My uo: I think having a nursery is stupid, because I see no reason a kid needs it's own room. I think it's the poor person coming out in me. A part of me judges you when you post about the things you buy for your unborn babies... And then I get snippy with myself for being like that, because it's none of my business how you spend your money. I judge myself for having a car payment, too. I might need some therapy around this, haha.
Is it because you've already got 6 kids and no need for new baby things?
My uo: I think having a nursery is stupid, because I see no reason a kid needs it's own room. I think it's the poor person coming out in me. A part of me judges you when you post about the things you buy for your unborn babies... And then I get snippy with myself for being like that, because it's none of my business how you spend your money. I judge myself for having a car payment, too. I might need some therapy around this, haha.
This is.....super odd....I have no desire to share a room with my child (or multiple children). You don't believe in nurseries, but when do you grant the kid their own space? I personally intend to have a nursery that my child sleeps in starting on the day they get home from the hospital.
I also think judging people for buying things for their kid is a bit extreme. They do, in fact, need *some* stuff. Maybe not all the gadgets and gizmos we are lead to believe they need, but seriously, where do you "allow" for purchases?
My uo: I think having a nursery is stupid, because I see no reason a kid needs it's own room. I think it's the poor person coming out in me. A part of me judges you when you post about the things you buy for your unborn babies... And then I get snippy with myself for being like that, because it's none of my business how you spend your money. I judge myself for having a car payment, too. I might need some therapy around this, haha.
Is it because you've already got 6 kids and no need for new baby things?
Yeah I'm the oldest of six, and we always had a nursery, so I don't get this either... When my youngest sister was older (like two) it turned into another bedroom. I HATED sharing a room with siblings, and have pushed to have my own room away from my fiancé in the past because I can't function without my own space. Also if there isn't a specific place for LO won't they keep their older siblings awake at night?
@mojomama6 I feel the same way about nurseries, probably because I grew up in a Wisconsin house without heat in the bedrooms and shared a queen-sized bed with my teenaged sisters for over a year. I don't feel I was cheated out of a thing, and some of my best memories are from the entire family (8 of us) dog piling on the living room on nights it was so cold your teeth almost rattled out of your head from chattering. I have, however, bought a $10 stroller from Craigslist, a few packages of diapers, and my parents got me a p&p for Christmas that has a bassinet for the first few months. I'm incredibly cheap and I feel like as long as I have student loans and DH's cc payments, this kid can live with a second-hand stroller.
UO #2 I HATE TEXTING! I hate it and will not look at or respond to any text that is ever sent to me. If you want to talk to me you can dial my number and actually use your voice to talk to me rather than waste my time.
Disagree 100%. I'm with @cmjenkies and I hate talking on the phone. You will get a faster response from me if you text over calling, 90% of the time. 100% if you're not my parents or DH.
Yeah I have only one friend who insists on calling me, even though she has personally witnessed me rejecting phone calls. If it's important they call back, or text me to call them. Don't waste my life by making me make myself available for your convenience.
My uo: I think having a nursery is stupid, because I see no reason a kid needs it's own room. I think it's the poor person coming out in me. A part of me judges you when you post about the things you buy for your unborn babies... And then I get snippy with myself for being like that, because it's none of my business how you spend your money. I judge myself for having a car payment, too. I might need some therapy around this, haha.
I *to an extent* see where @mojomama6 is coming from. DS didn't have his own room when he was born, and while he has now for several years, he still sleeps with me most of the time. I have a spare room right now and am kind of excited about possibly making it a nursery for DD, even though realistically I know we will likely cosleep. Expendable income is tight right now.
I may not understand spending absurd amounts of money on top of the line gear, etc, but it's not my bank account so it's not my problem. Being a STM has definitely curbed my 'must have it all' attitude in re: baby gear. Besides.. parenting in this era has become very materialistic and consumer driven, and this is how those bullshit 'Mommy wars' are started.
I find that it's much more productive to tend to my own garden instead of spending all my time peering over the fence at my neighbor's crop. How's that for a Thursday metaphor?
I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
It sounds creepy to have kids think this creature is spying on them all the time and monitoring everything they do. Maybe it wouldn't creep a kid out but as an adult it sounds creepy to me.
I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
It sounds creepy to have kids think this creature is spying on them all the time and monitoring everything they do. Maybe it wouldn't creep a kid out but as an adult it sounds creepy to me.
I'm sure this isn't really an UO but I am sick to death of parenting advice, and warnings from everyone. Sending me links to posts about "what parenting is really like" and that post about "why my child is crying" is severely pissing me off. The more negativity you throw at me for this, the less I want you around me because it's not funny, and I'm terrified you'll be influencing my child to behave like that.
The other bitch about this is people telling me how I'm doomed to not have a "natural" childbirth because the pain is too real. And that I will fail at breastfeeding because I severely don't want to use a pump. Um, I'm going to be a SAHM, why the hell do I ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO HAVE a pump? Women survived for thousands of years before breast pumps, and epidurals were a thing, why am I exclusively incapable of motherhood without either?
Yeah, people are dumb with their "advice" and know it all-ness. At the same time, people who already have kids DO have a perspective that you don't... still, that doesn't mean that what worked for them will work for you, as every kid (and mom) is different. You can certainly breastfeed without pumping, but if you're planning to nurse for a long time, it will mean you have to make some serious sacrifices... like never being away from your child for more than a few hours at a time. My husband and I enjoyed date nights and even occasional short trips away, which wouldn't have been possible without the pump. But you don't *need* it if you're willing to be constantly on demand for the first year plus. And nursing is WAY better than pumping!
However, I have to disagree about the "reason my child is crying" posts. They're funny, and anyone who has ever had a toddler knows this. It's not really a negative thing... more like a, you might as well laugh so you don't cry and toddlers can be ridiculous kind of thing!
Haters are gonna hate and people are going to always have their opinions on what you're doing, but just know that you're doing what's best for you and don't worry about what other people say!
Amanda
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I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
Yeah it's terrifying. You move it around and it supposedly is always watching your kids and reporting back to Santa. Also, I'm sorry, but I want my kids to be good people because they're good people and have good morals and learn to treat others right... not because some creepy looking elf is spying on them in the night. No thank you.
Having said that, as everyone else around me does the Elf on the Shelf, I'm a LITTLE more tempted to do it. I don't want my son to be left out. I have serious FOMO haha!
Amanda
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Nov siggy challenge: animals eating Thanksgiving food
I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
Yeah it's terrifying. You move it around and it supposedly is always watching your kids and reporting back to Santa. Also, I'm sorry, but I want my kids to be good people because they're good people and have good morals and learn to treat others right... not because some creepy looking elf is spying on them in the night. No thank you.
Having said that, as everyone else around me does the Elf on the Shelf, I'm a LITTLE more tempted to do it. I don't want my son to be left out. I have serious FOMO haha!
That does sound terrifying lol. Our elf is more like a grumpy old invisible little man that wants his rice porridge and ginger cookies. He doesn't care how well behaved you are and he doesn't speak to Santa haha. But I do agree, I would not teach my kid to be well behaved because of some creepy moving doll but rather teach them to be good people for the sake of it.
@randilea0110I'm completely with you on the smart phone thing. I just finally broke down and got one mostly for the GPS, but it drives me crazy when people would rather be on their phones than be in the moment. I own a business with my husband so we work all the time...I mean around 80-90 hours minimum per week. After about a year of being harassed by family (which I completely understand and am not upset about), we started making a priority to go to my grandmothers once a week for family dinner. I flipped out about 2 weeks ago, because we were trying to have a conversation and they all were on their phones at the same time. I told them that if they were really so concerned with spending time with me, they'd be less concerned with their facebooks and spotify and whatever other things they were doing. We have a rule now that everyone puts their phones in a basket when we have dinner, I don't think it's that hard to part with your phone for 3 hours. Seriously...and texting drives me nuts too! Especially when people are driving. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm constantly fearful of those assholes that cross over the line and inch toward me. I just don't see how it can't wait, and if it is that important than pull over. I'll respond to people if they text me, but I'm rarely the one to initiate.
I'm sure this isn't really an UO but I am sick to death of parenting advice, and warnings from everyone. Sending me links to posts about "what parenting is really like" and that post about "why my child is crying" is severely pissing me off. The more negativity you throw at me for this, the less I want you around me because it's not funny, and I'm terrified you'll be influencing my child to behave like that.
The other bitch about this is people telling me how I'm doomed to not have a "natural" childbirth because the pain is too real. And that I will fail at breastfeeding because I severely don't want to use a pump. Um, I'm going to be a SAHM, why the hell do I ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO HAVE a pump? Women survived for thousands of years before breast pumps, and epidurals were a thing, why am I exclusively incapable of motherhood without either?
Yeah, people are dumb with their "advice" and know it all-ness. At the same time, people who already have kids DO have a perspective that you don't... still, that doesn't mean that what worked for them will work for you, as every kid (and mom) is different. You can certainly breastfeed without pumping, but if you're planning to nurse for a long time, it will mean you have to make some serious sacrifices... like never being away from your child for more than a few hours at a time. My husband and I enjoyed date nights and even occasional short trips away, which wouldn't have been possible without the pump. But you don't *need* it if you're willing to be constantly on demand for the first year plus. And nursing is WAY better than pumping!
However, I have to disagree about the "reason my child is crying" posts. They're funny, and anyone who has ever had a toddler knows this. It's not really a negative thing... more like a, you might as well laugh so you don't cry and toddlers can be ridiculous kind of thing!
Haters are gonna hate and people are going to always have their opinions on what you're doing, but just know that you're doing what's best for you and don't worry about what other people say!
I *to an extent* see where @mojomama6 is coming from. DS didn't have his own room when he was born, and while he has now for several years, he still sleeps with me most of the time. I have a spare room right now and am kind of excited about possibly making it a nursery for DD, even though realistically I know we will likely cosleep. Expendable income is tight right now.
I may not understand spending absurd amounts of money on top of the line gear, etc, but it's not my bank account so it's not my problem. Being a STM has definitely curbed my 'must have it all' attitude in re: baby gear. Besides.. parenting in this era has become very materialistic and consumer driven, and this is how those bullshit 'Mommy wars' are started.
I find that it's much more productive to tend to my own garden instead of spending all my time peering over the fence at my neighbor's crop. How's that for a Thursday metaphor?
I seriously love you.
I have been feeling the same way. I figured it was being a STM and having a second girl. We didn't have a ton of money when DD1 was born and so she didn't have much of a nursery. It absolutely killed me. Also it stayed pretty empty for the first few months because we had Dd in our room for peace of mind. There were a lot of things I thought we needed, but she either didn't want or wouldn't use. Like a pacifier and the bouncing chair. She wouldn't tolerate either very well.
I also feel it's easier to deal with the mommy wars when you don't play along. Why should I compare my life to someone else's who may or may not have more life experience and/or money.
I'm getting a little bit confused by the people calling Elf of the shelf creepy. How does it work in the states? Mind you, we did not celebrate Christmas when I was a child, but the kindergarten I went to had a "loft elf" called a Nisse who was able to make himself invisible and he'd hide the chairs or make the milk turn blue if we forgot to put him a Danish Christmas snack called ginger nuts. The kids were usually a little scared of him so none of us would try to look for him. Once a day he'd hide a gift somewhere and we'd take turns looking for our gifts. I loved it as a child and I'm planning to do it with DS
Yeah it's terrifying. You move it around and it supposedly is always watching your kids and reporting back to Santa. Also, I'm sorry, but I want my kids to be good people because they're good people and have good morals and learn to treat others right... not because some creepy looking elf is spying on them in the night. No thank you.
Having said that, as everyone else around me does the Elf on the Shelf, I'm a LITTLE more tempted to do it. I don't want my son to be left out. I have serious FOMO haha!
That does sound terrifying lol. Our elf is more like a grumpy old invisible little man that wants his rice porridge and ginger cookies. He doesn't care how well behaved you are and he doesn't speak to Santa haha. But I do agree, I would not teach my kid to be well behaved because of some creepy moving doll but rather teach them to be good people for the sake of it.
This is why I'm not forcing religion onto my kids. I was raised to be good because "God is always watching." My mother once asked me how I ever expect my children to be good people of they don't go to church; my children will be good people because I will teach them that being respectful, kind, and giving is a reward in and of itself. I will set an example for them rather than just talking about being good. I'm not saying this to bash religion, I just don't think kids NEED religion to be good people.
I *to an extent* see where @mojomama6 is coming from. DS didn't have his own room when he was born, and while he has now for several years, he still sleeps with me most of the time. I have a spare room right now and am kind of excited about possibly making it a nursery for DD, even though realistically I know we will likely cosleep. Expendable income is tight right now.
I may not understand spending absurd amounts of money on top of the line gear, etc, but it's not my bank account so it's not my problem. Being a STM has definitely curbed my 'must have it all' attitude in re: baby gear. Besides.. parenting in this era has become very materialistic and consumer driven, and this is how those bullshit 'Mommy wars' are started.
I find that it's much more productive to tend to my own garden instead of spending all my time peering over the fence at my neighbor's crop. How's that for a Thursday metaphor?
How come all of a sudden Krampus is going viral all over the internets?? I never heard of it before until recently and that's some scary shit!
I know it from Germany, but apparently a movie is being released these days based on the Krampus folklore. Perhaps that is the reason why it's going viral?
I have a picture of DD crying hysterically and clawing at my pant leg because I wouldn't let her eat the frozen tater tots. You best believe I posted that to Facebook as a "reason my toddler is crying"...
How come all of a sudden Krampus is going viral all over the internets?? I never heard of it before until recently and that's some scary shit!
I know it from Germany, but apparently a movie is being released these days based on the Krampus folklore. Perhaps that is the reason why it's going viral?
I heard about it from The League... The Krampus movie looks absolutely terrifying.
I have a picture of DD crying hysterically and clawing at my pant leg because I wouldn't let her eat the frozen tater tots. You best believe I posted that to Facebook as a "reason my toddler is crying"...
Last night at 2 a.m., I woke up to a terrifying shrill from DD's room and her screaming NOOO!! I got up so fast and ran in there thinking the worst. I turn on the light and prepare myself for an injury of sorts or something bad. Her duck and her figurine puppy fell out of the crib and on the floor. To a 2 year old, that's the worst that could happen.
We don't do Elf on the Shelf but DS Pre-K class has one.. named Leroy. I was very proud to learn that Eli was the one that chose that magical name, hahaha.
@AEG84, that's the best pic of Krampus ever. Hahaha! @yodiggity, no, I was judgy about it before I had 50 kids. Like I said, though, I realize this is my own thing, and I'm being unreasonable. I don't even own a lot of baby stuff, because I truly don't see a need. @sarahufl I share with my babies, and eventually they get moved in with an older sibling. When my first was little, she shared with my girlfriend's kid when we moved in together; dd was about two, and so was the other kid. Judging is extreme. I already stated that I get snippy with myself for doing it: I realize I'm being unreasonable. @Knottie9983816, I can't imagine not wanting to share space with my husband, but my BFF is super into her personal space as well,and has two bedrooms just for herself. As for my kids keeping each other up, it's very rarely been a problem,and it's always been solved by walking in and telling them to settle down and quit playing.
I want to reiterate that I realize I'm not being reasonable when I judge anyone for buying things and having separate rooms for everyone. It doesn't keep me up at night, though.
Re: nurseries, I think it's sweet when I see FTMs setting up a nursery for their new little ones. I did the same thing for my #1 (and it was complete before I was even 20 weeks, LOL!) But my kids haven't had a room to themselves for *years* now, ever since baby#2 was born just 15 months after #1. We actually had the space for him to have his own room, but chose to have the boys share. They kept each other up for about a week, but after that they learned to tune out each others' noise. They're 9 and almost 8 now and would seriously be heartbroken if they had to have their own room. My 2 girls are the same way.
That said, I am so excited about setting up a nursery for baby #5... it's been ages (over 9 years) since I've had the chance to set up a nursery. I plan to make it simple and versatile so it can grow with her (and any more siblings that come along).
And I'm one of those who are taking advantage of my pregnant status to eat whatever I want, and I'm totally okay with that. I was a healthy weight before getting pregnant, and I know how to lose weight quickly after I'm done being pregnant. So I'm enjoying myself while I have license. I guess that's my UO.
@NOLA520 there's no real line. But what you can afford and what you think is important; the line is only crossed when moms get all crazy on each other for someone doing something differently. I'm not into material things so I'll get what I need for my little girl but she certainly won't be getting her wipes warmed and her $10 stroller is just as good, for me, as one that costs 10x as much. This works for me, because money is going to get tight but I don't begrudge the people who do want those things.
I do get somewhat judgy about the excessive items like a $50 baby bath tub or a $300 stroller (that doesn't even include a mf'ing carseat) or a brand new car but as a FTM, having no idea what I will or will not need or what my baby will or will not like, I don't see anything wrong with buying extras.
Baby will have her own room though. *IF* I had more than 2 children already though, baby would have to share.
I think Mommy wars are bogus. So what if you choose jarred baby food, homemade, or organic, cloth diapering or disposables, choosing various sleep methods, nursery or no nursery, etc., Everyone's going to have an opinion on it. You do what's best for you and your kids, and if your kids are taken care of, that's all that matters.
I'm sure this isn't really an UO but I am sick to death of parenting advice, and warnings from everyone. Sending me links to posts about "what parenting is really like" and that post about "why my child is crying" is severely pissing me off. The more negativity you throw at me for this, the less I want you around me because it's not funny, and I'm terrified you'll be influencing my child to behave like that.
The other bitch about this is people telling me how I'm doomed to not have a "natural" childbirth because the pain is too real. And that I will fail at breastfeeding because I severely don't want to use a pump. Um, I'm going to be a SAHM, why the hell do I ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO HAVE a pump? Women survived for thousands of years before breast pumps, and epidurals were a thing, why am I exclusively incapable of motherhood without either?
I definitely don't think you HAVE to have one but it's definitely helpful if you want to go to dinner with friends, a wedding, etc. to be able to pump and have someone feed the baby while you're out.
Are you able to get a free one from your insurance? If so, I'd get one just in case.
Oh also my son had trouble latching for the first couple weeks so I had to pump until we figured it out. So I was glad to have it since I was still able to give him breastmilk.
@NOLA520 there's no real line. But what you can afford and what you think is important; the line is only crossed when moms get all crazy on each other for someone doing something differently. I'm not into material things so I'll get what I need for my little girl but she certainly won't be getting her wipes warmed and her $10 stroller is just as good, for me, as one that costs 10x as much. This works for me, because money is going to get tight but I don't begrudge the people who do want those things.
Wait, you can get a wet wipe warmer? Is that an actual thing???
I don't get why kids having their own room is even a debate. I mean, if you have the space, why not give it to the kid? I have 2 spare bedrooms and zero kids right now, so what I should make the first born live in a closet or something? I'm honestly confused. I don't ever plan to have more kids than rooms in my house so I don't understand why that seems crazy for them to have their own rooms.
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Now stop judging me for all of my unnecessary purchases or I'll sic the Krampus on you :P
This is.....super odd....I have no desire to share a room with my child (or multiple children). You don't believe in nurseries, but when do you grant the kid their own space? I personally intend to have a nursery that my child sleeps in starting on the day they get home from the hospital.
I also think judging people for buying things for their kid is a bit extreme. They do, in fact, need *some* stuff. Maybe not all the gadgets and gizmos we are lead to believe they need, but seriously, where do you "allow" for purchases?
Yeah I'm the oldest of six, and we always had a nursery, so I don't get this either... When my youngest sister was older (like two) it turned into another bedroom. I HATED sharing a room with siblings, and have pushed to have my own room away from my fiancé in the past because I can't function without my own space. Also if there isn't a specific place for LO won't they keep their older siblings awake at night?
I have, however, bought a $10 stroller from Craigslist, a few packages of diapers, and my parents got me a p&p for Christmas that has a bassinet for the first few months. I'm incredibly cheap and I feel like as long as I have student loans and DH's cc payments, this kid can live with a second-hand stroller.
Yeah I have only one friend who insists on calling me, even though she has personally witnessed me rejecting phone calls. If it's important they call back, or text me to call them. Don't waste my life by making me make myself available for your convenience.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
I may not understand spending absurd amounts of money on top of the line gear, etc, but it's not my bank account so it's not my problem. Being a STM has definitely curbed my 'must have it all' attitude in re: baby gear. Besides.. parenting in this era has become very materialistic and consumer driven, and this is how those bullshit 'Mommy wars' are started.
I find that it's much more productive to tend to my own garden instead of spending all my time peering over the fence at my neighbor's crop. How's that for a Thursday metaphor?
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
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Rhys - born 04.17.2013
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Rhys - born 04.17.2013
Harry - born 04.18.2016
I have been feeling the same way. I figured it was being a STM and having a second girl. We didn't have a ton of money when DD1 was born and so she didn't have much of a nursery. It absolutely killed me. Also it stayed pretty empty for the first few months because we had Dd in our room for peace of mind. There were a lot of things I thought we needed, but she either didn't want or wouldn't use. Like a pacifier and the bouncing chair. She wouldn't tolerate either very well.
I also feel it's easier to deal with the mommy wars when you don't play along. Why should I compare my life to someone else's who may or may not have more life experience and/or money.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
How come all of a sudden Krampus is going viral all over the internets?? I never heard of it before until recently and that's some scary shit!
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
@yodiggity, no, I was judgy about it before I had 50 kids. Like I said, though, I realize this is my own thing, and I'm being unreasonable. I don't even own a lot of baby stuff, because I truly don't see a need.
@sarahufl I share with my babies, and eventually they get moved in with an older sibling. When my first was little, she shared with my girlfriend's kid when we moved in together; dd was about two, and so was the other kid.
Judging is extreme. I already stated that I get snippy with myself for doing it: I realize I'm being unreasonable.
@Knottie9983816, I can't imagine not wanting to share space with my husband, but my BFF is super into her personal space as well,and has two bedrooms just for herself. As for my kids keeping each other up, it's very rarely been a problem,and it's always been solved by walking in and telling them to settle down and quit playing.
I want to reiterate that I realize I'm not being reasonable when I judge anyone for buying things and having separate rooms for everyone. It doesn't keep me up at night, though.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
Are you able to get a free one from your insurance? If so, I'd get one just in case.
Oh also my son had trouble latching for the first couple weeks so I had to pump until we figured it out. So I was glad to have it since I was still able to give him breastmilk.