WTO Tuesday

LittleMissTimeLord · December 2015

Month/Cycle:

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GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

iceandsnowflakes29 · December 2015

Whoops ! Ignore mine it's a duplicate!

iceandsnowflakes29 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 2

CD:

WAYDTGKU: everything

R/R/CS: The crazy has set in. I repeat the crazy has set it. My temps are not lining up with the positive opks and this is FF'S predicted FW and I'm skeptical. So I'm officially requesting a ***CHART STALK***

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

I breastfeed.

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JRB3 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 5/5

CD: 10

WAYDTGKU: opk right now... Just can't bring myself to temp this cycle but I promise I'll start tomorrow!!!

R/R/CS: opk this morning actually seemed a little lighter than yesterday but there is no way I could have Oed yet, will temp to confirm. Just getting tired of it. Part of me feels like we are going to need medical intervention. I really don't see myself getting pregnant naturally.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? Hmmm that's a good one... Eventually I will be more open with my daughter about sex. My mom wasn't and I think I would have made better decisions in my younger floozier stage! I think I made that word up! Ha!
Edit for spelling

ShallowSeas · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 13/14

CD: 10

WAYDTGKU: all the things

R/R/CS: My FW starts tonight

Really hoping this is our month so that I don't have to start tx with my RE...but if its not at least I'll be receiving help and will hopefully be KU soon.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? My parents fought a lot when I was younger and eventually divorced when I was 14. Its very important to me that DH and I not fight like my parents did and especially won't fight around our kids. DH and I are so laid back that we don't really even fight. We have disagreements but we never raise our voices at each other and thats something I would like to continue on into our parenting.

sldp123 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 6/6

CD: 13

WAYDTGKU: Temping, OPKs, PNV, maybe sex would help.

R/R/CS: DH had his SA yesterday, he said it was awkward. He was really concerned that everyone there "knew" what he was doing, lol. I tried to tell him that they are used to it and it's an every day thing there, but it didn't seem to help. Can't say I blame him, but oh well, it's over. Now just more waiting. I should O in the next day or two I think, but now DH has a stomach bug and I am not feeling so great myself so I really don't know if this is going to happen. I contemplated taking this month off from actively trying anyway, since we were starting testing and I just kind of wanted a break from stressing over it. But now I feel like if we find out there is nothing wrong, I will be mad that we wasted a month.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? My parents were awesome and I had a really good childhood, so I don't know. Most things I can think of are just a function of things being different these days. Like I used to be able to play outside for entire days with the neighbor kids with no adult supervision, and I don't let DS do that.

ShallowSeas · December 2015

@sldp123 DH said the same thing about his SA! I had so many questions for him about it. I was like, "Are there magazines AND movies? Just one or the other? Are they old magazines or newer ones? What are the rooms like?" FX for good results! Do you know how long it should take before you receive the results?

kfair001 · December 2015

@iceandsnowflakes29, I actually don't know if my mom breastfed or not come to think of it! I'm going to find that out. I plan to breastfeed as well. I say 'plan' because I've had a lot of close friends have a lot of trouble breastfeeding.

@JRB3, Being open with your kids about sex is something that I think is SOOOO important!!! My mother was so open and honest with me about sex and I think it had a lot to do with my I waited (longer than most of my friends). My family didn't make it into some taboo topic that no one talked about which I think is so important and I also hope to be that way with my children so that that line of communication is always open and they don't feel uncomfortable coming to you for advice.

Month/Cycle: 2/2 (only 1 OPK & BBT)

CD: 8

WAYDTGKU: OPK, BBT, BD ED starting today

R/R/CS: So, just when I thought my chart was looking like a 'normal' chart, I had a huge temp dip this morning. A whole degree! Not sure why still learning what all of this means. I'm assuming, and i hope that you ladies can help me, that this would be a temp that I would discard? **Chart Stalk**

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? Similar to @severmilli12, my parents fought a lot as well. It wasn't all the time but there were certainly some rough patches that my brother and I were fully aware of at a young age. That's something I really want to keep my children away from as well. Luckily my parents' fighting wasn't bad enough to have any long term effects on my brother or I. They did persevere and work through things where they have a great relationship now and have been married for 30 years which I think is pretty awesome in this day and age! The work they put into their relationship is commendable and something that I hope my DH and I will continue to do throughout our lives but I want to make sure that my future children are kept away from the bickering and fighting when it does happen.

Edit: Combined my two posts.

joyful08 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 6/(2nd cycle ttcal)

CD: 5

WAYDTGKU: waiting for AF to get outa here!

R/R/CS: this was my first AF after my loss. It's weird and not normal as expected and it's taking much longer to leave then normal. I just want it to leave to get this next cycle going!

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

My parents never really educated us on things like sex, how insurance works, buying a house, credit etc... All that adulty stuff so DH and I were going in blind to everything. We def want to teach our kids all about that stuff.

kfair001 · December 2015

iceandsnowflakes29 · December 2015

Sorry forgot the chart

iceandsnowflakes29 · December 2015

@kfair001 my biggest advice is to start off with a lactation consultant from DAY ONE.

My second advice is to feed on demand. Whether that is every 5 hrs or every 5 seconds.

And lastly do not fall into the "I'm not making enough milk" mentality.

sarah0985 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 8/7

CD: 20

WAYDTGKU: cm, temp, and sex

R/R/CS: I THINK I'll be expecting a high temp tomorrow? Had some pain on my right side (regular for me) which I'm HOPING was ovulation. I've gotten cysts before too so not entirely sure. Haven't seen my husband in quite some time but will tonight so hoping that it's not too late.

If this is ovulation, for the second month in a row, my cm doesn't line up AT ALL! But I'm getting ahead of myself. Will see what the next few days bring.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?
Stay married? When it came time to be married, I honestly had no point of reference. My parents divorced when I was 3 and while they were awesome co-parents and best friends, I had no idea HOW to be married. I didn't really understand compromise in this extreme. Bless my husband. He's the most patient person and has really been with me while I figured out how to actually share my life. I never watched anyone do that up close so it was honestly really difficult for me.
Honestly other than that, I would love to raise my children the same way I was. I had a happy childhood and feel like I was a well-adjusted child. I grew up with discipline, support, and the right amount of freedom to make my mistakes and learn from them.
I do wish to be more open about finances. I was taught to be frugal (certainly didn't grow up with a lot of money) but in terms of what to do with the money that's saved, I had/have no guidance from them. I'd love to be open with my hypothetical children about investments and savings.
I also hope I won't allow my kids to quit sports as easily. As most children are, my interests were fleeting once I hit high school but I wish my parents pushed me a little more to not quit soccer and swimming (9 years) They didn't want to force me to continue so allowed me to stop but I regretted it a few years later. especially when college came around and scholarships could have been a possibility. I wont force my children to do something they hate or don't want to do, but I want to make sure they're doing things for the right reasons and have discussions about it.

sldp123 · December 2015

@severmilli2 I asked DH about it too. He said they just had magazines and it was not a special room, just a regular one with two chairs and a mirror on the back of the door, haha. He was pretty horrified about it all. But he texted me from the waiting room, and then he called me when he left and it was not a long time in between, so it couldn't have been that bad, lol. They said it will take about a week to hear the results.

@iceandsnowflakes29 It's hard to tell anything at this point, it looks like today could maybe be O day but you will have to see what your temps do over the next few days. It looks like you had a temp shift already, but I don't think CD8 is realistic for O so hopefully you will see another spike/shift over the next several days.

kfair001 · December 2015

@iceandsnowflakes29,Thanks for the advice, I'll certainly keep that in mind! I didn't know that you could go for a lactation consultation.

britters314 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 4/4

CD: 15

WAYDTGKU: Temping, BD ED/EOD

R/R/CS: Well, it seems something must have delayed ovulation this month (which is upsetting because I'm ready for a break from "forced" sex). My fertile CM is pretty much gone but my temps haven't gone up.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

I want to do most things the same as my parents. One thing I plan to do differently is homeschool my kids (at least until high school). My mom had wanted to do that or private school, but couldn't afford private school and didn't know how to start homeschooling. I'm a teacher, so I guess I already have an advantage that she didn't have.

JustBored10 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD: 15

WAYDTGKU: Sex, Checking CM and Cervix, OPk's

R/R/CS: Cervix was very soft last night and while walking around I felt "wet" sure enough I had EWCM which I still have this morning. Boobs are also a little tender. Hoping today is my O day!

LittleMissTimeLord · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 3/3

CD: 14

WAYDTGKU: BBT, OPK, PNV, CM, Naked Stuff

R/R/CS: Last night was the most awkward of all the TTC adventure so far. We were both too exhausted to get it in but knew with the +OPK that it was go time. And we're trying ED instead of EOD this FW so we're both ready for a nap. Skipping tonight and getting it in tomorrow as a safety net. We ended up laughing hysterically about how awkward trying to make a baby is as we tried to get in the mood last night. When it was over I said "third time's the charm" and he put his hand out for a fist bump (and we blew it up obv). I'm glad we can laugh about it all.

GTKY: It's important to me that we have regular family vacations. My dad was always at work and my family never had much money, so I want to make sure we have the means to travel with our kid. Or, if we hit hard times, to find a way to have quality staycations. Part of why we plan to be a OAD family (for now) is because financially we want to be able to see and do a lot with our kid.

Lecool · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 2/2

CD: 13

WAYDTGKU: Temping & CM

R/R/CS: FW time

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? It's definitely important for me to have a good work/life balance. My parents split when I was still really little (no memories of them being together at all), and both worked a ton of hours. My sister and I lived with our mom and spent 75% of our time in day care, and then when we did have time with Mom, she was so exhausted and stressed out that any little thing would set her off. I spent my whole childhood/teens just thinking my mom was a raging bitch. Now, I understand the emotional stress and pressure she was under. One of the reasons I stay at my current job is that I have opportunities to work from home and have a very flexible schedule, which will be great for spending the most time possible with future kiddos while still being able to have a full time career.

I also agree with @sarah0985 and @joyful08 in that I want to be sure to teach our kids about adult-y things, especially finances. My parents aren't the best with money, and it's taken me years to learn and develop good financial habits.

picklesplease · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 4

CD: 15

WAYDTGKU: All of the things. It's getting a little tedious. I have a new-found respect for the women on here who have been trying for years.

R/R/CS: My OB has told me that he wants me to come in after the holidays if I'm not KTFU by January. I worry that he's going to recommend that I start taking Clomid without trying to monitor. I've heard that other doctors in the same office have done that in the past. But what worries me is what will happen if he refuses to refer me to an RE or a RS when I tell him that I want to be monitored while on Clomid? I'm all kinds of nervous about it. I've heard of horrible things happening. But I'm also frustrated because he is the first OB that I've had that has listened to my concerns and not made me feel like I'm being irrational for knowing that something is going on. God forbid a woman know her body...

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

I agree with needing to be more open with my kids about sex. DH is way more conservative than I am and is worried that, by telling them about sex, it is like condoning it. I keep reminding him of people I know who decided to wait longer to have sex because they have more information. I'd rather have my kids make well-informed decisions than to be impulsive and not know that they could be hurting themselves (or their partner).

I just want to be more open with my kids so that they feel like they can talk to me about what's going on with them, and that they will know I'm not judging them. I love my parents, but they always made me feel such shame for not making the exact same decisions they made. I don't know if it was intentional, but they really knew how to pile on the Catholic guilt. I don't want to do that to my kids. I want them to grow and learn from their decisions, even if it's hard to watch.

ShallowSeas · December 2015

@sldp123 that's funny. My DH was not a fan of the appt either. He said it was pretty awkward and everyone else in the waiting room had their partner with him. His room had magazines and a movie already cued up and ready to press play lol.

LittleMissTimeLord · December 2015

@BerkeBaby If it makes your husband feel any better, I had sex for the first time at a young age (15) but because my mom had always been open with me, I knew what it meant to have safe sex and I made sure it was with someone I cared about. It would be pretty hard to prevent your kids from having sex, but I'm grateful my mom gave me the information and support I needed. And at 15, I wasn't quite ready to tell my mom about it, but knew that I could go to Planned Parenthood for birth control, and my boyfriend took me there. And I always made sure he wrapped it up. A couple months into it I finally told my mom, but that window between when I felt comfortable having sex and when I felt comfortable talking to my mom about it could've been disastrous if she hadn't taught me to be confident in my body and choices and how to be safe.

LizaKate1213 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 7/7

CD: 6

WAYDTGKU: BD ED starting with CD 10 until after I get CHs. Starting back up temping tomorrow AM after a few months off, not looking forward to that.

R/R/CS: Just found out a friend is expecting her first and is already 20 weeks. My sister in law text her to congratulate her and the response was heartbreaking..."not really anything to congratulate but yeah, we are due in April." I am so sad for her and her husband that they aren't excited, and even more sad for the baby. I just hope when they see him/her they fall so in love and are elated. I understand they didn't want to have children and it was a surprise, but...I don't know. It just made me so sad to hear that.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? Work hard to keep our family as one unit. My parents divorced when I was 6, my has dad re-married and divorced two more times since then (and has had several other failed relationships), and my mom has married and divorced again as well (though has rekindled that relationship and they are strong now). Thankfully DH has had fantastic role models for relationships and we are willing to do anything to maintain and improve our relationship as needed.

kfair001 · December 2015

@BerkeBaby, regarding your DH being more conservative, my father was as well. I too grew up in a catholic household where my father was pretty strict and my mother was a little more laid back. My mother was very open about sex and when she first started having it(whether what she told me was true or not, I don't know!). I didn't see her sharing that with me as condoning it, I saw it as wow, she trusts me enough to tell me all of this, I think that I can trust her with sharing my thoughts and decisions about sex. For me, that opened up an invaluable line of communication. The bottom line and what my mom tells me is that parents need to have faith in their parenting abilities and trust that they have raised their DSs & DDs well enough that they will make the right decisions. My mother and I had such an honest and open relationship that I was able to go to her when I decided that I was ready to do the deed for the first time. Since I was able to do that, I knew that I had to be safe about it and get on BC. Some may disagree with this way of parenting but looking back now as an adult, I can't tell you how much having that open line of communication with my mother helped me throughout the years. I never felt like I had to keep things from her. I always had an outlet and someone to trust to give me the right advice along the way. And still do.

Edit b/c I can't spell and my grammar sucks!

NovaSaysNo · December 2015

Month/Cycle: umm I guess 4/1, but I'm starting over after I get my first AF.

CD: not even pretending on this one.

WAYDTGKU: Nothing right now other than PNV.

Taking Provera, haven't had AF since going off BCP in Sept. After AF, I'll be having all the sex and OPKs. I want to try to chart. I read about shift work and charting, but with shift work and insomnia (not sleeping at all approx 2 nights a week, and normally only getting 1-4 hours a night) it probably would make a chart REALLY wonky. I also read about the effects of PTSD and sleep/body temps. So I guess we'll see what happens.

R/R/CS: Just really want AF to show up (only one other time I've ever said that in my life, second time because of stuff mentioned below).

********TW, spousal abuse/rape mentioned********
GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

The main one, my mother was always talked about as if she was a saint for putting others first (everyone from grandparents to strangers told me). "Your mother is so amazing and selfless." It was looked at as if it was some amazing thing, when in reality my parents divorced in my late teens because she couldn't make any decisions for herself (she basically was never her own person because it was easier to fix other people). I on the other hand learned some independence and self respect from my loving father, but was always compared to (and made to emulate) my mother. Growing up I was taught to never put myself first, and basically follow what she always did.

I became EXTREMELY co dependent because of this and would literally make myself sick trying to help people. Even though I knew better (see the loving father part), I stayed in an abusive relationship for two years because I was told "If you respect him, he will love you" and "You should never leave a marriage, you need to make it work. It doesn't matter if there's alcohol, emotional, mental, or physical abuse. You should always stay." Oh, and those two gems were told to me by my military chaplains and they weren't concerned with his behaviour (I could seriously write a novel on the fucked up things they say). Two years of my life, permanent nerve damage in my spine, and PTSD to learn a lesson that I wish I had been taught when I was younger.

Needless to say I will NEVER tell my daughter (if I'm lucky enough to have one) that ANYONE is more important than she is and that she should always put herself first (but also teach giving back). I believe in giving back, I do a lot of volunteer and community work. But now that I've gotten myself out of there and found my husband, I'll never again be in a relationship where I'm bullied, beaten, and raped because I feel "selfish" for leaving. Sometimes being selfish and saying no is okay.

Sorry, I don't have many people I trust to talk to and it's easier to open up anonymously... but I REALLY needed to let some of that out. Also sorry if there are typos, got a little emotional/angry and I don't care to proof read this right at this moment.

My one edit, is that this will also apply to a son if I'm lucky enough to have one. I didn't mention males because it was a personal story, but obviously any child should learn to value themselves.

I think I'm going to bring back the cute/awkward critters thread to make me feel better... I know it's a zombie so don't hate me.

picklesplease · December 2015

@LittleMissTimeLord and @kfair001 - Thanks for your responses! DH means well, but he is totally opposite to me when it comes to this. If you both don't mind, I think I might share this information with him. I want our kids to feel as though they can come talk to me (and him) about anything. I could never do that with my parents without a side of Catholic guilt to go along with it. The more I learned when I got older, the better my choices got. I don't think they understood that and I don't think DH understands sometimes.

dieforelle · December 2015

@Novasaysno Dude fuck chaplains. Are you in or are you a dependent? I'm USAF and have some really great PTSD from the desert and military sexual trauma and I just, I feel you man.

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD: 19

WAYDTGKU: CM, PNV, HIO

R/R/CS: Getting close to the 'peak' of my FW, but will probably HIO til like, idk a few days past. When your CM changes (I'm on like, day three of EWCM) to that more sticky tacky progesterone stuff, is that a relatively safe indicator of luteal phase beginning?

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

My parents got divorced. My dad is amazing, but my mom has a lot of issues. I love both my parents, but my mom can be selfish at times and I don't want to be that way. I don't want to be irrational and let my own feelings get projected upon my children. It's very stressful. I also want to encourage and support my children in any endeavor they take on, while constructively guiding them to be their best. (Lots of goals, lol).

MissAmeliaPond · December 2015

***Question: Is anyone doing the "alkaline diet"? Is there any validity in this? I haven't read anything conclusive online WRT empirical evidence for changing your diet and its relationship to conception (if you're already an otherwise healthy person).***

Month/Cycle: 4

CD: 14

WAYDTGKU: charting all the things, B50 complex, EPO, pre-seed, HIO as much as we can for the next week

R/R/CS: *TMI* I had the teensiest bit of ewcm this morning, and the teensiest bit of watery cm last night. I think this means I'm going to O sooner than I thought. I already texted DH and told him we have to HIO tonight since we skipped yesterday. Ugh confusing body. I hadn't even started using OPKs yet, but I guess I will this morning at work later!

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? I think my parents were a bit too strict with me growing up, but at the same time also too indulgent (only child, here), so I would like to try to moderate both of those. I also am going to give my kids the option to go to a trade school rather than college. This was never an option for me, and I think my life could have turned out differently, but I would never have met DH if I didn't go to college!

Umbr+ella · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 3/3

CD: 12

WAYDTGKU: BBT, CM, OPK's, trying for sex ED during FW

R/R/CS: So the plan this cycle was to have more sex during FW, but H has been flying pretty much everyday and is constantly studying when he is home. He is so stressed that I'll be lucky if I get any this week. Hopefully I O around the same time as last cycle or we will have no chance this time. I had a huge temp drop this am though so IDK.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

I love my parents now, but I plan to do pretty much everything differently. No spanking, no religion, no fighting constantly. We want to be open about sex and teach financial responsibility. I don't want my kid to be afraid to tell me things, or to not want to come to me for advice. We are going to be OAD so I hope to be able to travel and do more than my parents were able to afford. Also no forced gender identity. I was a tomboy as a kid, but my grandmother would always force me to wear frilly shit that I hated and make me feel bad for wanting to play in the mud. I never want my child to feel bad for who they are or what they like.

My Ovulation Chart

MamaMunn · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 3/2

CD: 28

WAYDTGKU: Ugh not doing much this cycle because we have been so busy traveling and stuff. I'm charting my temps but that is about it right now.

R/R/CS: I'm getting really frustrated with these long cycles. I haven't O'd yet and last cycle I didn't until CD 34. Since coming off BC my cycles just keep getting longer and longer. Why doesn't anyone tell you this stuff about BC?! I would have stopped taking it a long time ago if I knew this.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? My parents didn't get divorced until I was older and had already moved out, but my dad was a non existent parent since I was little. It's important to me that DH and I will both be present in our LOs lives.

g8rmama_16 · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 3/3

CD: 15

WAYDTGKU: Not much right now, FW is pretty much over. Acupuncture on Thursday to support my LP. Annoyed that I am having a lot of spotting in my CM. Hopefully it stops today.

R/R/CS: I think I O'ed on the 13th, hopefully I will get CH tomorrow if I still have high temps. I think I finally got my chart to work for some CS'ing!!

Only rant is that my DH has a fixation on locking doors, bordering on OCD. I rushed out of the house to meet his sister for yoga yesterday and left the doors unlocked and he is still not speaking to me. No, no one broke in and ransacked our house. It was unlocked for an hour. In the middle of the day. In our very safe neighborhood. Relax, Man! When I was single I would go months without locking my doors. He has all deadbolts locked at all times. It is so annoying. Especially when I get locked out of the house...

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you? I agree with @JRB3, I wish my mom had taught me about my body a lot more. She was a freaking midwife! She may very well have tried and I didn't care back then. I lost her 7 years ago. I could REALLY use that knowledge these days!!

britters314 · December 2015

@BerkeBaby I think you should consider your husband's views just as much as you want him to consider yours. It's not as if every teen who doesn't talk about sex with their parents is having unsafe sex. My mom wasn't open about sex with me until I was about 20 (and my high school didn't teach much about safe sex either), but I made good choices in high school and college. So it's not like if you don't talk to your kids about it a lot, they are all going to make bad decisions. (I probably am going to be fairly open with my kids, but I though I would give my own experience)

NovaSaysNo · December 2015

@dieforelle, I was active duty back then (out now), also USAF. I was married mil to mil (to a Marine, go figure...), now married to a USAF vet. RRT and EMDR do wonders for PTSD. It's not offered by the VA, but anyone can be referred out. I did it for a bit, thought everything was great and then quit going (I had other stuff going on and put it on the back burner). I really thought I was better, but I didn't finish treatments so it came back after a few months. Guess I need to call them again soon.

But yeah, fuck Chaplains.

Edited: wrong verb usage

MissAmeliaPond · December 2015

joyful08 said:

My parents never really educated us on things like sex, how insurance works, buying a house, credit etc... All that adulty stuff so DH and I were going in blind to everything. We def want to teach our kids all about that stuff.

Come to think of it, my parents never did that either! I would like to teach my kids about that kind of stuff, as well. I called my mom out on it a couple of months ago and she said "well you were so smart, we didn't think we needed to explain stuff like that to you." Um, nice cop-out, Mom! I had no idea how ANY of that stuff worked when I got to college, and slowly had to figure it out for myself. No matter how smart you are, you still won't know how credit, budgeting, insurance, or anything else works unless someone explains it to you!

dieforelle · December 2015

@Novasaysno Funny, I actually did something similar. I did EMDR when I got back from my first deployment to Kandahar and was like "oh yeah I got this," and then I went on another deployment last year and came back like, a mess (mostly recurring issues from my MST issues and the stress of deployed life bringing that out, not something specific that happened over there). My husband (civilian through and through) when I came back was like "you're not rushing into a civilian job," (i'm ANG), "you're going to go to therapy with a psychologist and psychiatrist, if you want, you are filing a disability claim with the VA and I'm going to take care of you through all of this." So months later, here I am, happier than I have ever been, stable on medication and wanting a baby.

It gets better!!! I have bad days, wake up screaming in the middle of the night every now and then, but it has really evened out. Part of me wanting a baby is just me closing that chapter of my life where sex was scary and hard. Now it's so much more about trust and love, I really look forward to having something beautiful come out of my relationship with my husband.

I'm always here to talk, you can PM me or I can even add you to a facebook group for sexual assault survivors, it's a secret group so no one can see that you're in it and it's been really helpful for me.

Sorry all you other ladies for the tangent.

PJpeppercorn · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 7/2

CD: 23

WAYDTGKU: all the things. Starting ED BD today!

R/R/CS: my chart has been bananas. FF really wants to give me crosshairs and has been moving them all over my chart. I finally got a positive OPK today and it took them away. Hoping I ovulate and FF can add them back in a few days!

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

My parents were/are incredible and I hope everyday that I can be as supportive and loving as they are.

NovaSaysNo · December 2015

@dieforelle, thanks

. I'll take you up on it! I've been having more good days than bad, but the last couple weeks have been rough. Six years ago I lost a friend to suicide week of Thanksgiving (Chaplain said that was our fault), this year lost another one on Thanksgiving week from that same group. They were the group that helped me get out of the relationship, so it's just... ugh all over the place and all kinds of memories.

I never actually filed a claim with the VA. Long story, was in MEB for a year, Army (stationed on Army post) didn't tell big AF so they literally ETS'd me with nothing. Went to the VA, guy at the front said "no one here will help you" so I never went back.

I'm so glad you're getting better. It's good to hear that. I know this is just a rough patch, and all will be okay. My husband is my rock and thankfully he understands me (sounds like yours understands you really well, too).

I would love to join the FB group, I'll message you my info. Thanks for sharing with me.

And sorry ladies for taking over the thread! We'll PM now.

picklesplease · December 2015

@bcooke314 - Thanks for the input.

We've been talking about it a ton. That is one thing we do really well, communicate. This has been a sore spot, for a plethora of reasons. It's too personal to really go into it, but this is one thing he flat out refuses to consider my opinion about. He assumes that by telling our children about their body, that will encourage them to have sex and be unsafe about it, even though research and personal experience (on my part) proves otherwise. I definitely appreciate your input, though.

Thank you.

Umbr+ella · December 2015

@Novasaysno fuck chaplains and base legal as well. My first husband was abusive and as soon as he deployed I went to legal to file separation paperwork (lived in a state that required 1 year legal separation before divorce). They treated me like dirt for leaving my "hero husband" while he was deployed and "fighting for his country," he was an airframer on a MEU... Even after I told them that he was abusive, and had a panic attack there in the office, they still wouldn't help me. It has been 9 years and I'm still dealing with the trauma of that relationship. I am so sorry that you had to go through that.

iceandsnowflakes29 · December 2015

@HeyBooHey

I'm sorry about your mom. I lost my dad 3 yrs ago and my step dad (very close to as well) 6 months ago and losing a parent is Sooo hard

On a brighter note - I do think you o'ed and your chart looks pretty! Mine is jacked looking. My acupuncture starts this friday.

babymish · December 2015

Month/Cycle: 3/3

CD: 9

WAYDTGKU:: Vits, Opk, temping, cm, bd when I get home on Thursday!

R/R/CS: my temps have been strangely stationary over the last week with one bit of movement which was caused by waking 3 hours early. I'm using my new Mabis so hoping it hasn't conked out on me already. Although testing it at different times it is capable of reading different temps so my bodily is just strangely calm. Looking forward to getting back home on Thursday and getting our BD on.

GTKY: What's one thing you plan to (or already) do differently as a parent than your parents did with you?

I'd like to be able to show my children as much of the world as possible and all of the opportunities that are out there for them. My mum was amazing and did the best she could but my parents split and she brought us back to the uk with very little so our horizons weren't broadened until adult life.

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