Regarding the in home daycare. I'm easing into this role so I can continue to be a SAHM, and if anyone decides to go for it, I advise you to go slow instead of throwing yourself into it whole hog right off the bat. I was a nanny for five years, and I'm a teacher on hiatus from the classroom, but it was still a tough adjustment for me to do my kid, plus other folks' kids. Sometimes, especially when my daughter was a little baby, I often felt intense guilt and therefore stress when I had to take care of something else while she cried to nurse, or got scared and needed to be held. I've found it's way easier to manage everyone's need when there are mostly older toddlers and children to care for rather than a few babies.
My confession is that being a FTM makes me feel like an idiot most of the time. And I'm not an idiot!! It just seems like there's so much to learn and consider that I've never thought of before. And the sad part is that I've been exposed to and (formerly) considered myself knowledgeable on babies...you know, niece-type babies that went back to their parents after a few hours or a day. I feel like a jackass even writing this honestly...I am a very competent person, but just trying to read and learn and think about everything gets overwhelming and I still feel largely unprepared.
So much of babies and such is just "on the job training." You're going to be unprepared until one day, you're not. No amount of reading and learning is going to change that. Instinct is an amazing thing. My honest advice to you is to stop reading and learning about everything. Pick something each month you want to know about.
Don't learn much beyond the first few months until you need to. It just becomes too overwhelming. Don't know what type of bottle to buy? Stop the in-depth research and just go with the one you feel will be best. I liked the Avent ones because they work well and are easy to clean. Every item is going to have "love its" and "hate its." You may not know what works best for your family until you've done some trial and error.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012 TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
My confession is that being a FTM makes me feel like an idiot most of the time. And I'm not an idiot!! It just seems like there's so much to learn and consider that I've never thought of before. And the sad part is that I've been exposed to and (formerly) considered myself knowledgeable on babies...you know, niece-type babies that went back to their parents after a few hours or a day. I feel like a jackass even writing this honestly...I am a very competent person, but just trying to read and learn and think about everything gets overwhelming and I still feel largely unprepared.
So much of babies and such is just "on the job training." You're going to be unprepared until one day, you're not. No amount of reading and learning is going to change that. Instinct is an amazing thing. My honest advice to you is to stop reading and learning about everything. Pick something each month you want to know about.
Don't learn much beyond the first few months until you need to. It just becomes too overwhelming. Don't know what type of bottle to buy? Stop the in-depth research and just go with the one you feel will be best. I liked the Avent ones because they work well and are easy to clean. Every item is going to have "love its" and "hate its." You may not know what works best for your family until you've done some trial and error.
Thanks, I appreciate this. I'm going to try and chill out a little
I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference.
I said this before on an earlier post, but honestly, take a look at a network marketing business that you can get behind. I know people have such a strong opinion about them (I know I did), but they can truly help out so much. I am bringing in as much as my husband's teaching paycheck (& so close to practically doubling that- so it does happen!) It's allowed me to stay at home doing a lot less work. I know people roll their eyes about it, but it lets me stay at home with my son & i can take as much time off as i want when i have this next one...so I don't care!
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Thanks for the procrastination suggestion. I have spent several hours at work researching various network marketing businesses because I really need to find a way to bring in $500- 800/ month to make this SAHM plan work.
Mine is I can't stop eating. This week I have been seriously hungry all the time. First trimester I didn't care about eating and now I can't seem to stop wanting to. I just took a quick break from work (I work from home) and got in the car (still in my Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles pjs that I just wear around the house---- I'm a nerd) and went to Cook Out and got a cookout tray with a quarter pounder cheeseburger with lettuce and onions and light mayo, doubled up on the onion rings, and got an Eggnog shake for my drink. Oh yeah........ I also had this for lunch yesterday! I'm really into meat lately. Last night was date night and we went to O Charleys. Got a 9oz steak, loaded baked potato, and asparagus, and then filled up on dinner rolls. I think this baby is going through a growth spurt or something b/c I'm starving all the time.
Second confession is I think we need to rename May 2016 BMB to Chicken McNugget Lovers Anonymous.
I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference.
I said this before on an earlier post, but honestly, take a look at a network marketing business that you can get behind. I know people have such a strong opinion about them (I know I did), but they can truly help out so much. I am bringing in as much as my husband's teaching paycheck (& so close to practically doubling that- so it does happen!) It's allowed me to stay at home doing a lot less work. I know people roll their eyes about it, but it lets me stay at home with my son & i can take as much time off as i want when i have this next one...so I don't care!
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Thanks for the procrastination suggestion. I have spent several hours at work researching various network marketing businesses because I really need to find a way to bring in $500- 800/ month to make this SAHM plan work.
Lol...I understand so many people hate on them, (which in turn makes everyone else leery) but you could easily make that.
I put up the tree and decorated it by myself. This would be a problem if I had a "normal " husband who like to do those things together but I don't and he hates decorating and Christmas movies & music. SO score for me, tree is up and I got to watch ELF
@araecasey Lol no you're not alone! I'm with you on this one. I've actually been a vegetarian since I was 3 years old (so my mom claims) and it was because of a McNugget! XP
You guys kill me with the nuggets! I can't say that I HATE them @araecasey , because I used to eat them a lot, however apparently my May baby doesn't want them?? I don't get these crazy cravings for them when you post the pics!!
So I guess my confession is that I feel like a failure in the May crew for not craving nuggets!!!
I just ugly cried to a hallmark Christmas movie for like 5 minutes straight.
It's ok, I'm here to tell you that I've been ugly crying to hallmark Christmas movies since November 1 when they started. My sister watches them with me and just stares at me like I'm a nut case every night. We can ugly cry together.
If I could fire my assistant tomorrow I would. Thankfully the other manager that shares her is back from maternity leave on Monday so we can determine how to proceed. Not once has she asked "do you need anything" before she leaves for the day. I hate her...
@ncm0328 that GIF was soooo me!! I was trying to fight it but caved and let the flood out. My dogs were just watching, judging me. Now when I do this I'll think of you and hope you're crying to the same movie
I just tried to order chicken tenders and a pizza and said "I would like to place a delivery for pick up" got flustered and hung up. My stupid brain is keeping me from fried chicken delight! Nooooo!
ETA: I started crying so my son brought me a quarter and said "Here's money. No more sad Mama" not sure how to feel about that...
My fffc is that I'm avoiding my neighbor like the plague and she doesn't realize it. I'm just beyond irritated with that family. Her 5 year old son is an a**hole. They don't pitch in for anything. They don't believe their kid should go to school because they want him to be "street smart"... The list goes on. The icing on the cake for me was this morning. So, I take her kid to school every morning. Well, last night she tells me that she'll take my son to school because the boys had a field trip today and she wanted to join. My dh was like finally they are going to help and I told him not to get his hopes up. I texted her this morning and heard nothing back. So 15 minutes after I normally leave. I was like "I'm taking my son to school" and left. She texts back saying "oh. Okay cool". She didn't get to school until 15-20 minutes after class starts and as the kids are leaving for their field trip which throws the teacher and students off because now they have to wait to get him checked in and placed into someone's car. Oh then her kid starts screaming and crying and refusing to go on the trip.
I'm pissed that the one day they were going to take my kid to school he would have been late and possibly would have missed his field trip. He has perfect attendance. And they seriously couldn't give me a heads up like sorry but we're running late this morning... I'm glad I just left but I have zero patience left and it's just been building up.
My FFFC isn't really a complaint, but here I am thinking I haven't been hormonal this whole time and now I'm stuck in traffic watching the funeral procession of the Colorado Springs recent fallen officer and I'm bawling like a baby alone in my car. All the hormones....all the feels! I can't handle it. =(
@LemmyRN you know I'll be ugly crying with you. Hallmark channel is my holiday jam. The other night I even picked up my sisters cat from my lap and dabbed my eyes with her fat body. I usually don't care for cats, but this one acts like a dog...and a tissue...so she's cool in my book.
I ordered pizza the other night...as I was on the phone I found myself naming off pretty much one of everything on the menu. I had no intention of ordering anything other than a personal combination pizza...but then breadsticks came out...and two different types of salad...and an order of fettuccini Alfredo. Once it got delivered I took about 3 bites of everything and I was totally satisfied. I've been eating leftovers for the past two days straight...and I've still got enough food left to feed an army. Nobody tell my husband.
@araecasey You are not alone. I don't really like chicken nuggets either. The ONLY ones I will ever eat are the ones from Chick Fil A. Chick Fil A is also the ONLY fast food I will even eat..
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Re: FFFC 12/4
Don't learn much beyond the first few months until you need to. It just becomes too overwhelming. Don't know what type of bottle to buy? Stop the in-depth research and just go with the one you feel will be best. I liked the Avent ones because they work well and are easy to clean. Every item is going to have "love its" and "hate its." You may not know what works best for your family until you've done some trial and error.
Married: 1/2008 ~ DD#1: 3/2012
TTC #2: Started 4/2014 BFP 7/30/15 MC 8/3/15 BFP 9/4/2015 EDD 5/16/2016
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
DD: 05/14/16
Second confession is I think we need to rename May 2016 BMB to Chicken McNugget Lovers Anonymous.
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
Lol...I understand so many people hate on them, (which in turn makes everyone else leery) but you could easily make that.
So I guess my confession is that I feel like a failure in the May crew for not craving nuggets!!!
Now when I do this I'll think of you and hope you're crying to the same movie
ETA: I started crying so my son brought me a quarter and said "Here's money. No more sad Mama" not sure how to feel about that...
I'm pissed that the one day they were going to take my kid to school he would have been late and possibly would have missed his field trip. He has perfect attendance. And they seriously couldn't give me a heads up like sorry but we're running late this morning... I'm glad I just left but I have zero patience left and it's just been building up.
ETA: as Hello by Adele is playing on the radio!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!