I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
That's a bit silly IMO. What's the difference if they're already living alone and move in together - they'd have stuff x2 already anyway. Should they not register either?
I would also refuse to buy a couple house stuff if they each had their own place and are moving in together. I actually hate wedding registries in general. I didn't like making one when DH and I got engaged, even though we would be moving into our own place together for the first time after the wedding. My biggest thing is when a couple has been living together for a long while, gets engaged, and then asks for all new stuff on their wedding registry. You have stuff. Instead of a new videogame or clothes each month, buy a new toaster!
I only give sentimental gifts for weddings. I hand make the couple a Christmas ornament that uses their invitation and elements from their wedding (my gift is always late, but it kind of has to be). DH laughs at me because I'm a kleptomaniac at weddings, but the stuff ends up going back to the couple in their ornament.
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
That's a bit silly IMO. What's the difference if they're already living alone and move in together - they'd have stuff x2 already anyway. Should they not register either?
I would also refuse to buy a couple house stuff if they each had their own place and are moving in together. I actually hate wedding registries in general. I didn't like making one when DH and I got engaged, even though we would be moving into our own place together for the first time after the wedding. My biggest thing is when a couple has been living together for a long while, gets engaged, and then asks for all new stuff on their wedding registry. You have stuff. Instead of a new videogame or clothes each month, buy a new toaster!
I only give sentimental gifts for weddings. I hand make the couple a Christmas ornament that uses their invitation and elements from their wedding (my gift is always late, but it kind of has to be). DH laughs at me because I'm a kleptomaniac at weddings, but the stuff ends up going back to the couple in their ornament.
I just donated a bunch of "unique" and "sentimental" gifts to Goodwill that I got for my wedding. They were ugly and not at all my style.
I give cash, but IMO, registries are to avoid "special" gifts that don't match anything else in your house or you have no intention of ever using.
I also feel like people don't generally register for things that they do not want/need. IE: If they already have XYZ that they like, they're not going to ask for another XYZ, and if they do, that's their choice, I don't really care. Like PP said, it's about what the person wants, not what I want. I appreciate personal gifts from people who know me well, and I love home made ornaments, but I got so many random photo frames at my wedding which I happily regifted at a later date because I had no want/need. As far as weddings go, I, like @sarahufl, just give cash.
I also feel like people don't generally register for things that they do not want/need. IE: If they already have XYZ that they like, they're not going to ask for another XYZ, and if they do, that's their choice, I don't really care. Like PP said, it's about what the person wants, not what I want. I appreciate personal gifts from people who know me well, and I love home made ornaments, but I got so many random photo frames at my wedding which I happily regifted at a later date because I had no want/need. As far as weddings go, I, like @sarahufl, just give cash.
I've always thought giving picture frames was weird, too. I only give ornamenta to couples I know really well who I know will use them. Otherwise, I'm the jerk who shows up empty handed to a wedding. I usually try and make up for it by volunteering to help with set up/break down or by house sitting/pet babysitting.
If a couple has already been living together for a while, or on their own (I'm not sure why this was mentioned...do you expect people to live with their parents up until marriage), then they have more of a reason to register for gifts. These people will already have a toaster or maybe two. What's the big deal anyway? People don't HAVE to buy gifts off the registry, but I like to because it makes it easier to decide what to get them. I'm not sure why the couple's previous living situation would mean they don't need any house stuff either. Lots of single people or young couples use cheap, crappy stuff that could need replacing.
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
Very well-said. 100% agreed.
Also two people who lived alone, or even recently moved in together before marriage, may have cheapie IKEA things that they bought in college. Their homes are usually a mixed bag of things that don't match at this point, and they are using their registry as an opportunity to acquire more adult home goods.
Who are we to tell them "no, you already lived on your own, so I REFUSE to buy you things from your registry and help you upgrade your life so everything in your new house matches".
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
I think that couples who already live together should not make a wedding registry. You already love together and have stuff! I'm not buying you new things for your place just because you decided to tie the knot!
Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
Very well-said. 100% agreed.
Also two people who lived alone, or even recently moved in together before marriage, may have cheapie IKEA things that they bought in college. Their homes are usually a mixed bag of things that don't match at this point, and they are using their registry as an opportunity to acquire more adult home goods.
Who are we to tell them "no, you already lived on your own, so I REFUSE to buy you things from your registry and help you upgrade your life so everything in your new house matches".
DH and I love IKEA
DH and I always get really sappy when we finally buy things ourselves versus having it gifted to us. We never were attached to any of the gifts we got at our wedding (even the stuff DH really "wanted" and registered for), but we're extremely sentimental about the things that we purchased together.
DH is really excited to buy house things again. We garage saled a ton of stuff since we were going to be moving back in with my parents for an unknown amount of time to save up for a house, but that plan has been derailed thanks to our happy little oops baby.
I love weddings where the couple asks for you to make a donation to charity in their name instead of a gift, since they already have stuff.
ETA: My UO: I haven't seen any of the Star Wars movies and I really couldn't care less about this new movie.
I was going to post the same UO. Everyone I seem to know is OBSESSED with seeing the new movie. I literally didn't know a new one was coming out until a few weeks ago. I saw the first couple prequels and they were TERRIBLE. I don't get the hype.
ETA: My UO: I haven't seen any of the Star Wars movies and I really couldn't care less about this new movie.
I was going to post the same UO. Everyone I seem to know is OBSESSED with seeing the new movie. I literally didn't know a new one was coming out until a few weeks ago. I saw the first couple prequels and they were TERRIBLE. I don't get the hype.
Ha, I don't think that even the most die-hard Star Wars fans will argue that the prequels were TERRIBLE. I might quibble with you that you need to really up the profanity quotient (FUCKING TERRIBLE SHITFESTS seems more appropriate), but I certainly won't defend them. They hype is based almost exclusively on people's love of the original trilogy, and any hope we have for the sequel is despite the prequels.
Yes, thank you for clarifying exactly how terrible they were. I hope whoever invented the Jar Jar Binx character is still being punished.
I'm not gonna lie, George Lucas spends a lot of time in my city, and every now and again I'll meet someone who claims to have seen him on the street. My first question is always, always, "Did you punch him in the face?"
On the topic of sick people getting others sick... I swabbed a 8year old boys throat for strep and asked him to cover his mouth when he coughed as I was getting the test ready to go. He refused and I looked at mom and said " if he doesn't cover his mouth when he coughs here he's going to have to wear this mask " her response was " he can't help it"..
umm wtf do you mean ? Are his arms broke ???
So as I swabbed his throat he coughed on my face and didn't apologize and mom didn't give 2 shits. Kid was positive for strep and this was 2 days ago. I was so mad I could have exploded.
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I would've made the mom wear a mask too. Can I say cunt here? She was a cunt.
fbanke42 Does it offend you to have people say they are praying for you? I am very religious, and I feel that from my perspective, that is something I have to give-that I am offering something that matters to me. It in no way obligates them to pray. My best friend is an atheist, and also has more integrity than anyone else I know (probably more of a Humanist technically), but she is as accepting of my right to believe as I am of hers. I have had several atheist friends and I do ask if they mind me praying for them, and each has said no, so I just wondered.
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fbanke42 Does it offend you to have people say they are praying for you? I am very religious, and I feel that from my perspective, that is something I have to give-that I am offering something that matters to me. It in no way obligates them to pray. My best friend is an atheist, and also has more integrity than anyone else I know (probably more of a Humanist technically), but she is as accepting of my right to believe as I am of hers. I have had several atheist friends and I do ask if they mind me praying for them, and each has said no, so I just wondered.
@yodiggity Oh, holy jesus do I love woot.com. It's a dangerous place to browse, but their descriptions are always hilarious and I've found so many good deals. I also agree with you that it isn't only ridiculous to drop that kind of money on a diaper bag, but any bag at all or piece of clothing to be truthful. I work really hard, and I can't imagine saving up that much to drop on something that most likely isn't going to last forever. I'd rather put it into my home, or towards our savings for the baby future fund.
Re: UO!!
I only give sentimental gifts for weddings. I hand make the couple a Christmas ornament that uses their invitation and elements from their wedding (my gift is always late, but it kind of has to be). DH laughs at me because I'm a kleptomaniac at weddings, but the stuff ends up going back to the couple in their ornament.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
I give cash, but IMO, registries are to avoid "special" gifts that don't match anything else in your house or you have no intention of ever using.
Like I said, this is my unpopular opinion
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences. Meh. We didn't register (partly because we were engaged for only two weeks, partly because we had no wedding guests, and partly because we truly didn't want any gifts), but I can see the use in it for anyone who has a bridal shower, or even for anyone who has a wedding where they'll likely receive gifts. Not everyone loves tchotchkes, and even those who do might find that dozens of them are overwhelming. Your ornaments sound lovely, and if I were to receive one I'd thank you wholeheartedly, (because I'm not a cretin and I can recognize the value of someone's time and effort)... but since my husband and I don't actually put ornaments on our tree, it would likely just gather dust in a box somewhere and take up space we don't have. Despite our requests for no gifts at all, we still ended up with several picture frames and figurines and decorative plaques that we will never use (several of which, because they are personalized, can't be returned or passed along to someone who might actually appreciate them). While we appreciate the sentiment behind the giant sign with our names on it, we'll never display it. If we had fifty wedding guests and everyone went a similar homemade or sentimental route, that'd be a lot of stuff we wouldn't use and would have to store or otherwise dispose of.
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
Very well-said. 100% agreed.
Also two people who lived alone, or even recently moved in together before marriage, may have cheapie IKEA things that they bought in college. Their homes are usually a mixed bag of things that don't match at this point, and they are using their registry as an opportunity to acquire more adult home goods.
Who are we to tell them "no, you already lived on your own, so I REFUSE to buy you things from your registry and help you upgrade your life so everything in your new house matches".
A wedding registry, much like a Christmas list or a baby registry, gives potential gift-givers an easy way to ensure that the gift they give will be appreciated by and useful to the couple. Because yeah, the new bridge and groom might have plenty of flatware and a semi-functional blender between the two of them already, but that doesn't mean that it matches or is in the kind of condition where it wouldn't be nice to have it replaced with something that's likely to actually last for the next 15 to 20 years. Wouldn't insisting that they be delighted by whatever it is you want to give them be rather rude, compared to giving them something that you know would delight them? After all, if you're going to give a gift, it seems more thoughtful to focus on the needs and wants of the person to whom you're giving, rather than on your own personal preferences.
Very well-said. 100% agreed.
Also two people who lived alone, or even recently moved in together before marriage, may have cheapie IKEA things that they bought in college. Their homes are usually a mixed bag of things that don't match at this point, and they are using their registry as an opportunity to acquire more adult home goods.
Who are we to tell them "no, you already lived on your own, so I REFUSE to buy you things from your registry and help you upgrade your life so everything in your new house matches".
DH and I love IKEA
DH and I always get really sappy when we finally buy things ourselves versus having it gifted to us. We never were attached to any of the gifts we got at our wedding (even the stuff DH really "wanted" and registered for), but we're extremely sentimental about the things that we purchased together.
DH is really excited to buy house things again. We garage saled a ton of stuff since we were going to be moving back in with my parents for an unknown amount of time to save up for a house, but that plan has been derailed thanks to our happy little oops baby.
I love weddings where the couple asks for you to make a donation to charity in their name instead of a gift, since they already have stuff.
I love you... That is all.
Also I did not get sick luckily