I'm really tired of hearing..

rachellegiacco

It's really a fill in the blank

Mine is "how did you sleep?"
My DH sleeps through everything and snores loud enough to wake the baby soo hearing this every single morning after a sleepless night is cringeworthy haha

ForeverEverAfter

"Is she a good baby?"

Drives me crazy! My baby is usually content and sleeps through the night, but even if she was screaming 20h a day she would still be good-because she's a BABY!

missliz53

Yeah I don't get the whole good baby thing either, like they are intentionally fussy. And what's the definition of a good baby anyways? All babies cry.

My dad is driving me nuts with all his Karma is a bitch garbage. Like I was a high maintaince baby on purpose. I'm pretty sure I was just as miserable as they were.

chelseajeanene

"Oh wow! He looks just like his father!"

NO he does not, stop saying it. Everywhere I go someone says it to us. The doctors office, the grocery store, strangers, everywhere. If my son did look like his dad I wouldn't care, but he's seriously my mini me and it bugs me that nobody will say it. I attached a picture to prove it

Elecin

'Does she sleep for you?' Or ' Does she sleep through the night?'

The answer is no, she does not sleep trough the night. So then the conversation then shifts to why she should be sleeping through the night at 8 weeks old.

Whatever!!

kate913

"I think she's hungry." I know when my baby is hungry!!

troopersmom

@chelseajeanene he looks just like you! Not like dad- like YOU. How can they try to argue that? By the way I love your hair

chelseajeanene

@troopersmom thank you!! and I know! He literally looks nothing like my DH. They both have red hair and that's their only similarity so people just say he looks like him? I don't know, I really don't get it

Petunia21

chelseajeanene said:

"Oh wow! He looks just like his father!"

NO he does not, stop saying it. Everywhere I go someone says it to us. The doctors office, the grocery store, strangers, everywhere. If my son did look like his dad I wouldn't care, but he's seriously my mini me and it bugs me that nobody will say it. I attached a picture to prove it

Omg he's your twin!

chelseajeanene

@Petunia21 thank you!! I love it I just wish other people would ignologe it. His side of the family refuses to accept it. His hair is red but his roots are coming in platinum blonde so it's making me so excited lol

alyjmac

"He shouldnt be eating that much" and to follow "He's going to be overweight" he typically has 5-6 oz a time every 3 hours and is sleeping 7-11 hours at night (most the time). If I try to give him any less he's unbearable. He either won't stop crying or will just want to eat sooner. I swear all the people that say that should come to the doctors with me because he is right on track for growth!!

caityrose

This doesn't happen a lot because I've only seen my grandma a few times but as soon as the baby cries or spits up she asks if she's having problems with the formula. Like no. It's a normal thing babies do...

PickledPlums

@caityrose THIS. My MIL has food allergies and can't have dairy, and the youngest two of her middle child's children have trouble with dairy based formula, so she is CONVINCED that mine does too, for no reason. We even specifically asked the pediatrician if it was the formula when baby boy got a stomach bug at 6 weeks and he's like, "No! He'd be inconsolable and have bloody diarrhea and refuse to eat..." We explained this to her, but since she doesn't have bloody diarrhea the ped is obviously wrong. I told her she'd probably have it if she had nothing but dairy for six weeks and that stopped her for about a day and a half.
That was 5 weeks ago and she still brings it up every other week.
...and we live with her.

jen83mn

rachellegiacco said:

It's really a fill in the blank

Mine is "how did you sleep?"
My DH sleeps through everything and snores loud enough to wake the baby soo hearing this every single morning after a sleepless night is cringeworthy haha

My husband is the same ... doesn't even hear the baby cry and he's in the same room as us right next to the bed! In his defense, I think he has years of wax built up in his ears or something because he can't even hear a loud whisper ... I convinced him to go to the doc to get his ears cleaned out! When DH starts to snore I nudge him and tell him to roll over (he only snores when lying on his back). He's learned not to ask how I slept ... but that doesn't stop me from telling him! And now that I'm back to work this morning, he spent an hour trying to get him to go back to sleep at 4 a.m. last night ... if one of us is going to be sleep-deprived, we both are!

jen83mn

"Stop putting so much on your to-do list," from the husband. Yes, I'm stressed because I always have so much to do, but it's not stuff I want to do or like I even have a choice. The bills have to get paid, the laundry has to get done, the dishes have to be washed, etc. It's not like I have something ridiculous on there like, " Scrub bathroom floor with toothbrush!"

Some of the stuff he can help with, but if he's helping then I'm taking care of the baby, so it's not like it gives me any actual free time!

Growingapepper

Everyone always asks how's the baby doing. When she goes through fussy periods I'll say that she's going through a fussy phase. Then I'll get "do you hold her alot?" Yes of course... "oh then you probably spoiled her." Uhm no you can't spoil a 2 month. The only things she needs in the world right now are milk, diapers, and love. I'm not going to deprive her of my attention when all she needs is to feel secure in my arms. That's not spoiling!

cuphalffull

"Enjoy her before she starts moving." Yes, I know chasing a toddler is work as well, but this is my second child, even first timeoms know it is coming, and I remember enjoying each stage of dd1s life!

ellebxo26

I hate when we are out and if DS gets fussy it never fails that some stranger has to say "He's not happy, is he?" No. He's crying just for shits and giggles.

MiromiM

"She's sleepy already?"

Yes. DD can't stay up for more than an hour, at least not happily. I know babies her age are suppose to be able to stay awake more but she doesn't want to. And seriously, who likes being forced to stay awake when they're exhausted? No one. No one. She yawns once, it's all good but as soon as she yawns again it's swaddle time. And you know what, 90% of the time she quickly falls asleep on her own. No rocking, no nothing. But keep her awake past that second yawn and all hell breaks loose. Turns out after 10 weeks of full time mommy, I know my baby. Put that baby down MIL!

xJKxOR

My inlaws always ask, "Can we keep him awake?" No! He can only stay awake for an hour at a time and then he's miserable, let him sleep. And then they always come over and talk to him and stroke his cheek or hand. Im trying to put him to sleep! Leave us alone.

TabulaRasa25

I am sick of "nap when he naps."  

Yeah, sure.  I'll let my professors know that they can just hold off on my assignment and project due dates, because I'm supposed to nap when my baby naps, versus take advantage of that much-needed uninterrupted time to work on my classwork (not to mention catch up on dishes, laundry, vacuuming so I don't have to live in a house with piled up crap). If I napped when he naps, I'd be flunking out of my graduate program and living like a hoarder. I need that time for studying and housework, because it sure doesn't happen when he's awake and on the boob! 

CEW225

I'm sick of hearing "The housework can wait"

Umm, it can only wait for so long or we will be drinking out of milk cartons because we have no cups, wearing paper bags because we have no clothes, and walking around on dust/dirt before the floors need sweeping.  We also need to clean up so that we can decorate for Christmas and I have to buy Christmas presents at some point.  I know those are extra things (not like washing dishes or clothes), but it is LO's first Christmas.  We have to have a tree!

I am also sick of hearing "How'd your first day back to work go?" or "Are you glad to be back?"

What do you think?!  I miss my child.  Even though I had really rough days while being out on leave, I miss spending time with LO.  I don't think I could be a SAHM, at least at this age, because I need adult interaction and to get out and do things.  However, it's not like I wanted to leave her and come back to work.  I'm so afraid that I'll miss some of her firsts because she'll do them at the sitter's.  

TabulaRasa25

Yeah, the housework really CAN'T wait.  I'm far from a neat freak, but babies make a lot of laundry and trash in a short period of time, and if I don't vacuum daily, I'll pretty much have a dog hair encased infant, which is awesome.  If somebody tells me "housework can wait," I'll just assume they're volunteering to come over and do it for me. 

TabulaRasa25

I can't even think about the energy that cleaning and decorating for Christmas will entail.  I'll be finishing my semester, and will be wiped, and that's even without baby stuff. 

I halfway feel like just skipping it or going really light, since we won't be at home this year, but having Christmas at my parents', out of state, but I know my husband will balk at not having a tree up and decorated for baby's first Christmas. 

Mewkie

The questions about sleeping through the night always get me. If you don't have kids okay fine, you get a pass but if you have children then you most likely know the answer is no. At 8 weeks he does not sleep 12 hours straight and no thank you I don't want advice on how to get him to.

DevynLea94

I'm really sick of hearing "oh, she's moving more? There goes your freedom!" Making it so hard to be excited about my DD rolling over or loving her jumparoo.

BrandiLaw87

Ugh, so many of these!

@chelseajeanene I can totally relate! All I hear is how she is a "spitting image of her father" or in his family, they all say she looks like SIL. Really, tell me again my daughter looks like another woman! (Love my SIL btw, so no hate to her.) I can see some of him in LO but when I compare our baby pictures, she looks like me! I swear it's the hair thing with us too, she has dark hair like her dad. Mine is dyed dark but naturally dirty blonde. However in my early baby pics, I have dark hair and the exact same hairline. This never bothered me with DS (who is mini DH) but I think because she's a girl, I selfishly want to acknowledgement she looks like me.

Also, your son totally looks like you and people are nuts!

kmkrehbiel

"You need to put him down more" from my MIL. Drives me nuts! I want little baby snuggles as much has my sweet son does!

TabulaRasa25

LOL, my son really DOES look exactly like his dad.  He has my long fingers, and possibly my hair color, if it doesn't change, but everything else that's showing right now very much features my husband's side of the gene pool. No complaints, there, he's adorable. It doesn't bug me at all when people comment that he looks "just like Michael," because, well, he DOES.  For now.  Genes express differently at different stages of life. He could grow and develop, and more of my contributions to his chromosomes could make themselves known.  You never know. 

The "Oh, the baby's moving around?  Wait till he/she's walking, THERE GOES YOUR FREEDOM!!!" doomsday soothsayers can kiss my butt, too. They tend to be the same people who, when we were pregnant, were all, "ENJOY YOUR SLEEP NOW, You'll NEVER GET ANY AGAIN!!!!" Um, guess what? I sleep.  And, really, I'm so unimpressed by the negativity. 

beckygoetz93

My mom is the only one that says this but when I go to nurse her she says why don't you just give her a bottle of formula. Ummm why would I do that when I nursed my son for 12 months and am having a perfectly good experience with this one as well. Drives me nuts she is always trying to push formula on me for no reason. Also my sister always says idk how you breastfeed that must hurt. She doesn't even have kids how would she know.

awells189

My MIL has gotten better about this (THANK GOD). I'm nursing and whenever he would cry she would say "What did you eat?" as if my diet was the reason he was crying. Not because he was hungry or had a dirty diaper.... Ugh.

ahoneycutt12

Are you having another? Seriously she is 8 weeks how about we see if I can manage to keep a little of my sanity with this one before we decide I need another!

ETA: @BrandiLaw87 I feel you on that everyone in my family keeps saying that she looks like my sister when she was a baby... I don't know why this irritates me so much but I wish they would stop saying it every time they see her.

BrandiLaw87

ahoneycutt12 said:

@BrandiLaw87 I feel you on that everyone in my family keeps saying that she looks like my sister when she was a baby... I don't know why this irritates me so much but I wish they would stop saying it every time they see her.

I usually don't let petty stuff like this get to me, but this really grinds me. Maybe because she is a baby girl or maybe because they talk about it everytime they see her....which is a lot.

hakettler

From DH:: every morning it's, how did she sleep? My LO sleeps 7-9 hours, which is great! But I however am up around 2 to pump and basically wake up every time I hear her make a noise which is often. He's always like, that's great! I'm like yea I wish I slept for nine hours straight but I don't lol. I'm exhausted.

mariessa02

@Growingapepper

Ugh, this! My in-laws & others always warn me that I hold her too much and that I'm, "creating a monster!" Also that I should just let her cry sometimes... UMMM NO... Why would I just let her cry when I can soothe her, we both feel better. She's 8 weeks old. She wants love and I love giving it to her. She will not be a monster, ever - thanks. I am all about "the 4th trimester" so we still have some time before the possibility of her being spoiled is something I'm gonna worry about.

TabulaRasa25

I saw more of the doomsday prophets on my cousin's facebook wall tonight and thought of this discussion.  AFAIK, my cousin and his wife aren't expecting, but they posted pics of their second wedding anniversary weekend roadtrip, and some acquaintance posted in response, "Yeah, well, ENJOY THAT while it lasts.  Once you have kids, no more anniversary trips!!!"  

Um, really? WTH? 

ElleKH

So many things.  -_-  
"You should let him cry. Crying makes babies beautiful." (WTAF, Czech people?!)  
"If you take him out in the rain, he's going to get freckles!"
"You took him to the cemetery?!  You should never take a baby to a cemetery!"  
I've heard all of these from DH's grandma, the first most frequently.  She just can't understand why I won't let my baby stay unhappy when he cries.  I always have to tell her, "He's handsome enough already, Babi."

But the one that gets me the most is, "He's not warm enough."  Seriously?!  I am a nervous first-time mom and I know that I have him overdressed as it is!  You want him sweating or what? MIL and grandma are both guilty of this one and it drives me up a wall.  Meanwhile, DH is telling me, "I think he's too warm."  Uuuuuugh...

Mewkie

I thought of another!! We have 2 boys and some people are asking if we will "try" for the girl. I don't get that question?! Eventually (not when this baby is 8 weeks old) but eventually we may like to try for a 3rd but we will just be trying for another, not a girl specifically.

Bellarose212

I love this topic because there are sooooo many things people say that drive me insane! My MIL insists that the baby is cold ALL THE TIME! She is always wrapping him in blankets and telling me that I should be as well. One time she called my husband while we were out for a walk and said we "can't take him out in this weather!" Um it's 65 degrees out. What is she gonna be like in February?
Also my baby is 11 weeks and 14 pounds. He's EBF and my MIL doesn't understand that at all. When he was born, all she would comment on was "is he drinking enough?" and "Do you think you should give him a bottle?" Now that he's bigger and has adorable chubby cheeks, she comments saying "do you think he's too big?" and "does he need to lose weight?" I almost lost it when she asked if he needed to lose weight. Yes my 2 month old breastfed baby is joining weight watchers and just got his first gym membership! Ahhhhhh!!!!

BrandiLaw87

Mewkie said:

I thought of another!! We have 2 boys and some people are asking if we will "try" for the girl. I don't get that question?! Eventually (not when this baby is 8 weeks old) but eventually we may like to try for a 3rd but we will just be trying for another, not a girl specifically.

Our first is a boy and when it was just him we always got the "try for a girl" or "do you want a girl now". Umm I just want a baby. LO is a girl and so now it's "quit while your ahead" or "your family is complete" How about my family is complete when I say it is and maybe it doesn't matter to me what the sex of my children are. Don't get me wrong, I am very blessed and happy, but I don't like people telling me to stop having kids.

cassandral56

"When are you going to have your baby?"
Excuse me, my son is two months old. Thank you for add salt to my already opened wound from not being able to fit into anything I have, and my self esteem is low.