Attachment Parenting
beanie1977
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Introduction
beanie1977
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I wouldn't have thought attachment parenting was my "thing." I was raised by hippies and lived on a commune and wanted to do things differently when I parent. For example, provide routines and structure and limits- the things we did not have (though my crazy hippie childhood makes for good stories!) I turned out ok but life would have been easier with a few more boundaries and expectations.
After a c-section when I planned on hynobirthing, and serious struggle with breastfeeding where I produce less than an ounce of milk a day, and am essentially unable to do it at all, I find myself feeling much different about the way I want to bond and parent my child. I feel a huge loss over my delivery and experience with breastfeeding. Believe me, if there was something I was told to do to increase my supply I did it and had twice weekly lactation consultant appointments until it was determined that my supply wasn't increasing.
I'm giving my child breastmilk anyway, even if it's only a few drops to soothe him to sleep. He still eagerly feeds and at my last lactation appointment he was getting about 8 ml from each side. We are cosleeping (he's in a cosleeper between us) and I'm wearing him as much as possible in my moby wrap. I'm doing this to make up for whatever is lost from the limited breast feeding.
Instead of the routine I started with (from the baby whisperer) I've started using his cues instead of my plans for how to spend our days.
Fortunately he's a super happy baby most of the time and is easy going.
Anyway, has anyone else come to this method by surprise, thinking you'd use a much more structured approach to parenting?
After a c-section when I planned on hynobirthing, and serious struggle with breastfeeding where I produce less than an ounce of milk a day, and am essentially unable to do it at all, I find myself feeling much different about the way I want to bond and parent my child. I feel a huge loss over my delivery and experience with breastfeeding. Believe me, if there was something I was told to do to increase my supply I did it and had twice weekly lactation consultant appointments until it was determined that my supply wasn't increasing.
I'm giving my child breastmilk anyway, even if it's only a few drops to soothe him to sleep. He still eagerly feeds and at my last lactation appointment he was getting about 8 ml from each side. We are cosleeping (he's in a cosleeper between us) and I'm wearing him as much as possible in my moby wrap. I'm doing this to make up for whatever is lost from the limited breast feeding.
Instead of the routine I started with (from the baby whisperer) I've started using his cues instead of my plans for how to spend our days.
Fortunately he's a super happy baby most of the time and is easy going.
Anyway, has anyone else come to this method by surprise, thinking you'd use a much more structured approach to parenting?
Re: Introduction
All I know is that I want the best for her and, despite the "dangers" of co-sleeping, I feel like she's safer next to me that in a bassinet. One of the nights in the hospital, they came in to check my vitals. I looked over and, swaddled in the hospital bassinet, my daughter had foam coming out of her mouth and it was already running down her neck. The nurse acted quickly, scooping her up and pounding on her back, then suctioning her mouth..but that's all I could think about when we got home and it came time to put her across the room in her own bed.
I just found this group myself yesterday but, with that said, welcome!
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old