Hello, Newbie here again. 2nd posting. I have some issues need some clarity on. Have an appointment with my gyno, just going insane. lol
Posted before, very helpful/encouraging.
28 years old...been receiving treatment for 2 months now to try and regulate my irregular cycles most likely caused by Polysistic O syndrome. Went on provera, clomid, and metformin. Still on metformin daily. 1st Cycle in October seemed to go well. Everything worked. I had some "typical" symptoms. Thought I even may have had some implantation bleeding but turned out just a week of brown spotting before my period. Progesterone levels were good, gyno liked how everything worked, took like 4 pregnancy tests and the AF came on the day it was supposed to. Que disappointment. Time for round two.
AF came, but this time, it was mega short....3.5 days. October it was 5 days and then a week of brownish spotting. This time, 3.5 days, no spotting, just stopped. Took clomid days 3-5 as prescribed. Kept log on my ap. Did an LH test on day 12 as prescribed, LH surge. Hubby and I were intimate 3 times, every other day. I am assuming I ovulated, had the "typical" cm, slight twingeing on my left ovary area, but it was not as "obvious" as last time, so part of me is still skeptical. Didn't pee soon after day 3, developed a Uti 5dpo. Began taking bactrim for that. Relatively "dry" 2-3 dpo 7 dpo I was super nauseous. Got sick in the am. 9 dpo, also nauseous. Had to actually leave my classroom in class to excuse myself. I continued to have nausea symptoms for 4.5 hours. Didn't get hopeful because bactrim side effects can be nausea. But I am actually throwing up which is bother some. Definitely not feeling anything else with the nausea so I know I'm not sick. 10dpo slight "pulling" feeling in my lower abdomen. Off an on, maybe 3 times that day? Curious so I took a pregnancy test, even though it was way early... Negative. 11dpo I noticed I was damp in my panties. I decided to check my cm and after examining my finger, had some white residue. 12dpo, same cm, little more of it on my finger, white. Does not have any weird odor. Felt a "pulling" again 3 times today (did it just a few moments ago). I had nausea this am, didn't throw up, went away. Went to an early dinner with hubby around 430, felt fine. Walked around, nausea again. Threw up twice. I have had the worst gas. I literally burped probably 15 times in the last 3 hours. Again, thinking it's a side effect of the UTI medication, but hubby is skeptical. Says the throwing up/gas does not seem like me. Took a bath and noticed my nipples are a bit sore, mainly my left one. But my boobs themselves don't feel sore. I have had no spotting (sign of implantation, right?) Sorry if TMI.
I have been reading online, which my gyno told me not to do. lol I can now see why. I will say, some of the posts on other sites, people are super rude to people like me and just say, "just take a damn pregnancy test." Well, isn't a site like this to get information before taking a pregnancy test and to listen to others experience? So, if you are going to say something unkind such as that, please refrain from responding. I am not dumb, and know the obvious way to know is a pregnancy test. However, I don't want to jump the gun and be let down. Also, I have already dropped $100.00 on tests and really don't want to waste anymore money if it's going to be for nothing.
Venting: Part of me is also just annoyed. I am annoyed that PMS symptoms are exact to pregnancy symptoms. I am annoyed that my husband and I have done everything right (together forever, married, pay some debt, home, then kid) and we can't just automatically conceive, but irresponsible people around us can get pregnant like that. I am a natural worrier, a planner, and worry that it wont happen in a timely fashion (we don't want to be old parents and want 2 kids).
Part of me is annoyed with mom, whom I love dearly, but who would "cryptically" talk about her "difficulties" with getting pregnant with my brother and I but brushed it off as nothing. I didn't find out until last week that she has polysistic and endometriosis, both are hereditary. I would have like to have known this, I don't know, years ago, and I would have stopped my birth control a hell of alot sooner than just 1 year ago in order to allow more time for my cycles to get on track.
I know I am supposed to be stress free, I am really trying. I am keeping busy (I teach high school so I am busy all the time anyways), I am doing yoga, reading/adult coloring book when I have free time. But I can't help but be annoyed with the sense of urgency around this subject.
So, informed ladies of the interwebs, what are your thoughts? Should I try testing again? Wait and see? Can you have symptoms like the above without implantation bleeding and be pregnant? Is there anyone else like me that is worried about "the clock" ticking away, how are you coping?
Hello, Newbie here again. 2nd posting. I have some issues need some clarity on. Have an appointment with my gyno, just going insane. lol
Posted before, very helpful/encouraging.
28 years old...been receiving treatment for 2 months now to try and regulate my irregular cycles most likely caused by Polysistic O syndrome. Went on provera, clomid, and metformin. Still on metformin daily. 1st Cycle in October seemed to go well. Everything worked. I had some "typical" symptoms. Thought I even may have had some implantation bleeding but turned out just a week of brown spotting before my period. Progesterone levels were good, gyno liked how everything worked, took like 4 pregnancy tests and the AF came on the day it was supposed to. Que disappointment. Time for round two.
AF came, but this time, it was mega short....3.5 days. October it was 5 days and then a week of brownish spotting. This time, 3.5 days, no spotting, just stopped. Took clomid days 3-5 as prescribed. Kept log on my ap. Did an LH test on day 12 as prescribed, LH surge. Hubby and I were intimate 3 times, every other day. I am assuming I ovulated, had the "typical" cm, slight twingeing on my left ovary area, but it was not as "obvious" as last time, so part of me is still skeptical. Didn't pee soon after day 3, developed a Uti 5dpo. Began taking bactrim for that. Relatively "dry" 2-3 dpo 7 dpo I was super nauseous. Got sick in the am. 9 dpo, also nauseous. Had to actually leave my classroom in class to excuse myself. I continued to have nausea symptoms for 4.5 hours. Didn't get hopeful because bactrim side effects can be nausea. But I am actually throwing up which is bother some. Definitely not feeling anything else with the nausea so I know I'm not sick. 10dpo slight "pulling" feeling in my lower abdomen. Off an on, maybe 3 times that day? Curious so I took a pregnancy test, even though it was way early... Negative. 11dpo I noticed I was damp in my panties. I decided to check my cm and after examining my finger, had some white residue. 12dpo, same cm, little more of it on my finger, white. Does not have any weird odor. Felt a "pulling" again 3 times today (did it just a few moments ago). I had nausea this am, didn't throw up, went away. Went to an early dinner with hubby around 430, felt fine. Walked around, nausea again. Threw up twice. I have had the worst gas. I literally burped probably 15 times in the last 3 hours. Again, thinking it's a side effect of the UTI medication, but hubby is skeptical. Says the throwing up/gas does not seem like me. Took a bath and noticed my nipples are a bit sore, mainly my left one. But my boobs themselves don't feel sore. I have had no spotting (sign of implantation, right?) Sorry if TMI.
I have been reading online, which my gyno told me not to do. lol I can now see why. I will say, some of the posts on other sites, people are super rude to people like me and just say, "just take a damn pregnancy test." Well, isn't a site like this to get information before taking a pregnancy test and to listen to others experience? So, if you are going to say something unkind such as that, please refrain from responding. I am not dumb, and know the obvious way to know is a pregnancy test. However, I don't want to jump the gun and be let down. Also, I have already dropped $100.00 on tests and really don't want to waste anymore money if it's going to be for nothing.
Venting: Part of me is also just annoyed. I am annoyed that PMS symptoms are exact to pregnancy symptoms. I am annoyed that my husband and I have done everything right (together forever, married, pay some debt, home, then kid) and we can't just automatically conceive, but irresponsible people around us can get pregnant like that. I am a natural worrier, a planner, and worry that it wont happen in a timely fashion (we don't want to be old parents and want 2 kids).
Part of me is annoyed with mom, whom I love dearly, but who would "cryptically" talk about her "difficulties" with getting pregnant with my brother and I but brushed it off as nothing. I didn't find out until last week that she has polysistic and endometriosis, both are hereditary. I would have like to have known this, I don't know, years ago, and I would have stopped my birth control a hell of alot sooner than just 1 year ago in order to allow more time for my cycles to get on track.
I know I am supposed to be stress free, I am really trying. I am keeping busy (I teach high school so I am busy all the time anyways), I am doing yoga, reading/adult coloring book when I have free time. But I can't help but be annoyed with the sense of urgency around this subject.
So, informed ladies of the interwebs, what are your thoughts? Should I try testing again? Wait and see? Can you have symptoms like the above without implantation bleeding and be pregnant? Is there anyone else like me that is worried about "the clock" ticking away, how are you coping?
Thanks again. Much appreciated.
Holy novel of text, Batman!
You aren't going to like my answer, but here it is: If you think you're pregnant, take a test. No one else here can tell you anything other than that. And most people here will say the same.
And no, the point of this forum is not to "get information before taking a pregnancy test." There is nothin anyone here can tell you that a test won't.
If your symptoms are pregnancy related you will turn a test.
It can take a healthy couple a year to conceive. Even the healthiest couple only has a 20 percent chance of conceiving each month.
Take a moment to read the Newbie guide pinned to the top of this page.
Wowzers. I couldn't even read it all. No one can give you answers before a positive pregnancy test. We don't have uterus goggles, and our "experience" won't mean anything to your body. Assume all symptoms are PMS symptoms until you have a positive test, because they are exactly the same symptoms.
ETA: Regarding the frustration: I get it. Really, I do. DH and I have waited 5 years, done all the "right" things (house, stable jobs, financially ready...) and my teenage cousin gets pregnant while we struggle to. It's frustrating to say the least. Keep your head up. Read the newbie guides here, and participate in the TWW and WTO threads.
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
Well, thanks for ignoring my request to not respond if you were going to be rude. Totally appreciate it. Obviously stressed out and looking for encouragement but instead of ignoring, you chose to make things worse.
Knew I should go on these things. Just more rude commentary. Apparently the rules of a forum have changed. Last I knew they were meant to discuss, get advice, etc. I was un-aware that there is an elitist persona with rules and regulations.
I skimmed the newbie guide. Again, this is a forum. I was also unaware that there must be a text limit like twitter.
Again, I am not DUMB. I know to take a PREGNANCY TEST. I am looking for people to SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCE BECAUSE THIS IS A FORUM AND WHAT IT IS FOR.
So here is my new question I guess, does anyone know of ANY place to go to discuss issues/feelings about these sort of things since you're not allowed to do so on here? I am legitimately asking.
Well, thanks for ignoring my request to not respond if you were going to be rude. Totally appreciate it. Obviously stressed out and looking for encouragement but instead of ignoring, you chose to make things worse.
Knew I should go on these things. Just more rude commentary. Apparently the rules of a forum have changed. Last I knew they were meant to discuss, get advice, etc. I was un-aware that there is an elitist persona with rules and regulations.
I skimmed the newbie guide. Again, this is a forum. I was also unaware that there must be a text limit like twitter.
Again, I am not DUMB. I know to take a PREGNANCY TEST. I am looking for people to SHARE THEIR EXPERIENCE BECAUSE THIS IS A FORUM AND WHAT IT IS FOR.
Other people's experiences are irrelevant. Every body is different. Every pregnancy is different. No one can tell you anything other than to take a test. I am not sure what else you want us to say.
Also, you can't dictate how people respond to your post. That's not how the internet works.
No one was rude to you. Just because you don't like the answer doesn't mean it's rude. And no one called you dumb, FTR.
So here is my new question I guess, does anyone know of ANY place to go to discuss issues/feelings about these sort of things since you're not allowed to do so on here? I am legitimately asking.
You're allowed to discuss feeling here. But you post did ask if you should test or what's going on with your body. No one here knows.
To share experiences and rants/raves/ etc. check out the daily WTO/TWW threads, depending on where you are in your cycle. They are designed for this specifically.
Nope, not that I don't like what you have to say, I dislike that you're just a rude a person.
Well, you have proven my distrust of these sort of things. Looking for support and compassion, and instead I get hostility and rule rhetoric thrown at me. Women can never support each other. Instead of supporting me, and helping, you criticize the length of my text, and chose to be cold and short.
So, what is the point of this website, exactly? What is the point of this forum community? Clearly I do not understand.
I'd go to a TTC support group, but they don't exist in my state.
I would never respond to someone like me in the manner that you did.
Hi. I'm sorry you didn't like the responses you got, but no one was rude to you. They were truthful. Many women here have never been pregnant, but we're all familiar with the frustration of trying to conceive. As for where you can find women who will talk with you about TTC, we do that here. What we won't do, however, is tell you we know things we have no way of knowing. We will not sugar coat the truth. The fact is, it is more likely that you are not pregnant than that you are. If you want to know, a test is the only way. We can't help you with that. I sincerely hope you find what you're looking for. If you'd like to stay and learn, please do. The ladies here are absolutely wonderful.
I'm sorry, but the reaction of the other woman definitely implied that because science treats women's bodies as something different, and because I "wrote too much," that I am not allowed to ask questions such as the above. Maybe I will try a different website. See if anyone is supportive there. My apologies.
Nope, not that I don't like what you have to say, I dislike that you're just a rude a person.
Well, you have proven my distrust of these sort of things. Looking for support and compassion, and instead I get hostility and rule rhetoric thrown at me. Women can never support each other. Instead of supporting me, and helping, you criticize the length of my text, and chose to be cold and short.
So, what is the point of this website, exactly? What is the point of this forum community? Clearly I do not understand.
I'd go to a TTC support group, but they don't exist in my state.
I would never respond to someone like me in the manner that you did.
Um.... what the hell? No one was even a little rude to you.
Nope, not that I don't like what you have to say, I dislike that you're just a rude a person.
Well, you have proven my distrust of these sort of things. Looking for support and compassion, and instead I get hostility and rule rhetoric thrown at me. Women can never support each other. Instead of supporting me, and helping, you criticize the length of my text, and chose to be cold and short.
So, what is the point of this website, exactly? What is the point of this forum community? Clearly I do not understand.
I'd go to a TTC support group, but they don't exist in my state.
I would never respond to someone like me in the manner that you did.
The women on this forum are freaking amazing. They kept me sane when I was TTC with their blunt but educated answers. They don't sugar coat and tell you your symptoms mean youre pregnant, but if you give support, you'll get nothing but support in return from this community. No one was rude, they were blunt sure, but rude? Not a chance.
I have never experienced this much criticism in my entire life...
So, you have a woman who is clearly stressed out and looking for help, and instead of support, you criticize her actions. I don't understand how that is even logical.
Wow. No one was rude. I absolutely gave you support and a real answer. I didn't give you answers like "OMG you are totes preggly!! I know it even before you take a test because I had the same thing happen to me before!! Congrats!!!" That's obviously what you wanted if you considered our responses rude.
In that case:
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
Okay. I will play this game then.,... sense the only answer is to take a pregnancy test, does anyone know of any places to buy more affordable pregnancy tests so I am not spending $15. per test?
I'm sorry, but the reaction of the other woman definitely implied that because science treats women's bodies as something different, and because I "wrote too much," that I am not allowed to ask questions such as the above. Maybe I will try a different website. See if anyone is supportive there. My apologies.
Sigh. I never said you weren't allowed to ask a question because you wrote too much. I simply commented that your original post was long and a lot to take in. Even another poster said she couldn't read it all.
You're putting words in my mouth and judging me based on a few random postings in an anymore Internet forum. I personally feel that's more rude than anything I said or did. But I will still assume that while I perceive the behavior as rude, you are not a rude person and in general won't judge you based on a few Internet postings.
No one here was rude. In fact, they were remarkably restrained in their responses to your OP, which basically amounted to a novel asking if you could be pregnant. If you had done more than skim the newbie thread, you would know that sort of thing violates the TOU and wouldn't go over well here.
This is a great group of ladies, who are happy to provide support and helpful information where it is possible to do so. But nobody here can tell you what your uterus pulling, sore nipples, etc mean. The only thing that can answer that question is a pregnancy test. If you get a BFN, it means you aren't pregnant at this time. Even if someone said "omg I had the same thing and I was totes KU!!!!" it wouldn't mean anything for you. If anything, it would be cruel of us to get your hopes up when we can't possibly know if you're pregnant.
I can't provide helpful info for the question you asked, but I can provide info on a comment you made. You mentioned spending $100+ on pregnancy tests. Skip the expensive pharmacy tests and buy Wondfos on amazon. You can buy them in bulk for cheap and they work fine. See a thread from earlier today on which amazon sellers are reliable.
Okay. I will play this game then.,... sense the only answer is to take a pregnancy test, does anyone know of any places to buy more affordable pregnancy tests so I am not spending $15. per test?
What game? I really have no clue what you are going on about....
Amazon has lots of affordable tests. The dollar tree or Walmart has tests for a buck or less.
Okay. I will play this game then.,... sense the only answer is to take a pregnancy test, does anyone know of any places to buy more affordable pregnancy tests so I am not spending $15. per test?
Wondfos on Amazon. But you need to be careful about your seller. There is a post on this page about that you may want to check out. I have also heard there are some decent tests from the dollar store but I don't have experience with that.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
Walmart HPTs and Dollar Store HPT are very accurate, and very cheap.
TTC is frustrating, we have all felt the feelings you are feeling... believe me.
Me 34 DH 36 Married since July 2010 MFI (High DNA Fragmentation) & Mild endometriosis
TTC #1 since June 2015 Aug 2016 - May 2017 6 IUI's with letrozole - BFN April 2017 - laparoscopy to remove mild endo June 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU - Cancelled early ovulation, no eggs retrieved. Aug/Sept 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU, cetrotide - 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature 5 eggs ICSI'd 6 eggs frozen - 1 day 5 blast transfered, 2 expanded blast frozen - BFP! May 2018 - Baby girl born - Our Joy
TTC #2 since July 2019 July 2019 - FET - BFN Jan 2020 - FET - canceled due to family health issues Mar 2020 - FET - low beta - chemical pregnancy July 2020 - ICSI'd remaining 6 eggs - 3 fertilized - 2 survived to early blast stage, transfered both - Chemical Pregnancy
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
You can't delete posts. I'm sorry you're so overwhelmed, but I have to be honest: I have no idea why you're so upset. The ladies here were very kind in their responses. You've been fairly unkind in yours. There's no need to cry. You'll know in a few days whether you're pregnant or not, and nothing any of us say will change it either way.
Wow no one here was rude at all. Period. Just because you didn't like their answer you interpreted it as rude but that doesn't mean it was. I read all the responses and you were clearly the only one being rude.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
I don't understand...no one here was criticizing you. Everyone was trying to help you. I'm sorry if you didn't get the answer you wanted to hear, but that's not how it works here. Nothing is sugar coated, it's honest. You have to give support to get support. If you stick around, lurk, and read the newbie post, you'll learn a lot from these ladies.
Me: 27 DH: 29 High School Sweethearts: 12/12/04 Engaged: 5/28/10 Married: 5/22/11 TTC #1: October 2015 BFP: 12/22/15 EDD: 9/2/16
I don't understand how a 3rd party person would not read the responses as being pic-kingly critical of my length of writing and the questions I asked on an internet forum.
Apparently I can't even deactivate my account. Or delete the post as noted above.
So I will end with again, a sincere apology, for not understanding protocols.
Also, for being stressed out, venting when I apparently am not allowed to, and for jumping to conclusions that I would find what I was looking for. I'll just deal with this on my own.
Wow.
No one was rude. I absolutely gave you support and a real answer.
I didn't give you answers like "OMG you are totes preggly!! I know it even before you take a test because I had the same thing happen to me before!! Congrats!!!"
That's obviously what you wanted if you considered our responses rude.
In that case:
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
^how is that photo not rude?
Again, legitimately asking. Apparently I don't understand forum ettiquite.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Seriously? With all due respect, suck it up. Nobody here was rude to you. We're just telling it how it is. Nobody here can tell you anything except to take a pregnancy test and everyone gave great advice on where to get cheap tests.
Not really sure what you expect from us. You said you skimmed the newbie guide but I encourage you to read it. You will see that these types of posts don't go over well here. The TTC process is frustrating, I hear you. I've been trying for a year now and these ladies have really helped me cope.
FTR, I have had similar symptoms that you have and have never been pregnant. Our experiences have no bearing on yours and vice versa.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
^how is that photo not rude?
Again, legitimately asking. Apparently I don't understand forum ettiquite.
---qbf--
Because you don't know my intention, it wasn't rude, it was snarky *after* you went all martyr about how terrible we were for being honest with you.
I am sorry, but I just don't understand how that is an appropriate response to someone that is clearly upset.
I know that my writing seems sarcastic because it is typing, but I am honestly asking how these responses are not rude? This is an entirely different forum experience for me. I have actually never seen responses such as these. I am a blunt person myself, in life, but when someone is clearly upset about serious issues, I certainly cushion the blow a little bit. I just have never seen ettiqute as such. The impression given was unsupportive and extremely surprising to see which obviously is going to cause a reaction.
I don't think the comments about the length of your post were meant as a personal attack.
Mlight28 even commiserated with you about how frustrating it is to feel like you're doing everything right, but still nothing is working...
Me 34 DH 36 Married since July 2010 MFI (High DNA Fragmentation) & Mild endometriosis
TTC #1 since June 2015 Aug 2016 - May 2017 6 IUI's with letrozole - BFN April 2017 - laparoscopy to remove mild endo June 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU - Cancelled early ovulation, no eggs retrieved. Aug/Sept 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU, cetrotide - 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature 5 eggs ICSI'd 6 eggs frozen - 1 day 5 blast transfered, 2 expanded blast frozen - BFP! May 2018 - Baby girl born - Our Joy
TTC #2 since July 2019 July 2019 - FET - BFN Jan 2020 - FET - canceled due to family health issues Mar 2020 - FET - low beta - chemical pregnancy July 2020 - ICSI'd remaining 6 eggs - 3 fertilized - 2 survived to early blast stage, transfered both - Chemical Pregnancy
I am sorry, but I just don't understand how that is an appropriate response to someone that is clearly upset.
I know that my writing seems sarcastic because it is typing, but I am honestly asking how these responses are not rude? This is an entirely different forum experience for me. I have actually never seen responses such as these. I am a blunt person myself, in life, but when someone is clearly upset about serious issues, I certainly cushion the blow a little bit. I just have never seen ettiqute as such. The impression given was unsupportive and extremely surprising to see which obviously is going to cause a reaction.
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
^how is that photo not rude?
Again, legitimately asking. Apparently I don't understand forum ettiquite.
---qbf--
Because you don't know my intention, it wasn't rude, it was snarky *after* you went all martyr about how terrible we were for being honest with you.
..... snarky is a synonym for being rude.
I was not a martyr. Did not claim to be one. Again, shocked at the responses I was getting. Expected something different from a website that claims to be a supportive environment for women stressing out over pregnancy.
Expected to see something like, "you're clearly stressed out, pregnancy test is the only way, when I was going through with it here were my coping strategies...:"
Not, "you're not going to like what I have to say... no one can relate to you....no one is the same.... posts like this you wont get away with..." that to me does not scream support.
But whatever. Learned my lesson.
Nothing I say will sink in. And I cant delete this. So it is what it is. Definitely a lesson learned. One I think I needed.
You got a lot of people trying to answer your questions and concerns here. You are really taking some stuff too harshly. This is a great board with lots of info and women who support each other. It's ok to not know every single rule, but you can't take offense to every potential slight and you went from 0-60 being upset.
We are all grown women, trying to get pregnant. Some of us have been here a long time, some have been through losses and more. Believe me, we get the stress, being upset, the symptom spotting. You can can deactivate your account or whatever or you can put on your big girl pants and realize that at worst you got a couple snarky gifs after you accused people of picking on you when they just *commented* on the length of your post ....and they still answered your questions.
Me: 33 DH: 31 DS: 5 years old TTC #2 since August 2015 July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts November 2016: FET#1 = chemical January 2017: FET#2 = chemical March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
April 24, 2017: FET#3 - BFN May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
^how is that photo not rude?
Again, legitimately asking. Apparently I don't understand forum ettiquite.
---qbf--
Because you don't know my intention, it wasn't rude, it was snarky *after* you went all martyr about how terrible we were for being honest with you.
..... snarky is a synonym for being rude.
I was not a martyr. Did not claim to be one. Again, shocked at the responses I was getting. Expected something different from a website that claims to be a supportive environment for women stressing out over pregnancy.
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Snarky =/= rude
You can't come on to a forum and demand support. We are people, going through the same thing. Not paid hair patters or smoke blowers. The truth =/= rude. To say from the first post, which was very nice, that we've caused you all this stress is martyr-ing yourself.
As @lulucooks pointed out, we were only snarky after you called us rude for pointing out facts to you and not sugar coating anything. I don't know what you were actually looking for here. We gave you support and real answers. You were looking for rainbows and unicorns. That's all there is to it.
I'm done here.
Best of luck to you.
Married 2011
TTC #1 since April 2015
Fur child: One awesome Golden Retriever IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy October 2016: IUI #1- BFN November 2016: IUI #2- BFN December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD March 2017 - FET
Before I attempt to figure out how to delete this post, to save myself further scrutiny and embarassment, I just really would like to re-iterate that I have never been criticized so harshly. Feel stupid. Crying over the stupid internet.
My sincere apologies for screwing up.
Again....what? You've not been criticized at all. You can't delete your posts.
^how is that photo not rude?
Again, legitimately asking. Apparently I don't understand forum ettiquite.
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Because you don't know my intention, it wasn't rude, it was snarky *after* you went all martyr about how terrible we were for being honest with you.
..... snarky is a synonym for being rude.
I was not a martyr. Did not claim to be one. Again, shocked at the responses I was getting. Expected something different from a website that claims to be a supportive environment for women stressing out over pregnancy.
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We are supportive. But the thing is, you can't just waltz in here and demand support. You have to give support to get support. You are the one taking things way too personally. You still got your questions answered.
People only started getting snarky and rude when you were rude first and started convicting people of being rude when they weren't. If you are going to tell people they are being rude when they aren't then no one is going to want to help you.
If I'm going to be called rude I might as well start being rude
Re: Looking for some "experienced" words of wisdom....newbie.
You aren't going to like my answer, but here it is: If you think you're pregnant, take a test. No one else here can tell you anything other than that. And most people here will say the same.
And no, the point of this forum is not to "get information before taking a pregnancy test." There is nothin anyone here can tell you that a test won't.
If your symptoms are pregnancy related you will turn a test.
It can take a healthy couple a year to conceive. Even the healthiest couple only has a 20 percent chance of conceiving each month.
Take a moment to read the Newbie guide pinned to the top of this page.
Best of luck.
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No one can give you answers before a positive pregnancy test. We don't have uterus goggles, and our "experience" won't mean anything to your body.
Assume all symptoms are PMS symptoms until you have a positive test, because they are exactly the same symptoms.
ETA: Regarding the frustration: I get it. Really, I do. DH and I have waited 5 years, done all the "right" things (house, stable jobs, financially ready...) and my teenage cousin gets pregnant while we struggle to. It's frustrating to say the least. Keep your head up. Read the newbie guides here, and participate in the TWW and WTO threads.
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET
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To share experiences and rants/raves/ etc. check out the daily WTO/TWW threads, depending on where you are in your cycle. They are designed for this specifically.
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Many women here have never been pregnant, but we're all familiar with the frustration of trying to conceive.
As for where you can find women who will talk with you about TTC, we do that here. What we won't do, however, is tell you we know things we have no way of knowing. We will not sugar coat the truth. The fact is, it is more likely that you are not pregnant than that you are. If you want to know, a test is the only way. We can't help you with that.
I sincerely hope you find what you're looking for. If you'd like to stay and learn, please do. The ladies here are absolutely wonderful.
The women on this forum are freaking amazing. They kept me sane when I was TTC with their blunt but educated answers. They don't sugar coat and tell you your symptoms mean youre pregnant, but if you give support, you'll get nothing but support in return from this community. No one was rude, they were blunt sure, but rude? Not a chance.
No one was rude. I absolutely gave you support and a real answer.
I didn't give you answers like "OMG you are totes preggly!! I know it even before you take a test because I had the same thing happen to me before!! Congrats!!!"
That's obviously what you wanted if you considered our responses rude.
In that case:
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET
You're putting words in my mouth and judging me based on a few random postings in an anymore Internet forum. I personally feel that's more rude than anything I said or did. But I will still assume that while I perceive the behavior as rude, you are not a rude person and in general won't judge you based on a few Internet postings.
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This is a great group of ladies, who are happy to provide support and helpful information where it is possible to do so. But nobody here can tell you what your uterus pulling, sore nipples, etc mean. The only thing that can answer that question is a pregnancy test. If you get a BFN, it means you aren't pregnant at this time. Even if someone said "omg I had the same thing and I was totes KU!!!!" it wouldn't mean anything for you. If anything, it would be cruel of us to get your hopes up when we can't possibly know if you're pregnant.
I can't provide helpful info for the question you asked, but I can provide info on a comment you made. You mentioned spending $100+ on pregnancy tests. Skip the expensive pharmacy tests and buy Wondfos on amazon. You can buy them in bulk for cheap and they work fine. See a thread from earlier today on which amazon sellers are reliable.
Amazon has lots of affordable tests. The dollar tree or Walmart has tests for a buck or less.
Hope you didn't find my answer to be rude.
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MFI (High DNA Fragmentation) & Mild endometriosis
Aug 2016 - May 2017 6 IUI's with letrozole - BFN
April 2017 - laparoscopy to remove mild endo
June 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU - Cancelled early ovulation, no eggs retrieved.
Aug/Sept 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU, cetrotide - 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature
5 eggs ICSI'd 6 eggs frozen - 1 day 5 blast transfered, 2 expanded blast frozen - BFP!
May 2018 - Baby girl born - Our Joy
TTC #2 since July 2019
July 2019 - FET - BFN
Jan 2020 - FET - canceled due to family health issues
Mar 2020 - FET - low beta - chemical pregnancy
July 2020 - ICSI'd remaining 6 eggs - 3 fertilized - 2 survived to early blast stage, transfered both - Chemical Pregnancy
There's no need to cry. You'll know in a few days whether you're pregnant or not, and nothing any of us say will change it either way.
High School Sweethearts: 12/12/04
Engaged: 5/28/10
Married: 5/22/11
TTC #1: October 2015
BFP: 12/22/15 EDD: 9/2/16
Not really sure what you expect from us. You said you skimmed the newbie guide but I encourage you to read it. You will see that these types of posts don't go over well here. The TTC process is frustrating, I hear you. I've been trying for a year now and these ladies have really helped me cope.
FTR, I have had similar symptoms that you have and have never been pregnant. Our experiences have no bearing on yours and vice versa.
ETA- mobile typing sucks
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Because you don't know my intention, it wasn't rude, it was snarky *after* you went all martyr about how terrible we were for being honest with you.
MFI (High DNA Fragmentation) & Mild endometriosis
Aug 2016 - May 2017 6 IUI's with letrozole - BFN
April 2017 - laparoscopy to remove mild endo
June 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU - Cancelled early ovulation, no eggs retrieved.
Aug/Sept 2017 - Mini IVF letrozole 12.5mg, Gonal-F 75IU, cetrotide - 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature
5 eggs ICSI'd 6 eggs frozen - 1 day 5 blast transfered, 2 expanded blast frozen - BFP!
May 2018 - Baby girl born - Our Joy
TTC #2 since July 2019
July 2019 - FET - BFN
Jan 2020 - FET - canceled due to family health issues
Mar 2020 - FET - low beta - chemical pregnancy
July 2020 - ICSI'd remaining 6 eggs - 3 fertilized - 2 survived to early blast stage, transfered both - Chemical Pregnancy
Is this for real? This can't be for real....
We are all grown women, trying to get pregnant. Some of us have been here a long time, some have been through losses and more. Believe me, we get the stress, being upset, the symptom spotting. You can can deactivate your account or whatever or you can put on your big girl pants and realize that at worst you got a couple snarky gifs after you accused people of picking on you when they just *commented* on the length of your post ....and they still answered your questions.
DS: 5 years old
TTC #2 since August 2015
July 2016: Testing cycle with 100 mg Clomid = BFN
August 2016: 50 mg Clomid + IUI = BFN
October 2016: IVF#1 - 13 retrieved / 12 mature / 9 fertilized / 2 blasts
November 2016: FET#1 = chemical
January 2017: FET#2 = chemical
March 2017: IVF#2 - 18 retrieved / 18 mature / 16 fertilized / 5 blasts
May 24, 2017: FET#4 - BFP! - Beta #1 151 - Beta #2 503 - Due date 2/9/18
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Snarky =/= rude
You can't come on to a forum and demand support. We are people, going through the same thing. Not paid hair patters or smoke blowers. The truth =/= rude. To say from the first post, which was very nice, that we've caused you all this stress is martyr-ing yourself.
I don't know what you were actually looking for here. We gave you support and real answers. You were looking for rainbows and unicorns. That's all there is to it.
I'm done here.
Best of luck to you.
IUI August 2016 : Cancelled due to polyp
September 2016: Polyp removal/hysteroscopy
October 2016: IUI #1- BFN
November 2016: IUI #2- BFN
December 2016: IUI #3 - BFN
January/February 2017 - IVF + ICSI + PGD
March 2017 - FET
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We are supportive. But the thing is, you can't just waltz in here and demand support. You have to give support to get support. You are the one taking things way too personally. You still got your questions answered.
If I'm going to be called rude I might as well start being rude