DD is one week old today and refuses to sleep in the pack in play as I had planned. She gets swaddled and sleeps in 2-3 hour intervals in RNP. I put her in her crib during the day for naps but she doesn't have it. Hoping this changes when she gets a little older! She also is still awake and cluster feeding during the night and sleeping during the day. Mama is tired.
DS is now a month old. He slept in the rock n play for the first two weeks and then I transitioned him to naps in the cribs, but he still likes the RNP at night. Have you looked at a sleep wedge for the crib? Both of my boys have had to sleep with a slight incline due to reflux issues. We also swaddle when he's in the crib because the open space seems to bother him. I've found that double swaddling, a receiving blanket swaddled under a swaddle me, works great for naps in the crib.
I will have to google a sleep wedge. Good idea, thank you!
Two weeks old and he's slept like a champ in his crib, at first we swaddled and now he sleeps fine without one & will sleep four to five hour stretches at night.
I can't help but feel jealous of you ladies... LOs longest stretch of sleeping without being held is a little less than an hour and a half. Nothing except being held keeps him asleep. Of course, it probably has something to do with him feeling the need to eat so often...
Two weeks old and he's slept like a champ in his crib, at first we swaddled and now he sleeps fine without one & will sleep four to five hour stretches at night.
My LO hates being swaddled.. Every since we came home he enjoyed it for a few days but after about 4 days he would cry until he was unswaddled..
With all 4 of my kids I have co slept since birth, even in the hospital and no one had a problem with it. I am a heavy sleeper when no kids are in my bed but the moment there is one I wake up to them, actually same goes to anything with my kids, even if they're down the hall in their own room. My kids have all hated to be swaddled. They tend to transition into the arms reach co sleeper around month 2-3 for part of the night, then into the playpen when to big for that sleeper, then into the crib and own room at 1y. This has been what has worked for us. Some of my kids wanted to be in our bed longer as infants and some not.
When I was in pediatrics with my 3rd son who was diagnosed with failure to thrive we co slept on the pull out bed, I remember hearing the nurses come in and a student nurse said to the main nurse "shouldn't we wake her up? That can't be safe". The other nurse said "no, they're getting needed rest, we only worry about it more with premies" (my son was 12ish days old and was full term, we hadn't noticed he wasn't getting much while nursing and had an extreme weight loss landing us in pediatrics for a few days, also bad jaundice) anyway, I will never forget that conversation I overheard.
So not everyone has to agree on co-sleeping. Do what is best for your family.
I've worked as an EMT for 9 years and 911 dispatcher for 8 years. I know the risk is real, just as real as a ton of other types of risks we take as parents. I also know the risk of something happening with them in their crib is just as real. Know your limits, if you take a sleep aide don't co sleep, if you sleep hard don't co sleep, if you move around a lot don't co sleep, if you took night time cold meds then don't co sleep!
DD is one week old today and refuses to sleep in the pack in play as I had planned. She gets swaddled and sleeps in 2-3 hour intervals in RNP. I put her in her crib during the day for naps but she doesn't have it. Hoping this changes when she gets a little older! She also is still awake and cluster feeding during the night and sleeping during the day. Mama is tired.
DS is now a month old. He slept in the rock n play for the first two weeks and then I transitioned him to naps in the cribs, but he still likes the RNP at night. Have you looked at a sleep wedge for the crib? Both of my boys have had to sleep with a slight incline due to reflux issues. We also swaddle when he's in the crib because the open space seems to bother him. I've found that double swaddling, a receiving blanket swaddled under a swaddle me, works great for naps in the crib.
I will have to google a sleep wedge. Good idea, thank you!
My brother used a three ring binder just fine apparently.
DD is one week old today and refuses to sleep in the pack in play as I had planned. She gets swaddled and sleeps in 2-3 hour intervals in RNP. I put her in her crib during the day for naps but she doesn't have it. Hoping this changes when she gets a little older! She also is still awake and cluster feeding during the night and sleeping during the day. Mama is tired.
DS is now a month old. He slept in the rock n play for the first two weeks and then I transitioned him to naps in the cribs, but he still likes the RNP at night. Have you looked at a sleep wedge for the crib? Both of my boys have had to sleep with a slight incline due to reflux issues. We also swaddle when he's in the crib because the open space seems to bother him. I've found that double swaddling, a receiving blanket swaddled under a swaddle me, works great for naps in the crib.
I will have to google a sleep wedge. Good idea, thank you!
My brother used a three ring binder just fine apparently.
LO (1 week old) sleeps great in her swing during the day. At night she won't sleep anywhere except my arms or on my breasts while feeding. I'm personally not comfortable co-sleeping when they are this little so sleep isn't happening much.
I nap with my 2 year old in the afternoon while either my mil, my mom, or dh watches the baby. I'm officially so exhausted my body is reacting like I have a fever (I don't, been watching it closely tho).
I think we have all heard about whats safe and whats not. It seems swaddling is the newest thing. My hospital says no blankets even for swaddling. They sent us home with a halo sleep sack with the built in velcro swaddler. I read about co sleeping on kelly.com great article on guidelines for making it safer and a great site for BF advice. I think it is pretty agreed that it increases risk but some people are willing to take that risk. We have LO in a cradle that my dad made in our room. She is 5wks and i cant imagine having her down the hall.
The first 4 days home we tried to put LO in a Moses basket next to our bed, but he would only sleep whilst being held and we were at the end of out tether! We ended up going to Argos and buying the chicco next2me crib Which has been a lifesaver! He's so happy right next to mamma and I can see him all night
I think we have all heard about whats safe and whats not. It seems swaddling is the newest thing. My hospital says no blankets even for swaddling. They sent us home with a halo sleep sack with the built in velcro swaddler. I read about co sleeping on kelly.com great article on guidelines for making it safer and a great site for BF advice. I think it is pretty agreed that it increases risk but some people are willing to take that risk. We have LO in a cradle that my dad made in our room. She is 5wks and i cant imagine having her down the hall.
That so interesting, our hospital taught us how to swaddle.
Those bedside sleepers seem like amazing options... I'm personally not comfortable with cosleeping so young, but the bedsides seem like a great compromise. I have a cradle and a rock and play (which I don't plan on using for overnight sleep, but so many people seem totally for them..) But might see if I can score one off Craigslist.
Does it makes bf in middle of the night more convenient?
Those bedside sleepers seem like amazing options... I'm personally not comfortable with cosleeping so young, but the bedsides seem like a great compromise. I have a cradle and a rock and play (which I don't plan on using for overnight sleep, but so many people seem totally for them..) But might see if I can score one off Craigslist.
Does it makes bf in middle of the night more convenient?
Yes (at least for me). Way more convenient. Sometimes my daughter will lay in the co-sleeper and when she cries I barely have to move to get her and nurse her. She doesn't sleep in it all the time, but eventually she'll use it more. It's convenient during the day too. I can lay her in it while I shower if she's asleep.
Last night was the first night we put Cora in her crib in her own room and it was also the first night we all got sleep! I guess she wasn't liking the bassinet in our room. Last night she would breastfeed and sleep 2.5 to 3 hours from the end of the feed to the start of the next, instead of the 20 minutes we had been getting through the night when she was in our room. Both DH and I are feeling more human today and our 2 year old is happy we have more energy to play with her! Fingers crossed this continues!
LO won't sleep in his bassinet for more than an hour. The bassinet is in our room, next to the bed. He only sleeps for good stretches when he is on our chests. Any suggestions for getting him to sleep in the bassinet? Momma needs some sleep!
LO won't sleep in his bassinet for more than an hour. The bassinet is in our room, next to the bed. He only sleeps for good stretches when he is on our chests. Any suggestions for getting him to sleep in the bassinet? Momma needs some sleep!
I'm in the same boat and starting to think this is just going to be the way it is for now. We've tried swaddling and then waiting till he's in a deep sleep to put him down. We've tried a bouncy seat and swing. We've tried putting some kind of clothing item of mine by him so he still smells me. And the longest stretch has been an hour in the swing one time. Whereas I've gotten up to 4 hours when he's being held. LO just needs to be held right now - he was all warm and comfy on the inside... This outside world is a scary place if momma isn't holding him.
That being said - if someone has another idea I can try, I'm all for it!
@rachswi and @TallyKyle you guys can try the sleep pillow app, it was a lot of trial and error but it appears as though dryer noises keep DD asleep. We have both the baby pillow and regular but like regular more because you can layer noises.
LO won't sleep in his bassinet for more than an hour. The bassinet is in our room, next to the bed. He only sleeps for good stretches when he is on our chests. Any suggestions for getting him to sleep in the bassinet? Momma needs some sleep!
I'm in the same boat and starting to think this is just going to be the way it is for now. We've tried swaddling and then waiting till he's in a deep sleep to put him down. We've tried a bouncy seat and swing. We've tried putting some kind of clothing item of mine by him so he still smells me. And the longest stretch has been an hour in the swing one time. Whereas I've gotten up to 4 hours when he's being held. LO just needs to be held right now - he was all warm and comfy on the inside... This outside world is a scary place if momma isn't holding him.
That being said - if someone has another idea I can try, I'm all for it!
That is my situation too. We keep trying the co-sleeper thing, but she wants to be held. That's ok with me. It will be nice when I can put her in it for longer, but that time will come some day. For now I'll take the cuddles.
Zeke slept for about 5 hours this last night!! I had to hold him the whole time but I honestly think I'm more excited about the amount of sleep he got than how he got it. He really is a great sleeper. Just only when someone holds him.
I'm thinking he liked being reeaaaallly warm when he sleeps since he sleeps on me in a fleece sleeper and I have a fleece blanket wrapped around the both of us. Maybe if I can figure out a way to keep his bed that warm we'd have more luck. I'm afraid to use a bunch of blankets though (and I don't think I really want to use super fluffy blankets either)... Tips on what I can do?
Zeke slept for about 5 hours this last night!! I had to hold him the whole time but I honestly think I'm more excited about the amount of sleep he got than how he got it. He really is a great sleeper. Just only when someone holds him.
I'm thinking he liked being reeaaaallly warm when he sleeps since he sleeps on me in a fleece sleeper and I have a fleece blanket wrapped around the both of us. Maybe if I can figure out a way to keep his bed that warm we'd have more luck. I'm afraid to use a bunch of blankets though (and I don't think I really want to use super fluffy blankets either)... Tips on what I can do?
You can lay a hot water bottle down to warm up the mattress. Just be aware of his body temperature, because too much heat has been linked to sids.
Zeke slept for about 5 hours this last night!! I had to hold him the whole time but I honestly think I'm more excited about the amount of sleep he got than how he got it. He really is a great sleeper. Just only when someone holds him.
I'm thinking he liked being reeaaaallly warm when he sleeps since he sleeps on me in a fleece sleeper and I have a fleece blanket wrapped around the both of us. Maybe if I can figure out a way to keep his bed that warm we'd have more luck. I'm afraid to use a bunch of blankets though (and I don't think I really want to use super fluffy blankets either)... Tips on what I can do?
Could you try putting a heating pad down in bis crib before he goes to sleep? I wouldn't leave it there but maybe having the sheets be nice and warm would help relax him and get him to stay there. You could also try and arms reach cosleeper where you could have your hand on him so he feels you near. Might be a way to try to transition.
Zeke slept for about 5 hours this last night!! I had to hold him the whole time but I honestly think I'm more excited about the amount of sleep he got than how he got it. He really is a great sleeper. Just only when someone holds him.
I'm thinking he liked being reeaaaallly warm when he sleeps since he sleeps on me in a fleece sleeper and I have a fleece blanket wrapped around the both of us. Maybe if I can figure out a way to keep his bed that warm we'd have more luck. I'm afraid to use a bunch of blankets though (and I don't think I really want to use super fluffy blankets either)... Tips on what I can do?
You can lay a hot water bottle down to warm up the mattress. Just be aware of his body temperature, because too much heat has been linked to sids.
Thanks I didn't know that. He doesn't ever seem like he's " overheating" since the back of his neck and his forehead are never hot but I will definitely keep an eye on that. And I'll try heating the mattress.
Cooper slept just over 4 hours in his bassinet last night! He has been with me the rest of the evening but it was nice to get a solid 4 hours. He's actually slept for 3-4 hour stretches tonight but I don't sleep as well when he's in my bed of course. Lol
I'm probably going to end up eating crow and pissing off my SO here shortly. Jake seems to only want to sleep on me and I can't take much more of this sleeping in a recliner thing. I may end up looking up ways to (safely) co-sleep. I miss my bed. Or moving his swing in the room, I don't know.
I'm sure there's a question in there somewhere I'm just too tired to think of it.
I'm probably going to end up eating crow and pissing off my SO here shortly. Jake seems to only want to sleep on me and I can't take much more of this sleeping in a recliner thing. I may end up looking up ways to (safely) co-sleep. I miss my bed. Or moving his swing in the room, I don't know.
I'm sure there's a question in there somewhere I'm just too tired to think of it.
I am way less tired bed sharing than I am when I sleep in the recliner. I missed my bed too. This was some of the info I read to feel better about our decision to bed-share. We also have a co-sleeper (bassinet) that we have for her as well. Though she barely uses it at the moment.
I'm probably going to end up eating crow and pissing off my SO here shortly. Jake seems to only want to sleep on me and I can't take much more of this sleeping in a recliner thing. I may end up looking up ways to (safely) co-sleep. I miss my bed. Or moving his swing in the room, I don't know.
I'm sure there's a question in there somewhere I'm just too tired to think of it.
I, too, get to make my bed in the recliner. DH and I have tried everything to get him to sleep without being held with no luck. He just sleeps better when he knows I have him (like 1 hour in a bouncer/swing and 5 hours while held). I miss the real bed so much but I want to try to stick it out. Eventually he'll be able to sleep on his own... I'm afraid if I start cosleeping I'll never get my bed back
In the rock n play right next to my side of the bed. I have the automatic rocker one upstairs so its nice because it'll rock all night if I want it to. We will probably transition him to his crib in his own room around February.
Once we left the hospital Hudson refused to sleep anywhere but his Daddy or my arms, which was disappointing, especially since someone very generously bought us a bassinest. Upon other recommendations, we bought a rock n play yesterday. Hudson slept for 6 hours in it last night. When he finally woke up this morning, my husband proclaimed me a genius!
2nd kid and we have been using the rock n play (bassinet worked for like the first week). It worked well for the first and DS sleeps for 5 hour stretches throughout the night- he's 3 weeks old. We also use the "love 2 swaddle" that keeps his arms up by his face. Sometimes he will stir but usually only wants his pacifier (he's EBF). The slight incline seems to do the trick, coupled with some white noise. I nurse in the side lying position in the middle of the night and he always falls asleep side sleeping... I bet this kiddo will be a side/tummy sleeper in a few months.
We transitioned my first to the crib around 4 mos- she had bad reflux and kind of struggled at first but ended up growing out of that and now she's the best sleeper... Esp when she was able to roll from front to back since she's a tummy sleeper!
I remember being so scared to use the rock n play with DD1 but was honest with the pediatrician about how she slept, no callouts. They even recommended letting her sleep in the car seat (no thanks). The second time around in less worried.
We spent a fortune on the uppababy vista bassinet and halo bassinest. He refuses to sleep longer than an hour in either! We went out and bought a snuggle surround nest co sleeper to put in between us in our king size bed and he loves it. He sleeps 3 hour stretches now! It's a shame we spent so much money but oh well, you live and you learn.
Both of my kids hate the pack n play to sleep. My son went in his crib at 4 weeks. We put my daughter in the crib after she reached her birth weight and I didn't have to set an alarm to wake and feed her. She is 4 weeks tom and sleeps 4-5 hour stretches. I have a video monitor and her room is right across the hall but we all sleep better this way.
Pack and play in the living room, I sleep on the couch when she naps. I get about 2- two hour chunks a day, none at night since shes cluster feesing/comfort nursing all night anyway. My back is killing me.
Our 5th baby was born November 1 too. I sleep with her the exact same way. I have with all of them. I can't stand the thought of them not being right with me.
Ollie slept in his bassinet all night! He woke up to feed a couple of times, but would then go back in his bassinet and sleep for another few hours. He is two weeks old now and I am feeling very optimistic about the future!
We did crib from day one. We have an angel care monitor (breathing) and our room is across the hall. It has been very successful, her sleeping strech has been growing. Week 3 and she normally has 4-5 hour streches. We have tried to keep a night time routine. Bedtime skin to skin feeding, low lights, white noise, swaddled and lay down in crib. The funny thing is now she prefers to be flat instead of an incline. She would rather lay on her play mat then be in her swing during the day.
Re: Where does your newborn sleep ?
When I was in pediatrics with my 3rd son who was diagnosed with failure to thrive we co slept on the pull out bed, I remember hearing the nurses come in and a student nurse said to the main nurse "shouldn't we wake her up? That can't be safe". The other nurse said "no, they're getting needed rest, we only worry about it more with premies" (my son was 12ish days old and was full term, we hadn't noticed he wasn't getting much while nursing and had an extreme weight loss landing us in pediatrics for a few days, also bad jaundice) anyway, I will never forget that conversation I overheard.
So not everyone has to agree on co-sleeping. Do what is best for your family.
I've worked as an EMT for 9 years and 911 dispatcher for 8 years. I know the risk is real, just as real as a ton of other types of risks we take as parents. I also know the risk of something happening with them in their crib is just as real. Know your limits, if you take a sleep aide don't co sleep, if you sleep hard don't co sleep, if you move around a lot don't co sleep, if you took night time cold meds then don't co sleep!
LO (1 week old) sleeps great in her swing during the day. At night she won't sleep anywhere except my arms or on my breasts while feeding. I'm personally not comfortable co-sleeping when they are this little so sleep isn't happening much.
I nap with my 2 year old in the afternoon while either my mil, my mom, or dh watches the baby. I'm officially so exhausted my body is reacting like I have a fever (I don't, been watching it closely tho).
Does it makes bf in middle of the night more convenient?
That being said - if someone has another idea I can try, I'm all for it!
I'm thinking he liked being reeaaaallly warm when he sleeps since he sleeps on me in a fleece sleeper and I have a fleece blanket wrapped around the both of us. Maybe if I can figure out a way to keep his bed that warm we'd have more luck. I'm afraid to use a bunch of blankets though (and I don't think I really want to use super fluffy blankets either)... Tips on what I can do?
You could also try and arms reach cosleeper where you could have your hand on him so he feels you near. Might be a way to try to transition.
I'm sure there's a question in there somewhere I'm just too tired to think of it.
https://kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/cosleeping/
We transitioned my first to the crib around 4 mos- she had bad reflux and kind of struggled at first but ended up growing out of that and now she's the best sleeper... Esp when she was able to roll from front to back since she's a tummy sleeper!
I remember being so scared to use the rock n play with DD1 but was honest with the pediatrician about how she slept, no callouts. They even recommended letting her sleep in the car seat (no thanks). The second time around in less worried.
The funny thing is now she prefers to be flat instead of an incline. She would rather lay on her play mat then be in her swing during the day.