I took DH's last name at 25 for a few reasons: 1. DH is my family, this family is priority to me and I wanted to have the same name as him and my children, 2. it is tradition and I value traditions - not every tradition starts with the best intentions but can evolve over time to be positive, 3. changing my name in no way lessened my identity - the name I was born with will always be my name, the name that I have now embraces where I am in life. I do not side eye anyone for not changing their name; there are plenty of valid reasons to choose not to.
Uggs are terrible.
Push presents are ridiculous. I think my biggest issue with them is that they are such a fad and most SO's probably have no clue what this is, so the women hinting / asking for them seem to be gift grabby. If a woman didn't mention a word to their SO about a gift and SO just happened to want to buy them something, I actually wouldn't consider that to be a push present because it wouldn't be ... forced.
@kalanieileen - Psh, that's no excuse. If you were a real feminist you'd embrace the double hyphen, duh. Name punctuation is like leg hair: the more you have, the more equaler you are to men.
(Pure sarcasm, by the way. I have zero opinion on leg hair/shaving, and in retrospect, I probably would have skipped the hyphen myself and just kept my birth name... people do NOT understand hyphenated names).
HAHA water literally came out of my nose right now. True people really don't get hyphenated names. I don't know how many times people ask for my last name, I give them both, and they say "no just your last name." look here heffer, I know what last name means. And that's my damn last name.
I guess my UO is that I hate, despise, loathe Valentine's Day. I don't think there is an appropriate way to describe the depth of my distaste for this faux-holiday. Hated it when I was single, hate it equally now that I'm married. Yeah, it's nice to get flowers and gifts and be taken out but it's a cop-out. I much prefer the spontaneous flowers or bar of chocolate DH brings home for me, even when he eats 90% of said candy. It just seems more genuine.
@kalanieileen - Psh, that's no excuse. If you were a real feminist you'd embrace the double hyphen, duh. Name punctuation is like leg hair: the more you have, the more equaler you are to men.
(Pure sarcasm, by the way. I have zero opinion on leg hair/shaving, and in retrospect, I probably would have skipped the hyphen myself and just kept my birth name... people do NOT understand hyphenated names).
HAHA water literally came out of my nose right now. True people really don't get hyphenated names. I don't know how many times people ask for my last name, I give them both, and they say "no just your last name." look here heffer, I know what last name means. And that's my damn last name.
In my head, you just said that in the John Wayne-est voice ever (not John Wayne-Gacy. Just John Wayne. No hyphen this time).
I guess my UO is that I hate, despise, loathe Valentine's Day. I don't think there is an appropriate way to describe the depth of my distaste for this faux-holiday. Hated it when I was single, hate it equally now that I'm married. Yeah, it's nice to get flowers and gifts and be taken out but it's a cop-out. I much prefer the spontaneous flowers or bar of chocolate DH brings home for me, even when he eats 90% of said candy. It just seems more genuine.
I have always felt the EXACT same way... and yet, Valentine's Day is also my wedding anniversary now. My husband really wanted to get married on his parents' anniversary, and it just so happens that my mother-in-law is much sappier than I am in that respect. Oh, well. At least now we've got an actual reason to celebrate the day that doesn't revolve around some greeting card company's bottom line.
But yeah, judging from the lines of people at the courthouse getting hitched on 2/14 (we waited 2.5 hours), I'd say you've got a very unpopular opinion indeed!
I too abhor UGGs. They came out when I was in college and the girls wearing them would be out in -20 January snowy weather wearing them with mini skirts and full make up to class. I think the reason it bugged me so much was that people assumed certain things about those girls (bad grades, only in school to get a rich husband, blah blah blah). Then when people found out I went to my particular college, they assumed I was one of "those girls."
I could care less what people decide to do about their last names. To each his or her own. There were a few reasons I took my husband's last name. 1.) I wanted us to have the same last name, and for our future children to share that name 2.) Hyphenation would have resulted in a 20 letter last name, in addition to my 7 letter first name. Not practical. 3.) My parents decided to get a divorce when my dad showed up drunk two nights before my wedding. His whole side of the family are a bunch of alcoholics and made my life growing up difficult. Therefore, I was not at all attached to my birth name at that point. So, I had a few practical and a few emotional reasons for my choice. I am grateful to live in an age where we get to make that decision ourselves!
I guess my UO is that I hate, despise, loathe Valentine's Day. I don't think there is an appropriate way to describe the depth of my distaste for this faux-holiday. Hated it when I was single, hate it equally now that I'm married. Yeah, it's nice to get flowers and gifts and be taken out but it's a cop-out. I much prefer the spontaneous flowers or bar of chocolate DH brings home for me, even when he eats 90% of said candy. It just seems more genuine.
I have always felt the EXACT same way... and yet, Valentine's Day is also my wedding anniversary now. My husband really wanted to get married on his parents' anniversary, and it just so happens that my mother-in-law is much sappier than I am in that respect. Oh, well. At least now we've got an actual reason to celebrate the day that doesn't revolve around some greeting card company's bottom line.
But yeah, judging from the lines of people at the courthouse getting hitched on 2/14 (we waited 2.5 hours), I'd say you've got a very unpopular opinion indeed!
Yeah...DH was NOT happy on our first Valentine's Day together when I told him my feelings. I believe I mentioned breaking up if "he wasted money on some pointless f-ing gift on a day that forces him to be nice to me." So he bought me flowers and took me to dinner on the 15th. At least the flowers were discounted, I guess.
My UO: my sister and her husband are total germaphobes about their 5 month old and it drives me nuts. Her little pacifier sanitizing wipes if she so much as sets the pacifier on a clean kitchen counter, hand sanitizer everywhere she goes, etc... I hope my little kiddo loves playing in dirt (muahahaha) I'd love to see how that goes over when they play together. Also, I'm totally not a messy/disgusting person, but I played in the dirt as a kid and I lived to tell about it. Immune systems need some exposure to germs in order to develop properly imo.
My UO: my sister and her husband are total germaphobes about their 5 month old and it drives me nuts. Her little pacifier sanitizing wipes if she so much as sets the pacifier on a clean kitchen counter, hand sanitizer everywhere she goes, etc... I hope my little kiddo loves playing in dirt (muahahaha) I'd love to see how that goes over when they play together. Also, I'm totally not a messy/disgusting person, but I played in the dirt as a kid and I lived to tell about it. Immune systems need some exposure to germs in order to develop properly imo.
I loved your post, but I wanted to quote it in order to say just how much I love it. I don't understand mamas who bleach everything if no one in their family is immunosuppressed. To each their own, but I'm all about letting kids eat dirt.
I guess my UO is that I hate, despise, loathe Valentine's Day. I don't think there is an appropriate way to describe the depth of my distaste for this faux-holiday. Hated it when I was single, hate it equally now that I'm married. Yeah, it's nice to get flowers and gifts and be taken out but it's a cop-out. I much prefer the spontaneous flowers or bar of chocolate DH brings home for me, even when he eats 90% of said candy. It just seems more genuine.
I am so with you on this one. I told DH the same thing when we met. He is not the most romantic person on earth, but his psycho ex had all kinds of crazy expectations so when I was the exact opposite he seemed confused lol. I despise Valentine's Day and I would get really annoyed when people would tell me it's only because I don't have a bf. I am married and I still could'nt care less. I care about genuine and sincere thoughts and gestures.
My UO: my sister and her husband are total germaphobes about their 5 month old and it drives me nuts. Her little pacifier sanitizing wipes if she so much as sets the pacifier on a clean kitchen counter, hand sanitizer everywhere she goes, etc... I hope my little kiddo loves playing in dirt (muahahaha) I'd love to see how that goes over when they play together. Also, I'm totally not a messy/disgusting person, but I played in the dirt as a kid and I lived to tell about it. Immune systems need some exposure to germs in order to develop properly imo.
Yes to this! I have absolutely no idea how many weird things I ate as a kid, including various insects, and I have a great immune system. I look forward to playing in the dirt with my son!
My dog has been driving me bonkers.. I love/hate him right now. He just literally took me out. I threw the tennis ball for him in the backyard and turned around to pick something up by the tree, and he came barreling back at me and didn't slow down, ran into the back of my knee and I fell over a tree root half almost into the splits and hurt my hip, knee, and wrist.. and my pride. But seriously.. OUCH.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
My dog has been driving me bonkers.. I love/hate him right now. He just literally took me out. I threw the tennis ball for him in the backyard and turned around to pick something up by the tree, and he came barreling back at me and didn't slow down, ran into the back of my knee and I fell over a tree root half almost into the splits and hurt my hip, knee, and wrist.. and my pride. But seriously.. OUCH.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
My dog has been driving me bonkers.. I love/hate him right now. He just literally took me out. I threw the tennis ball for him in the backyard and turned around to pick something up by the tree, and he came barreling back at me and didn't slow down, ran into the back of my knee and I fell over a tree root half almost into the splits and hurt my hip, knee, and wrist.. and my pride. But seriously.. OUCH.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
Ahh, the energy of big dogs. Hopefully he's more gentle as you get bigger!
To be fair, I think there's a big difference between marriage at 20-22 and marriage at 30 or 35. I might roll my eyes when a 21-year-old bride decides to take her husband's name (after all, there's a reason it's almost always the bride doing it and not the groom), but I don't judge it nearly as harshly as I do the woman my age who's decided to change her name.
Generally in your early twenties you're still building an identity (here defined as "The Face You Present To The World," not "The Person You Understand Yourself To Be")... the most ambitious young twenty-somethings are picking a career path and just getting started, and are just beginning to build their adult lives; the face they'll present to the world is just now taking shape. Most of the 30+ year-olds I see getting married are several years into a career path, and have been adults (with adult relationships and friendships, and adult responsibilities) for quite some time. The face I present to the world is a lot more static now than it was when I was 20, because I've got a much better sense of who I am and where I'm going. My name is tied to real accomplishments, a real professional network, a degree, and a pretty substantial online presence (it sounds like both of you married for the first time before the whole social networking thing really took off; my Facebook account alone was almost 10 years old when I tied the knot, to say nothing of my firstname.maidenname email address, or my LinkedIn page).
As for remarriage and getting rid of an ex's name... I'd put that in the same category as having a distasteful name or a family of origin issue. Whole different ballgame.
But... as the name of the thread indicates, it's an unpopular opinion. Didn't figure too many people would agree.
I couldn't bring myself to read the whole post, but the reason I took my husbands last name at 22 is tradition. Not because I'm trying to find myself and my identity. I don't really think that's too unpopular where I'm from though. To each their own.
My dog has been driving me bonkers.. I love/hate him right now. He just literally took me out. I threw the tennis ball for him in the backyard and turned around to pick something up by the tree, and he came barreling back at me and didn't slow down, ran into the back of my knee and I fell over a tree root half almost into the splits and hurt my hip, knee, and wrist.. and my pride. But seriously.. OUCH.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
I took my husband's last name because by that time it was already my daughter's last name. Wanted to match her more than anything. Made my maiden name my middle name. Otherwise, my initials would have been DMV. And I liked the symmetry of all my names having 7 letters.
UGGs? Whatever. They're not really my style, but if you like 'em, go for it.
Gender reveals? It's not wrong to have a small gathering with your family and close friends. I think, in a few weeks, we may say, "Okay, we're opening the envelope/eating the cupcakes/however we choose at this time and this place. Join us, if you want." Nothing formal, no invitations, no guessing games. Maybe dinner somewhere. I don't know. I've obviously put very little thought into this, considering it's 2 weeks away. I just know I'd like it to be a little more special than how we found out about our first kid. We didn't have *any* time to think about it (as in, husband and I had never even discussed if we wanted to know the sex of the baby before the birth, and the tech lady was telling us that we need to decide right now because they don't write it down anywhere.), and were not in a mental and emotional state to plan a cupcake or confetti or anything. So we just opened the envelope at the doctor's office. Something different for Kid #2 would be nice.
UO: I much prefer the "citrus" flavored Skittles and Starburst, over the cherry/strawberry/grape.
UO: I much prefer the "citrus" flavored Skittles and Starburst, over the cherry/strawberry/grape.
While DH and I were dating MIL gave me a ziplock of just the yellow and green ones from a couple bags (DH got the rest) for part of a birthday present so I got ALL of them and I didn't have to share
My dog has been driving me bonkers.. I love/hate him right now. He just literally took me out. I threw the tennis ball for him in the backyard and turned around to pick something up by the tree, and he came barreling back at me and didn't slow down, ran into the back of my knee and I fell over a tree root half almost into the splits and hurt my hip, knee, and wrist.. and my pride. But seriously.. OUCH.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
Scary! Hope you're ok! My dog can be so clumsy too - I'm always afraid he's going to run me over accidentally!
I truly despise ugg boots. The name says it all... They're just... UGH. uggly uggly ugg boots
I could not agree more.
I have tall black ones with 3 bows in the back and they look cute with black leggings and keep me toasty in the winter. (The one and probably only pair I will own). I see a ton , I mean a TON of people wearing "uggs" that look like they have been walking In them for 10 years in the mud and just look gross in general . Nasty boots with leggings is never cute but I got mine as a gift and I really do love them .
On the topic of shoes ....I really hate when people wear open toe shoes and their toenails and feet look like they could swoop down and catch a fish out of the water with them . If you have nasty feet fix the problem or wear real shoes. I know most people don't care but I won't wear an open toe shoe with out making sure my toe nails are painted.
I have a pair of grey chunky knit UGGs with buttons up the side. They're cute and don't quite fit the typical stereotype. My little sister has a pair of the "classic" UGGs, but I feel that's more normal for a preteen.
My UO is that I thrive on Bump drama. It's so boring when everyone is getting along.
I don't either! I don't really even like babies in general (that should have been my UO). It's funny that one of my other friends who isn't really into babies and I are pregnant at the same time. (Of course, we will each adore our own, but no real interest in anyone else's!)
I'm definitely more of a toddler person than a baby person, but what I've found is that I like babies that aren't mine when they're around the same age as DS, because I understand hat phase. When he was 5 months I was fine with other 5 month olds. Now if I'm around a friends 5 month old I'm like wtf do I do with it?
First BFP 12/2012, MMC at 9 weeks
Second BFP 6/2013, resulted in DS, born 2/23/14 :-)
Third BFP 5/2015, natural MC at 6 weeks
Fourth BFP 8/2015, hoping for sticky little brother or sister to H!
Proud SAHM to our little monkey H.
Pro Vax, extended breasftfeeder, ring sling and stroller loving mama. I don't judge you unless you don't vaccinate!
I'm definitely more of a toddler person than a baby person, but what I've found is that I like babies that aren't mine when they're around the same age as DS, because I understand hat phase. When he was 5 months I was fine with other 5 month olds. Now if I'm around a friends 5 month old I'm like wtf do I do with it?
So you're saying there's a chance I will someday like other people's kids? There's hope?!?
as for my earlier ugg boot post, I mainly only saw girls wear ugg boots with skirts. Which made no sense to me. If you're cold, why are you wearing a skirt. If you're hot, why are you wearing boots.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE spam! As I'm currently eating spam musubi
Watched an episode of Great Food Truck Race (or whatever my weekend binge was called) and they had to be a Spam truck for a day. I totally ate two cans of it immediately following that!
@kalanieileen - Psh, that's no excuse. If you were a real feminist you'd embrace the double hyphen, duh. Name punctuation is like leg hair: the more you have, the more equaler you are to men.
(Pure sarcasm, by the way. I have zero opinion on leg hair/shaving, and in retrospect, I probably would have skipped the hyphen myself and just kept my birth name... people do NOT understand hyphenated names).
HAHA water literally came out of my nose right now. True people really don't get hyphenated names. I don't know how many times people ask for my last name, I give them both, and they say "no just your last name." look here heffer, I know what last name means. And that's my damn last name.
I guess I never questioned it because of all my Hispanic friends having two last names... I had mentioned the idea of hyphenating my last name to my fiance and he got really upset about it! Like cried saying that it would feel like I wasn't actually his wife if I did that. (This was before we even became engaged) now we are, have no date in site, and he refers to me as his wife all the time.
Is one supposed to bring a gift to a gender reveal party? My SIL had one in July, and I am pretty sure that I was the only person who didn't show up with a gift. I felt like a complete asshole. I guess I am unaware of the ettiquette as far as these parties go. I sent her a book a few days later that I had made because I felt horrible.
Omg I really hope no one comes with gifts to ours! Any ideas on how to express that we aren't expecting gifts??? This is seriously going to be low key enough that we were just going to make a FB invite for it. I really hope no one thinks we're just expecting a bunch of presents... BTW I'm today freaking out and pregnant crying over this now.
@Knottie9983816 DH is Hispanic but probably would've had a fit if I had hyphenated. Just not what's done in his family I guess.
Also, you're hosting Friendsgiving, right? I would send out invites for that event, and just add a blurb that guests will leave with a little extra knowledge...or something on those lines. If the main event is not the reveal, I don't think it will come across as something to bring gifts to - and if people do bring gifts, it won't seem gift grabby. I think your case will be especially easy to play it off, since it's a party you throw annually if I'm remembering correctly.
Re: UO Thursday 11/5
I took DH's last name at 25 for a few reasons: 1. DH is my family, this family is priority to me and I wanted to have the same name as him and my children, 2. it is tradition and I value traditions - not every tradition starts with the best intentions but can evolve over time to be positive, 3. changing my name in no way lessened my identity - the name I was born with will always be my name, the name that I have now embraces where I am in life. I do not side eye anyone for not changing their name; there are plenty of valid reasons to choose not to.
Uggs are terrible.
Push presents are ridiculous. I think my biggest issue with them is that they are such a fad and most SO's probably have no clue what this is, so the women hinting / asking for them seem to be gift grabby. If a woman didn't mention a word to their SO about a gift and SO just happened to want to buy them something, I actually wouldn't consider that to be a push present because it wouldn't be ... forced.
YES! It's my guilty pleasure.
Married: May '15
M/C: May '15
Expecting DS: April '16
Yeah...DH was NOT happy on our first Valentine's Day together when I told him my feelings. I believe I mentioned breaking up if "he wasted money on some pointless f-ing gift on a day that forces him to be nice to me." So he bought me flowers and took me to dinner on the 15th. At least the flowers were discounted, I guess.
Here he is looking all smug right before the accident. 50# of Tasmanian devil. Don't let the good looks fool you, he's a big turd today.
Oh no, hope you're okay
Edit: wrong pronoun. Whoops!
To each their own.
UGGs? Whatever. They're not really my style, but if you like 'em, go for it.
Gender reveals? It's not wrong to have a small gathering with your family and close friends. I think, in a few weeks, we may say, "Okay, we're opening the envelope/eating the cupcakes/however we choose at this time and this place. Join us, if you want." Nothing formal, no invitations, no guessing games. Maybe dinner somewhere. I don't know. I've obviously put very little thought into this, considering it's 2 weeks away. I just know I'd like it to be a little more special than how we found out about our first kid. We didn't have *any* time to think about it (as in, husband and I had never even discussed if we wanted to know the sex of the baby before the birth, and the tech lady was telling us that we need to decide right now because they don't write it down anywhere.), and were not in a mental and emotional state to plan a cupcake or confetti or anything. So we just opened the envelope at the doctor's office. Something different for Kid #2 would be nice.
UO: I much prefer the "citrus" flavored Skittles and Starburst, over the cherry/strawberry/grape.
On the topic of shoes ....I really hate when people wear open toe shoes and their toenails and feet look like they could swoop down and catch a fish out of the water with them . If you have nasty feet fix the problem or wear real shoes. I know most people don't care but I won't wear an open toe shoe with out making sure my toe nails are painted.
My UO is that I thrive on Bump drama. It's so boring when everyone is getting along.
funny that one of my other friends who isn't really into babies and I are pregnant at the same time. (Of course, we will each adore our own, but no real interest in anyone else's!)
I HATE PHIL COLLINS!
Complete opposite of this... I hate bananas, but I love banana flavored things. Also, both of you give me all your banana runts.
Also, you're hosting Friendsgiving, right? I would send out invites for that event, and just add a blurb that guests will leave with a little extra knowledge...or something on those lines. If the main event is not the reveal, I don't think it will come across as something to bring gifts to - and if people do bring gifts, it won't seem gift grabby. I think your case will be especially easy to play it off, since it's a party you throw annually if I'm remembering correctly.