This is #3 and I haven't had to have a c-section yet, so i'm nervous about potentially having to have one this time around. My labor and delivery for each kid has been so different that there are a lot of things that don't scare me going into this one. With #1 everything was really easy. I had an epi and pushed her out. I tore a bit but nothing crazy, and I know i pooped on the table lol. as everyone has said it's not big deal, and nobody even mentions it. With #2, i wanted an epi but it didn't come until I was 9cm dilated already. So i basically had a med free labor that time. Plus they were concerned about his heartrate so they were getting ready to do a c-section if i didn't get him out within the couple of pushes they let me try. I did manage to get him out but i tore a little worse the second time. kid had a set of shoulders on him! So i'm not sure what to expect this time around, but I think that's what makes #3 the best so far. i'm not going off of any preconceived notions like i did last time. It's kind of liberating.
What am I worried about? Cord accident, placental abruption, shoulder dystocia, etc. All the things that can cause fetal death or lifelong disability. I'm worried about having flashbacks from when my daughter was stillborn and not being able to separate that experience from giving birth to this baby.
I know it might sound crazy because this is baby #3 but I'm worried I'll go into labor and won't know or not make it to the hospital in time. My first was induced (ending in c/s) and my second was a RCS. I've never gone into labor.
Me too! DD was induced. All these Braxton Hicks are driving me crazy because I barely had any with DD
What am I worried about? Cord accident, placental abruption, shoulder dystocia, etc. All the things that can cause fetal death or lifelong disability. I'm worried about having flashbacks from when my daughter was stillborn and not being able to separate that experience from giving birth to this baby.
My current concerns... 1. Healthy baby first and foremost 2. Tearing and pain after delivery. (I had to have surgery immediately after giving birth with my first for a retained placenta. Those first few weeks recovering , especially first 48 hours after, was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. I even had to get restitched two weeks later. Hoping this labor/delivery goes smoother. And just to throw it out there, pooping during is nothing to pooping (or trying to poop) after deliver. That's way worse. I'll take slightly embarrassing over painful any day. 3. Hoping baby latches and I have an easier time beast feeding then with my first. Bc of my surgery it delayed the initial introduction to breast which I feel hindered us. Plus daughter had a tongue and lip tie (discovered by lactation consultant.) I had to pump around the clock for the year to feed her breast milk. Not easy. And now with a toddler too, time is going to be that more hard to come by. 4. Sleep. The exhaustion is coming. I'm scared. Dd will be two and is a light sleeper. How will this work?! Yikes.
But other than that...can't wait! Lol. In all seriousness, I am very excited and blessed. I know it will be hard at times but we'll get through it. We all will!
i'm scared of how much it will hurt, i'm really scared of tearing badly. nervous about having a colicky baby that never sleeps. of course there is always the fear that something will go really wrong and one of us will die (rationally i know that probably wont happen).
I know I did, but the nurses had chux pads under me and would throw it away every 10 seconds and use a clean one. At that time, you just care about getting the baby out.
@bublesmiled I hear you. I got induced last time and it was miserable but I have the most amazing baby and I'm nervous that my next one will be my difficult one. I'm nervous that I won't have any help while my DH is at work and I am stuck at home with a 14.5 month old baby and an infant.
Honestly, I am really nervous about what to do with my son when I go into labor. He'll be 2.5, and has never spent more than a couple of hours away from me or his dad. We have no family in this country, and a few friends/neighbors have volunteered but what if I go into labor at like 3am?
Honestly, I am really nervous about what to do with my son when I go into labor. He'll be 2.5, and has never spent more than a couple of hours away from me or his dad. We have no family in this country, and a few friends/neighbors have volunteered but what if I go into labor at like 3am?
That's a tough call - but know if your friends/neighbors didn't want to help, they wouldn't offer. Do any of them have kids your son's age that would easily distract him of your absence? Maybe hit the dollar store and wrap up some gifts to put in a bag for while you are in labor, he gets to open one up every so often. Kids are resilient and even if the few days are difficult for him, in the long term he won't remember them. Also, remember when you went into labor last time, you didn't run to the hospital after the first contraction, so you'll have some time - either early in labor if you start labor in the afternoon or evening/ or a little later if you start contractions in the middle of the night to wait out the clock. Also, check with your hospital/birthing center. I know when we went on the tour, there was space in the room for my daughter to hang out or a little room down a few doors that had some toys, books, and such to keep kids busy until someone can come pick them up. Good luck!
Honestly, I am really nervous about what to do with my son when I go into labor. He'll be 2.5, and has never spent more than a couple of hours away from me or his dad. We have no family in this country, and a few friends/neighbors have volunteered but what if I go into labor at like 3am?
I was like this when we went to have Charlie. It was 2:30 am and even though we had a plan, at that point the family that was going to watch him were asleep and didn't answer their phones. This time around we have a large group that has told us to just call. Someone is bound to pick up and come meet us at the hospital to get our kids.
Re: What are you nervous for?
DD1: 9/19/11
DS: 1/1/14
DD2: 1/31/16
1. Healthy baby first and foremost
2. Tearing and pain after delivery. (I had to have surgery immediately after giving birth with my first for a retained placenta. Those first few weeks recovering , especially first 48 hours after, was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life. I even had to get restitched two weeks later. Hoping this labor/delivery goes smoother. And just to throw it out there, pooping during is nothing to pooping (or trying to poop) after deliver. That's way worse. I'll take slightly embarrassing over painful any day.
3. Hoping baby latches and I have an easier time beast feeding then with my first. Bc of my surgery it delayed the initial introduction to breast which I feel hindered us. Plus daughter had a tongue and lip tie (discovered by lactation consultant.) I had to pump around the clock for the year to feed her breast milk. Not easy. And now with a toddler too, time is going to be that more hard to come by.
4. Sleep. The exhaustion is coming. I'm scared. Dd will be two and is a light sleeper. How will this work?! Yikes.
But other than that...can't wait! Lol. In all seriousness, I am very excited and blessed. I know it will be hard at times but we'll get through it. We all will!
I'm nervous that I won't have any help while my DH is at work and I am stuck at home with a 14.5 month old baby and an infant.