I had a shower over the weekend and was blessed with lots of stuff. However, no one actually bought anything that I registered for aside from a few close friends (just a few small items). My question is would you take back the items and exchange them for the ones you actually registered for. And if so, would you tell the people that gave the gift you are doing so or just not say anything. I had some friends give me a nice bassinet but it isn't exactly our style (very frilly and over the top). I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but that is the whole reason of having a registry so people know what to you want, right? Then no one uses it, even close family members. Thanks for your imput!
Re: Taking back shower gifts
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If the role was reversed and I gave someone a shower gift I would rather have them exchange it and get what they really wanted rather then keeping it because it was a gift. I would want the money I spent to go towards something they really wanted...
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I had absolutely no need for 30 bath towels, 17 blankets and 25 newborn sleepers. (Just a few examples)
My returns gift card balance at Target alone is $550 and at this point we don't need anything. This will go towards baby clothes and needs over the next...year?
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
I didn't get a whole lot that I registered for and it's mostly because people don't spell my name right so they couldn't find my registry. Hopefully for my next shower (yes, I'm having two -- family issues) people will spell my name right. We actually had to exchange one of our bigger items because a girl version was purchased and we're having a boy lol
My MIL did all my returns since I am not capable. I have her my registry info and Target will allow returns on anything sold at target, at full price as long as you use the registry to return. Even items that were not on my list.
Fortunately most of the returns came from target, walmart or amazon.
There are a few things that came from department stores that she tried to return, but they were so deeply discounted it wasn't worth it.
Donation or re-gifting would be best for things like that.
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
I didn't bother registering for blankets, towels, or clothing. People love to give these things!
And because it's such fun to shop for baby clothes and cute items- there ends up being an excess that can be returned for the needed items.
My favorite gifts were the personal ones that my sisters and friends put thought into. Those surely weren't on the registry.
I also do not see giving a gift that you may have too many of as "wasting their money". You return it and get good use of that money buying something else baby needs.
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
Also, I'd just like to point out that I attended a baby shower this weekend. When I went to shop for it at BBB, half the stuff on the registry wasn't available in-store and the majority of the other half wasn't in stock. As a shopper, it's extremely frustrating. I literally spent 30 minutes waiting for am associate to find the right A+A blankets, which she never did. I had to settle for the closest thing to what my friend registered for.
I guess it just rubs me the wrong way that someone would complain about a pretty generous gift.
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