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What do you think?
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Re: What do you think?
To those who were offended: The advice given was to the OP and her situation as it was presented in the initial post. OP asked the community for feedback specific to her life, not yours.
tomagotchi? OP is probably too young to remember those.
Guise. If OP adopts a dog out of a *kill* shelter, the dog will automatically have a better life. However, I see that tamagotchi is clearly the best suggestion that's been made.
BFP on 7/2/2013
July BMB May Signature Challenge
BFP on 7/2/2013
DX - MFI Antibodies, High DNA fragmentation
IUI #1 November 2015 - 0% Motility
IVF #2 May 2016 - (FAIL/25 eggs, 1 5BB xx, PGS abnormal)
Please wait.
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
My stepsisters had a baby at 20. Wanted love, thought a family would keep her boyfriend with her, blah blah blah. Didn't work. Fuckboy knocked up a new sidepiece, wants nothing to do with his daughter and now stepsister is living with my parents, has no money, and very few career prospects because she dropped out of college. She's not a complete idiot, so she'll probably be fine in the long run, but the last 3 years and probably the next 5 to 10 years will suck. She doesn't get to have the fun, irresponsible years cause she has a baby. Any degree or certification she goes for will take longer because baby. There's always the chance fuck boy comes back to harass her because baby.
Don't do this. Don't be stupid.
Do you want/plan to go to college? Does your family have the ability to pay for your college education? Are you planning on working when you're in college?
I teach at a community college, and a number of my students have had kids in their teens or early 20s before finishing school. It's not impossible, obviously, but it's HARD. They're in school for all the right reasons - they're smart, they're motivated, and they want to better provide for their kids. But that's not always enough. When their baby is sick, they miss a test. When day care falls through, they miss class. When their baby is not sleeping through the night, they're too exhausted to study. And that's not even getting into the challenges of balancing school, kids, and working.
There simply isn't enough time or energy to do all things, let alone do them well. Many of my student parents end up dropping out of school and therefore continue to struggle financially. For many others it takes two or three times as long to finish school, hence more student loan debt and delays getting to quality employment.
You cannot just assume that your SO will take care of you and your baby. The biggest predictor of poverty for women is having children. You need to be financially stable and you need to have a long-term career plan in place. Even if you plan to stay home with children, you need a fall back plan just in case.
Tl;dr: get a career plan, go to and finish school if needed, get financially set, then think about having kids.
/end rant ... yay gifs
How did that get removed so quickly? Did anyone see what she said?
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