My husband and I decided to tell both of our parents last weekend that we were pregnant. I had a miscarriage in September, but even if something went wrong this time, I still wanted our families to be involved during this exciting time. However, we stressed the importance of of not telling anyone until I at least have my first ultrasound in a couple of weeks. I specifically told them that I would give them the OK to tell other people when it wasn't such a secret anymore. However, a few days later my husband told me that his mother told two other family members. I was annoyed but I let it slide since I knew she was just excited. Today he tells me she told a coworker who happens to be my mother's best friend, telling her to "act surprised" when my mom tells her. I was already angry when my husband and I went out for dinner this evening. A woman who I barely know comes up and says, "I heard some news about you two!" I was livid. There is no telling how many people she has told, and she has not admitted to telling anyone to me. I am so terrified of this pregnancy not going smoothly and having to tell all of these random people who I did not want to know in the first place. Even if everything does go smoothly, I would surely like to be the one to announce my own pregnancy!
Am I overreacting by being so upset about this? (I doubt myself sometimes with all of these crazy hormones) Should I confront my MIL? My husband is not being much help so I'd love to hear others' opinions! Sorry for being ranty!
Re: Only 5w4d, MIL has told everyone
If your MIL is the same, I am sorry. Since she's HIS mom, I do think your husband should be the one to confront her. Like @Kannerush said, he is responsible for keepng his family in line. Ultimately, it's sad for her that she has alienated heself from you guys. I imagine that from now on, she'll be the last to know anything important.
*Edited to correct a misspelling.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
not cool.
Married: October 2014
TTC #1 since September 2015
I would also tell her 'since you broke our trust before, we feel we can not tell you any swcrets. You will be told future things when we tell the general public'.
Married: May 16th 2015
Congratulations on your precious bundle of joy! FX for positive things thru out your pregnancy!
So there's this boy. He kinda stole my heart. He calls me "Mom"
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Married: May 16th 2015
@Jabreen what is with people?! I checked her Facebook after I found out that she had been telling everyone, just to make sure she hadn't outed me there too. People just don't understand boundaries.
Good luck in the future with MIL and hoping you have a healthy pregnancy!