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Is it just me or....

shanellsouthallshanellsouthall member
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Is it just me, or are the conversations in the " community ", a bit rude. Im new to the BUMP and was totally shocked by how other pregnant women talk to each other.
Im sticking with the June 2016 moms club from here on out. You guys are wayyyy sweeter!..
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  • sharpiemomsharpiemom member
    I feel that way too. I went to the 3rd trimester board once and was shocked at how they were talking to each other. I'm not sure if it's because you get more hormonal in 3rd, I definitely hope I won't become like that :p
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  • dennyandleedennyandlee member
    Yeah we're pretty f$&@%*# awesome. You're welcome ;)

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  • on3in2015on3in2015 member
    I think the problem is people are anonymous on here. And when nobody knows who you are you can do and say whatever you want without any real repercussions.  The rudeness, impatience and "snark" sometimes blows my mind. I can't believe adult woman who are raising children (our future) actually think its okay to behave like that, anonymous or not. Luckily the June2016 board really isn't so bad. 
    I think some people need to understand that for a lot of moms this all new info and theres a lot of it. Sometimes what sounds like a stupid question is actually just a genuine question. I don't know why people find it so hard to just not reply to a post that annoys them or that they don't want to see. I sort of wish they where not so many restrictions on repeating questions, symptoms etc. I think it scared away people from posting for fear of being "flamed". Now the board is so dead and lacking content. 
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    HBamama2B said:
    @VikingGirl12
    Yup, it'll come and you'll want to vomit on your keyboard.
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    on3in2015 said:

    I think the problem is people are anonymous on here. And when nobody knows who you are you can do and say whatever you want without any real repercussions.  The rudeness, impatience and "snark" sometimes blows my mind. I can't believe adult woman who are raising children (our future) actually think its okay to behave like that, anonymous or not. Luckily the June2016 board really isn't so bad. 

    I think some people need to understand that for a lot of moms this all new info and theres a lot of it. Sometimes what sounds like a stupid question is actually just a genuine question. I don't know why people find it so hard to just not reply to a post that annoys them or that they don't want to see. I sort of wish they where not so many restrictions on repeating questions, symptoms etc. I think it scared away people from posting for fear of being "flamed". Now the board is so dead and lacking content. 
    I agree. A lot of my genuine questions probably sound stupid haha. FTM here, tons to learn.
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    on3in2015 said:

    I think the problem is people are anonymous on here. And when nobody knows who you are you can do and say whatever you want without any real repercussions.  The rudeness, impatience and "snark" sometimes blows my mind. I can't believe adult woman who are raising children (our future) actually think its okay to behave like that, anonymous or not. Luckily the June2016 board really isn't so bad. 

    I think some people need to understand that for a lot of moms this all new info and theres a lot of it. Sometimes what sounds like a stupid question is actually just a genuine question. I don't know why people find it so hard to just not reply to a post that annoys them or that they don't want to see. I sort of wish they where not so many restrictions on repeating questions, symptoms etc. I think it scared away people from posting for fear of being "flamed". Now the board is so dead and lacking content. 
    Theres a difference between a first time mom genuine question that is stupid and the 4th thread on the front page asking if its normal to not have any morning sickness yet (shocker, the answer hasn't changed since the other threads were answered 20 minutes ago). There aren't restrictions on posting here, but asking for a little bit of board organization by condensing symptoms into one thread and asking people to search the boards to see if their question has been answered isn't crazy and inevitably, most BMBs end up following similar patterns of organization.

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  • crdocrdo member
    edited December 2015
    WinniethePoohsPants said:


    HBamama2B said:

    @VikingGirl12

    Yup, it'll come and you'll want to vomit on your keyboard.
    -----------qbf------

    Oh holy hell I'm about to vomit NOW. Good grief, do people have *any* boundaries?!
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    Also OP, I see you weren't thrilled with the responses to your placenta encapsulating thread over on 2nd tri. Threads started to complain about how a board is being mean and rude don't typically go over so hot, although I've never seen one that is about another board, I've always seen it posted on the same board the initial thread was on. The bump gods even have a whole prescripted thing about not starting threads to complain about how people are mean. Many people here do participate on the trimester boards as well as this one.
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    Sgoldberg247 said:
    Also OP, I see you weren't thrilled with the responses to your placenta encapsulating thread over on 2nd tri. Threads started to complain about how a board is being mean and rude don't typically go over so hot, although I've never seen one that is about another board, I've always seen it posted on the same board the initial thread was on. The bump gods even have a whole prescripted thing about not starting threads to complain about how people are mean. Many people here do participate on the trimester boards as well as this one.
    Anyone else just finish reading it? LOL
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  • HighFive16HighFive16 member
    Aw, I had only just managed to forget the joy of seeing multiple strangers MPs! lol. 
    WinniethePoohsPants said:
    HBamama2B said:
    @VikingGirl12
    Yup, it'll come and you'll want to vomit on your keyboard.

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  • ahernandez16ahernandez16 member
    People post pictures of their mucus plugs.....

    WHAT!?
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  • kyraaDkyraaD member
    juuuust putting this out there, no one was rude to you on your "eating the placenta" post on the 2nd Tri board.
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    HighFive16 said:

    Aw, I had only just managed to forget the joy of seeing multiple strangers MPs! lol. 


    WinniethePoohsPants said:


    HBamama2B said:

    @VikingGirl12

    Yup, it'll come and you'll want to vomit on your keyboard.




    This totally happened in my last BMB. The OP didn't post a warning or anything. Needless to say, she was flamed.
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  • june2016babyjune2016baby member
    ahernandez16 said:

    People post pictures of their mucus plugs.....

    WHAT!?

    Wow! I'm very tolerant, but that is crossing the line! I hope not to see one of those pics on here!

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  • Atlast111Atlast111 member
    june2016baby said:

    Hi, welcome! You will get no snark from me, and most people on here. There are exceptions, as you might have already noticed from others on this very thread!

    I'm a teacher, and consider no question dumb, EVEN if it was just asked! Sometimes things need repeated! I love answering questions and reading about other people's lives and experiences. My husband is a doctor who had been practicing over a dozen years, so sometimes I have some "inside" info. I will be happy if I can ever help you at all!

    Again, welcome!

    Welcome. Same here! I don't mind the repeat posts as I understand people don't always scroll back pages and pages when they have first joined. Also I believe there is no such thing as a silly question. Only people who don't ask questions meet problems in life. Unfortunately our group does have some who are rude and intolerant but you will soon learn who they are.....lol. Overall it's a pretty nice group with lots of great info to share.
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  • HBamama2BHBamama2B member
    OP- Hi. I read your placenta thread and tbh, I didn't think anyone was rude (and I'm always in the cheerleader let's play nice guys, support OP! Bracket). Sorry, but IMO you're being overly sensitive on this one. That thread was pretty tame. And eating human organs is gross, so peeps gonna say eww. You didn't make it sound like it was something you were into, so how could they know they might be upsetting you even? I thought you got some great responses.

    Here at June you will get snark, obvs. But everyone-mostly-is very supportive most of the time, and we are universally good to date when anything legitimately serious or upsetting occurs whether it's baby health or family drama. :)

    @Sgoldberg247 You went to TATTLE on OP? Twice? Seriously.... :neutral:

    Also--STMs! how can I know for sure that a thread isn't going to be a pic of some persons's MP? There are things that can't be unseen. Having a very I see dead people moment. Someone hold me, I'm scared.
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    HBamama2B said:


    @Sgoldberg247 You went to TATTLE on OP? Twice? Seriously.... :neutral:

    Totally stand by it. Keeping people in the loop. When I read this thread initially I read it with a different (and much more innocent) tone than after I had seen the thread over there. Tone is everything on the internet since only 7% of what you say is the words you know and felt posters over there should know that this poster was starting threads elsewhere about them. They had the right to know what they were dealing with.
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  • goldie987goldie987 member
    HBamama2B said:

    @Sgoldberg247 ugh. I'm sorry! Came back after self-realization: by calling you out I effectively tattled on you for tattling. Apparently I'm that kid. (goes, stands in corner, thinks about what I've done).

    I don't see what you did as any different than me, no big deal, no harm no foul :smile:

    People talking about others behind their back (or in a different board in this case) bugs me, its just not nice. If you have something to say, just say it to my face and give me a chance to respond, which you did.
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  • WinniethePoohsPantsWinniethePoohsPants member
    thegoudalife said:
    Aside from getting frustrated at having the same posts over and over, it's not just having to answer those questions that gets old. It's because threads that truly do need support are lost in the mix and get bumped to the next page because people can't be courteous and do a quick search. Part of being a good member of your BMB is having the manners to do a quick search to see if your answer has already been answered. By not doing this, you are essentially saying you don't care to take the time to be a productive member of the community. That you're special and want your own thread. It's rude. This isn't your own personal Google or WebMD. You have to give support to get it. Also, the notion that pregnant women/mothers are supposed to be warm and fuzzy 24/7 isn't realistic. You're still the same person and having had a child doesn't elevate you to a level of emotion that is only happiness and devoid of other natural, human emotions. Mothers/pregnant women can get annoyed, frustrated, happy, blunt, etc. You still have the same range of emotions so it truly annoys me when people act like moms are supposed to be devoid of anything human emotion other than happiness. That's not how this works.
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  • crdocrdo member
    mrsschmity said:

    Wait, there are two separate threads created by the same OP on the exact same thing?


    Referring back to some of the comments made by PPs - I ask questions too. A lot of them. But I also do my research first. Asking repeated questions that can be found by a simple search is just being lazy. Honestly, I feel a lot of the repeat questions that get asked are purely for attention. People want attention and validation from random internet strangers. Unfortunately our group also has a lot of ladies who get their panties in a wad over the interwebz. Again, give support to get support. And running to another BMB to rant about another is not very classy.

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  • dennyandleedennyandlee member
    Y'all already know that if any BSC lady gets on here and posts a picture of her mucus plug, it will be someone that has never posted or participated on this board. SMH... 

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  • hockeyfan42hockeyfan42 member
    @thegoudalife @mrsschmity allllllll of that.
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    And of course she never comes back, grrrr, why does this annoy me so much!
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    edited December 2015

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