look i just want to reiterate my stance on "i support your birth choice whatever it may be, even if it is something that i would never choose." i truly feel that way. i am a staunch supporter of ICAN and i belong to a few birth trauma support groups; many different birth experiences in those groups. but it would be hypocritical of me to march in Miles for Midwives demanding my right to choose a homebirth while saying someone else is wrong for choosing a c-section. i may disagree with the reasons behind the choice, but not with the mama's right to choose.
i DO however take issue with spreading misinformation. giving birth vaginally is not necessarily what causes urinary incontinence. pregnancy itself can cause this. it can also happen to a woman who has never before been pregnant.
i don't think anyone is being nasty. it is a fact that a cesarean is major surgery and is sometimes elective and sometimes not medically necessary. the same can be said about breast reduction, cosmetic surgery, and other surgeries. the way you worded your comment did lead me at least to believe that you'd prefer a c/s for the not peeing reason, and not for any legitimate medical reasons. :kanye shrug:
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but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
@charley15 If it comes down to it and you need a C-section, I know you'll do great!!! Hopefully the excitement of the moment will overtake your nerves.
Yes defintatly! I was so nervous right before I told DH I couldn't do it...LOL. Of course I had no choice. The anticipation was the worse part once it started I actually relaxed. Try not to worry!
Dirty lurker that's lurking 8 days out from her medically necessary c-section. I don't care who gets a section versus who goes vaginal. It is a personal choice - although I would recommend going vaginal if at all possible.
My recovery is rather painful. Standing, sitting, rolling over, reaching my arms over my head - painful. If I forget to take my meds, which I do with the sleep deprivation, it's really painful. I can't drive for at least another week. I can't lift anything heavier than my baby. These mean that I completely rely on others for transportation to and from doctors appointments. My recovery will be 6-8 weeks long and it's looking like a loonnnngggg 6-8 weeks since I'm just at the point where walking around my house doesn't hurt.
Also, still have bladder issues anyway. And even worse, pooping issues too.
Dirty lurker that's lurking 8 days out from her medically necessary c-section. I don't care who gets a section versus who goes vaginal. It is a personal choice - although I would recommend going vaginal if at all possible.
My recovery is rather painful. Standing, sitting, rolling over, reaching my arms over my head - painful. If I forget to take my meds, which I do with the sleep deprivation, it's really painful. I can't drive for at least another week. I can't lift anything heavier than my baby. These mean that I completely rely on others for transportation to and from doctors appointments. My recovery will be 6-8 weeks long and it's looking like a loonnnngggg 6-8 weeks since I'm just at the point where walking around my house doesn't hurt.
Also, still have bladder issues anyway. And even worse, pooping issues too.
My healthy son was totally worth it though.
Congrats on your baby boy! Amazing what we go through for these tiny babies!
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Dirty lurker that's lurking 8 days out from her medically necessary c-section. I don't care who gets a section versus who goes vaginal. It is a personal choice - although I would recommend going vaginal if at all possible.
My recovery is rather painful. Standing, sitting, rolling over, reaching my arms over my head - painful. If I forget to take my meds, which I do with the sleep deprivation, it's really painful. I can't drive for at least another week. I can't lift anything heavier than my baby. These mean that I completely rely on others for transportation to and from doctors appointments. My recovery will be 6-8 weeks long and it's looking like a loonnnngggg 6-8 weeks since I'm just at the point where walking around my house doesn't hurt.
Also, still have bladder issues anyway. And even worse, pooping issues too.
My healthy son was totally worth it though.
Congrats on your baby boy! Amazing what we go through for these tiny babies!
true that! congrats, @itstheblackwidowbaby! i hope that your recovery gets easier and you are feeling like yourself again fast!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
look i just want to reiterate my stance on "i support your birth choice whatever it may be, even if it is something that i would never choose." i truly feel that way. i am a staunch supporter of ICAN and i belong to a few birth trauma support groups; many different birth experiences in those groups. but it would be hypocritical of me to march in Miles for Midwives demanding my right to choose a homebirth while saying someone else is wrong for choosing a c-section. i may disagree with the reasons behind the choice, but not with the mama's right to choose.
i DO however take issue with spreading misinformation. giving birth vaginally is not necessarily what causes urinary incontinence. pregnancy itself can cause this. it can also happen to a woman who has never before been pregnant.
i don't think anyone is being nasty. it is a fact that a cesarean is major surgery and is sometimes elective and sometimes not medically necessary. the same can be said about breast reduction, cosmetic surgery, and other surgeries. the way you worded your comment did lead me at least to believe that you'd prefer a c/s for the not peeing reason, and not for any legitimate medical reasons. :kanye shrug:
Can I contract out all of my responses out to you? You always say what I'd like to say, but you do so in a much more balanced and diplomatic way than I seem to be capable of lately.
My c section recovery was terrible. Not sure if it was a combination of the major surgery and pushing for 8 hours but I wish that I could have delivered vaginally. I wanted to try for a VBAC but I have already had too many complications with this pregnancy, my OB advised against it for both the health of my baby and myself. Oh and I still pee my pants despite having had a c section!
My c section recovery was terrible. Not sure if it was a combination of the major surgery and pushing for 8 hours but I wish that I could have delivered vaginally. I wanted to try for a VBAC but I have already had too many complications with this pregnancy, my OB advised against it for both the health of my baby and myself. Oh and I still pee my pants despite having had a c section!
That sounds rough! I went with a c-section last time under the advice of my OB. I had to be delivered due to pre-e. He said I had a pretty good chance of ending up with a section since I wasn't dialated or effaced and that laboring all day and then having to have a c-section would def make the recovery much worse. I was pretty lucky and had a super easy recovery.Anyway I just wanted to say sorry that you don't get to have a VBAC like you wanted but I hope you at least have a much easier recovery this time!
I scheduled mine yesterday for April 8th. It's my backup "in case I don't go into labour" section. My OB who I met for the first time said she's positive about my chances for a VBAC, I tick all the boxes for being able to do one - provided I go into labour naturally. If I don't my little lady will be making an appearance around 8am on April 8th. It's so nice to have a backup plan!
at my last appt (25w), the twins were both vertex! so it's looking like I might be able to get around the c-section after all, though of course other issues may trigger the need (and they could shift again).
@caitlinmca yay! Out of curiosity (if you don't want to answer that's fine) why are you scheduled so early as a FTM? My hospital (in Canada, no other option but it is the children's trauma hospital for the 4 eastern provinces) rarely schedule c sections for FTM or STMs this early. I have a "just in case" date for 41+ weeks as I had a section with failure to progress. But the OB I met last week said that they monitor women but as a rule don't schedule for previa/breech/etc in case the issue resolves on its own. I had a friend deliver there was a very high risk baby (severe heart condition) and he was born vaginally - I was shocked. I'm more so curious to see if my hospital is just trying to avoid sections at all costs. I personally don't care either way - I had a great recovery last time but I'll have a toddler at home so I'll try for a VBAC but if it doesn't work then c'est la vie.
@caitlinmca yay! Out of curiosity (if you don't want to answer that's fine) why are you scheduled so early as a FTM? My hospital (in Canada, no other option but it is the children's trauma hospital for the 4 eastern provinces) rarely schedule c sections for FTM or STMs this early. I have a "just in case" date for 41+ weeks as I had a section with failure to progress. But the OB I met last week said that they monitor women but as a rule don't schedule for previa/breech/etc in case the issue resolves on its own. I had a friend deliver there was a very high risk baby (severe heart condition) and he was born vaginally - I was shocked. I'm more so curious to see if my hospital is just trying to avoid sections at all costs. I personally don't care either way - I had a great recovery last time but I'll have a toddler at home so I'll try for a VBAC but if it doesn't work then c'est la vie.
I've had 5 hip surgeries possibly needing a 6th. My orthopedic surgeon and his physician assistant said I can try for a vaginal delivery but are unsure if I would actually be able to and still then may end up with a c-section. I also have a heart condition although has not interfered with my life for a few years.
My OB was okay with scheduling me as a FTM and said it was my choice, stated that each appointment I see her she would try to talk me out of it however said it was my choice in the end. Baby is also frank breech (I know that they can always turn however a coworker of mine her baby never turned from being breech) and has been with every ultrasound that I've had with the exception of 2, and I've had somewhere between 6-10 ultrasounds, high risk due to short cervical length that thankfully has not caused any more issues thus far. I would rather save my hips, go into delivery bright eyed and bushy tailed rather than labor for 3 days be exhausted and still end up with a c-section.
@caitlinmca oh jeepers I'd push for a section too, I have terrible musclar issues in my hips and low back during pregnancy (yay for weekly physio that keeps me slightly moving) you're one tough momma! I can't imagine the hip pain you go through. You need all the strength for when baby arrives. I just had a really respected OB and she mentioned some of the circumstances that they *don't* schedule a section for right away and I was dumbfounded. I had a theory that they're trying to save hospital resources if at all possible and while that may be true I'm glad not all places are like that. I was so curious after our first meeting what would constitute one. Best of luck!!!
Scheduled c-section for March 3rd. It will be my second c-section. First one was 12 years ago after 28 hours of hard labor and no progression past 5. Luckily, my husband will be here this time--the last time he was deployed to Iraq at 6 months pregnant. I'm interested in seeing how different the experience is going to be without the labor prior.
Scheduled c-section for March 3rd. It will be my second c-section. First one was 12 years ago after 28 hours of hard labor and no progression past 5. Luckily, my husband will be here this time--the last time he was deployed to Iraq at 6 months pregnant. I'm interested in seeing how different the experience is going to be without the labor prior.
I haven't schedule my C-section yet but I know it will be planned. I try to deliver my son the natural way but my uterus is tilted and he had a hard time getting through the birth canal so I had a emergency C-section with him. I am due with baby girl on March 16 but my doctor said they might take me a week early.
I knew I needed a csection from the get go bc of preg #1 and we scheduled it at my 12w appt it was so weird to see it online scheduled. Like oh she's coming then lol
And personally I would rather have my vagina and bladder be "inconvenienced" than have all my guts/innards out of my body on a table, sliced open and through my uterus and have a longer recovery time and not be able to pick up my older boys for weeks. Besides with the peeing your pants thing, you have an excuse to not do jumping jacks or jump on a trampoline for the rest of your life.
I like trampolines :-), but I'll skip the jumping jacks.
They place your "guts" on you not on a table and some women don't have a choice
And personally I would rather have my vagina and bladder be "inconvenienced" than have all my guts/innards out of my body on a table, sliced open and through my uterus and have a longer recovery time and not be able to pick up my older boys for weeks. Besides with the peeing your pants thing, you have an excuse to not do jumping jacks or jump on a trampoline for the rest of your life.
I like trampolines :-), but I'll skip the jumping jacks.
They place your "guts" on you not on a table and some women don't have a choice Edit QBF -------------
She was actually referencing women scheduling c-sections for non-medical reasons and the snide commenter before her. We (most of us) understand c-sections can be medically necessary.
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I knew I needed a csection from the get go bc of preg #1 and we scheduled it at my 12w appt it was so weird to see it online scheduled. Like oh she's coming then lol
Serious question: FTM here. What happens if you go into labor before your C Section date? Would they go ahead and do your C Section then? Would they try to stop labor? How does all of that work?
I knew I needed a csection from the get go bc of preg #1 and we scheduled it at my 12w appt it was so weird to see it online scheduled. Like oh she's coming then lol
Serious question: FTM here. What happens if you go into labor before your C Section date? Would they go ahead and do your C Section then? Would they try to stop labor? How does all of that work?
If that happens then they just go ahead and do your c-section instead of trying to stop labor, unless of course it is too early then I assume they would go through all the steps to try to stop your labor just like they would if you were having a vaginal delivery. They normally schedule them at 39 weeks to try to catch you before you go into labor on your own so its not an emergency.
@SarahFoley725 I'm really curious about this too where my hospital is super VBAC gung-ho. I have a feeling at mine if it wasn't medically necessary (breech, condition with the mother) they might just get you to do trial of labour. My OBs success rate for VBAC when labour occurs naturally is the same as any other labour. I imagine if its a medically necessary one you'll just be rushed in as an emerg-c. We were one with my first and no joke from decision that fetal HR wasn't rebounding to where it should be and my son being here was *maybe* 15 minutes, including epidural and scrub time. They were efficient!
@jenniferamcooper that's crazy! I always hear of people going in to their appointment and baby being breach or BP is high etc and doctors being like alright let's pop on over to the hospital and have this baby! I feel like I will have so much anxiety at those weekly appointments like yeah I could be going in for a check up but they might also decide to take my baby today.
@SarahFoley725 it might be our medical system here (I'm in Canada) but they're less likely to do interventions here if they don't need to. A friend had severe SPD (pelvic issues), early labour with regular mild constractions every 20 min and STILL wouldn't induce at the hospital. She went to her OB after 48 hours of no sleep and they agreed to induce, luckily in the elevator on the way to her induction her water broke and baby was born 6 hours later. My little guy was overdue and at 41 weeks I saw my GP and she referred me to basically what was the "overdue" clinic at the children's hospital I delieved at. They did an u/s fetal monitoring, did a quick cervix check (ugggh the worst) and then sent me on my way. I went back every day for a quick check until 41+4 when after my first dose of cervadil baby showed some HR decels during the monitor which led to an emergency c. I was so flipping lucky I was hooked up to the monitors when it happened. But they really try their best to not do interventions but each OB and hospital is different. The only sure-fire way that a few people I know have gone to the doctor and been like "okay let's get this baby out today" was ladies with high BP.
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March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
My recovery is rather painful. Standing, sitting, rolling over, reaching my arms over my head - painful. If I forget to take my meds, which I do with the sleep deprivation, it's really painful. I can't drive for at least another week. I can't lift anything heavier than my baby. These mean that I completely rely on others for transportation to and from doctors appointments. My recovery will be 6-8 weeks long and it's looking like a loonnnngggg 6-8 weeks since I'm just at the point where walking around my house doesn't hurt.
Also, still have bladder issues anyway. And even worse, pooping issues too.
My healthy son was totally worth it though.
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
It's so nice to have a backup plan!
Out of curiosity (if you don't want to answer that's fine) why are you scheduled so early as a FTM? My hospital (in Canada, no other option but it is the children's trauma hospital for the 4 eastern provinces) rarely schedule c sections for FTM or STMs this early. I have a "just in case" date for 41+ weeks as I had a section with failure to progress. But the OB I met last week said that they monitor women but as a rule don't schedule for previa/breech/etc in case the issue resolves on its own.
I had a friend deliver there was a very high risk baby (severe heart condition) and he was born vaginally - I was shocked.
I'm more so curious to see if my hospital is just trying to avoid sections at all costs. I personally don't care either way - I had a great recovery last time but I'll have a toddler at home so I'll try for a VBAC but if it doesn't work then c'est la vie.
My OB was okay with scheduling me as a FTM and said it was my choice, stated that each appointment I see her she would try to talk me out of it however said it was my choice in the end. Baby is also frank breech (I know that they can always turn however a coworker of mine her baby never turned from being breech) and has been with every ultrasound that I've had with the exception of 2, and I've had somewhere between 6-10 ultrasounds, high risk due to short cervical length that thankfully has not caused any more issues thus far. I would rather save my hips, go into delivery bright eyed and bushy tailed rather than labor for 3 days be exhausted and still end up with a c-section.
I just had a really respected OB and she mentioned some of the circumstances that they *don't* schedule a section for right away and I was dumbfounded. I had a theory that they're trying to save hospital resources if at all possible and while that may be true I'm glad not all places are like that. I was so curious after our first meeting what would constitute one.
Best of luck!!!
They place your "guts" on you not on a table and some women don't have a choice
Edit QBF -------------
She was actually referencing women scheduling c-sections for non-medical reasons and the snide commenter before her. We (most of us) understand c-sections can be medically necessary.
I imagine if its a medically necessary one you'll just be rushed in as an emerg-c. We were one with my first and no joke from decision that fetal HR wasn't rebounding to where it should be and my son being here was *maybe* 15 minutes, including epidural and scrub time. They were efficient!
My little guy was overdue and at 41 weeks I saw my GP and she referred me to basically what was the "overdue" clinic at the children's hospital I delieved at. They did an u/s fetal monitoring, did a quick cervix check (ugggh the worst) and then sent me on my way. I went back every day for a quick check until 41+4 when after my first dose of cervadil baby showed some HR decels during the monitor which led to an emergency c. I was so flipping lucky I was hooked up to the monitors when it happened. But they really try their best to not do interventions but each OB and hospital is different.
The only sure-fire way that a few people I know have gone to the doctor and been like "okay let's get this baby out today" was ladies with high BP.