So curious if all you ladies who think they are tacky and/or unnecessary would tell your husband to take them back if he presented you with a pair of emerald earrings after you give birth...
So curious if all you ladies who think they are tacky and/or unnecessary would tell your husband to take them back if he presented you with a pair of emerald earrings after you give birth...
I think there is a difference between asking/expecting a gift, and your SO buying you something because he wants to and doesn't feel like he has to. What's tacky IMO is thinking you deserve something because you gave birth.
I definitely didn't expect one but I was 100% excited to see what my husband picked out to commemorate the birth of our first child. Like I said previously, the part that I love the most was his reasoning for picking each necklace out and it makes me think of that moment and DH and DS when I wear them. I think if you're demanding or expecting it, that's cause for calling it ridiculous.
But I'm interested whether people feel the same way about anniversary gifts? I mean, that's basically a gift for another successful year of marriage. So if we are taking it literally as some PP have said and a push present is a gift for having a kid, does anyone see a difference? I'm just curious because it seems like the overwhelming majority think push presents are ridiculous. I think it's romantic and sentimental, but maybe I'm an anomaly.
So curious if all you ladies who think they are tacky and/or unnecessary would tell your husband to take them back if he presented you with a pair of emerald earrings after you give birth...
there's a big difference between expecting a present, and accepting a present.
I didn't even know this was a thing. I asked MH if he had heard of this term or practice ( since he has kids from before I thought he may) and nothing. I never really considered receiving anything for giving birth but I did plan to buy myself a pendant or antique locket incorporating the birthstone. I'm not sure if it will be May or April yet since I am close to the border so it would be after the birth.
I agree that the gift is the baby but my mother had a Necklace to commemorate my birth which is now in the ground with her. I wanted to do the same.
I dislike the name "push present," but I do like the sentiment of having a gift to commemorate a major milestone in life.
I often give jewelry to my friends to celebrate the occasion of their first baby (in fact, I just bought a piece for one of my friends yesterday). Some of my friends are single mothers who are no longer in contact with the fathers, and some of them aren't in such fortunate financial circumstances that they can afford a genuine birthstone if they happen to fall on one of the pricey months like April, but I am firmly of the view that every woman deserves to have a few beautiful pieces. If I can give one to them, why shouldn't I do that, as a friend?
I didn't ask anything of my husband (I agree that it's tacky to expect or ask for presents!), but I did get a lovely pair of Edwardian earrings once we confirmed the pregnancy, and I'll be having a matching ring made once we pass the anatomy scan. When it's finished, I'll give it to him to hold onto until May.
It won't be a surprise gift because I'm very very very heavily into jewelry and he isn't, so it makes sense for me to handle any significant jewelry purchases, especially when it comes to antiques. There's just so much fakery and fraud in the antique jewelry market that I wouldn't want him spending any substantial sums on questionable pieces.
The best present after birth I remember getting (besides the baby, everything pales in comparison to that wonderful newborn baby!) was real food. Not hospital food or snacks but real food someone picked up for me so my husband could stay by my side with our new baby. It was the best gift ever.
So curious if all you ladies who think they are tacky and/or unnecessary would tell your husband to take them back if he presented you with a pair of emerald earrings after you give birth...
Yes...because I don't have pierced ears and hate jewelry. :P
I actually probably would tell him to take back whatever he got me if it was more than a turkey sandwich or a bottle of wine. We can't afford anything anyway and it just seems like an incredibly stupid thing to me. I do not need a gift to thank me for carrying his baby and giving birth. I was just as much a part of getting pregnant as he was. He owes me nothing other than to be a parent to the baby.
To the person who asked about anniversary gifts: We don't do those either. The only "gift" we do is we go away for the weekend every few years. Once in awhile we will get something special for both of us like a cheesecake from the grocery store or something but no real gifts since our first one. We don't do Valentine's Day either. We only do gifts for birthdays and Christmas.
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So curious if all you ladies who think they are tacky and/or unnecessary would tell your husband to take them back if he presented you with a pair of emerald earrings after you give birth...
Quite honestly, I don't know what I would do because I'd appreciate the sentiment but feel incredibly guilty & worried because financially it would feel irresponsible to me but I wouldn't want to offend DH for being thoughtful. We are having a baby, a huge expense, and then likely moving cross country (with massive details like new jobs & buying a home to sort out). Also, I don't wear jewelry often, dislike birthstones in general personally, & this just would not happen in my life! Neither of us is big on "things" as presents for holidays & generally would do a nice night out or combine holidays for a trip/experience instead. I just don't have a need for jewelry to mark that we had a baby. If people want that, go for it, but it's not something I personally want.
The best present after birth I remember getting (besides the baby, everything pales in comparison to that wonderful newborn baby!) was real food. Not hospital food or snacks but real food someone picked up for me so my husband could stay by my side with our new baby. It was the best gift ever.
Oh yea, best gift ever! I got a huge Jimmy John's sub after I gave birth. It was glorious.
I definitely didn't expect one but I was 100% excited to see what my husband picked out to commemorate the birth of our first child. Like I said previously, the part that I love the most was his reasoning for picking each necklace out and it makes me think of that moment and DH and DS when I wear them. I think if you're demanding or expecting it, that's cause for calling it ridiculous.
But I'm interested whether people feel the same way about anniversary gifts? I mean, that's basically a gift for another successful year of marriage. So if we are taking it literally as some PP have said and a push present is a gift for having a kid, does anyone see a difference? I'm just curious because it seems like the overwhelming majority think push presents are ridiculous. I think it's romantic and sentimental, but maybe I'm an anomaly.
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We don't do anniversary gifts (or even birthday gifts for that matter!!) but I see this as totally different than a push present. If you do anniversary gifts, chances are you are both getting a gift. Its not a one sided exchange, and at least in my relationship, it wouldn't be expected to give a gift.
I have no issue if DH wants to get me something/surprises me with a thoughtful gift given because he wants to. What baffles me is when the gift is demanded.
But knowing my hubby, I shouldn't expect anything. He is not a gifter, and has never given me a romantic gift anyways. Knowing him he will buy me work out clothes so I can get back in shape after delivery... which might not be such a bad gift!!
Well now I have to sit H down tonight and give him my list of expectations for push gifts. Heck let's make it a push gift month! Should I put the new car before or after delivery???
I am curious as to where this is a "thing" since, like many PP, I had never heard of this phenomenon until I read it here. Agreed on the name... push present sounds icky. But then I'm also not a big fan of gender reveals.
Our anniversary is April 27 and with Mother's Day being so close to LO's birth I certainly won't be asking for anything, although I do have my eye on a custom ivf locket I found on etsy. I'm not a big jewelry person.
With us having twins and no family nearby, DH's help is the best gift I could ever ask for.
I can go either way on this...I wouldn't expect one and I doubt my husband knows they are even a thing. However, if it were on the table I'd want something inexpensive and baby-birthstone related. Alex & Ani bracelets sound perfect
Definitely not on board with push presents in the form of Land Rovers...or worse...Kim Kardashian's bazillion dollar choker that she mentioned wanting as a push present.
They aren't super common around here but I've mentioned that for either Mother's Day or Christmas next year, I would like a band with the baby's birthstone in it. Since I'm due the last week of May, we could end up with a June baby too. But really, I'm sure he'll bring in some flowers and that's fine with me!
We did compromise on the diaper bag: I got to buy a new Kate Spade purse (which was a hell of a deal) and he gets to pick out the diaper bag. Win win.
What do you mean you all didn't ask for the "One Million Dollar diamond choker" as your push gift like Kim K? Whats wrong with you all? Go big or go home.
HAHAHA....in all seriousness, I am not mentioning the push gift to DH. However Mother's Day is close to our due date so a nice treat for MD would be lovely. Just sayin'
I can go either way on this...I wouldn't expect one and I doubt my husband knows they are even a thing. However, if it were on the table I'd want something inexpensive and baby-birthstone related. Alex & Ani bracelets sound perfect
Definitely not on board with push presents in the form of Land Rovers...or worse...Kim Kardashian's bazillion dollar choker that she mentioned wanting as a push present.
Obviously everyone seems down with the idea that if funds are limited, extravagant push presents are a pretty dumb thing to blow your money on. But if you have hella cash and love giving gifts, I say better that the money's getting pumped back into the economy and out of Kanye's bottomless bank account! And same for anyone who's not having to worry about money. It seems frivolous, but don't want to get carried away hating on a tradition that some people enjoy and isn't wasteful at all if it's affordable for them. Although this also makes me think that an amazing push present would be a donation to a women's shelter or children's hospital.
What do you mean you all didn't ask for the "One Million Dollar diamond choker" as your push gift like Kim K? Whats wrong with you all? Go big or go home.
HAHAHA....in all seriousness, I am not mentioning the push gift to DH. However Mother's Day is close to our due date so a nice treat for MD would be lovely. Just sayin'
Not sure what bothers me more? That she asked for a necklace that is easily 20 years worth of my salary? Or that she let her daughter draw all over her Birkin bag,
Another thing I just realized is that I'm already planning to pass these earrings down to the (as yet semi-imaginary!) child at some point.
If it's a girl, I'd like to be able to give them to her for her wedding. If it's a boy, I'd like to be able to give them to him for his wife to wear at the wedding.
Funny, kid's not even born yet and I'm already imagining which heirlooms to give away when.
@merciel, I splurges (splashed?) on my wedding jewlery, knowing I wanted to pass it down!
Oh, I'm keeping my wedding jewelry. That's mine. You can pry it out of my cold dead hands (literally).
But the Kermit earrings (as I have taken to calling them) are quite nice too, and I think they'll be suitable for some imaginary future wedding 20 or 30 years down the line.
I know I keep playing devil's advocate here, and I totally agree that asking family and friends for gifts is not cool at all. But another question I have - how it it gift grabby to ask your husband for a gift? I mean, it's my husband. I ask him for ridiculous stuff all the time that he shoots me down and laughs at me over, but that's the fun of it. We love each other, and we have a playful relationship. I bring in a significant amount of our income, and I get him gifts "just because" from time to time. I guess it depends on what sort of relationship you and your husband have, but I don't see asking your husband for something as tacky or gift grabby. Seems perfectly normal for our relationship. I think the key is that there is no one size fits all.
Maybe I should save that for the UO thread? Hahaha!
Another thing I meant to mention earlier but forgot: I'm buying him a present to commemorate becoming a father, too: a pair of white gold Belais cufflinks from 1923. Pristine condition and in the original box; I'm quite pleased with the find. I would have gotten emeralds, but he prefers a more understated style and wouldn't care for emeralds on his cufflinks.
I'll be giving them to him at Christmas, but they're meant to be "dad gifts."
I'm with @Merciel on the heirloom thing. I guess I'm a freak too b/c I have all my jewelry planned out to where it goes if something happens to me. I haven't bought as much jewelry as I'd like lately due to the rise in the cost of gold & also being a single Mom of 4 with no help from either of the fathers. I do buy myself specific pendants to celebrate the birth of each child. I'm running behind though as I still hadn't figured out what I want for my 9 month old & now I have another on the way I gotta shop for.
Good news though just in time for Christmas as I lost my job due to being so sick from this pregnancy. My ex-husband just messed up & landed himself in jail on some pretty bad charges so I called the county where his warrant for not paying child support is out of & they have him held on an over $8000 cash bond & I just heard from my attorney & they want to make a deal of a substantial amount so he can be released & I'm thinking nothing under $6000 or he can sit there for all I care! Trust me, his Mommy & Daddy have the $ to pay all $17,000 of what he owes & them not even blink an eye but the amount wasn't updated (thanks DHS) so he's only held on the lesser amount but I'll take what I can get b/c it's better than nothing!
I know I keep playing devil's advocate here, and I totally agree that asking family and friends for gifts is not cool at all. But another question I have - how it it gift grabby to ask your husband for a gift? I mean, it's my husband. I ask him for ridiculous stuff all the time that he shoots me down and laughs at me over, but that's the fun of it. We love each other, and we have a playful relationship. I bring in a significant amount of our income, and I get him gifts "just because" from time to time. I guess it depends on what sort of relationship you and your husband have, but I don't see asking your husband for something as tacky or gift grabby. Seems perfectly normal for our relationship. I think the key is that there is no one size fits all.
Maybe I should save that for the UO thread? Hahaha!
I don't think it is gift grabby or tacky at all to ask your DH for a gift. I think push presents in general are just a bit absurd. If one wants to commemorate the birth of one's child in some way like a birth stone necklace, etc. I think that is a great Mother's Day gift.
I don't know why we (we as women and mothers) have to have some sort of physical item as a "thank you for the hard work of pregnancy and labor" instead of just saying those words. DH has said those words to me a number of times, many of them being in the hours and days after our DD's birth. I feel like somewhere along the way, some ad campaign or celebrity did this and now it's a thing.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Another thing I just realized is that I'm already planning to pass these earrings down to the (as yet semi-imaginary!) child at some point.
If it's a girl, I'd like to be able to give them to her for her wedding. If it's a boy, I'd like to be able to give them to him for his wife to wear at the wedding.
Funny, kid's not even born yet and I'm already imagining which heirlooms to give away when.
Reading this stuff makes me cringe a little, because my MIL recently showed me her super fancy/expensive diamond wedding ring and told her it was going to be mine someday... I could tell it was a big deal for her, but I almost never wear jewelry, am anti-diamonds, and am generally grossed out by wearing other people's jewelry. So get the jewelry you want, but make sure you're doing it 100% for yourself! And if you can pass it on to someone who appreciates it, that's an added bonus, not an expectation. I realize most people probably don't see getting heirloom jewelry as a stressful thing, but the idea of someone giving me something really special that I couldn't care less about makes me feel really bad! Also currently dealing with a set of crystal - my grandmother passed away and left each granddaughter a dish set, after a lifetime of collecting one piece at a time. Super special to her... where am I supposed to keep an entire set of crystal in my little house??
I don't know why we (we as women and mothers) have to have some sort of physical item as a "thank you for the hard work of pregnancy and labor" instead of just saying those words. DH has said those words to me a number of times, many of them being in the hours and days after our DD's birth. I feel like somewhere along the way, some ad campaign or celebrity did this and now it's a thing.
Sometimes it's fun to indulge, especially after you're been puking your guts months, dealing with your body changing for the rest of the time, and then dealing with breast feeding, lack of sleep, etc. I know my husband will be fully there and a partner. I know I want this baby just as much as he does. But let's give credit where credit is due, it's our bodies that are making this life, and it's our bodies and health that will be dealing with the postpartum aspect of it. If you think about it, my body creating a life is a lot more exceptional and special than an anniversary, Valentine's Day, etc. I never ask my husband for pricey jewelry to mark these occasions. We've always been more about the experiences - going to a new place for a fancy dinner, couples massages, etc. But just this one time, yes I am asking for something special related to giving birth that I can still wear when I'm 65 and my baby is then a 30 something adult living their own life somewhere. I like the sentiment.
I've had 3 kids and never received a push present. I wouldn't be opposed to a gift of any type whether it's a sandwich or diamond ring. I definitely wouldn't expect a gift though. I think it's pretty common in California... you know with Hollywood and all. It probably started trending here for all I know.
Sometimes it's fun to indulge, especially after you're been puking your guts months, dealing with your body changing for the rest of the time, and then dealing with breast feeding, lack of sleep, etc. I know my husband will be fully there and a partner. I know I want this baby just as much as he does. But let's give credit where credit is due, it's our bodies that are making this life, and it's our bodies and health that will be dealing with the postpartum aspect of it. If you think about it, my body creating a life is a lot more exceptional and special than an anniversary, Valentine's Day, etc. I never ask my husband for pricey jewelry to mark these occasions. We've always been more about the experiences - going to a new place for a fancy dinner, couples massages, etc. But just this one time, yes I am asking for something special related to giving birth that I can still wear I'm 65 and my baby is then a 30 something adult living their own life somewhere. I like the sentiment.
If that's what you want to do, that's what you want to do and that's totally fine...for you.:) I, personally, will never understand it, never see the point, and will always side eye it a bit. Just like I'm sure there are things that I like that you will always think are ridiculous, that is what push presents are for me. Which is totally, 100% fine. Also, I have almost no sentimental bone in my body so that is probably part of why I find them silly.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
@ Pascal86: Totally fair, and yes, of course I bought the earrings for myself -- the thought of passing them along didn't even occur to me until just now.
But the way I see it, they're (going to be) family heirlooms, so even if the hypothetical future descendant isn't immediately interested, that's fine! No big deal. Just hang onto them for the next generation. Maybe the jewelry bug is like blue eyes and skips a generation.
But it's always better to have these things than not, I think. Always better to have the option of something fancy for dress-up occasions when you need it.
My family is HUGE on passing sentimental things down so I guess I come by it honest by it being in my blood or maybe of not knowing any other way lol.
I like the idea my 86 year old G-Ma came up with & actually plan on implementing this into my will when I'm older if heaven forbid I end up with the kind of kids she has. She has TONS of antiques $1,000,000+ worth. 2 of her 3 children are waiting like vultures for her to die for what they think will be cash or things of value to sale to support thier drug & alcohol & gambling addictions. Little do they know she has it set up to where they only get $ (attorney is in charge of allotments) towards their own later in life medical expenses & a place to live (retirement home) & such. Not a single penny will pass through her children's fingers. If her children should die before they exhaust thier fund the left over amount is divided evenly among her children's children (grandkids). My Dad is not one of the "bad" kids & he gets all the "stuff" to sort through but at least her much beloved stuff won't go up in smoke or into a slot machine so to speak.
My sister got gorgeous pieces of jewelry after each kid (right before child birth). And my best friend's hubby also gave her a diamond pendent with giving birth to each daughter (they have two girls), now she has a nice pendent to leave each girl (way in the future) as part of their Inheritance!
I'm not asking for a push present but I've totally hinted about it! I'd love a nice new piece of jewelry or a pendent for giving birth! But I certainly won't be upset or disappointed if I don't get something (after all we share/combine finances) so we always agree on what we spend money on anyway... Might not be financially responsibly with the baby coming! Lol
Update: I'd actually love to simply ride my horse again! Sounds silly but this is the longest I've ever gone without riding (since I was a child)... As a gift... I'd like a baby sitter so I could go ride my horses! Lol
My husband went down to the gift shop and bought me a cute little stuffed puppy (Ive begged him for a puppy since we met basically so it was cute) and a snickers with my first. I didn't get anything with my second, but if he'd spent our limited budget on me instead of the kids for Christmas (December baby) I would have killed him. This time, the baby should be here May 3 (c section) and out anniversary is May 4, so we're going to get outback for supper that night (provided I can have solid food of course) and I'm sure he'll get me something at least for our anniversary. I wouldn't call it a "push present" per say, more of a "omg I saw your guts and I know you must feel like crap, here feel better" present lol
Never heard of this. Personally, I think it's silly. I refrain from using the word 'stupid', just so people don't get mad at me. But really....why would you need to be rewarded with anything other than a baby? Do women really push with motivation that they're going to get a diamond necklace afterwards? I just don't understand. My motivation, my reward is my little baby girl, and the look on my husband's face when we see her for the first time.
Re: Push presents
But I'm interested whether people feel the same way about anniversary gifts? I mean, that's basically a gift for another successful year of marriage. So if we are taking it literally as some PP have said and a push present is a gift for having a kid, does anyone see a difference? I'm just curious because it seems like the overwhelming majority think push presents are ridiculous. I think it's romantic and sentimental, but maybe I'm an anomaly.
there's a big difference between expecting a present, and accepting a present.
I agree that the gift is the baby but my mother had a Necklace to commemorate my birth which is now in the ground with her. I wanted to do the same.
I often give jewelry to my friends to celebrate the occasion of their first baby (in fact, I just bought a piece for one of my friends yesterday). Some of my friends are single mothers who are no longer in contact with the fathers, and some of them aren't in such fortunate financial circumstances that they can afford a genuine birthstone if they happen to fall on one of the pricey months like April, but I am firmly of the view that every woman deserves to have a few beautiful pieces. If I can give one to them, why shouldn't I do that, as a friend?
I didn't ask anything of my husband (I agree that it's tacky to expect or ask for presents!), but I did get a lovely pair of Edwardian earrings once we confirmed the pregnancy, and I'll be having a matching ring made once we pass the anatomy scan. When it's finished, I'll give it to him to hold onto until May.
It won't be a surprise gift because I'm very very very heavily into jewelry and he isn't, so it makes sense for me to handle any significant jewelry purchases, especially when it comes to antiques. There's just so much fakery and fraud in the antique jewelry market that I wouldn't want him spending any substantial sums on questionable pieces.
I actually probably would tell him to take back whatever he got me if it was more than a turkey sandwich or a bottle of wine. We can't afford anything anyway and it just seems like an incredibly stupid thing to me. I do not need a gift to thank me for carrying his baby and giving birth. I was just as much a part of getting pregnant as he was. He owes me nothing other than to be a parent to the baby.
To the person who asked about anniversary gifts: We don't do those either. The only "gift" we do is we go away for the weekend every few years. Once in awhile we will get something special for both of us like a cheesecake from the grocery store or something but no real gifts since our first one. We don't do Valentine's Day either. We only do gifts for birthdays and Christmas.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Our anniversary is April 27 and with Mother's Day being so close to LO's birth I certainly won't be asking for anything, although I do have my eye on a custom ivf locket I found on etsy. I'm not a big jewelry person.
With us having twins and no family nearby, DH's help is the best gift I could ever ask for.
HAHAHA....in all seriousness, I am not mentioning the push gift to DH. However Mother's Day is close to our due date so a nice treat for MD would be lovely. Just sayin'
If it's a girl, I'd like to be able to give them to her for her wedding. If it's a boy, I'd like to be able to give them to him for his wife to wear at the wedding.
Funny, kid's not even born yet and I'm already imagining which heirlooms to give away when.
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But the Kermit earrings (as I have taken to calling them) are quite nice too, and I think they'll be suitable for some imaginary future wedding 20 or 30 years down the line.
Maybe I should save that for the UO thread?
I'll be giving them to him at Christmas, but they're meant to be "dad gifts."
So, you know, push presents can go both ways!
Good news though just in time for Christmas as I lost my job due to being so sick from this pregnancy. My ex-husband just messed up & landed himself in jail on some pretty bad charges so I called the county where his warrant for not paying child support is out of & they have him held on an over $8000 cash bond & I just heard from my attorney & they want to make a deal of a substantial amount so he can be released & I'm thinking nothing under $6000 or he can sit there for all I care! Trust me, his Mommy & Daddy have the $ to pay all $17,000 of what he owes & them not even blink an eye but the amount wasn't updated (thanks DHS) so he's only held on the lesser amount but I'll take what I can get b/c it's better than nothing!
I don't know why we (we as women and mothers) have to have some sort of physical item as a "thank you for the hard work of pregnancy and labor" instead of just saying those words. DH has said those words to me a number of times, many of them being in the hours and days after our DD's birth. I feel like somewhere along the way, some ad campaign or celebrity did this and now it's a thing.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
But the way I see it, they're (going to be) family heirlooms, so even if the hypothetical future descendant isn't immediately interested, that's fine! No big deal. Just hang onto them for the next generation. Maybe the jewelry bug is like blue eyes and skips a generation.
But it's always better to have these things than not, I think. Always better to have the option of something fancy for dress-up occasions when you need it.
I like the idea my 86 year old G-Ma came up with & actually plan on implementing this into my will when I'm older if heaven forbid I end up with the kind of kids she has. She has TONS of antiques $1,000,000+ worth. 2 of her 3 children are waiting like vultures for her to die for what they think will be cash or things of value to sale to support thier drug & alcohol & gambling addictions. Little do they know she has it set up to where they only get $ (attorney is in charge of allotments) towards their own later in life medical expenses & a place to live (retirement home) & such. Not a single penny will pass through her children's fingers. If her children should die before they exhaust thier fund the left over amount is divided evenly among her children's children (grandkids). My Dad is not one of the "bad" kids & he gets all the "stuff" to sort through but at least her much beloved stuff won't go up in smoke or into a slot machine so to speak.
I'm not asking for a push present but I've totally hinted about it! I'd love a nice new piece of jewelry or a pendent for giving birth! But I certainly won't be upset or disappointed if I don't get something (after all we share/combine finances) so we always agree on what we spend money on anyway... Might not be financially responsibly with the baby coming! Lol
Update: I'd actually love to simply ride my horse again! Sounds silly but this is the longest I've ever gone without riding (since I was a child)... As a gift... I'd like a baby sitter so I could go ride my horses! Lol
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