"Are you going to have more?" Hello! I just popped out this one 11 weeks ago and already we are being asked if we are going to have another baby. I have to say this is from my unwed non prego friends so I chalk it up to their naivety!!
When are you going back to work? I'm so sick of getting asked this. Like its a foreign idea that a new mom stay home with her baby for more than a couple of weeks. I'm taking the entire lousey 12 weeks that I for some reason feel lucky to even get as an American when really we should have the option to have the child's first year off. I go back in a few days and I can't help but feel how unnatural it is for a woman to leave their baby at such a young age. It kills me to know I've provided everything for him the last year and now I have to just leave him for someone else to take care of. I just can't and if one person says a word about it at thanksgiving I'm probably going to go off the rail!!!
My top 2 would be: "You're going to spoil him if you don't put him down" or "You have spoiled him". NO no I have not...he's 2 months old he can't be spoiled. And even if I had spoiled him I wouldn't care because he's never going to be this little again and I'm never going to be able to hold and snuggle him...the day will come when he wants to be put down and so if I have I don't care so you can just STFU!!! (After returning to work) "Are you glad to be back?" Ummm no I'm most certainly not!! Not only do I hate my job but I also hate leaving my baby and want to be able to stay home with him and I miss him terribly all day long...so no I didn't miss dealing with your obnoxious self and I would much rather be with my baby!
We struggled with his weight gain for weeks and every time I hear this I get offended. My baby is the perfect size & I feel like those who have a rather large infant think something is wrong with mine. He's a good normal size and yes he's getting enough to eat!
So sick of, "but she just woke up" or "no, she's not hungry" when baby is crying and fussing and clearly tired or hungry! She is two months old and yes she eats and sleeps a lot!
Yes @Sully3302 this makes me crazy. Especially because I'm visiting the in-laws all week and they make me feel like I'm trying to take the baby away from them. I'm sorry that he needs to eat and sleep so much and that is interfering with your schedule!
DS randomly hit this phase where he was up all night long, every single night, crying for like 5 or 6 hours straight. It lasted for a week, so I called the only person I had to ask for advice, which is my grandmother, and literally all she ever told me was that I spoiled him and I needed to just lay him down and let him cry. She also told me once when he was projectile vomiting every other day that I needed to force him to only eat every 4 to 5 hours because babies are too stupid to know when to stop eating and that he was going to get fat. All of this at 3 weeks old. It sounded silly to me that a 3 week old was smart enough to manipulate me by screaming but too stupid to stop eating before he was so full that he'd cry until he threw it up all over me. I stopped asking for her help and advice when she told me that I was being "obsessive" for worrying about him crying so much, and I'm still sort of bitter about it.
Now he's nearly 10 weeks old and still cries for hours during the day, and she actually started in with her vaccination conspiracy theories the other day, asking me "don't you think he's been crying more since you got him vaccinated? Watch this video on youtube about all these kids that got horrible problems from vaccinations. It's every parents obligation to be informed." Now I get to hear that everytime I talk to her. Jesus christ. I had to figure out, on my own, that he has reflux and his little tummy can't handle it when I eat chocolate.
My new one as of lately is "are you sure you're not over feeding him...?" #1 no I'm not, his doctor says he's doing just perfect and if he's hungry that I should feed him. He doesn't finish his bottles usually so he stops himself when he's full. I do have quite a chubby little baby but it's just rude! You can't body shame a baby!
@Natabear - I am so, so sorry. You keep listening to your good mama-bear instincts and don't listen to a word that woman says. You know what you're doing and you've already figured out what does and doesn't work for you and your little one. Keep up the good work, honey.
"He's so tiny".
We struggled with his weight gain for weeks and every time I hear this I get offended. My baby is the perfect size & I feel like those who have a rather large infant think something is wrong with mine. He's a good normal size and yes he's getting enough to eat!
This! @missdaccortezz My LO is not tiny. He was born 8.2 went down to 7.9 and was actually up to birth weight in a week! He is 12 weeks old now and at his 2 month appointment he was 13 lbs 9 oz! He was 24.5 in long at 2 months 92nd percentile! No he is not tiny No he is not small Yes your child was smaller than him ( the comment is often a parent looking at my son and saying I don't think you were ever that small, yes yes your child was otherwise they would not have fit inside you or your wife!!!!) yesterday his aunt who just met him for the first time said he was too skinny... hes 76th percentile in weight. My friends 1 year old is 18 lbs, mines 3 months old and over 14 i would assume now... soo no hes not too skinny, he eats practically everything I pump for him a day. I was thankful my husband said this to her. She kept saying your a Ciarletta you need to be bigger... ummm no don't give my son an eating disorder..
Re: I'm really tired of hearing..
This too! Sure, I'll also cook when he cooks, clean when he cleans, and bathe with he bathes... oh that's right...
"Why is she so gasy? What did you eat?"
"Why does she cry so much?"
"What's wrong with her?"
Just a few that really grind my gears.
"You're going to spoil him if you don't put him down" or "You have spoiled him". NO no I have not...he's 2 months old he can't be spoiled. And even if I had spoiled him I wouldn't care because he's never going to be this little again and I'm never going to be able to hold and snuggle him...the day will come when he wants to be put down and so if I have I don't care so you can just STFU!!!
(After returning to work) "Are you glad to be back?" Ummm no I'm most certainly not!! Not only do I hate my job but I also hate leaving my baby and want to be able to stay home with him and I miss him terribly all day long...so no I didn't miss dealing with your obnoxious self and I would much rather be with my baby!
We struggled with his weight gain for weeks and every time I hear this I get offended. My baby is the perfect size & I feel like those who have a rather large infant think something is wrong with mine. He's a good normal size and yes he's getting enough to eat!
Now he's nearly 10 weeks old and still cries for hours during the day, and she actually started in with her vaccination conspiracy theories the other day, asking me "don't you think he's been crying more since you got him vaccinated? Watch this video on youtube about all these kids that got horrible problems from vaccinations. It's every parents obligation to be informed." Now I get to hear that everytime I talk to her. Jesus christ. I had to figure out, on my own, that he has reflux and his little tummy can't handle it when I eat chocolate.
"are you sure you're not over feeding him...?"
#1 no I'm not, his doctor says he's doing just perfect and if he's hungry that I should feed him. He doesn't finish his bottles usually so he stops himself when he's full. I do have quite a chubby little baby but it's just rude! You can't body shame a baby!