I am so sick of seeing people spew hate over the weekend towards Muslims in general that I actually deleted several people off of FB. Then DH started in with a lot of the same propoganda and I just lost it. If you are going to get on your soap box at least get your facts straight. DH is great for not being informed and then just running with whatever articles he reads on FB or he hears from FIL that are very right wing and sometimes so obserd that I just laugh at how wrapped up they get. But it still pissed me off.
Just the fact that it's Monday makes me want to bitch. I really want to stay home after this little one is born for a year. I already feel like other people spend more time with DD than I do and I'm getting pretty sad thinking about DS (son? Crazy) being with other people all day too. I tried talking to DH about it last night and he just shot it right down. I'm a teacher so my paycheck leaves a lot to be desired, but we use it to pay our extras- DDs gymnastics, daycare, our crazy satellite dish package with all of the sports, etc. I guess this is more of a whine, but I'm just rage-y about how dismissive of the idea DH was. Just a straight up no.
All parent teacher conferences this year are being scheduled online through an app for our district. I am so sick and tired of parents emailing ME about setting up a conference. I can't do it, you need to get on the app and do it yourself. It is my job to show up. It is your job to schedule it. If you don't schedule it and you show up? Sorry, you didn't follow the rules. So sue me, I'm a rule follower and anyone who doesn't follow suit pisses me off to no end.
My asshole cat peed in a basket of clean, folded laundry last night. Her giant covered litterbox was FINE, but it was in the utility room, the room where she'd been antagonizing the (kenneled) dog all evening. He finally jumped up and barked at her and scared her, so later when she felt the urge to pee, she decided the laundry basket in my bedroom was a close enough approximation. Thankfully (?!), I caught her in the act, UGH. We banished her and her litter box into the garage for the night, and this morning she's out there crying like she's the victim.
WHY MONDAY? Why must you come so soon when there is a sweet little DS snuggled up next to me clinging my arm & snoozing in my ear? I don't wanna adult today!
I have always loved using google maps and it usually brings me everywhere but today it failed me completely when I was trying to find the hospital where I was supposed to get my ultrasound. I decided to arrive 30 min before the appointment in case I get lost, but oh no. I ended up running around this gigantic hospital area that felt like a labyrinth and I could not see anyone I could ask for directions. It was pouring down and I had not dressed accordingly to the weather. I was soaking wet and on the verge of a breakdown, and I had lots of RLP. I finally found it 5 min before the appointment and was met with a very pitiful look by the receptionist when I arrived dripping wet. F*** you Monday!
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I can relate to this. DH has a low libido and most of the time it's me initiating sex. It can be very frustrating -_-
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
Girl, I know that pain. Normally I can't keep DH off of me, and he's one of those that try the whole "poke her with it until she wakes up" people, but the only time we have sex now is if I cry and tell him how terrible it makes me feel that he doesn't want me. After our m/c, he is terrified of anything that may hurt baby, despite my many reminders that sex is actually good for LO and mom!
We brought our Doberman PUPPY to the dog park yesterday and because he's a Doberman he must be mean. Seriously people he's 8 weeks old. I promise he won't hurt your 60 pound dog. Even when he's older, being that I know how he will be trained he still wouldn't hurt a fly. Stop thinking because the breed is known to be aggressive that all of them are. It's all in how they're trained.
My asshole cat peed in a basket of clean, folded laundry last night. Her giant covered litterbox was FINE, but it was in the utility room, the room where she'd been antagonizing the (kenneled) dog all evening. He finally jumped up and barked at her and scared her, so later when she felt the urge to pee, she decided the laundry basket in my bedroom was a close enough approximation. Thankfully (?!), I caught her in the act, UGH. We banished her and her litter box into the garage for the night, and this morning she's out there crying like she's the victim.
I can't have a cat because DH has severe allergies to them but growing up I had a cat named peaches for 14 years. She was an asshat and would pee on my precious bean bag chair ( that I begged to get for 2 years) and would look at me while she did it for no reason. I had to throw it away and I'm still bitter.
Cats are awesome besides their manners and I was crazy sad when DH had to put her down for my mom a few years ago.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I can relate to this. DH has a low libido and most of the time it's me initiating sex. It can be very frustrating -_-
+1. My ex was the "maybe if I poke her with it" kind... I spent almost 18 years pretending to sleep through that shit. I seriously thought I didn't enjoy sex. Now I'm married to a wonderful man I want ALL THE TIME, and he really isn't an instigator at all (unless he's had a few beers, anyway). He doesn't make me feel like he's not into it once we start, but it's hard not to think that he if he really is attracted to me, he'd be the one to get it started once in a while.
WTF is going on with The Packers. They can't seem to get their heads out of their asses. I still love my team but dangit all! >:(
Also, WTF to my shirt. It's been a stain magnet this morning. My breakfast, my drink, everything just messed it up all before lunch.
DH ruined my weekend and we got into a huge argument over something I said that confused him and he wouldn't leave it alone, even after I tried walking away. My weekend was the shittiest weekend ever and it went by so slowwwwww.
My sister and her boyfriend are in an on and off relationship. Their facebook statuses has been a swinging door of in a relationship to single for the last 4-5 months. Last night must have been the done deal because they both put up a status saying they're single and her boyfriend unfriended our entire family (which he never did before). My sister said she doesn't know why he took off the night before and why he texted the next day saying it's over. She was given no explanation.
Seriously, was there a full moon out? I know Friday the 13th happened but this whole weekend was shit.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I've been feeling like this and was actually going to write this as my BFM. Kinda bummed and self esteem as a pregnant woman is really down the drain. Even though I try to explain it to him, it's like he doesn't understand. I'm bummed. But I'm glad someone else out there feels my pain. It's been over 2 weeks and I'm tired of complaining.
I JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX, DAMNIT.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I can totally relate. I don't know what happened this time around but it feels like I've been cut off.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I can relate to this. DH has a low libido and most of the time it's me initiating sex. It can be very frustrating -_-
+1. My ex was the "maybe if I poke her with it" kind... I spent almost 18 years pretending to sleep through that shit. I seriously thought I didn't enjoy sex. Now I'm married to a wonderful man I want ALL THE TIME, and he really isn't an instigator at all (unless he's had a few beers, anyway). He doesn't make me feel like he's not into it once we start, but it's hard not to think that he if he really is attracted to me, he'd be the one to get it started once in a while.
My ex was the same too. DH tries to explain that it has nothing to do with his attraction or love to me when he doesn't initiate it. He's a very closed person and he'd much rather just cuddle and talk which is nice, but when I want it you better give it to me lol. But then again, I also dated an asexual once. Now THAT was a challenge :P
My asshole cat peed in a basket of clean, folded laundry last night. Her giant covered litterbox was FINE, but it was in the utility room, the room where she'd been antagonizing the (kenneled) dog all evening. He finally jumped up and barked at her and scared her, so later when she felt the urge to pee, she decided the laundry basket in my bedroom was a close enough approximation. Thankfully (?!), I caught her in the act, UGH. We banished her and her litter box into the garage for the night, and this morning she's out there crying like she's the victim.
I can't have a cat because DH has severe allergies to them but growing up I had a cat named peaches for 14 years. She was an asshat and would pee on my precious bean bag chair ( that I begged to get for 2 years) and would look at me while she did it for no reason. I had to throw it away and I'm still bitter.
Cats are awesome besides their manners and I was crazy sad when DH had to put her down for my mom a few years ago.
I usually love cats, even though I'm allergic, and I've had tons of cats over the years. Our last house cat we had about 11 years, til she got out one night and didn't return. But this *particular* cat we have now... We really don't enjoy this cat. I've been hoping she'd calm down and settle in after she was fixed this summer... No, not so much.
cjbwifey2010 said:
I JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX, DAMNIT.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I've been feeling like this and was actually going to write this as my BFM. Kinda bummed and self esteem as a pregnant woman is really down the drain. Even though I try to explain it to him, it's like he doesn't understand. I'm bummed. But I'm glad someone else out there feels my pain. It's been over 2 weeks and I'm tired of complaining.
I feel bad saying that I'm glad others are going through the same thing, but... I'm kind of glad I'm not the only one. There always seems to be a reason why he's not into it right now. He's miserable at work and not in the mood; well, I've disliked mine for years (and he's now switched jobs), and I'm still interested. He's just really tired; I spent my entire first trimester horizontal and I would still have gotten up for that. His energy level is just super low; but it's not too low for playing hockey three times a week and keeping up an active social life.
The worst part is it's really one of the only areas where open communication doesn't really help. I mean, sure, it makes things happen once or twice (which isn't nothing), but there's a big difference between doing your husbandly duty and being hot for your wife, and the more we have to talk about it the more it feels like the former all the time. I just want to be perved on. And for my husband to read my mind. And for my husband not to have to read my mind in the first place.
@elasticheart13 I agree, turning on an asexual is hard! Not to mention a serious confidence killer when he's your first serious boyfriend.
@BreannaaaMarieee I feel your pain. We have a pit bull who is mostly well trained. She just loves people so much if she's in the yard off leash she sometimes runs after people who walk by. She won't hurt you, but I understand it's scary seeing a pit bull come flying by. People are pretty good when they realize she just wants to be friendly.
I won't even discuss the Packers. I am playing in an office pool and tied for first right now. I am having an extreme internal struggle about picking them this week over the Vikings. I want to win my pool and would gladly take th point loss if it means the Packers actually got their act together, but I doubt it.
So, DH is a Cardinals fan. The game last night was a late one, so he was screaming (literally) at the TV from 6:20-10:40 or so. I could hear him upstairs, on the opposite side of the house, through a closed door. I went down at one point to eat dinner, and asked him to turn the TV down a bit because it was on full blast and I'd already had a headache for a few hours. He looked at me like I had 2 heads, but eventually turned it down a tiny bit while I was down there. So then I go back upstairs and watch netflix for a while, and eventually fall asleep a little after 9. Only to be reawakened by more screaming. Which continued until the end of the game. At which point he comes upstairs and falls asleep in about 2.4 seconds, then snores AND FARTS loud enough to keep me up most of the night. I tried to kick him out of bed but he wouldn't wake up enough to get out. Kept trying but mostly failing to fall back asleep. So needless to say, my head is not feeling any better and I'm extraordinarily cranky, even for a Monday. He did apologize this morning, but I'm still pretty irritated. Hopefully he finds a way to make it up to me tonight.
I JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX, DAMNIT.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I've been feeling like this and was actually going to write this as my BFM. Kinda bummed and self esteem as a pregnant woman is really down the drain. Even though I try to explain it to him, it's like he doesn't understand. I'm bummed. But I'm glad someone else out there feels my pain. It's been over 2 weeks and I'm tired of complaining.
I feel bad saying that I'm glad others are going through the same thing, but... I'm kind of glad I'm not the only one. There always seems to be a reason why he's not into it right now. He's miserable at work and not in the mood; well, I've disliked mine for years (and he's now switched jobs), and I'm still interested. He's just really tired; I spent my entire first trimester horizontal and I would still have gotten up for that. His energy level is just super low; but it's not too low for playing hockey three times a week and keeping up an active social life.
The worst part is it's really one of the only areas where open communication doesn't really help. I mean, sure, it makes things happen once or twice (which isn't nothing), but there's a big difference between doing your husbandly duty and being hot for your wife, and the more we have to talk about it the more it feels like the former all the time. I just want to be perved on. And for my husband to read my mind. And for my husband not to have to read my mind in the first place.
Trust me, i'm right there with you. I get it, he works late night shift, but dammit I take a nap before he gets home just to be able to spend some QT with him. Of course, i'm not saying that it needs to be every day, but on your days off, instead of staying up super late watching movies, or listening to music, your wife would like some good old loving. And yes, communication doesn't help. I mean who wants to feel like they have to ask their husband for sex? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Isn't that what normal marriages go through? Ugh...
Also, I'm so not mentally prepared to not get a full night's sleep again. I was up ONCE with a pained DD for like 10 minutes at 2 am last night and am counting down the minutes til nap time right now. Luckily (miraculously?) the kiddos are playing nicely together and "reading" so I can just veg on the couch.
I want my friggin bed built! We've been on a mattress on the floor (not even with a boxspring) since JUNE! I am 30 years old, I had my mattress on the floor days, and they are WAY behind me. DH-I love you dearly, greatly appreciate that you finally changed my oil after I was 5,000 miles overdue, but I feel like a friggin turtle on it's back trying to get out of bed every morning. We've made the plan, priced out the lumber and such....BUILD THE DAMN BED! Please and thank you!
Also, I'm so not mentally prepared to not get a full night's sleep again. I was up ONCE with a pained DD for like 10 minutes at 2 am last night and am counting down the minutes til nap time right now. Luckily (miraculously?) the kiddos are playing nicely together and "reading" so I can just veg on the couch.
DD is teething and has a sinus infection. Sooo much slime from everywhere. Luckily DH is taking care of her today. I've got her tomorrow though. I'm hoping the antibiotics start working fast
I want my friggin bed built! We've been on a mattress on the floor (not even with a boxspring) since JUNE! I am 30 years old, I had my mattress on the floor days, and they are WAY behind me. DH-I love you dearly, greatly appreciate that you finally changed my oil after I was 5,000 miles overdue, but I feel like a friggin turtle on it's back trying to get out of bed every morning. We've made the plan, priced out the lumber and such....BUILD THE DAMN BED! Please and thank you!
Haha, that is the story of my life atm. I just moved to a new apartment and I'm waiting for DH to come and help me, as I can't carry the bedframe on my own. I'm usually the one to build stuff, but he's much stronger :P
Okay this is probably going to be another quote fail for me but I had to say that this made be laugh, because YES!! I never ever thought I'd miss being groped, but in the words of Angelica from Rugrats, "what am I, chopped slivers?"
And while we're on the subject, since this IS a bitch fest-- my hubby does try to appease my ego now and then, but you know I'd be much more likely to believe he really means that wolf whistle if he'd do it on a day where I've gotten dressed and fixed up even just a little bit, instead of (oh, just as a random example) when I walk through a completely darkened room in my ratty pajamas. Sigh.
I am SO grateful to be married to the man I love, and beyond thrilled that I'm so attracted to him, but life is sooooo very ironic sometimes!
On the topic of teething...can I BFM about my DD's LACK of teeth? I mean, come on, she turns 2 in a month and is working on tooth number 8. EIGHT! What the heck is that?? She didn't get any teeth until she was 16 month old, and every tooth that comes in takes its dear sweet time. She has her two bottom teeth, ONE top tooth, ALL her two year molars (I mean come on, WTH?!) and the 8th tooth making its way is another bottom one. Is it too much to want my kid to be able to eat a friggin' apple?
I've got a feeling that I will have a few of these moments today. Probably due to the lack of sex.
Ok so....here goes my BFM. You come on a board, and talk about how you're this many weeks and haven't gained weight or gained any at all. Did you realize that you're on a pregnant women board? You know...where people gain weight at various speeds, and the ones that have already gained let's say...10-15 really don't want to hear you whining about the fact that you haven't gained ANY weight?! Is it just me? How many more posts of this can happen between now and April? It's like the skinny girl who can eat whatever she wants and doesnt work out talking to her overweight friend about how life is so hard. You, my dear friend, deserve a throat punch.
Not everyone is the same. You're not gaining weight? Is your doctor saying anything to you about it? No...then I suggest you STHU. You are fine. Baby is fine. EVERYBODY IS FINE!
On the topic of teething...can I BFM about my DD's LACK of teeth? I mean, come on, she turns 2 in a month and is working on tooth number 8. EIGHT! What the heck is that?? She didn't get any teeth until she was 16 month old, and every tooth that comes in takes its dear sweet time. She has her two bottom teeth, ONE top tooth, ALL her two year molars (I mean come on, WTH?!) and the 8th tooth making its way is another bottom one. Is it too much to want my kid to be able to eat a friggin' apple?
On the plus side, my different dentists all claim a direct correlation between late teething and lack of cavities for life. Anecdotally, my two kids who were later tethers both have zero cavities, whereas my other three all had serious decay problems.
My whine of the day is that it's my birthday, and dd3, who is FOUR and has been potty trained since her second birthday, peed in my brand new car this morning on the way to school drop off. And by brand new, I mean we bought it Saturday. I had plans this morning, but instead, I get to wash the car seat. It's the best. I'm much calmer about it than I was two hours ago, but still.
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
I must had this talk with my fiancé a few days ago. Granted we didn't go a month, it was more like five days, and I was ripping my hair out! I think the biggest lie women are ever told is that guys have a higher sex drive and that's all they ever want. Every guy I've dated has had a low sex drive, and I happen to have an incredibly high libido, it doesn't work very well together. First guy I lived with was addicted to porn, we lived together for over a year, and I thought there was something horribly wrong with me because I wanted to have sex and he didn't. Next guy I lived with had a lot of emotional issues, and was emotionally abusive with me. There was a point in our relationship where we confided he always felt he should have been born a girl and seeing me naked made him jealous so he hated having sex with me. For Valentine's day of that year we hadn't had sex in a few weeks, and I made him dinner, and whatnot, we were having a really good evening from what I remember, and I hesitantly asked him if we would be having sex that night. He basically said because I had the audacity to ask him, we wouldn't be. A few weeks later he decided I needed to prove I loved him by not having sex with him, or even asking if we could have sex for a month. I did it, we had sex once a month after that until I met my fiancé.
I have a lot of emotional scar tissue with this subject, and it's extremely hard for me to look at the situation as it comes up occasionally with my fiancé logically. (Like he works upwards of sixty hours a week, and usually only gets 1 day off a week) I spend a lot of time discussing what is going on emotionally with him and it does seem to help at least for a while. I think guys look at fights like they are temporary issues, and not an on going problem. Usually just reminding him helps, but sometimes I have to be on the verge of a breakdown to make any kind of difference with him. This past time when I talked to him he wasn't taking me seriously about anything and I ended up telling him that I've done this before with several people, and although I love you with every ounce of my being, if something doesn't change, I will not be here this time next year. He got mad and said if I feel that way then just go now. I went through the if I didn't think we were worth saving I wouldn't be trying to talk to you about this and trying to fix it. Anyway, we're good now.
I'm not even 17 weeks and two people have asked me why I'm so small. Do you not remember the healthy child I somehow his last time that I managed to birth and give life to? One of my close friends (single, no kids) texted me over the weekend after I ran into a mutual friend at the farmers market who doesn't even know im pregant: "I heard you're really skinny, shouldn't you be gaining weight". I know she didn't mean anything by it at all, but maybe I'm traumatized from my last pregnancy. We haven't announced on fb but are telling people and every single person who has found out makes a comment. I get it, it's a natural reaction: you expect a pregnant woman to look pregnant, and so they think they're complimenting me. I shouldn't even be mad I should be flattered. I just know it's gonna get old fast. Maybe I'll pop out of nowhere and show more than last time, so fx for that. End rant.
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
My BFM is to myself. I dreamt Ch.ris Hems.worth was giving me a haircut and was super handsome and flirty with me. I felt the need to tell him I have a husband, and that we would just be friends. WTF is wrong with me?????
(happily happily married btw, but it was a dream so COME on!)
I've got a feeling that I will have a few of these moments today. Probably due to the lack of sex.
Ok so....here goes my BFM. You come on a board, and talk about how you're this many weeks and haven't gained weight or gained any at all. Did you realize that you're on a pregnant women board? You know...where people gain weight at various speeds, and the ones that have already gained let's say...10-15 really don't want to hear you whining about the fact that you haven't gained ANY weight?! Is it just me? How many more posts of this can happen between now and April? It's like the skinny girl who can eat whatever she wants and doesnt work out talking to her overweight friend about how life is so hard. You, my dear friend, deserve a throat punch.
Not everyone is the same. You're not gaining weight? Is your doctor saying anything to you about it? No...then I suggest you STHU. You are fine. Baby is fine. EVERYBODY IS FINE!
*end rant*
Yes! So much yes! This was actually my unpopular opinion last week. On my last bmb talking about lack of weight gained was flane worthy. My favorite was the post about the person who hasn't gained weight and was feeling guilty she didn't want to exercise.
OMG.... every time I click on a post here another tab keeps popping up for Mass Mutual Financial Group. WTF TB? Why can't I click onto a post without that popping up? I put a private message in to one of the admins and when I clicked submit it opened up another page with that website! I noticed it was an ad that was on the side of this website too.
Yep. I can't handle the "I am not gaining weight" threads. Do you want a pat on the back? What are you looking for?? With Dd I didn't start gaining weight until week 15 but ended up gaining 24 by the time all was said and done. I have eaten terribly and can't keep water down and am just starting to gain at 18 weeks. My girlfriend gained 85 with her first and is already at 15 at week 10 even though she's working out daily and really eating healthy. I don't think you can control what your body does or does not gain. Unless of course you aren't eating....
So I had posted about our name choices about two weeks ago, and got such great feedback from all of you. Our "probably" name is Eliza Grace, though we haven't decided for sure on it and won't until she's born. A friend of mine who is due with twin girls a week before me just told me the three names they've narrowed down to...And Eliza is one of them! I don't even understand how this happened! We've had completely different name choices every other time we talked names (including when our firstborns were born a month+ apart 2 years ago) and somehow we've landed on the same name? I am so upset! I didn't tell her our name, but I did tell her that one of her three choices was our likely name and I really don't want to tell anyone IRL until she's born. She says she doesn't care if they are named the same, but I DO! I thought I wouldn't but I do and I really wish I didn't. She doesn't want me to tell her the name so it doesn't sway her opinion either. We don't have too many common friends anymore, I'm sure it wouldn't be a huge deal, but for me right now I'm seriously stupid upset about it. I told DH and he said too bad, he doesn't care...so why do I have to care so much?
@imrachellea, I would be totally upset too! Not at the friend, obviously, just at the situation. Did you guys end up agreeing on anything you can keep as a backup?
K&Elizabeth: I'm sorry your husband is not more supportive of your wishes. Maybe if you present a practical plan your husband will reconsider. Here is how we made it work for me to stay home:
Hubby and I discussed it several times during dating and as we were getting married, so we planned ahead and cut expenses as much as possible. We purchased a less expensive home in a less expensive town. We have internet and Netflix, no cable or satellite. We have minimum cell phone plans, no house phone. A few more areas of savings could be your wardrobe, lunches out, childcare expenses, vacations, cars, date nights, etc.
On the earning side of things, my being at home frees up my husband for more overtime opportunities. I also work very part time from home- with a teaching degree you could find tutoring, subbing or grading opportunities. You have to sit down with a spreadsheet and figure out where your areas of savings and earnings could be. It may involve a bit of a lifestyle change for a few years until the kids are in school. It sounds like that is worth it to you. We were pleasantly surprised when we sat down to run the numbers when I was pregnant with our first child, and I am so grateful that we did!
I do realize that it is not practical for everyone- and that there are families out there who can't make it work, even by cutting expenses. I am grateful to be secure enough that with careful budgeting and lifestyle changes, it works for my family.
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Re: BFM 11/16
That's a lie. I just want my husband to want to have sex with me. It's been more than a month and I've been very patient, but between the dry spell and all the changes going on in my body, my self esteem has taken a beating. The crazy hormones haven't helped. Nor does the fact that the next time we do get it on, it'll only be because I've been begging him for it, nor because he's actually interested in it.
Go away, tears. Lord, I'm a mess today.
Cats are awesome besides their manners and I was crazy sad when DH had to put her down for my mom a few years ago.
WTF is going on with The Packers. They can't seem to get their heads out of their asses. I still love my team but dangit all! >:(
Also, WTF to my shirt. It's been a stain magnet this morning. My breakfast, my drink, everything just messed it up all before lunch.
DH ruined my weekend and we got into a huge argument over something I said that confused him and he wouldn't leave it alone, even after I tried walking away. My weekend was the shittiest weekend ever and it went by so slowwwwww.
My sister and her boyfriend are in an on and off relationship. Their facebook statuses has been a swinging door of in a relationship to single for the last 4-5 months. Last night must have been the done deal because they both put up a status saying they're single and her boyfriend unfriended our entire family (which he never did before). My sister said she doesn't know why he took off the night before and why he texted the next day saying it's over. She was given no explanation.
Seriously, was there a full moon out? I know Friday the 13th happened but this whole weekend was shit.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
I can totally relate. I don't know what happened this time around but it feels like I've been cut off.It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016
@BreannaaaMarieee I feel your pain. We have a pit bull who is mostly well trained. She just loves people so much if she's in the yard off leash she sometimes runs after people who walk by. She won't hurt you, but I understand it's scary seeing a pit bull come flying by. People are pretty good when they realize she just wants to be friendly.
I won't even discuss the Packers. I am playing in an office pool and tied for first right now. I am having an extreme internal struggle about picking them this week over the Vikings. I want to win my pool and would gladly take th point loss if it means the Packers actually got their act together, but I doubt it.
Also, I'm so not mentally prepared to not get a full night's sleep again. I was up ONCE with a pained DD for like 10 minutes at 2 am last night and am counting down the minutes til nap time right now. Luckily (miraculously?) the kiddos are playing nicely together and "reading" so I can just veg on the couch.
And while we're on the subject, since this IS a bitch fest-- my hubby does try to appease my ego now and then, but you know I'd be much more likely to believe he really means that wolf whistle if he'd do it on a day where I've gotten dressed and fixed up even just a little bit, instead of (oh, just as a random example) when I walk through a completely darkened room in my ratty pajamas. Sigh.
I am SO grateful to be married to the man I love, and beyond thrilled that I'm so attracted to him, but life is sooooo very ironic sometimes!
My whine of the day is that it's my birthday, and dd3, who is FOUR and has been potty trained since her second birthday, peed in my brand new car this morning on the way to school drop off. And by brand new, I mean we bought it Saturday. I had plans this morning, but instead, I get to wash the car seat. It's the best.
I'm much calmer about it than I was two hours ago, but still.
I have a lot of emotional scar tissue with this subject, and it's extremely hard for me to look at the situation as it comes up occasionally with my fiancé logically. (Like he works upwards of sixty hours a week, and usually only gets 1 day off a week) I spend a lot of time discussing what is going on emotionally with him and it does seem to help at least for a while. I think guys look at fights like they are temporary issues, and not an on going problem. Usually just reminding him helps, but sometimes I have to be on the verge of a breakdown to make any kind of difference with him. This past time when I talked to him he wasn't taking me seriously about anything and I ended up telling him that I've done this before with several people, and although I love you with every ounce of my being, if something doesn't change, I will not be here this time next year. He got mad and said if I feel that way then just go now. I went through the if I didn't think we were worth saving I wouldn't be trying to talk to you about this and trying to fix it. Anyway, we're good now.
OMG.... every time I click on a post here another tab keeps popping up for Mass Mutual Financial Group. WTF TB? Why can't I click onto a post without that popping up? I put a private message in to one of the admins and when I clicked submit it opened up another page with that website! I noticed it was an ad that was on the side of this website too.
It's a boy! Grow baby, grow! EDD: 4/22/2016