a guest at my house on Christmas. And that I had just seen my bracelet in her bathroom and don't have the sanity to confront her about it. Her klepto sister lived with us for a short time and stole thousands of dollars worth of stuff from me, but SIL still fights with me over it as though she's the victim bc she ended up with a bunch of my stuff. It's ridiculous. I hate them all. Oh and also, she's in her 30s living off my parents. If I could cut her out of my life, I would. But I love my niece and nephew. I've never had anyone affect me like this.
Thanks ladies for the laughs in this thread (I like to think I'm laughing with you so please don't take it as I'm laughing at you!).
My wtf for the day is this miserable cold that I have and I called my dr to find out what I can take and I feel like I got conflicting information from the pamphlets I was originally given so now I'm not taking anything and I just feel shitty. Oh and I'm out of town for work until Friday so that's cool.
My wtf is to the U.S. government who seems to be confused if I am a citizen or not. Mind you I have never even lived out of Ohio! I'm trying to finalize my financial aid for grad school and am stuck in the process bc the Feds need to validate my citizenship.
@noelietrex I feel the loneliness all the time and all of my friends have kids! I keep reaching out to them to see how they are and what is going on in their lives and they keep blowing me off. I am the only one who works full time and it seems the only one who wants to be an anytime friend. Plus DH has been out of town the past week so I have been super emotional. Idk what I would do without this board for support and advice.
@AAAG13@noelietrex I think I expected my friends with kids to be more supportive. Some of them have been AMAZING, but some of them seem a little annoyed at me, like they're upset they've lost the friend with the flexible schedule who loves a glass of wine on a Tuesday. I'm trying not to talk about pregnancy baby stuff with people unless they bring it up, but I still find myself grasping for the connection sometimes.
WTF to my fiance and our friend. I came downstairs after taking a shower to find them cleaning up glass from our now broken ceiling fan. How'd it break? They were fighting with the lightsabers they just got in the mail. Just....why.
WTF to my fiance and our friend. I came downstairs after taking a shower to find them cleaning up glass from our now broken ceiling fan. How'd it break? They were fighting with the lightsabers they just got in the mail. Just....why.
I would have just ripped the sabers from their hands and said 'Complete your training, you must'.
this is what I get for trying to finish a show I started months ago. I was so bored today and the one second I occupy myself the crazy train pulls into the station.
@noelietrex YES. I have been so lonely lately. My husband is wonderful but he can only do so much for me and doesn't completely understand, though he certainly tries. My friends have totally disappeared, I guess when I'm not drinking they don't find me very interesting. I'm sorry you are going through this too, it's been rough. I was trying to explain it to my husband the other night and I think I just envisioned my first pregnancy differently. I'm happy and feeling positive, but I just imagined more friends being excited and supportive and wanting to be a part of it. Maybe that's selfish, but it's been a rude awakening. I feel like I'm making everyone so uncomfortable.
I wasnt looking forward to going back to work tomorrow, after the holidays. I was just glad that I didn't have to start until 11:30am. Well, my boss called me from the airport in CA (we live in WA), and said "The kids have been up since 3am, and we wont be landing until 11pm. We decided not to send them to preschool tomorrow, so we are going to need you to be at work at 8am." Ummmm....for real? I remember the last time they took this trip, when the kids were a year old, and not only were their schedules completely screwed up (because their parents didn't have them on one at all for several weeks), but they were a nightmare to deal with. It took me almost a month to get them back to "normal". I can only imagine what they are going to be like tomorrow (now age three) after spending all of that time traveling, being up almost 24 hours, and I know that their parents are going to wake them up at 6am.....which means they are going to have piss poor attitudes by the time I get there at 8am (which isn't their fault, but still sucks really bad).
My fingers are crossed that they take LONG naps tomorrow. Nothing like a 10 hour day, with two three year olds that are so tired that they hate life.....
Re: WTF Wednesday
Are you also Chinese? Have you been told that you need to eat either A) Boiled chicken or B)Pigs feet with ginger for the 30days? My mom tried to tell me that I have to, and I just ignored her and shrugged her off
crap, I suck. Is it bad I can't even start to think this far (I know it's not far) ahead? I feel like I'm just going to have a baby attached on one hip and my ipad on the other you-tubing "how do I swaddle?" "why won't my baby stop crying" "why won't I stop crying" "how can I make DH cry?" "How do I breast feed?" "when will I be able to do cobra pose?" My high-risk OB place offers a lot of stuff and the only thing I kept was the brochure on prenatal massage!
Gotta get out of this funk!
I mean, it's just you and a baby, for one... but also, when there were others around, I found breastfeeding to be rather isolating. Some of that is my own hangup, but where I live I don't feel like I ever see people BF in public, so you really have to cover up or go somewhere private. And I found it hard to get DD to latch with a big cover on. So I was going off to separate rooms from parties or when we had people over at our own house just to feed my kid. I'm going to give less fucks this time around, or so I say.
Also, I barely had any pregnant or mom friends either. But now I do, so that makes a big difference. I would definitely see about befriending pregnant ladies from any other hospital classes you take or look on sites like meetup.com for new moms groups. I'm sure you'd be welcome at some of them starting now! And then you'd have a leg up on mom friends for later.
Yes to the headaches. I had fioricet last time and it is a miracle worker! The headaches just started last week, so I plan on asking about it next appt.
WTF SIL. She's so toxic and just straight up evil, I can't stand it. Today I got worked up talking to my mom about how she told me last week that I looked 6 months pregnant and insinuated I was stupid when she was a guest at my house on Christmas. And that I had just seen my bracelet in her bathroom and don't have the sanity to confront her about it. Her klepto sister lived with us for a short time and stole thousands of dollars worth of stuff from me, but SIL still fights with me over it as though she's the victim bc she ended up with a bunch of my stuff. It's ridiculous. I hate them all. Oh and also, she's in her 30s living off my parents. If I could cut her out of my life, I would. But I love my niece and nephew. I've never had anyone affect me like this.
My wtf for the day is this miserable cold that I have and I called my dr to find out what I can take and I feel like I got conflicting information from the pamphlets I was originally given so now I'm not taking anything and I just feel shitty. Oh and I'm out of town for work until Friday so that's cool.
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@noelietrex I feel the loneliness all the time and all of my friends have kids! I keep reaching out to them to see how they are and what is going on in their lives and they keep blowing me off. I am the only one who works full time and it seems the only one who wants to be an anytime friend. Plus DH has been out of town the past week so I have been super emotional. Idk what I would do without this board for support and advice.
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I need to try and make some new friends.
My fingers are crossed that they take LONG naps tomorrow. Nothing like a 10 hour day, with two three year olds that are so tired that they hate life.....