Late Shower Date

Lola2o1 · November 2015

So my mom is throwing me a baby shower and I found out the date is Jan 10th. Im due Feb 22nd. I am freaken out on how late it is. I mentioned it to her nicely that 1/10 is cutting it awfully close. Her response was that she was worried no one would be able to make it because of the holidays. I don't want to seem like a brat, bc I am so thankful she is throwing me one, but Im having anxiety attacks about how I'm going to get everything done. Returns, putting things together, picking up whatelse we need, etc. It seems on here all the Feb due dates are having showers Nov/Dec, also I thought showers are normally 2months before dd? Am I just being a brat?

brandypack13 · November 2015

I'm having mine in late January also. Not much we can do bc of the holidays

mregas · November 2015

Both of mine are late January too. I didn't want mine in December. No one would want to come. Too much going on with the holidays.

sheslikeasunburn · November 2015

I am due 2/12 and having my shower 1/10. I am not concerned. It's 2015, anything you could possibly need can be on your doorstep the next day if you really find yourself in a bind. I wouldn't sweat this -- just be thankful! :-)

dragonfly321 · November 2015

No stress!!! All will work out. The only things you TRULY need right off the bat are diapers, a place for baby to sleep, some sleepers, onesies, burp cloths, and diaper cream. And you will get a fair amount of that from the hospital. Be grateful that you're getting a shower and RELAX.

Jellybelly119 · November 2015

I'm sure if you happened to deliver in January, people would be happy to bring or ship you anything they had purchased already. You really don't need all that much in order to bring the baby home, so I wouldn't worry about possibly not having everything ready yet. It's a call your mom had to make to pick a time that would inconvenience the least amount of people since the holidays consume that time of year. I'd just be grateful for her efforts, and try not to stress!

DrillSergeantCat · November 2015

I'm due 2/21 and my shower is 1/9. December is too busy with holidays and it's too late to start planning one for November.

jenneh85 · November 2015

Same as others, I'm due 2/16 and my shower is also in January. The holidays have me way overbooked already.

Lizziesue07 · November 2015

With my son I had his shower right before I had him and it worked out fine.. Amazon has free two day shipping and you don't need much to bring baby home with and its hard to depend or rely on everyone to gift all the big things you may want/need

cvolkmar · November 2015

Brat. Sorry my hormones are getting the better of me lately and I don't feel like sugar coating anything. You've got a good 6-7 weeks between your shower and due date. Not to mention whatever gifts you may get for Christmas, you'll be fine - be grateful!

Katty422 · November 2015

Don't stress about it you still have a whole month and some. ..

Monkeybutt80 · November 2015

I don't think that's cutting it too close. That's over 6 weeks before your due date and you'd be around 33/34 weeks. If you are so concerned about getting things ready, just make sure you buy the big items like a crib or wherever you plan to keep you little one for sleeping (rockn play, bassinet or crib...), carseat (to bring your baby home) and diapers before the shower.

With my last, I had my shower when I was 34 weeks. I had no problems being ready in time because 1) everyone stuck to the registry + some clothing items so there were no returns to be done 2) I was able to buy whatever else I needed that were left on my registry in one day (BRU in person and AMazon/ PBK online) and 3) all the major items like the carseat, crib and breastfeeding items were purchased prior to the shower. and anything I needed after I got home, I bought on amazon and they showed up in 2 days at my door. Don't stress.

glitteryant · November 2015

All you really need in the first weeks are diapers, a crib, and swaddle blankets. You'll be fine!

DrillSergeantCat · November 2015

glitteryant said:

All you really need in the first weeks are diapers, a crib, and swaddle blankets. You'll be fine!

And a car seat if you want to take the baby home.

mcklough · November 2015

I don't think you are being a brat but I think you may just be over analyzing. As most posters have already said there are so few things you actually NEED for a baby that you should be fine.

That being said I completely understand where you are coming from if you like to have things all tied up early like I do. Try not to stress- I keep reminding myself these types of things are the first of many many many things I won't be able to control anymore.

kalenvan · November 2015

That's not late...you will have a month left still. I'm due 3 feb and having my shower 14 nov since most of my friends are leaving during the holidays so it makes sense plus January will be my "nesting" period.

Kiek · November 2015

Not too late at all. My mil threw my shower a month before my due date because it was the only time we could make the drive. We lived 8 hours away from all family. My husband deployed a couple weeks later and I managed just fine. You'll be alright! I actually found it pretty exciting to go through all the new baby stuff. It wasn't stressful, just exciting. Like the other ladies said, car seat, diapers/wipes, pajamas, and swaddle blankets are all you really need

thoughtfulmommy · November 2015

It is not too late and if you are a FTM, there is a good chance you will deliver past your due date. If you are really anxious, buy the most important items yourself and set them up early.

cMichelle0423 · November 2015

I had my baby shower at 36 weeks with my last LO. That doesn't seem late at all. If anything it'll give you more to keep you busy before baby comes.

MississippiCatfish · November 2015

I had my shower with my husband's side (which is over 50 people) two months AFTER baby came. Not by choice, because they dragged their feet planning. We all survived.

g8trkim · November 2015

You're still 6 weeks out so I don't consider that late at all. If it was February 10th, yeah that could be a problem. I agree with your mom about the holidays. Doing a shower any time in December is rough with everything holiday related. I think January 10th is just fine.

jellybellybean3 · November 2015

Yeah with the holidays it's really hard to plan anything and expect people to be able to attend so I get her reasoning. Also, I know lots of women who had/have showers planned for after baby is born sooo you getting it before is actually a bonus. Regardless, if you go into labour that early it's not really a big deal because I wouldn't rely on others to buy the necessities anyways. Keep your receipts and you can always return what you get double of.

MsRellieB · November 2015

My first shower is next weekend 11/14 but my last shower isn't until 1/16 and our EDD is 2/25...no worries

Life is Exciting · November 2015

My work threw me a shower at 36 weeks. I had my 36 week OB appointment that afternoon and was admitted and induced immediately afterwards (previously unknown complication). Talk about cutting it close!

E3A7AGGIE · November 2015

There really isn't much to get ready in my opinion. Maybe because it's my third, but besides having the pack-n-play by the bed, diapers, wipes, some clothes... everything else, like having a nursery completely done, is just being over-prepared and wanting to have it all before it needs to be done. With my first, I had my shower 2.5 months before I was due, and everything just sat in the nursery. Doing nothing. Because there was absolutely zero use for it.

Anyways, I think there is plenty of time between your shower date and due date.

sarame500 · November 2015

I'm due 2/7. My first shower (family and friends in PA) is November 28th, because I'll be visiting PA for Thanksgiving. The second shower for family and friends in MD (where I live) will be 1/16. That's really close, but I'm not stressing it. My husband and I plan on getting most things organized during Christmas break, and we plan on buying most of the "big" items ourselves. If baby decides to come early, my girlfriends plan on throwing my shower a month or two later!

x3tbellaa · November 2015

I'm due February 17th and my mom is planning January 10th as well. It is cutting it close but with the holidays and everything it makes it hard so I guess I understand.

dragonfly321 · November 2015

DrillSergeantCat said:

glitteryant said:

All you really need in the first weeks are diapers, a crib, and swaddle blankets. You'll be fine!

And a car seat if you want to take the baby home.

My boyfriend was just going to strap him on the back of his motorcycle.

thisusername · November 2015

My husband spilled the beans and apparently I am having a surprise one on the 15th. I'll only be 27, almost 28 weeks, but I would probably freak out if it was late too. As a FTM I am eager to finish shopping because no matter how many checklists I use I know I'm going to forget something important.

I think nerves are normal either way though. Just make sure someone remembers you will need a comfy chair! Maybe swoon some foot massages in too..

thisusername · November 2015

sarame500 said:
I'm due 2/7. My first shower (family and friends in PA) is November 28th, because I'll be visiting PA for Thanksgiving. The second shower for family and friends in MD (where I live) will be 1/16. That's really close, but I'm not stressing it. My husband and I plan on getting most things organized during Christmas break, and we plan on buying most of the "big" items ourselves. If baby decides to come early, my girlfriends plan on throwing my shower a month or two later!

I live on the silver spring/DC line! Are you nervous about the snow prediction around your due date? I'm due 2/10, but they expect I'll deliver sooner.

Life is Exciting · November 2015

Go with the flow (this coming from the most anal-retentive planner ever). If the baby shows up before the shower, then you get to bring the baby to the shower after-the-fact! Just make sure the baby has a place to sleep, some diapers, and a car seat, and you have the necessities. Anything that you will get at the shower can wait a little bit.

Oh, and @thisusername, I feel your nervousness about the snow. I live in Massachusetts, where we got record snowfall last year. I'm due Feb 3rd. The hospital that I'm delivering at is a half hour away from my house with no traffic under normal road conditions. My husband and his family keep telling me if there's a snowstorm, I'll have to deliver at the local hospital in my town. My OB's office is not affiliated with that hospital and I really don't like the hospital for a number of reasons (nursing staffing cuts, no Level II nursery, no laboring tub, none of the fun 'perks' offered by the hospital I'm planning on using - like free desserts for everybody including visitors every afternoon and really homey birthing and maternity suites), so I'm being incredibly stubborn and saying I'm delivering at my planned hospital no matter what. Even if I have to get an ambulance to bring me there!

SgtLou2 · November 2015

@thisusername, I'm in Falls Church, due 2/5. Luckily we're only about 2 miles from the hospital, but my due date weekend is the 6 year anniversary of the crazy blizzards that hit the region closing everything down for almost a week!! Hubby jokes that if labor is long (like last time), we'll just drop DD off at a neighbor's house and he'll pull me in a sled to the hospital

. That's the only "worry" that we have this pregnancy. But with DD we had everything in place and washed before she arrived (I was a planner type person before becoming a mom...)

sharkgirl7 · November 2015

With my last two January babies I had my shower and sprinkle in November prior to Thanksgiving.

This pregnancy we are doing a blessing way instead.

sharkgirl7 · November 2015

Life is Exciting said:
Go with the flow (this coming from the most anal-retentive planner ever). If the baby shows up before the shower, then you get to bring the baby to the shower after-the-fact! Just make sure the baby has a place to sleep, some diapers, and a car seat, and you have the necessities. Anything that you will get at the shower can wait a little bit.
Oh, and @thisusername, I feel your nervousness about the snow. I live in Massachusetts, where we got record snowfall last year. I'm due Feb 3rd. The hospital that I'm delivering at is a half hour away from my house with no traffic under normal road conditions. My husband and his family keep telling me if there's a snowstorm, I'll have to deliver at the local hospital in my town. My OB's office is not affiliated with that hospital and I really don't like the hospital for a number of reasons (nursing staffing cuts, no Level II nursery, no laboring tub, none of the fun 'perks' offered by the hospital I'm planning on using - like free desserts for everybody including visitors every afternoon and really homey birthing and maternity suites), so I'm being incredibly stubborn and saying I'm delivering at my planned hospital no matter what. Even if I have to get an ambulance to bring me there!

Using an ambulance to get your way is awful selfish. They are there for emergencies and you'll be preventing a family from using one.

sharkgirl7 · November 2015

Btw, all that is really needed is a couple of outfits and diapers. If you're delivering outside the home, you'll also need a carseat.

Life is Exciting · November 2015

sharkgirl7 said:

Life is Exciting said:
Go with the flow (this coming from the most anal-retentive planner ever). If the baby shows up before the shower, then you get to bring the baby to the shower after-the-fact! Just make sure the baby has a place to sleep, some diapers, and a car seat, and you have the necessities. Anything that you will get at the shower can wait a little bit.
Oh, and @thisusername, I feel your nervousness about the snow. I live in Massachusetts, where we got record snowfall last year. I'm due Feb 3rd. The hospital that I'm delivering at is a half hour away from my house with no traffic under normal road conditions. My husband and his family keep telling me if there's a snowstorm, I'll have to deliver at the local hospital in my town. My OB's office is not affiliated with that hospital and I really don't like the hospital for a number of reasons (nursing staffing cuts, no Level II nursery, no laboring tub, none of the fun 'perks' offered by the hospital I'm planning on using - like free desserts for everybody including visitors every afternoon and really homey birthing and maternity suites), so I'm being incredibly stubborn and saying I'm delivering at my planned hospital no matter what. Even if I have to get an ambulance to bring me there!
Using an ambulance to get your way is awful selfish. They are there for emergencies and you'll be preventing a family from using one.

I last labor lasted about 24 hours, so I don't think I'll be needing one. I meant if we got stranded in a snowstorm in the middle of the road.

sarame500 · November 2015

thisusername said:

I'm due 2/7. My first shower (family and friends in PA) is November 28th, because I'll be visiting PA for Thanksgiving. The second shower for family and friends in MD (where I live) will be 1/16. That's really close, but I'm not stressing it. My husband and I plan on getting most things organized during Christmas break, and we plan on buying most of the "big" items ourselves. If baby decides to come early, my girlfriends plan on throwing my shower a month or two later!
I live on the silver spring/DC line! Are you nervous about the snow prediction around your due date? I'm due 2/10, but they expect I'll deliver sooner.

I live in St. Mary's Co., so a little bit further south than you! I'm not nervous about the snow (yet). At the beginning of February, though, I might start feeling anxious. Luckily, I drive our trusty Subaru!

Achae · November 2015

Using an ambulance to get your way is awful selfish. They are there for emergencies and you'll be preventing a family from using one.

I'm not the OP for this but IMO a baby in a snowstorm is an emergency.

Lola2o1 · November 2015

The weather scares me too. Every Feb here in Nj the last few years have been a nightmare.

Also, if we were stuck in a storm and baby was ready to come I would damn sure call an ambulance- as I dont want my hub to deliver baby! I 110% think an ambulance is necessary IF baby is ready to come.

themommabee · November 2015

I don't think you get to tell the ambulance where to take you anyway. I think they make the call based on your medical needs and the safety of travel.

Achae · November 2015

themommabee said:

I don't think you get to tell the ambulance where to take you anyway. I think they make the call based on your medical needs and the safety of travel.

The ambulances here ask your preference of hospitals to go, although if its ER and they're diverting patients etc that would change.

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