I couldn't get the baby to sleep in the hospital and so I pressed the "nurse" button and told her I didn't know what to do because he wouldn't sleep in the hospital bassinet (this was my 3rd night there and I hadn't really slept since I checked in during labor). The night nurse laughed and said there isn't a baby on the entire floor that is asleep in the bassinet and she proceeded to show me how to co-sleep safer and got him latched to me, because per my nurse, "it is the ONLY way I'd get any sleep tonight!"
I have since told my husband I think that "safe sleep methods" are safe because no newborn has actually slept using these methods. I still resist bed sharing but DH will only tolerate so much fussiness trying to get the baby to sleep in his bassinet before he cuddles DS to sleep, I only mildly protest that he isn't supposed to be in our bed.
I did almost change a poopy diaper in the hospital but the baby was sleeping and the nurse said why on earth would you wake a sleeping baby to change a diaper? Lesson learned so no guilt here over the diapers unless it has been 3 hours.
Sometimes I just have DH bottle feed expressed milk and I pump just because I'm tired or my boobs hurt. Bottles only get warmed up enough for the fat to mix back into the breastmilk.
I let my son fall asleep on me and stay there during the day instead of putting him down. I could put him down and then either take a nap or get other things done in the house, but I'd rather just snuggle with him.
I didn't realize it was Thursday and almost missed his two week appointment. Luckily they were still able to see me even though we were 45 minutes late.
I also had to use tap water to fill his bottle since the water I originally had in the bottle spilled all over the diaper bag. In my rush to get out the door I didn't think to bring a spare so it was my only option besides letting him scream while we waited for 45mins for the doc to come.
I don't wake her up just to change her diaper but I do it every time Before breastfeeding her and if it's really necessary which is all the time this Minnie me can go for days.
I don't talk to her much. I know that's actually really bad but I don't speak much in general. I write my thoughts down and she can't read yet so... I play a ton of documentaries. To compensate. And I've started reading books to her. My parents babbled at her constantly and it drove me bananas. I just like to hold her. I like to speak when there's something to say. I tell her I love her constantly so I guess that's good.
I am so sleep deprived that I accidentally just let my sleeping 10 day old go nearly 6 hours without nursing. I set an alarm, but I think when it went off I turned it off in my sleep. I feel pretty crappy, but she did eat from 5 pm - 10:30 pm almost constantly.
Oh this totally happened to me in the first week. Such a dead sleep i slept through 2 alarms. LO is 3.5 weeks now and thriving!
Well for starters according to the lactation specialist I'm a bad mom because I switched from Breast feeding to formula within the first week of giving birth. I had an emergency c section and was only home two days when I was readmitted to the hospital for my c section incision bleeding and being tested for an infection at my incision and I didn't have enough milk pumped at that point to have a stock and the doctor on duty when I was admitted said I couldn't breast feed until my cultures came back clear. However I was told later I could have continued to pump. However while I miss the bonding with my lil man switching to formula has been successful.
I guess I'm bad mom also because when I came home from the hospital the second time I was put on medicine that knocked me out cold at night and my husband has been the one up doing night feedings until 2 nights ago when I stopped the medication.
I could also be a bad mother because when I was released the second time from the hospital I came home with a wound vac and I wouldn't change my lil man's diaper because I was afraid I'd get tangled in my cords.
I also let my 3 week old sleep while he's asleep and don't wake him for feedings. I've talked to our pediatrician and he says our lil man is healthy and there's no worries with letting him sleep 4-6 hrs through the night because he'll let us know when he's hungry. I have gotten slack on this and let it go in one ear and out the other. I myself slept thru the night at 6 weeks old and I turned out fine.
Baby is less then 48 hours old and I really want to give him a soother when we are out of the hospital. I know it's bad, but he likes to suck to sooth and sometimes I just want to put him down. I'm trying to EBF but I think it will be OK!
Baby is less then 48 hours old and I really want to give him a soother when we are out of the hospital. I know it's bad, but he likes to suck to sooth and sometimes I just want to put him down. I'm trying to EBF but I think it will be OK!
We did it and my LO is fine. He also gets a bottle of pumped milk once a day and will still take to the boob like a champ
I am a bad mom for taking my 3 week old to a packed mall. I had intense eye pain & my optometrist is in the galleria... I couldn't see well enough to drive myself to the appointment so SO came and brought the baby (too short of notice to find a sitter, & I'm ebf)... turns out I have a corneal ulcer. An ulcer. On my eye. Guess my body's been under some stress.
I am a bad mom for taking my 3 week old to a packed mall. I had intense eye pain & my optometrist is in the galleria... I couldn't see well enough to drive myself to the appointment so SO came and brought the baby (too short of notice to find a sitter, & I'm ebf)... turns out I have a corneal ulcer. An ulcer. On my eye. Guess my body's been under some stress.
Damn my kid is already a mallrat at 3 weeks. It's the only place outside the house I have the energy to go. And jack's a dull boy when i can't get out of the Overlook once in awhile. (You'll either get that movie reference or think I'm insane) We take walks when it's not too cold. And it usually is. I keep her covered and safe but yeah. We go out, guys..
Baby is less then 48 hours old and I really want to give him a soother when we are out of the hospital. I know it's bad, but he likes to suck to sooth and sometimes I just want to put him down. I'm trying to EBF but I think it will be OK!
You're probably fine, but if you want to EBF the comfort nursing will help establish your supply so keep that in mind!
DD was in her bouncy seat while I did dishes today, and she kept spitting out her pacifier and screaming. I wedged Sophie the Giraffe into the bouncer so that it kept the pacifier in her mouth. I'll probably do it again.
I'm a bad mom because my baby loves Breaking Bad. When he hears the intro he will strain until he can see the TV, I think he finds Walter's voice soothing.
Ahh the thread makes me a happy bad mommy. I convince myself in the night what I know are poops are dry farts and don't change him. When my boobs are sore and he falls asleep after the first side in the night I don't burp him and try to wake to see if he wants second side, we go back to sleep. I hold him All. The. Time. When SO family visits I am secretly happy when he's hungry when the inlaws are holding him and I get to take him away. We've been going out of the house since he was less than a week old! I let anyone hold him! If he starts to cry when I'm in the shower I sometimes just yell "mommas coming!" til I finish my shower routine
My DD got her 2 month shots last week and after the first shot, of course, she started screaming. They quickly did the second shot in the other thigh, she stopped crying for about 1 second, her eyes got huge, and then she started screaming again! I thought it was so cute and such a funny reaction that I started laughing at her! Poor thing... At least she won't remember.
My DD got her 2 month shots last week and after the first shot, of course, she started screaming. They quickly did the second shot in the other thigh, she stopped crying for about 1 second, her eyes got huge, and then she started screaming again! I thought it was so cute and such a funny reaction that I started laughing at her! Poor thing... At least she won't remember.
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I totally laughed at Henry when he got his shots. Poor little boy sounded exactly like an angry barn owl.
The other day dd finally fell asleep for a nap on my chest. I sneezed and got a booger on my hand. I didn't dare move to get a Kleenex because she'd wake, so I wiped my hand on the back of her sleeper. I wiped a booger on my baby. A booger.
I'm a bad mom because DD is 5 weeks old and I've only stayed home with her maybe 5 days total. I can't stay in the house all day or I'll go crazy.
According to my mother I am spoiling her to me by getting her when she cries to nurse her, which is also a clutch I'll admit, but one I am happy to have. I am not sure what other people do to soothe her when I am not around as I just pop a boob in her mouth. She hates the paci.
I, too, convince myself that her sharts are just farts so I don't have to change her diaper.
Poor LO has bad reflux and spits up a lot and gets into her hair which I wipe out but then it's matted, but I don't wash it everyday.
I know she is gassy sometimes but won't even consider cutting things out of my diet.
I take advantage of DH sometimes and make him wait on me hand and foot while I'm nursing even though I could easily do it myself. (Guess that makes me a bad wife)
I'm so scared to watch DD get her shots. There are 3 shots and a liquid vaccine. My mom is refusing to go with me.
It's quick, I've done Immunizations before, nursing while they are done is comforting. Ask how much Tylenol you can give after, based on weight, will ease babe a bit
I just have to share this story because it's too funny not to. It's more my DH is a bad Dad... We always joke that DD is a baby bird when she's hungry because she pecks at anything near her. Well, I had a bag of gummy worms on the end table beside the chair in the family room. DH was sitting there pretending to feed her worms and DD accidentally stuck her tongue out really fast and touched the end of the worm (that had a bite of it)... DH said her eyes got huge, like she tasted real food and was amazed... He then ate the worm in front of her and she literally lost her $hit! She was crying so hard like "why did you eat my worm?!?" I joked with him that he literally took candy from a baby!
I'm a bad mom because sometimes I don't feel like carrying her around. I love when visitors want to hold her. I'm paranoid about her having a perfect head so I feel guilty everytime she's in her rock n play.
I I too have wiped a booger on myself or her blanket to avoid waking her!
Im a bad mom because I sometimes feel annoyed when she has been nursing for more than 20 minutes and I'm tired.
I gave up putting more peanut butter on the same cracker repeatedly for DS and gave him a glob off a plastic fork. He ate a few fork fulls, fingerpainted the TV stand, licked it off, and when the peanut butter was gone ate the crackers he'd discarded on the floor once he realized they were just an elaborate peanut butter delivery device.
DS decided to lay all of his 20 lbs on DD while I was holding her. She got the biggest grin ever like she thought it was funny so I let it happen. I also let him poke her tongue for the same reason.
Sometimes when I know DS needs a diaper I wait until I can take advantage of nursing to have someone else change him. A lot of these times DD is asleep on my nipple and not even eating.
I put DD in a sleeper and she wore it that night, the next day and then last night... She was cold last night so I didn't want to change her! And she hadn't spit up in herself so, whatever.
Sometimes mine wears the same clothes for 2...sometimes 4 days before I change him. If there's no bodily fluids and the outfit doesn't stink, then I don't worry. And by outfit I mean onesies. He only wears pants when we leave the house. He hates pants.
The only reason I change her clothes on a daily basis (assuming no blow outs, vomit, etc) is an attempt to establish a routine. Is it helping? I have no idea. Does it make me feel less guilty about removing tags from all if the clothes we got? Yes.
I'm a bad mom because while in the middle of changing her diaper she sharted in the new one and I just wiped up the poo on the new diaper and used it. I also stuck my finger in her bottle once to test the temperature and completely spaced out. Never again!
@andreaAL11 I did the same thing this morning. Almost had the new diaper all the way on and she sharted. Wiped it off her and there was such a small amount on the diaper I didn't want to waste it. I wiped it off and put it back on.
Later I changed her diaper and forgot, left her in the pack n play with her onesie still shoved up around her ribs as I got DS up from his nap and gave him his juice. When I came back she was just grinning and cooing like I'd been there the whole time.
I'm a bad mom because I was nursing Nico this morning and I accidentally dropped my phone on his legs and scared the crap out of him. Literally. He jumped and farted at the same time. Then I laughed.
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I have since told my husband I think that "safe sleep methods" are safe because no newborn has actually slept using these methods. I still resist bed sharing but DH will only tolerate so much fussiness trying to get the baby to sleep in his bassinet before he cuddles DS to sleep, I only mildly protest that he isn't supposed to be in our bed.
I did almost change a poopy diaper in the hospital but the baby was sleeping and the nurse said why on earth would you wake a sleeping baby to change a diaper? Lesson learned so no guilt here over the diapers unless it has been 3 hours.
Sometimes I just have DH bottle feed expressed milk and I pump just because I'm tired or my boobs hurt. Bottles only get warmed up enough for the fat to mix back into the breastmilk.
I also had to use tap water
Well for starters according to the lactation specialist I'm a bad mom because I switched from Breast feeding to formula within the first week of giving birth. I had an emergency c section and was only home two days when I was readmitted to the hospital for my c section incision bleeding and being tested for an infection at my incision and I didn't have enough milk pumped at that point to have a stock and the doctor on duty when I was admitted said I couldn't breast feed until my cultures came back clear. However I was told later I could have continued to pump. However while I miss the bonding with my lil man switching to formula has been successful.
I guess I'm bad mom also because when I came home from the hospital the second time I was put on medicine that knocked me out cold at night and my husband has been the one up doing night feedings until 2 nights ago when I stopped the medication.
I could also be a bad mother because when I was released the second time from the hospital I came home with a wound vac and I wouldn't change my lil man's diaper because I was afraid I'd get tangled in my cords.
I also let my 3 week old sleep while he's asleep and don't wake him for feedings. I've talked to our pediatrician and he says our lil man is healthy and there's no worries with letting him sleep 4-6 hrs through the night because he'll let us know when he's hungry. I have gotten slack on this and let it go in one ear and out the other. I myself slept thru the night at 6 weeks old and I turned out fine.
Also, I will often finish a text or what I'm typing before stopping her crying.
I convince myself in the night what I know are poops are dry farts and don't change him.
When my boobs are sore and he falls asleep after the first side in the night I don't burp him and try to wake to see if he wants second side, we go back to sleep.
I hold him All. The. Time.
When SO family visits I am secretly happy when he's hungry when the inlaws are holding him and I get to take him away.
We've been going out of the house since he was less than a week old! I let anyone hold him!
If he starts to cry when I'm in the shower I sometimes just yell "mommas coming!" til I finish my shower routine
Oh, and sometimes I'll prop up her bottle with a blanket so I can get something done. I'm so bad.
According to my mother I am spoiling her to me by getting her when she cries to nurse her, which is also a clutch I'll admit, but one I am happy to have. I am not sure what other people do to soothe her when I am not around as I just pop a boob in her mouth. She hates the paci.
I, too, convince myself that her sharts are just farts so I don't have to change her diaper.
Poor LO has bad reflux and spits up a lot and gets into her hair which I wipe out but then it's matted, but I don't wash it everyday.
I know she is gassy sometimes but won't even consider cutting things out of my diet.
I take advantage of DH sometimes and make him wait on me hand and foot while I'm nursing even though I could easily do it myself. (Guess that makes me a bad wife)
I I too have wiped a booger on myself or her blanket to avoid waking her!
Im a bad mom because I sometimes feel annoyed when she has been nursing for more than 20 minutes and I'm tired.
Love this thread!
Am I a bad mom for saying that I am glad I'm not alone?
DS decided to lay all of his 20 lbs on DD while I was holding her. She got the biggest grin ever like she thought it was funny so I let it happen. I also let him poke her tongue for the same reason.
Sometimes when I know DS needs a diaper I wait until I can take advantage of nursing to have someone else change him. A lot of these times DD is asleep on my nipple and not even eating.
I laugh at DD when something startles her. She doesn't cry or anything, she just flings her arms above her head. It's the cutest thing I've ever seen.
Later I changed her diaper and forgot, left her in the pack n play with her onesie still shoved up around her ribs as I got DS up from his nap and gave him his juice. When I came back she was just grinning and cooing like I'd been there the whole time.
Eta: forgot words