FFFC 12/4

laurenmdrn16

Let it loose, ladies (and gents)!

Mine is that MH and I went to a concert last night as an early Christmas gift to each other. It was the first time we had been to a live concert since our son was born. It was Rusted Root (global, jam band, reggae, ska). I have to admit it was a totally different experience while sober. Those 12 min songs start getting repetitive and annoying whereas before they were enlightening and mind-blowing. Kind of a bummer and I ended up falling asleep at 9:30pm. Womp wahhh.

kbrands7

laurenmdrn16 said:

Let it loose, ladies (and gents)!

Mine is that MH and I went to a concert last night as an early Christmas gift to each other. It was the first time we had been to a live concert since our son was born. It was Rusted Root (global, jam band, reggae, ska). I have to admit it was a totally different experience while sober. Those 12 min songs start getting repetitive and annoying whereas before they were enlightening and mind-blowing. Kind of a bummer and I ended up falling asleep at 9:30pm. Womp wahhh.

I definitely know what you mean! I went to a few concerts last pregnancy and it just wasn't the same. Also, totally random, but Rusted Root is one of the few quasi "I know them!" claims I have. I was in a jazz combo group with Colter Harper in college (and he was the TA of one of my jazz classes, though we pretended to not know each other in class to avoid favoritism issues) and Liz Berlin is the parent of one of my students (though he's graduated now).

kbrands7

I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference. 

laurenmdrn16

kbrands7 said:

I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference. 

We should open a home daycare together! Seriously, I have been looking into it and am hoping to get the ball rolling starting next year so I can be home with my littles and still make some money (I know it won't be a lot, but at least I can still work and not have to worry about daycare costs for 2 children). But, I am totally feeling ya. I am starting to HATE my job and I know it isn't this particular job...I just hate the thought of working full time outside of the home without my kiddos.

kbrands7

laurenmdrn16 said:

kbrands7 said:

I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference. 

We should open a home daycare together! Seriously, I have been looking into it and am hoping to get the ball rolling starting next year so I can be home with my littles and still make some money (I know it won't be a lot, but at least I can still work and not have to worry about daycare costs for 2 children). But, I am totally feeling ya. I am starting to HATE my job and I know it isn't this particular job...I just hate the thought of working full time outside of the home without my kiddos.

If we lived nearby, I would totally open a daycare with you! A nurse/teacher combo would be unstoppable!

yogahh

DH is getting on my nerves. He complains all of the time about his pains, but doesn't seem to have any empathy for me and my pains. Every part of me has been hurting since yesterday, from my toes to my back to my biceps (yes, I know that's weird).  Last night be went on and on about his neck. Sorry, but I really DO NOT care. Try growing a person, then we will talk about pains. If I have to hear about how his neck feels again, I might wring it!

js8812

Here's my confession:  I got banned last week for lord knows why (jesse835235).  I didn't get any warnings and didn't violate any TOU to my knowledge.  I had this account from a couple years ago when I forgot about my original account.  I even PM'd all the bump gods from this account and asked them to let me know what happened and to reach me on the email associated with my other account.  They clearly know this account and the other are the same person.  It's so strange/frustrating.  Just hope that someone doesn't use the report flag as a dislike button from now on.

Anyway, I've barely bumped at all this week and I have been sooo productive at work this week (that's what no bumping will do).  I don't anticipate being a reg anymore, but will pop in from time to time.  I hope you're all doing well!  This is a great BMB.

LadySamLady

@js8812 YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY. We were so sad. Please do jump back in as a regular girl!

yogahh

js8812 said:

Here's my confession:  I got banned last week for lord knows why (jesse835235).  I didn't get any warnings and didn't violate any TOU to my knowledge.  I had this account from a couple years ago when I forgot about my original account.  I even PM'd all the bump gods from this account and asked them to let me know what happened and to reach me on the email associated with my other account.  They clearly know this account and the other are the same person.  It's so strange/frustrating.  Just hope that someone doesn't use the report flag as a dislike button from now on.

Anyway, I've barely bumped at all this week and I have been sooo productive at work this week (that's what no bumping will do).  I don't anticipate being a reg anymore, but will pop in from time to time.  I hope you're all doing well!  This is a great BMB.

WELCOME BACK!!!

We were all scratching out heads wondering what you did wrong.... Agreed, that too many people just go willy nilly on the report button. 

LadySamLady

I wasted an entire bagel today. It's bagel Friday at my office (I'm so lucky, they always put out a killer spread) and I accidentally used a low fat instead of regular cream cheese. I HATE the taste of low fat cream cheese and I really tried to eat it but had to throw it out after a bite and a half. I feel really guilty now but I'm definitely enjoy the second bagel I got with cream cheese that has ALL THE FAT.

Bluejay3030

@js8812 Aahhhh! We were wondering what happened! Glad you found your way back even if it's on a limited basis.

kami09

kbrands7 said:

I really want to be a SAHM, or even WFHM at least while my kids are young. I thought this feeling would wear off the longer I was back to work after having DS, but it hasn't. I keep re-crunching the numbers and I just can't make it work, especially since we're already out growing our house and need to be able to throw savings towards either continued renovations or buying/selling, because our insurance is through my work, and because we still have high student loan payments. I feel bad bringing it up to DH by this point because he already knows how I feel, and he wants me to be able to stay home too, but he just winds up feeling guilty/inadequate when we talk about it. We have a gap of about $800-1000/month in order to realistically make it work and little online side-things that I've tried like TeacherPayTeachers and Etsy just don't make up the difference. 

I said this before on an earlier post, but honestly, take a look at a network marketing business that you can get behind. I know people have such a strong opinion about them (I know I did), but they can truly help out so much. I am bringing in as much as my husband's teaching paycheck (& so close to practically doubling that- so it does happen!) It's allowed me to stay at home doing a lot less work. I know people roll their eyes about it, but it lets me stay at home with my son & i can take as much time off as i want when i have this next one...so I don't care!

AdorkablePixie

LadySamLady said:

I wasted an entire bagel today. It's bagel Friday at my office (I'm so lucky, they always put out a killer spread) and I accidentally used a low fat instead of regular cream cheese. I HATE the taste of low fat cream cheese and I really tried to eat it but had to throw it out after a bite and a half. I feel really guilty now but I'm definitely enjoy the second bagel I got with cream cheese that has ALL THE FAT.

I purposely eat the low fat kind. It tastes exactly the same to me. lol

AdorkablePixie

I'm not really sure what FFFC stands for? I am guessing Friday Confessions?

I can sympathize with @yagohh though. My DH keeps complaining about his neck hurting and there is nothing I can do about it, so why keep complaining? I told him to go buy a new pillow. He also keeps telling me about how much he needs new glasses. Well, go to the freaking eye doctor!! I pay for vision insurance for a reason. He's been saying this for a year now but has yet to go to the doctor. It's driving me nuts.

kami09

LadySamLady said:

I wasted an entire bagel today. It's bagel Friday at my office (I'm so lucky, they always put out a killer spread) and I accidentally used a low fat instead of regular cream cheese. I HATE the taste of low fat cream cheese and I really tried to eat it but had to throw it out after a bite and a half. I feel really guilty now but I'm definitely enjoy the second bagel I got with cream cheese that has ALL THE FAT.

If those damn people at Starbucks give me low fat cream cheese one more time, I swear!!! I literally cried a few weeks ago when I came home to find that they put the low fat in there. It wasted my entire trip...& then I acted like a child and refused to eat any of it lol

bkjade

Oh I'm so with you @laurenmdrn16! DH and I go see music at least a few times a month and lately all I can think about is "When is this over so I can sit down!?" It's a bummer because I've seen some great music in the past month (KRS One, The Growlers, Danava), but the last thing I really want to do after working on my feet all day is stay up late and stand for two hours. It's not the same without beer!

laurenmdrn16

AdorkablePixie said:

I'm not really sure what FFFC stands for? I am guessing Friday Confessions?

GAHH! Quote box!

Yes, FFFC = Flame-free Friday Confessions, so basically a place where we can confess without getting flamed (mostly!)

LadySamLady

kami09 said:

I wasted an entire bagel today. It's bagel Friday at my office (I'm so lucky, they always put out a killer spread) and I accidentally used a low fat instead of regular cream cheese. I HATE the taste of low fat cream cheese and I really tried to eat it but had to throw it out after a bite and a half. I feel really guilty now but I'm definitely enjoy the second bagel I got with cream cheese that has ALL THE FAT.

If those damn people at Starbucks give me low fat cream cheese one more time, I swear!!! I literally cried a few weeks ago when I came home to find that they put the low fat in there. It wasted my entire trip...& then I acted like a child and refused to eat any of it lol

It tastes entirely different, right?!? Yuckkkkkk

mrstmoose

@kbrands7  I feel ya, I would love to be a SAHM or WFHM but we can't make it work financially either, especially since we are buying a house next year. I've thought about once we are in our house and settled, that I would look into opening an in-home daycare. The last week or two I've noticed I've been feeling burned out at my job and I don't know if that's pregnancy related or just how I feel. 

Anyways, my FFFC goes to Buy Buy Baby, who won't let us use a 20% off coupon (theirs, not Bed Bath and Beyond) on furniture. Thanks for monopolizing...because having a child isn't expensive enough, please, don't allow me to save any extra money.

Sunshinebins

mrstmoose said:

@kbrands7  I feel ya, I would love to be a SAHM or WFHM but we can't make it work financially either, especially since we are buying a house next year. I've thought about once we are in our house and settled, that I would look into opening an in-home daycare. The last week or two I've noticed I've been feeling burned out at my job and I don't know if that's pregnancy related or just how I feel. 

Anyways, my FFFC goes to Buy Buy Baby, who won't let us use a 20% off coupon (theirs, not Bed Bath and Beyond) on furniture. Thanks for monopolizing...because having a child isn't expensive enough, please, don't allow me to save any extra money.

Ugh the coupon restriction bugs me too. It basically excludes all the brands you would actually want a coupon for.

Bluejay3030

Ugh, the coupons... Don't get me started. Babies R Us is just as bad with the exclusions. I once had a 20% off coupon from there that I couldn't use on furniture, diapers, or TOYS. Really? Why else would I go there?

wsgjmw1

yogahh said:

DH is getting on my nerves. He complains all of the time about his pains, but doesn't seem to have any empathy for me and my pains. Every part of me has been hurting since yesterday, from my toes to my back to my biceps (yes, I know that's weird).  Last night be went on and on about his neck. Sorry, but I really DO NOT care. Try growing a person, then we will talk about pains. If I have to hear about how his neck feels again, I might wring it!

I think a lot of us can relate to you with our own DH's issues from pains, man colds, stomach aches etc. Most of the time I can tolerate it but there are those times wheres its like omg just shup up already.

sarawifenow

Baby has been moving like crazy and surprises me every single time. This morning he kicked the strongest kick I have felt yet causing me to spill my water all over the break room. My coworker came in and offered to clean it up for me because he thinks I can't do anything now that I am pregnant. I totally let him. Ha!

JessicaB0627

DH is THE BIGGEST BABY when it comes to
being sick. I just really have no patience for it because usually it's just a sore throat and you would think he's dying, but when I'm sick he has no empathy and tells me "you're fine, suck it up." So early on in this pregnancy when I was still puking all the time he came home from work whining and complaining and couldn't do anything but lay down. I thought it was one of his usual man colds and blew it off. I finally made him take his temperature and it was 103!!! Whoops! I felt so awful.

sarawifenow

js8812 said:

Here's my confession:  I got banned last week for lord knows why (jesse835235).  I didn't get any warnings and didn't violate any TOU to my knowledge.  I had this account from a couple years ago when I forgot about my original account.  I even PM'd all the bump gods from this account and asked them to let me know what happened and to reach me on the email associated with my other account.  They clearly know this account and the other are the same person.  It's so strange/frustrating.  Just hope that someone doesn't use the report flag as a dislike button from now on.

Anyway, I've barely bumped at all this week and I have been sooo productive at work this week (that's what no bumping will do).  I don't anticipate being a reg anymore, but will pop in from time to time.  I hope you're all doing well!  This is a great BMB.

So glad you are back @js8812

dsmith211

I'm tired of being used bc I'm pregnant. My sister and step sister just kind of assumed I would drive an extra 3 hours to pick them up and take them home today for the concert we are going to tonight so that they can drink while they're there. I said no, if you want to drink either don't drink too much, get an uber, or have one of your closer friends drive you.

I'm already driving 3 hours for this for myself. I'm not doubling that so you can drink. Maybe if they planned this more in advance but it was literally dropped on me last min and I would have to rush to leave my house now.

This is starting to become a more common occurrence btw... People wanting to go to happy hour after work and just saying 'I should probably not have more bc I have to drive home. Oh wait, you're here. You can't drink. You're driving me home now'. I only was going to these bc DH goes and we go to places where I can eat so it wasn't too bad. Now I just avoid it.

Just bc I'm pregnant doesn't mean I want to be your designated driver. Take responsibility for yourself people.

laurenmdrn16

dsmith211 said:

I'm tired of being used bc I'm pregnant. My sister and step sister just kind of assumed I would drive an extra 3 hours to pick them up and take them home today for the concert we are going to tonight so that they can drink while they're there. I said no, if you want to drink either don't drink too much, get an uber, or have one of your closer friends drive you. I'm already driving 3 hours for this for myself. I'm not doubling that so you can drink. Maybe if they planned this more in advance but it was literally dropped on me last min and I would have to rush to leave my house now. This is starting to become a more common occurrence btw... People wanting to go to happy hour after work and just saying 'I should probably not have more bc I have to drive home. Oh wait, you're here. You can't drink. You're driving me home now'. I only was going to these bc DH goes and we go to places where I can eat so it wasn't too bad. Now I just avoid it. Just bc I'm pregnant doesn't mean I want to be your designated driver. Take responsibility for yourself people.

Oh so this! I am spoiled rotten because MH isn't a huge drinker so even at the concert last night he didn't partake in drinking or smoking even when I offered to be DD. However, I have suddenly gotten really popular at work and everyone wants me to come out to bars with them, even people I am not particularly fond of or close to. I was wondering what it could be then realized, "Oh, yeah. I am an automatic designated driver!" Except for the fact that I poop out at 9pm and get super cranky past my bedtime!

mrstmoose

dsmith211 said:

I'm tired of being used bc I'm pregnant. My sister and step sister just kind of assumed I would drive an extra 3 hours to pick them up and take them home today for the concert we are going to tonight so that they can drink while they're there. I said no, if you want to drink either don't drink too much, get an uber, or have one of your closer friends drive you. I'm already driving 3 hours for this for myself. I'm not doubling that so you can drink. Maybe if they planned this more in advance but it was literally dropped on me last min and I would have to rush to leave my house now. This is starting to become a more common occurrence btw... People wanting to go to happy hour after work and just saying 'I should probably not have more bc I have to drive home. Oh wait, you're here. You can't drink. You're driving me home now'. I only was going to these bc DH goes and we go to places where I can eat so it wasn't too bad. Now I just avoid it. Just bc I'm pregnant doesn't mean I want to be your designated driver. Take responsibility for yourself people.

I would literally laugh and say hell no. I'm ok with driving my H if we are going somewhere together or even picking him up (I'm cheap and would rather go get him than get an uber). But seriously, I can't stand being around drunk people right now - stupidity for the first thing and then last weekend I realized that once everyone had more than one drink their breath reeked to me and I couldn't stand close to anyone! Barf.

yogahh

Soooo my confession? This may be my lunch today. Please don't let anyone know.

Urg baby, why must you like crap food

Sunshinebins

yogahh said:

Soooo my confession? This may be my lunch today. Please don't let anyone know.

Urg baby, why must you like crap food

That looks so good that I'm considering getting up off the couch and driving specifically to get it. In my sweats.

tgortney

Today is donuts and coffee Friday at work. I ate a jelly donut in the morning and now it's lunch, there were left over apple cinnamon donuts. I totally ate another one. Funny thing is, I was just complaining to my coworker on how I feel fat all the time now

Bluejay3030

I think it's time for the chicken nugget dance again.

jessiedee13

@yogahh ...that's just evil... now I want nuggets!

yogahh

whats really sad is I normally HATE fast food. Now I want it all of the time

Sunshinebins

I had chick fil a yesterday and ate all my nuggets, all my fries, half of BFs and the rest of my dads. oopsiebear

jessiedee13

My confession? My son's birthday party is tomorrow. I'm still mad at my parents for a whole lot of crap that went down when my grandpa died a couple weeks ago. My aunt that keeps my mouth in check can't come to the party because she has to work weekends to make up for the money she lost when she took a week off for the funeral (brand new job she worked there for a week...gave her the time off but no pay...which she was still grateful for)...I've asked a couple friends to keep me in check and the fact that I have to do that makes me crazy. I'm an adult with 2 kids and 1 on the way. I shouldnt have to be babysat so I don't go off and ruin my son's first birthday party.

Also, both my kids, the little boy I babysit and DH developed a ridiculous cold Wednesday night...DS#2 aka the birthday boy, has it the worst...and that makes me really sad...no one should catch their first cold on their birthday!

lalala2004

yogahh said:

Soooo my confession? This may be my lunch today. Please don't let anyone know.

Urg baby, why must you like crap food

I was coming in here to say that my lunch was Boss Nachos from Taco Bell....

laurenmdrn16

You need to stop with the chicken nugs...this is so not working for my weight loss/healthy pregnancy goals. I am just not strong enough!

On a side note, I am not sure if this is a FFFC or just a sad comment on my current mental state, but I just teared up talking to a kid about different sizes and shapes of adhesive bandages.The student was wasting time asking me about my bandage cabinet and I got strangely emotional describing how the fingertip bandage forms a little hat over the finger and even demonstrated while sniffling back tears. The student definitely looked at me like I was crazy and right now I still can't shake how sweet it is that the Curad company makes a bandage that fits so perfectly on the tip of a finger. It is just so touching, you guys!

wsgjmw1

I had a donut and bagel this morning at work. I couldn't decide between the two so I had both.

Also thinking about nuggets again ......seems like these May babies are addicted to nuggets

H0neyC0mb

My confession is I'm done with this week. Two of my kids at the daycare started throwing tantrums this week. On top of that we have a couple colds going around and sick kids arent happy kids. Then I come home and H cranky. All this week.

I also confess that if we didn't need the money I would've stayed home, ate lots of crab (dreaming here), smoothies and watched chick flicks all day.

gamommyx3

@h0neyc0mb I didn't see your comma before the word "smoothies" at first and almost threw up on my desk

@yogahh I made a concentrated effort to eat well today and got a salad.  It's disgusting and I hate it, the person who made it, and the company who employs them.  And I'm still hungry.  I also hate me a little for choosing this abomination over McDonald's, so IMO you're doing the right thing.

My confession is that being a FTM makes me feel like an idiot most of the time.  And I'm not an idiot!!  It just seems like there's so much to learn and consider that I've never thought of before.  And the sad part is that I've been exposed to and (formerly) considered myself knowledgeable on babies...you know, niece-type babies that went back to their parents after a few hours or a day.  I feel like a jackass even writing this honestly...I am a very competent person, but just trying to read and learn and think about everything gets overwhelming and I still feel largely unprepared.