May 2016 Moms

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  • I hate cooking. The only reason I can cook the most basic things like eggs and oatmeal is because I had to learn when my daughter started eating solid food :-/.
  • FFFC I've been complaining all week about wanting to spend more time with DD and wishing I could afford to be a SAHM. Yesterday, my bosses football team was playing at 6 and he wanted to tailgate so he closed the office at 3 pm. Did I go play with DD? Nope. I went home and took a nap for like 1.5 hours and picked her up later than usual.

    And I totally say something if it looks like a child is unsafe in their carseat. The child doesn't have a say in the matter and it really bugs me. My inlaws are raising my nephew who is DD's age (17 mos) and they live in the mountains. He gets carsick so they have already turned him front facing, which is not technically illegal but it really bugs me. Its sooo much safer to keep them rear facing as long as possible! But I'm not the one holding a cup to his face to catch his vom so I have mostly left that one alone.



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  • laurenmdrn16  don't feel bad. I haven't cleaned in WEEKS except to run a vacuum and "clean" my bathroom with Lysol wipes. My goal this weekend is to clean up, and start organizing our guest room, which will be converted into babies room. I would be embarrassed for our parents to show up. I don't know that I would even let them in the house.

    FFFC- I tune DH out 75% of the time. His main topic of conversation is fantasy football/baseball and anything football related. He starts with these convos 1st thing in the morning, normally while I am catching up on TB from the night before or reading work emails. He doesn't seem to care that I am in the middle of something when he starts his rants, so I don't care that I just " uh huh" and "yep" him. I like to watch football, but he doesn't get that I really don't care about it.

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  • @laurenmdrn16 Please indulge me in a totally stupid, FTM question.  I was actually in the grocery store the other day and I wondered to myself what I'm supposed to do with an infant in a store.  Then I saw a mom with a car seat in the cart and it looked a little weird but I thought maybe that's what I'm supposed to do.  Anyways, don't judge me!! Do I bring the baby in a carrier separately?   :\">
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  • sillyfox said:



    And I totally say something if it looks like a child is unsafe in their carseat. The child doesn't have a say in the matter and it really bugs me. My inlaws are raising my nephew who is DD's age (17 mos) and they live in the mountains. He gets carsick so they have already turned him front facing, which is not technically illegal but it really bugs me. Its sooo much safer to keep them rear facing as long as possible! But I'm not the one holding a cup to his face to catch his vom so I have mostly left that one alone.

    This hits home because I have a forward facing 17 month old. I guess that's my FFFC. I was one of those moms who seriously planned on my kid being rear facing until 3 years old. I was adamant about it to my husband and he was on board. Until we had a child who got carsick. Holding a cup to catch the vomit wasn't an option. When I say carsick I don't mean throw up once or feel queasy. Even a trip to the grocery store ended in a fountain of vomit. She'd throw up 7-8 times per one way. That means a trip to the grocery store ended up in her throwing up 14-16 times, dry heaving bile when her stomach was empty. Not leaving the house is not an option, I'm a SAHM and need to grocery shop, go to doctors appointments, etc. DH suggested trying forward facing last month and like magic the throwing up stopped. We tried rear facing again and the vomiting returned. Shes over 25lbs and was getting dehydrated. I know rear facing is safer but we did not expect her to get so sick.

  • @BuzzBee614 I'm all for rear facing as long as possible, but I would do the same thing in your situation if it worked. Poor kid!
  • @laurenmdrn16 Thank you!! That makes sense and I do plan to do some baby wearing so hopefully that will work for me!
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  • I'll add to the car seat convo.  I wish people would understand that you are not supposed to add decorative car seat covers (under the baby, not over the entire car seat) and babies should not be wearing fluffy jackets in the car seat.  Both of these materials can be compressed and then the baby isn't properly restrained.

    One more... I see people taking selfies of their baby in the back or snapchatting WHILE DRIVING.  Ugh!!
    Me: 27    DH: 30
    Married in 2011
    Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
    Baby 2: Due May 2016

  • @laurenmdrn16 Thank you!! That makes sense and I do plan to do some baby wearing so hopefully that will work for me!

    When DS was still small enough for infant seat and I was just running in for just a few items I used stroller basket as my shopping cart. This way I could keep a sleeping baby happy in his carseat, safety clicked into the stroller base. Highly recommend picking a base with a big basket!
    Me 27 | DH 28
    DS October 2014
    #2 May 2016
  • My FFFC... For a minute I let myself think I was showing. I am FTM 9w3d, so I know it's bloat/ a blump. It's just so concentrated in the front and there's no sucking it in. Also it's like that all day from morning to night. Although it is a little bigger in the evening.
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    • BFP: 9/16/15 — MC: 11/8/15 Blighted Ovum
    • BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
    TTC#2 April 2019 
    • BFP: 9/12/19 — EDD 5/15/20

  • nerdymama15nerdymama15 member
    edited October 2015
    I am so confused.  Been attempting to create a baby registry of sorts online.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  I mean I have a basic idea obviously, but there is so much stuff!  Stuff I don't remember my mom using with my sister when I was little.  I mean what the hell is a Bumpo (I probably spelled that incorrectly).  And how many high chairs does one person need.  There's a travel sized one and a regular sized one.  Also, car seats.  There are ones that grow as baby grows and others that are for certain sizes of babies and you have to buy a new one as they grow.   Do I want a co sleeper or a crib.  A Rock N Play or a bassinet?  Or both?  There is just so much stuff, and it is overwhelming.  Also can I start stocking up on wipes?  I mean do they go bad or dry out between now and May?  I mean Sams Club always has a good deal? 
    Note: not necessarily asking questions (except for the wipes question), but just venting the thoughts that go through my mind when I look at this stuff online and in stores)
    My husband is equally as clueless.   He was looking at some of the car seats that attach to strollers in a store and could not figure it out and he has a degree in engineering!   He is by no means stupid. 
    Another FFFC is Halloween candy.  Bought a bunch  yesterday and fixed baggies full.  Then poured the good stuff into a bowl so if I run out of baggies then the kids that come later get the good stuff (I don't buy into that early bird gets the worm bullshit.  Here the early bird gets the worst candy, and the kid that is late gets the good stuff).  That way too if we have leftovers at least it is the good stuff.  And that is IF it makes it until tomorrow.  DH keeps eating it lol. 
    And one more FFFC the DH and I despise Halloween.  They are dressing up at my DH's work.  And he doesn't want to participate but does not want to be the only one that doesn't.  So he went as Jake from State Farm.  lol.   I'm sure once we can take LO out trick or treating we will probably enjoy watching our LO enjoying it, but for now we hate Halloween.


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    • EDD: 09/28/2015
    • Incomplete MC: 02/28/2015

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    • EDD: 05/25/2016
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  • In spirit of jeans day at my work today, my confession is that I've never participated in a jeans day here and probably never will.  I think it's unprofessional in my line of work (wealth management, investments).

    Don't get me wrong.  I love jeans, just not at work.
    Me: 27    DH: 30
    Married in 2011
    Baby 1: Stillborn at 27 weeks (April 2014)
    Baby 2: Due May 2016

  • I am so confused.  Been attempting to create a baby registry of sorts online.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  I mean I have a basic idea obviously, but there is so much stuff!  Stuff I don't remember my mom using with my sister when I was little.  I mean what the hell is a Bumpo (I probably spelled that incorrectly).  And how many high chairs does one person need.  There's a travel sized one and a regular sized one.  Also, car seats.  There are ones that grow as baby grows and others that are for certain sizes of babies and you have to buy a new one as they grow.   Do I want a co sleeper or a crib.  A Rock N Play or a bassinet?  Or both?  There is just so much stuff, and it is overwhelming.  Also can I start stocking up on wipes?  I mean do they go bad or dry out between now and May?  I mean Sams Club always has a good deal? 

    I would recommend you look at www.lucieslist.com.  I feel the exact same way as you.  I get anxiety just looking at all the different kinds of bottles.  Side note:  HOW are there so many different kinds of bottle nipples?  How the hell am I supposed to choose?

    Anyways, lucie's list does a really good job of breaking down each section of the registry.  She will have a section for baby bouncers, for example, provide a few at different price points, and give advice on what you may want to think about when you are selecting.  It's been incredibly helpful to me.
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  • I am so confused.  Been attempting to create a baby registry of sorts online.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  I mean I have a basic idea obviously, but there is so much stuff!  Stuff I don't remember my mom using with my sister when I was little.  I mean what the hell is a Bumpo (I probably spelled that incorrectly).  And how many high chairs does one person need.  There's a travel sized one and a regular sized one.  Also, car seats.  There are ones that grow as baby grows and others that are for certain sizes of babies and you have to buy a new one as they grow.   Do I want a co sleeper or a crib.  A Rock N Play or a bassinet?  Or both?  There is just so much stuff, and it is overwhelming.  Also can I start stocking up on wipes?  I mean do they go bad or dry out between now and May?  I mean Sams Club always has a good deal? 
    Note: not necessarily asking questions (except for the wipes question), but just venting the thoughts that go through my mind when I look at this stuff online and in stores)<

    To answer your question about wipes, I've never experienced a dried out pack. Also, when you're ready to ask questions about some of those registry items, this would be a great thread! Some of us STM and third time moms can help to give input as to what is and was useful and what was completely useless. :)
  • Jenly17 said:

    I am so confused.  Been attempting to create a baby registry of sorts online.  I have no idea what I'm doing.  I mean I have a basic idea obviously, but there is so much stuff!  Stuff I don't remember my mom using with my sister when I was little.  I mean what the hell is a Bumpo (I probably spelled that incorrectly).  And how many high chairs does one person need.  There's a travel sized one and a regular sized one.  Also, car seats.  There are ones that grow as baby grows and others that are for certain sizes of babies and you have to buy a new one as they grow.   Do I want a co sleeper or a crib.  A Rock N Play or a bassinet?  Or both?  There is just so much stuff, and it is overwhelming.  Also can I start stocking up on wipes?  I mean do they go bad or dry out between now and May?  I mean Sams Club always has a good deal? 
    Note: not necessarily asking questions (except for the wipes question), but just venting the thoughts that go through my mind when I look at this stuff online and in stores)<

    To answer your question about wipes, I've never experienced a dried out pack. Also, when you're ready to ask questions about some of those registry items, this would be a great thread! Some of us STM and third time moms can help to give input as to what is and was useful and what was completely useless. :)
    I was lurking on a different BMB and they had a thread dedicated to strollers, another to car seats. I feel like that would make sense for the big stuff.
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    • BFP: 9/16/15 — MC: 11/8/15 Blighted Ovum
    • BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
    TTC#2 April 2019 
    • BFP: 9/12/19 — EDD 5/15/20

  • My FFFC is that knowing there are dads to be on this BMB, I've found myself filtering so much more than I normally would..which is not a bad thing at all! And I will add that I enjoy the dad to be input. It just makes me think twice about posting about some of the more unattractive parts of pregnancy, ya know, smells, secretions, etc.
  • In spirit of jeans day at my work today, my confession is that I've never participated in a jeans day here and probably never will.  I think it's unprofessional in my line of work (wealth management, investments).

    Don't get me wrong.  I love jeans, just not at work.

    I feel the same way- I work at a law firm and I cringe at some of the things people come in wearing. I love jeans on the weekend but I'd rather be the one who made the effort than the one who came in looking all slouchy!!

     

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    RE August 2015
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  • kbrands7 said:


    Jenly17 said:

    My FFFC is that knowing there are dads to be on this BMB, I've found myself filtering so much more than I normally would..which is not a bad thing at all! And I will add that I enjoy the dad to be input. It just makes me think twice about posting about some of the more unattractive parts of pregnancy, ya know, smells, secretions, etc.

    Lol! I agree that I enjoy having dads-to-be here, if my last BMB had them, they didn't participate much; it brings some balance to have both those who are pregnant and their partners. Maybe this balance will help to keep away 8 billion "Is this what a mucus plug looks like?" posts in the third trimester. (Wishful thinking, I'm sure.)

    Ugh, seriously!!! I don't even want to talk about my own mucous plug let alone trying to figure out if someone else lost theirs. So GRODY!
  • @laurenmdrn16 Please indulge me in a totally stupid, FTM question.  I was actually in the grocery store the other day and I wondered to myself what I'm supposed to do with an infant in a store.  Then I saw a mom with a car seat in the cart and it looked a little weird but I thought maybe that's what I'm supposed to do.  Anyways, don't judge me!! Do I bring the baby in a carrier separately?   :\">
    I used a baby carrier when she was tiny! I love my Ergo but I might get a Tula with this baby.



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  • Who ever it was on here that suggested Lucieslist.com....I CURSE YOU!! I have a lot to do at work today and now all I really want to do is google every baby product she recommends. And holy crap the stroller/car seat combo I want is expensive :(

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  • I second the Lucie's List recommendation, it was super helpful last time and I still use it for random things (SPF, travel stuff).

    My confession is I don't think it's fair to ask a friend for inside scoop on something you're both essentially competing in that has limited spots. We are all going through the preschool application process and we've had most of our parent interviews already - but none of my friends have had theirs yet, so they're constantly asking what questions we were asked, insight into what to wear etc meanwhile we went in blind and had no one helping us out. I love them all dearly, but there are literally 20 spots at some of these schools, so no I'm not going to give you a leg up if it means my kid might not get in. I'm usually a really nice person, but it's rough out there at the moment.
  • This may be more appropriate for UO, but here's another FFFC building on PP's posts about jeans day and casual day at work. As I am constantly saying, I am an elementary school nurse. Some of the other nurses in the district wear scrubs, others wear jeans, and then there's me who wears what I would call "business casual". I wear a nice blouse or sweater (sometimes a button up with a cardigan if it is really chilly), black or khaki pants (ok, now they are all elastic waist, but usually cotton/linen flat front) and my shiny black Danskos which I take great care to clean/shine every morning. I never know when I might have a parent meeting, give a presentation to a class, or have to consult with the school physician and I believe it is important to always look professional. Also, we nurses are trying to get on the teacher's salary and into the teacher's union, so I have really taken my cue from my coworkers and dressed so I didn't stick out like a sore thumb at staff/faculty meetings. I do wear cute earrings for holidays and most of my clothes have a subtle pattern, like flowers or even muted animal prints. Basically, I got style. But I get the side-eye from some of the other nurses and one even made some comment about how I dress more like an administrator than our nurse leader does (she is of the jeans persuasion). Can you ever truly be "over-dressed"? My clothes are comfortable enough so if I have to dash to the playground, lift a child, bend, twist, and shout, I can, but is it really wrong to want to look nice too?

    This hits a nerve because my mom has always been a super sharp dresser and was once reprimanded at work because she was a visiting nurse in a low-income neighborhood and her supervisor thought she dressed "too nice" and it may offend her clients/patients. She laughed in her supervisor's face because we had very little money growing up (my mom was a single mom working two jobs just to keep her three daughters fed) and all our clothes were from the church thrift shop. Yeah, we always looked good, but it was second or even third hand clothing we put together to make snazzy outfits. So, to this day, I really pride myself on looking fantastic, even though I refuse to spend more than $30 on a single item of clothing (gifts or clothes bought with gift cards are the only exceptions, hence the Danskos). I really think what you wear can have a profound effect on how well you work and how others see you. As a teenager, no one at my (very snobby) school knew we were poor because we always made such an effort to look nice and present ourselves well. So I say, dress professionally and it is more than ok to opt out of casual Friday or jeans day.

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  • @lalala2004 I bet today it was even more important to keep them settled, what with the full moon this week and Halloween tomorrow! I assumed I would have a nice quiet day because most classes are having Halloween parties and who wants to leave a party to go to the nurse's office, right? Wrong! It has been just ridiculous today! I hope all our fellow school employees make it to the weekend in one piece!  #:-S

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  • I'm not a huge fan of Fridays. Having my DH home over the weekend throws off the routine. He's under foot and in my way. Pre-SAHM, sure, I loved Fridays! Now...not so much.

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  • Confession: I am a Halloween Grinch. I grew up in a very small town with few children, so I didn't get into it as a kid. As an adult, I despise all things scary. Since it's our last child-free Halloween, my husband and I are turning our porch light off and going out to dinner. I haven't even bought candy.
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    DS1: May 2016
    DS2: Jan 2019
    Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24


  • I don't miss booze because I hardly drank before becoming pregnant this time but I DO miss my retinoid face cream. I'm not the type to do Botox or anything at this age but damn did I love my Retin-A. Obviously, I can easily give it up for the duration of pregnancy and until I get the OK to use it again, but I'm dreaming of picking up my new prescription when it's time!

    Maybe I'm just feeling un-pretty today ;;) a very shallow FFFC
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  • I know I'm being impatient but I'm super bummed that we didn't get to see the baby this morning at the appt. The HB is 154 and I'm glad for that but I got spoiled being high risk last go round bc every appt I got to see the baby. After seeing the recent loss here where the HB and movement were fine but upon better looking at the baby they found the baby wouldn't survive I now have this fear that that could happen to my LO. I have to wait until Fing Christmas to see the baby for the sex reveal :( I know I shouldn't complain but I can't help it.
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  • bshurdy said:

    Confession: I am a Halloween Grinch. I grew up in a very small town with few children, so I didn't get into it as a kid. As an adult, I despise all things scary. Since it's our last child-free Halloween, my husband and I are turning our porch light off and going out to dinner. I haven't even bought candy.

    I can forgive a Halloween grinch but a Christmas grinch? I can't even. \:D/
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  • @nerdymama15 we start stocking up on wipes (and diapers) at 12 weeks. They don't go bad unless you open the package. You can NEVER have enough wipes.
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  • I know I'm being impatient but I'm super bummed that we didn't get to see the baby this morning at the appt. The HB is 154 and I'm glad for that but I got spoiled being high risk last go round bc every appt I got to see the baby. After seeing the recent loss here where the HB and movement were fine but upon better looking at the baby they found the baby wouldn't survive I now have this fear that that could happen to my LO. I have to wait until Fing Christmas to see the baby for the sex reveal :( I know I shouldn't complain but I can't help it.


    This is my 1st PG, but I hear ya. I hate the loss threads, because it reminds me what CAN happen. I have my NT scan Monday and just cant wait to get another look at baby, but at the same time, so nervous they will say he stopped growing since my last US.

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  • bshurdy said:

    Confession: I am a Halloween Grinch. I grew up in a very small town with few children, so I didn't get into it as a kid. As an adult, I despise all things scary. Since it's our last child-free Halloween, my husband and I are turning our porch light off and going out to dinner. I haven't even bought candy.

    This is us, too. I took DD to a day time "trick or treat" event at an outdoor mall to check the box. On Halloween night we will either be hiding in our basement with the lights off or going out to dinner with friends. I tried so hard to get excited about waiting for tricker treaters, but I just don't like it.
  • kbrands7kbrands7 member
    edited October 2015

    I always give my students a quiz on Friday so they will be quiet and not act crazy just because it's Friday.
    I do this too! I started giving notes quizzes to encourage better note-taking and studying (and it has worked!) I teach 80 min blocks though, so it only takes up 1/3 to 1/2 of the class period.

    edit for weird qb error
  • This is horrible, but I'll confess. Last night I locked my H out of the bedroom. 

    Honestly, it was first an accident. I closed the door so the cat would leave me alone while I napped and didn't realize the little lock thing was turned. But, when I got up around 1 AM and used the restroom I realized what happened and opened the door. I was on my way to wake my H from the couch and invite him to bed, but heard his snores before I reached him. I slept so good in the middle of my bed and with no snoring that I caved and just walked back to the bedroom before waking him. I just left him on the couch.  

    He eventually came to bed around 4-5 AM, but our alarms go off at 5:45 so basically I cheated my way into a night alone in our bed. 
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