What are you nervous for?

Ktjennks · November 2015

I know this might sound like a TMI but my biggest fear I think is going number 2 while in labor.. I mean, nobody wants to see that...

RHrebien · November 2015

The nurses are so great, you will never know if you did or not...

Kimbarbour08 · November 2015

@Ktjennks I'm nervous for that too, but like PP said, from what I've heard if you do it gets cleaned up so fast you don't even know it! Right now I'm nervous about my low placenta . . . I really want to have a natural and unmedicated birth, but I know that if my placenta is still low at my 32 week ultrasound I may very well need a c-section. I'm also just nervous in general about complications . . . so far my little boy has been super cooperative and I've had a relatively easy pregnancy so I hope that it doesn't change for the worse at the last minute!

mamacastro · November 2015

I'm just nervous about getting my tubes tied during my CS. I have to have a repeat so getting my tubes tied this time. I know it takes longer and just hope H can hold and soothe DD as soon as she is born until I get finished

Monkeybutt80 · November 2015

I did worry about pooping during pushing last time, but when it actually came time to push and give birth, that wasn't even within my radar of concerns. I think a couple of days after, I thought about it and asked my husband if I did. He assured me that I did not. So either he was super nice and lied to me, or I didn't poop. But I also hadn't eaten for about 24 hours (induction), so I don't think I had anything to poop.

This time, I am nervous about how my first will be. He will be with my parents while we are at the hospital, and he normally loves spending time with them, but I worry. He also hasn't been too keen on this idea of a baby sister, but hopefully he will come around soon.

Kiek · November 2015

As someone who totally pooped last time I can tell you, nobody cares lol. They cleaned it up so fast as if they'd done that 1000 times before. I only knew it happened because I felt a little bit of relief in the midst of pushing and was kind of thankful for it lol. So don't worry about pooping!

Kiek · November 2015

My biggest worry is that something will cause me to get transferred to the hospital. I'm having a water birth at a birthing center and I'm very excited about it! I know things change and all that matters is a happy healthy baby. It's just when I had my first, there were things beyond my control that made it such a bitter sweet experience. It would just mean a lot to me to be able to do this with my husband by my side

cMichelle0423 · November 2015

My biggest fear is also something going wrong causing me to be transferred to a hospital. We're doing a water birth at a birth center as well and I feel like this will be the first birth experience where I'll get to actually have a say so and get to follow my birth plan (for the most part).
Our birth center is also almost 2 hours away so I'm a littler nervous about getting there in time lol I don't want to give birth in the car but I also don't want to be in miserable pain from contractions and have to be stuck sitting in traffic.

shupertj09 · November 2015

I'm scared about attempting TOLAC and a VBAC. After all the positive information regarding VBACs my doctor tells me a story from her residency where the mom and baby both die due to a uterine rupture. I know I will regret it if I don't try but still, it is nerve racking when I have a 4 year old at home that needs me.

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egraves4 · November 2015

@Kimbarbour08 good luck lady!! I have my repeat ultrasound on Monday for my low-lying placenta. Prayers for the both of us that they've moved up so we don't need c-sections!

blueberrymomma · November 2015

Just like the first time I'm afraid of the possibility of a c-section. Also just general fears of complications and that my post pardum anxiety and thyroid problems will be worst this time. It took me over a year to recover the first time

thisusername · November 2015

mamacastro said:
I'm just nervous about getting my tubes tied during my CS. I have to have a repeat so getting my tubes tied this time. I know it takes longer and just hope H can hold and soothe DD as soon as she is born until I get finished

My mom did this when I was born and apparently my little baby self didn't even care. I just chilled with my grandma (it was midnight and dad had my brothers)

mamacastro · November 2015

Thanks @thisusername happy thoughts

charliegoldengirl · November 2015

shupertj09 said:
I'm scared about attempting TOLAC and a VBAC. After all the positive information regarding VBACs my doctor tells me a story from her residency where the mom and baby both die due to a uterine rupture. I know I will regret it if I don't try but still, it is nerve racking when I have a 4 year old at home that needs me.

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Why would your doctor tell you this?! Just seems kind of mean!

thisusername · November 2015

@mamacastro if you have any questions you can PM me and I'll ask my mom to see if she can help! I know it's always scary when there's a surgery involved. No matter how routine it may be!

oxsarah7ox · November 2015

Same nerves as some others. Just worried about various complications. I really prefer not to have a c-section. Obviously if it is necessary I will do whatever is best for myself and my child, but I would really rather just not have a c-section and push this little girl out on my own.

shupertj09 · November 2015

charliegoldengirl said:

shupertj09 said:
I'm scared about attempting TOLAC and a VBAC. After all the positive information regarding VBACs my doctor tells me a story from her residency where the mom and baby both die due to a uterine rupture. I know I will regret it if I don't try but still, it is nerve racking when I have a 4 year old at home that needs me.

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Why would your doctor tell you this?! Just seems kind of mean!

I guess she was just trying to give me an idea of worst case senero? I don't know. I went in there confident though and left very nervous. I wish she would have just left me with statistics and not shared her residency story that probably happen over a decade ago.

bookqueen · November 2015

I'm scared about tearing really bad again this time. I was undecided on epidural or natural this time and think I'm more than likely gonna get the epidural so I don't have to deal with being numbed for stitches after, lol. After I tore for my first, my perineal area has been nowhere near the same (including pain during sex and pooping) and I just noticed some hemorrhoids....totally not looking forward to delivery.

blueberrymomma · November 2015

bookqueen said:
I'm scared about tearing really bad again this time. I was undecided on epidural or natural this time and think I'm more than likely gonna get the epidural so I don't have to deal with being numbed for stitches after, lol. After I tore for my first, my perineal area has been nowhere near the same (including pain during sex and pooping) and I just noticed some hemorrhoids....totally not looking forward to delivery.

My mom had fourth degree tears with me and had to have surgery for them. 2 years later she had my sister with no problems and no medication. I was 36 hours of labor and my sis was like 1 hour. I hope that makes you feel alittle better.

thisusername · November 2015

I'm just scared in general.

egraves4 · November 2015

I guess one thing I am nervous for that hasn't been mentioned is taking care of a baby... I mean, I know it will come to me and there will be plenty of people there to help me, but I'm nervous about being in the hospital and her crying and me not knowing how to console her, and people just staring at me like "okay lady, time to put a diaper on your child". I didn't grow up around kids and I never babysat when I was younger. My SO on the other hand is already a pro... So while I've done all this research about pregnancy and birth and labor and all that, he's going to be super helpful when we actually have her home.

camusoh2011 · November 2015

mamacastro said:

I'm just nervous about getting my tubes tied during my CS. I have to have a repeat so getting my tubes tied this time. I know it takes longer and just hope H can hold and soothe DD as soon as she is born until I get finished

This times two. I've never had a CS. I am already nervous about that. On top of it, I'm having twins, so I'm nervous about connecting with them right away.

ashcody2 · November 2015

I'm nervous about delivery and post partum recovery - I had an easy, uncomplicated delivery and recovery with DS and am worried I won't have it that easy this time around. I went into labor naturally with him 2 days overdue and was in labor for less than 12 hrs. actually delivered within 15 mins of my water being broke and had no tearing or anything - I feel like I can't possibly have it that easy this time around, right?!

I'm also really nervous about not getting much sleep with a newborn and a toddler to be honest, DS didn't sleep thru the night until about 15 months and I was basically a zombie for the first year of his life!

Shatzegirl · November 2015

egraves4 said:
I guess one thing I am nervous for that hasn't been mentioned is taking care of a baby... I mean, I know it will come to me and there will be plenty of people there to help me, but I'm nervous about being in the hospital and her crying and me not knowing how to console her, and people just staring at me like "okay lady, time to put a diaper on your child". I didn't grow up around kids and I never babysat when I was younger. My SO on the other hand is already a pro... So while I've done all this research about pregnancy and birth and labor and all that, he's going to be super helpful when we actually have her home.

Look into The Happiest Baby on the Block. There are some great soothing techniques I used with my DS. I didn't grow up around little kids or babysit much so I understand what you're saying. But I think you're going to do great. A lot of stuff just comes naturally. Mother's instinct.

babyA227 · November 2015

I will be having a repeat c section. My first c section went so smooth and was an awesome experience. I am nervous that it may have been to perfect and this repeat wont be as smooth. But I am trying to stay positive.

mamacastro · November 2015

@camusoh2011 don't worry, it will only feel like a few minutes between the time they are delivered and when you can hold them. You will still get to see them right away, you got this

cognity8 · November 2015

I'm really nervous for ppd.. I already am struggling with depression and I'm terrified it will effect my baby girl. Here's to hoping she will be my sunshine on this rainy day...

strlitemiss · November 2015

I'm nervous to tear DS1 was born with his left hand/arm came out at the same time as his head so his shoulders were tucked saving me from pushing out his shoulders together. So that's terrifying.

thisusername · November 2015

cognity8 said:
I'm really nervous for ppd.. I already am struggling with depression and I'm terrified it will effect my baby girl. Here's to hoping she will be my sunshine on this rainy day...

What're you doing currently to help your depression? This is a huge concern of mine as well. My psychiatrist, therapist, and I are all focusing on creating something to have to after birth to help me. So far, I have a calamder with one of my clients (dog) in it. I'm also going to take my medication at a full dosage immediately after birth to help.

cognity8 · November 2015

@thisusername
I am waiting for a few callbacks to get into see a therapist. I recently moved so I have to can't return to my previous doctor. Hopefully I can see someone soon. My mother had pretty bad ppd with her first.

Good luck to you- sounds like you have a good plan with support. I hope to get that too

thisusername · November 2015

cognity8 said:
@thisusername
I am waiting for a few callbacks to get into see a therapist. I recently moved so I have to can't return to my previous doctor. Hopefully I can see someone soon. My mother had pretty bad ppd with her first.

Good luck to you- sounds like you have a good plan with support. I hope to get that too

Just know I'm always hear to talk! I know you're going through a lot right now too and that doesn't make it easier. There's a lot of techniques online and other suggestions available too. But make sure you have plans set up. All of these questions should have a yes:
Do you have someone to talk to?
Do you have a safe place to go?
Do you have someone to call if you feel like hurting yourself or others?
Do you know where your local ER is and what resources are available to you?
Are you safe?

That's the list I had to memorize that they ask everyone. Even if you've never felt suicidal or anything like that it's still good to have a plan in place. I hope it doesn't hit you hard!

BabySeaTurtles · November 2015

My labor went so well last time. I had an epidural and slept from 4 cm until it was time to push with no after effects at all from the epi. I am scared that labor won't go as smoothly this time and/or the epi won't be as effective and perfect.
Also sleep management with newborn and toddler. I was so sleep deprived for a year that I had a seizure. I know I have to make myself some sort of priority but saying this and doing it are two different things.

Kiek · November 2015

egraves4 said:
I guess one thing I am nervous for that hasn't been mentioned is taking care of a baby... I mean, I know it will come to me and there will be plenty of people there to help me, but I'm nervous about being in the hospital and her crying and me not knowing how to console her, and people just staring at me like "okay lady, time to put a diaper on your child". I didn't grow up around kids and I never babysat when I was younger. My SO on the other hand is already a pro... So while I've done all this research about pregnancy and birth and labor and all that, he's going to be super helpful when we actually have her home.

You will do great

. When DD was born I had my MIL for a few days and then it was just me and DD. Those first few days my MIL seemed to have the magic touch in getting my girl to calm down and I felt like a bumbling idiot lol. Not because of my MIL. She was amazing to have there. But when she left we figured it out. It won't take any time at all for you to know your baby and how to read her better than anyone

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PinkRoses · November 2015

Put me in the nervous about everything boat, lol. Some things I didn't realize I was nervous about until I read your responses!

I'm not nervous, but let's say... I'm kind of stressed about how the repeat c-section and recovery will go. Last time was a pretty bad experience. The birth happened very fast and I felt like my voice wasn't heard. My DH was like a deer in the headlights. I gave birth at a teaching hospital and there were literally TEN med students in the room, 3 of whom tried to take over the role of birth coach and it just wasnt' what I wanted it to be. I was too internally focused and trying to get through the pain to really advocate for myself. This time I hope I can speak up - or tell DH to do it for me.

I also had a MRSA infection after the surgery, so it was a pretty miserable recovery. I'm just nervous about complications for both me and baby in general.

PPD and sleep management are also big issues. I was very very lucky to have gone into some kind of survival mode last time... like I said my recovery was awful and my DH ended up being the one with the PPD issues. I just hunkered down and pushed through. I have depression and anxiety, and am on a half-dose of my meds currently. My grandmother had to be hospitalized for post partum psychosis back in the 1950s, so that spectre has kind of hung over both my mother and me for decades.

In light of that though, I will tell each of you to remember that we are FAR more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. When I was in labor I went into this super-focused warrior mode. It just takes over. Our bodies were MADE to do this, and I know that each of us here WANTS this like nothing else. So let's all take a deep breath and remember to trust our partners, our doctors, our support system, and most of all, ourselves!! Group Hug!!

Lola2o1 · November 2015

Tearing and the pain after. Also the NJ winter weather and getting to the hospital safely and hopefully not being a chaotic mess!

blueberrymomma · November 2015

PinkRoses said:
Put me in the nervous about everything boat, lol. Some things I didn't realize I was nervous about until I read your responses!

I'm not nervous, but let's say... I'm kind of stressed about how the repeat c-section and recovery will go. Last time was a pretty bad experience. The birth happened very fast and I felt like my voice wasn't heard. My DH was like a deer in the headlights. I gave birth at a teaching hospital and there were literally TEN med students in the room, 3 of whom tried to take over the role of birth coach and it just wasnt' what I wanted it to be. I was too internally focused and trying to get through the pain to really advocate for myself. This time I hope I can speak up - or tell DH to do it for me.

I also had a MRSA infection after the surgery, so it was a pretty miserable recovery. I'm just nervous about complications for both me and baby in general.

PPD and sleep management are also big issues. I was very very lucky to have gone into some kind of survival mode last time... like I said my recovery was awful and my DH ended up being the one with the PPD issues. I just hunkered down and pushed through. I have depression and anxiety, and am on a half-dose of my meds currently. My grandmother had to be hospitalized for post partum psychosis back in the 1950s, so that spectre has kind of hung over both my mother and me for decades.

In light of that though, I will tell each of you to remember that we are FAR more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. When I was in labor I went into this super-focused warrior mode. It just takes over. Our bodies were MADE to do this, and I know that each of us here WANTS this like nothing else. So let's all take a deep breath and remember to trust our partners, our doctors, our support system, and most of all, ourselves!! Group Hug!!

Oh my MRSA and c-section recovery at the same time. You are amazing for getting thru that and still having such a great outlook. My mom had MRSA in her chest when I was in high school. She was in bed for months and still says it was the worst thing ever.
Here's to you having an easy birth and quick recovery

BabySeaTurtles · November 2015

PinkRoses said:
In light of that though, I will tell each of you to remember that we are FAR more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. When I was in labor I went into this super-focused warrior mode. It just takes over. Our bodies were MADE to do this, and I know that each of us here WANTS this like nothing else. So let's all take a deep breath and remember to trust our partners, our doctors, our support system, and most of all, ourselves!! Group Hug!!

Good words. Thank you for this!

bublesmiled · November 2015

I think I'm more nervous this time around then last time. Last time my biggest fear was a c-section which I was fortunate enough not to have to do. This time I'm worried that my first delivery was so easy and the baby was easy, that I don't get to be that lucky twice. My mom, who was in the room last time, had to move out of state for work, and she won't be around for a couple of weeks - so I'm nervous about her being my rock, not being there this time.

RN0107 · November 2015

I know it might sound crazy because this is baby #3 but I'm worried I'll go into labor and won't know or not make it to the hospital in time. My first was induced (ending in c/s) and my second was a RCS. I've never gone into labor.

Life is Exciting · November 2015

Nervous that I'll end up with a repeat C-section instead of my planned VBAC.

Nervous that I'll have a preemie like last pregnancy.

Nervous that there'll be a snowstorm when the baby comes and my hospital is 30 mins away.

Nervous that something will go wrong that will not let me feel like I got a chance to experience my labor and birth of my daughter - and this is my last baby, so I'll never get that chance again.

Life is Exciting · November 2015

Nervous that, with a new baby and a toddler, I'll NEVER SLEEP AGAIN.

(My toddler didn't sleep through the night until he was a year old. Dear Lord, please let this baby be a better sleeper!)

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