not trying to be a problem just was sharing my opinion... But when I do that in a non attack but just said felt something was needed I am told I have done poorly...
not trying to be a problem just was sharing my opinion... But when I do that in a non attack but just said felt something was needed I am told I have done poorly...
Wut?
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
not trying to be a problem just was sharing my opinion... But when I do that in a non attack but just said felt something was needed I am told I have done poorly...
It's called pot stirring.
Which means....
This gif!
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
Alright, I am genuinely not trying to get on anyone's bad side just sharing my opinion just as others have. Not claiming I'm good at it since I'm very new to this whole board thing and also to pregnancy hormones are all screwy and I'm honestly feeling way more B like then ever which is not my true personality. Again hope you can have some grace instead of just telling me to lurk
Alright, I am genuinely not trying to get on anyone's bad side just sharing my opinion just as others have. Not claiming I'm good at it since I'm very new to this whole board thing and also to pregnancy hormones are all screwy and I'm honestly feeling way more B like then ever which is not my true personality. Again hope you can have some grace instead of just telling me to lurk
Why are you offended at being told to lurk? You just admitted to not knowing much about how the board works. So, wouldn't lurking be a good idea then? How is this ungrateful of me? Stop with the passive aggressive tone. you can't stir shit and then play the victim here. Clearly, it's not working out to well for you.
@fairestblair I did apologize but I guess you missed that post. The added insults at the end of your posts were quite unnecessary.
*edited after early post by accident
First thank you to everyone who pointed out what was being said. Secondly, when I said I didn't see the post in which you got flamed I meant just that and was trying to point out that most users get flamed at some point and guess what? They learn, move on and even laugh about it later. I don't see how what I said was even the tiniest bit insulting. Seriously though, just keep on keepin on....
So I follow two different sites to give myself options when I feel like lurking on a birth board. This one has very strict 'rules' and a 'snarky' (mean) community. But that helps it run better in my opinion. The information you find here is higher quality and they tend to run off the people who are 'lyk OmG totes wondering if I'm prego cuz my BF doesn't lyk condomz.'
The other site does not have such guidelines and the pages pass by in minutes full of reposts of the same thing over and over and over. Twenty five different pee stick posts in an hour. So yeah, the snark can be annoying and a little overboard, but in the end the result is worth it. (Also, I'm a rainbow and unicorn farts kind of girl. Not ashamed.)
@didi0308 Genuinely not trying to be passive aggressive but I can definitely see how my posts could be interpreted that way.I don't know how to use GiFs to get my tone across which is way less serious and mean than may have been communicated. I guess I thought being told to lurk meant to go away and not post. I might be wrong about that and please do correct me because I do want to understand. It is hard when there are terms I am probably not fully understanding and making assumptions instead of simply asking. I will try and do better at asking instead of assuming of the worst. @fairestblair you are right I should have just let it go and moved on I'm sorry. And I do thank you for your support of me. I did bite the hand that fed me there so to speak so for that I apologize.
Would anyone of you more experienced bumpies be willing to help me with term questions that weren't in the glossary and teach me how to post GiFs? I understand as well if not and I will work hard to show you all I'm not a b or a pot stirrer at least not one on purpose.
Oh and my FFFC... I get judgey on the inside when I hear people talking about planning children with their boyfriends. Not even fiancée... If you're not ready to commit to marriage (a breakable contract,) how are you ready for kids with the same person, a lifetime unbreakable commitment? Planning to have a kid on your own is normal to me, but planning to have one with someone you aren't planning to marry just seems odd to me.
I realize the word is changing and this is an unpopular opinion these days, but this is the one way that I am just unbreakably conservative. *shrug* sorry.
Did I miss something Lindsayleigh1989? You got 14 different responses w/ incredibly supportive and kind words of advice on your thread? I'm not understanding the problem?
@Lindsayleigh1989 are you on the mobile app? If so the search feature is located at the very bottom of the page, past all the posts. If you type Gif of glossary of terms into it everything should pop up. Otherwise it's located at the side of your screen. That maybe the easiest way to tell you what you are looking for. I know I had to search for it when I first started bumping.
I want to throat punch the people that make their own intro threads!!! USE THE ONE AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE!!! It's not even an issue with 'hahaha, sorry i forgot to search' it's more of an 'oh i'm a snowflake unicorn and i need my own thread about myself' AUGH!!
ugh, pregnancy makes me ragey.
Or maybe they're just super excited and post without really looking around?
I never post anything like 'hey use the one at the top of the page' i just let it all stay inside. I'm happy that they're excited and we're all excited! I just wish we could all keep it together in one place like we're supposed to with symptoms and things. What I really dont like is when the titles are basically 'click bait' looking for responses. I know it's an irrational frustration so i would only ever say it here on the FFFC.
To me it is disrespectful. Excited/scared or not, if you do not have the 2 seconds it takes to scroll through the first page, then why should I spend several moments of my times reading your post and responding. Especially when I get a well thought out answer to the PP.
BTW, I wanted to add. It is not the intro that annoys me, but the 2, 3, 4 ,5 6, posts on the same subject. Like 3 posts on M/S, or a few on cramping. That is what I am referring to. I could care less about how some one intros themself.
I want to throat punch the people that make their own intro threads!!! USE THE ONE AT THE TOP OF THE PAGE!!! It's not even an issue with 'hahaha, sorry i forgot to search' it's more of an 'oh i'm a snowflake unicorn and i need my own thread about myself' AUGH!!
ugh, pregnancy makes me ragey.
Or maybe they're just super excited and post without really looking around?
I never post anything like 'hey use the one at the top of the page' i just let it all stay inside. I'm happy that they're excited and we're all excited! I just wish we could all keep it together in one place like we're supposed to with symptoms and things. What I really dont like is when the titles are basically 'click bait' looking for responses. I know it's an irrational frustration so i would only ever say it here on the FFFC.
To me it is disrespectful. Excited/scared or not, if you do not have the 2 seconds it takes to scroll through the first page, then why should I spend several moments of my times reading your post and responding. Especially when I get a well thought out answer to the PP.
BTW, I wanted to add. It is not the intro that annoys me, but the 2, 3, 4 ,5 6, posts on the same subject. Like 3 posts on M/S, or a few on cramping. That is what I am referring to. I could care less about how some one intros themself.
I like the idea of a bit more organization, to be honest. I'm new to TB but not new to snarky forums, so the tone doesn't bother me. I'd like to see structure and be a part of a helpful community.
ETA: As for a FFFC, I made myself a huge cheese plate (with some high quality cured salami) last night and watched Netflix. I know it puts me at risk for listeria, but it was all I wanted at the grocery store. Fingers crossed today isn't the day I get listeria for the first time.
So many of you seem like a mean girl clique because some of us didn't join your ttgp group and don't know all your rules and stuff. I just wanted a place where as a FTM I could come and share not be judged because I didn't do it in the right spot or because I'm anxious about cramping and spotting I didn't search for the perfect thread and post there. Sheesh it's hard enough to learn all the stupid acronyms let alone remember them. Then to try and reach for support only to see that if i make one little mistake I will get flamed for it... Where is the sense of community when you become to scared to post because the queen bees might come to sting. Seriously disappointed in this group I wanted so much more community and support I need it since I don't have much of one personally.
As a newcomer, I have to agree with some of this. This board is only a few weeks old and some of us are just learning the ropes.
I dealt with my infertility elsewhere and I want to be able to enjoy FINALLY being pregnant- and frankly all this bullshit is harshing my pregnancy buzz.
And it might not be flaming but it seems like the same people are just trolling around waiting to jump out of the bushes and correct you. I'm probably going to get voted off the island for going against the seemingly powerful people here but frankly I don't put up with feeling like this in the real world and refuse to on a pregnancy board.
I want to talk babies and bask in the freaking miracle taking place inside me and in all of you regardless of where and how you express yourself. I've been a good citizen and have avoided the wrath until now but I don't like seeing other people put on the ropes.
Lindsayleigh1989@natinat6 I remember feeling the same way when I got to the TTGP board and everyone kept telling those posters "stick around, you'll see it's not so bad" and "these posts just get kind of annoying, you'll see" and I kept thinking that was no excuse to be what I thought was rude. That said, I don't think anyone was intentionally trying to be rude about saying to not make a separate post. You didn't know, and now you do. I also can tell you the "TTGP boot camp" thing was a joke. And, believe it or not, there will come a time when someone will post something, and you will suddenly be anxious to post a rolling eyes gif
So, stick around; you'll see it's not so bad. These posts just get kind of annoying. You'll see.
Not saying OP's mother is toxic, obviously I don't know one way or another, but clearly there is a history of behaviour that's leading to her having these feelings towards her mother.
I suppose this could be one sided because I'm lucky and have the most wonderful, loving family that I'd do anything for that would do anything for me.
Yeah, do remember this. I can relate to @MrsBininPA (might've screwed that up). My family is cray and I fully admit to having some unkind thoughts toward them sometimes. Especially mixed feelings when your parents didn't exactly abuse you, but you still don't have a great relationship for whatever reason and therefore you just feel like you're a bad person or something.
As for intros, when I joined there was no sticky and a lot of people were starting intro threads and it was kind of expected. I still didn't. I just jumped into a symptoms thread and sort of introduced myself here. Whole threads just strike me as being AWey. Not the end of the world if someone starts one, but I'm probably not gonna bother reading it.
ALL THE GIFS
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
Its really too bad we can't just support each other. As women don't you think we get enough shit from other people? I'm down with snark, I'm a total bitch usually, but ffs. The world has enough stupid shit going on to be so damn petty in a pregnancy forum.
Its really too bad we can't just support each other. As women don't you think we get enough shit from other people? I'm down with snark, I'm a total bitch usually, but ffs. The world has enough stupid shit going on to be so damn petty in a pregnancy forum.
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
I like to think of support as tough love when appropriate. Sure there are times for rainbows and lollipops, but sometimes, a reality check is more helpful. People need both, and they get both here. That's just me though.
Its really too bad we can't just support each other. As women don't you think we get enough shit from other people? I'm down with snark, I'm a total bitch usually, but ffs. The world has enough stupid shit going on to be so damn petty in a pregnancy forum.
@FiancB this article just what I've been sensing about "mommy wars" but couldn't quite articulate. Thank you for sharing. I think more women (including me) need to see this and realize it's ok to own your opinions. And opposing opinions are not a judgement, but simply a differing viewpoint worthy discussion.
I like the idea of a bit more organization, to be honest. I'm new to TB but not new to snarky forums, so the tone doesn't bother me. I'd like to see structure and be a part of a helpful community.
ETA: As for a FFFC, I made myself a huge cheese plate (with some high quality cured salami) last night and watched Netflix. I know it puts me at risk for listeria, but it was all I wanted at the grocery store. Fingers crossed today isn't the day I get listeria for the first time.
I'm eating all the lunch meat still and not microwaving it. I get boars Head brand and never once had a problem. I also devoured a huge block of Brie cheese (it was pasteurized). I chickened out on getting Gorgonzola though.
The CDC states that pregnant women are 20 times more likely to become infected by listeria than non-pregnant healthy adults. Just because you ate it before and didn't have a problem, doesn't mean it won't cause one now. It's not worth it IMHO
By support I mean generally being kind to one another instead of being passive aggressive. That's just me though.
Lurker
You realize that last sentencewas super passive aggressive right?
Obviously it's okay for her to do it, duh.
This seems to be a frequent issue around here where people say "passive aggressive" when really they just mean "aggressive". AKA blunt. AKA the opposite of passive aggressive.
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
The CDC states that pregnant women are 20 times more likely to become infected by listeria than non-pregnant healthy adults. Just because you ate it before and didn't have a problem, doesn't mean it won't cause one now. It's not worth it IMHO
Every hospital that I have worked for has sacked lunches for patients, including OB. None of them are heated. All of them are different lunch meats.
According to the CDC, the last several years, outbreaks are from Soft cheese (2015), Blue Bell ice cream (2015), prepackaged caramel apples (2014), sprouts (2014) cheese from Oasis brand (2014), dairy from Roos Dairy (2014), cheese from Crave brothers (2013), ricotta salary cheese from Marte (2012), whole cantaloupe (2011.
@didi0308 Genuinely not trying to be passive aggressive but I can definitely see how my posts could be interpreted that way.I don't know how to use GiFs to get my tone across which is way less serious and mean than may have been communicated. I guess I thought being told to lurk meant to go away and not post. I might be wrong about that and please do correct me because I do want to understand. It is hard when there are terms I am probably not fully understanding and making assumptions instead of simply asking. I will try and do better at asking instead of assuming of the worst. @fairestblair you are right I should have just let it go and moved on I'm sorry. And I do thank you for your support of me. I did bite the hand that fed me there so to speak so for that I apologize.
Would anyone of you more experienced bumpies be willing to help me with term questions that weren't in the glossary and teach me how to post GiFs? I understand as well if not and I will work hard to show you all I'm not a b or a pot stirrer at least not one on purpose.
If you use the search function, you can see that I posted a thread explaining in great detail had to gif.
My FFFC- After reading all of this thread, my eyes are rolling so hard that they are hitting the back of my head.
Re: FFFC
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
This gif!
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Secondly, when I said I didn't see the post in which you got flamed I meant just that and was trying to point out that most users get flamed at some point and guess what?
They learn, move on and even laugh about it later.
I don't see how what I said was even the tiniest bit insulting.
Seriously though, just keep on keepin on....
The other site does not have such guidelines and the pages pass by in minutes full of reposts of the same thing over and over and over. Twenty five different pee stick posts in an hour. So yeah, the snark can be annoying and a little overboard, but in the end the result is worth it. (Also, I'm a rainbow and unicorn farts kind of girl. Not ashamed.)
Would anyone of you more experienced bumpies be willing to help me with term questions that weren't in the glossary and teach me how to post GiFs? I understand as well if not and I will work hard to show you all I'm not a b or a pot stirrer at least not one on purpose.
I realize the word is changing and this is an unpopular opinion these days, but this is the one way that I am just unbreakably conservative. *shrug* sorry.
Married: May 16th 2015
To me it is disrespectful. Excited/scared or not, if you do not have the 2 seconds it takes to scroll through the first page, then why should I spend several moments of my times reading your post and responding. Especially when I get a well thought out answer to the PP.
BTW, I wanted to add. It is not the intro that annoys me, but the 2, 3, 4 ,5 6, posts on the same subject. Like 3 posts on M/S, or a few on cramping. That is what I am referring to. I could care less about how some one intros themself.
This is completely, completely fair.
Married: October 23, 2010
DS: 8/7/2013
#2 EDD: 6/29/2016, C Section: 6/22/2016
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
You realize that last sentencewas super passive aggressive right?
@FiancB this article just what I've been sensing about "mommy wars" but couldn't quite articulate. Thank you for sharing. I think more women (including me) need to see this and realize it's ok to own your opinions. And opposing opinions are not a judgement, but simply a differing viewpoint worthy discussion.
Edit: remove extra words
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
According to the CDC, the last several years, outbreaks are from Soft cheese (2015), Blue Bell ice cream (2015), prepackaged caramel apples (2014), sprouts (2014) cheese from Oasis brand (2014), dairy from Roos Dairy (2014), cheese from Crave brothers (2013), ricotta salary cheese from Marte (2012), whole cantaloupe (2011.
No where in their list is meats.
My other dog is like ehh and will still lick but luckily she's not OCD like the paw raw one
My FFFC- After reading all of this thread, my eyes are rolling so hard that they are hitting the back of my head.
* edited for pathetic gif size